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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We'd love to tell our vanilla friends wot we do tell them how amazing it is wot fun we have, but is it a good idea ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you know what is right for you.

I'd never tell anyone outside of fab about this side of my life. My sex life is nobody else's business.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Never tell anyone anything that you wouldn't be happy about the whole world knowing

Also some friends may not wish to socialise with you anymore you filthy deviants!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you know what is right for you.

I'd never tell anyone outside of fab about this side of my life. My sex life is nobody else's business. "

I agree.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Only you know what is right for you.

I'd never tell anyone outside of fab about this side of my life. My sex life is nobody else's business. "

This is how we feel...

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I personally would rather friends would not discuss their sex lives with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Feel like we need to boast about wot we do

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By *lackbirdtimestwoWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

If your vanilla friends tell you the ins and outs of their sex life,,, if when your together you have a laugh about sex, if they don't take sex to seriously, if they are open to other peoples life choices in general,,, and you can trust them,,, lots to consider x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only you know what is right for you.

I'd never tell anyone outside of fab about this side of my life. My sex life is nobody else's business. "

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've often wondered about this but have decided not to. I'm pretty sure they would be horrified. There are people on here I know I can talk to if need be

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I don't tell my friends about my sex life, my bank balance, my religious preferences nor my politics...

Some things are private.

I do have 2 friends who know what fab is - and are my back up safety net for meeting as a single lady (one was on here, one is an ex) and my current lover knows about it all too. Other friends don't need to know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our friend's know we swing, they know its how we met, in fact....we've put friends onto this site and they love it....it doesn't mean they know any details.

If we couldnt be open amongst our friends, we wouldn't call them friends.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Feel like we need to boast about wot we do "

You could take out a advert in the local paper or hire the side of a bus

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wasn't thinking of going that far a few select friends

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Wasn't thinking of going that far a few select friends "

Try it with one but I would expect them to gossip to others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasn't thinking of going that far a few select friends "

If they're friends, it won't matter a jot to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our friend's know we swing, they know its how we met, in fact....we've put friends onto this site and they love it....it doesn't mean they know any details.

If we couldnt be open amongst our friends, we wouldn't call them friends. "

I found fab because friends already on the site told me about it!

not the sort of thing Id discuss with anybody, I live in a small town and try to avoid being gossip fodder, but all my 'inner circle' know, as they are all of a similar mind set, eg, it might not be for them but they wouldn't think to judge me for not being the same as themselves.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our friend's know we swing, they know its how we met, in fact....we've put friends onto this site and they love it....it doesn't mean they know any details.

If we couldnt be open amongst our friends, we wouldn't call them friends.

I found fab because friends already on the site told me about it!

not the sort of thing Id discuss with anybody, I live in a small town and try to avoid being gossip fodder, but all my 'inner circle' know, as they are all of a similar mind set, eg, it might not be for them but they wouldn't think to judge me for not being the same as themselves.x "

Same, it was an ex's friend that i found out about fab through......

Most people I know happen to know that I swing now, they don't get details but know I like and get multiple partners...work, friends of friends....I don't care...I spend my time as I choose to and I'm no more or less vocal about this part of my life than any. 99% of those who know don't care, and the ones who don't like it....well....tough tittys to them....may they gossip about me untill their hearts content bless them.

I'll never be ordinary in anything I do, I'm very used to being gossiped about....it's cute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our friend's know we swing, they know its how we met, in fact....we've put friends onto this site and they love it....it doesn't mean they know any details.

If we couldnt be open amongst our friends, we wouldn't call them friends.

I found fab because friends already on the site told me about it!

not the sort of thing Id discuss with anybody, I live in a small town and try to avoid being gossip fodder, but all my 'inner circle' know, as they are all of a similar mind set, eg, it might not be for them but they wouldn't think to judge me for not being the same as themselves.x

Same, it was an ex's friend that i found out about fab through......

Most people I know happen to know that I swing now, they don't get details but know I like and get multiple partners...work, friends of friends....I don't care...I spend my time as I choose to and I'm no more or less vocal about this part of my life than any. 99% of those who know don't care, and the ones who don't like it....well....tough tittys to them....may they gossip about me untill their hearts content bless them.

I'll never be ordinary in anything I do, I'm very used to being gossiped about....it's cute. "

Christos btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Post it on Facebook, and see what happens?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our friends know some have known for a while due to having profile on here. Also parents and close family members know what we do they don't like it that's their choice

We open so when we meet outdoors we can let people know where what and how long we will be

Works for us

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Expect your relationship with anyone you tell to change. Might be for the better or for the worst.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our friend's know we swing, they know its how we met, in fact....we've put friends onto this site and they love it....it doesn't mean they know any details.

If we couldnt be open amongst our friends, we wouldn't call them friends.

I found fab because friends already on the site told me about it!

not the sort of thing Id discuss with anybody, I live in a small town and try to avoid being gossip fodder, but all my 'inner circle' know, as they are all of a similar mind set, eg, it might not be for them but they wouldn't think to judge me for not being the same as themselves.x

Same, it was an ex's friend that i found out about fab through......

Most people I know happen to know that I swing now, they don't get details but know I like and get multiple partners...work, friends of friends....I don't care...I spend my time as I choose to and I'm no more or less vocal about this part of my life than any. 99% of those who know don't care, and the ones who don't like it....well....tough tittys to them....may they gossip about me untill their hearts content bless them.

I'll never be ordinary in anything I do, I'm very used to being gossiped about....it's cute.

Christos btw. "

well as I work in elderly care, I don't need the gossip, or I don't think Id give a rats ass! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Post it on Facebook, and see what happens?"

What do you think would happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our friend's know we swing, they know its how we met, in fact....we've put friends onto this site and they love it....it doesn't mean they know any details.

If we couldnt be open amongst our friends, we wouldn't call them friends.

I found fab because friends already on the site told me about it!

not the sort of thing Id discuss with anybody, I live in a small town and try to avoid being gossip fodder, but all my 'inner circle' know, as they are all of a similar mind set, eg, it might not be for them but they wouldn't think to judge me for not being the same as themselves.x

Same, it was an ex's friend that i found out about fab through......

Most people I know happen to know that I swing now, they don't get details but know I like and get multiple partners...work, friends of friends....I don't care...I spend my time as I choose to and I'm no more or less vocal about this part of my life than any. 99% of those who know don't care, and the ones who don't like it....well....tough tittys to them....may they gossip about me untill their hearts content bless them.

I'll never be ordinary in anything I do, I'm very used to being gossiped about....it's cute.

Christos btw.

well as I work in elderly care, I don't need the gossip, or I don't think Id give a rats ass! x "

Bet the folk in there have seen a thing or two themselves ya know?

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"We'd love to tell our vanilla friends wot we do tell them how amazing it is wot fun we have, but is it a good idea ????"

I know what you mean, tell the ones you trust and are close to, but not everyone needs to know. Maybe you have some sexy friends that you have always wanted to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never say anything to my friends about this for the simple reason of it been the only thing I do in life that's just for me . It's my escape from life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was first on here. I told a few select friends about the out of character adventures I got up to. Now I don't tell them.

I do have a couple of fab lady friends who I swap stories with over a coffee sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel the need to tell my vanilla friends, it just doesn't seem like something of interest to me to discuss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our friend's know we swing, they know its how we met, in fact....we've put friends onto this site and they love it....it doesn't mean they know any details.

If we couldnt be open amongst our friends, we wouldn't call them friends.

I found fab because friends already on the site told me about it!

not the sort of thing Id discuss with anybody, I live in a small town and try to avoid being gossip fodder, but all my 'inner circle' know, as they are all of a similar mind set, eg, it might not be for them but they wouldn't think to judge me for not being the same as themselves.x

Same, it was an ex's friend that i found out about fab through......

Most people I know happen to know that I swing now, they don't get details but know I like and get multiple partners...work, friends of friends....I don't care...I spend my time as I choose to and I'm no more or less vocal about this part of my life than any. 99% of those who know don't care, and the ones who don't like it....well....tough tittys to them....may they gossip about me untill their hearts content bless them.

I'll never be ordinary in anything I do, I'm very used to being gossiped about....it's cute.

Christos btw.

well as I work in elderly care, I don't need the gossip, or I don't think Id give a rats ass! x

Bet the folk in there have seen a thing or two themselves ya know? "

some definitely have! 1 old boy has decided pimping me out would be a great way to top up his pension, others are quite prim and proper,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Post it on Facebook, and see what happens?

What do you think would happen? "

Well, I got 3 likes, 2 comments and 37 "friends" unfriended me - but hey, who needs friends if they can't accept me for being me?

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Some of our friends know and most of those are okay about it....everyone is very curious about the lifestyle.....especially one girl in work who is very judgemental about everyone and everything who delights in likening me to a slut and a prostitute - even though I have pointed out to her that I do it for free

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

The rest of the world would be horrified! I've told my two best mates but only for safety reasons; it's as well somebody knows where I'm going and with whom.

It's not something I'd discuss over dinner but if anybody asked I'd be up front.

My husband knows what I do but he doesn't want to hear about it or any details. If he wanted to know I'd tell him the truth. I don't believe that lying helps. I'm a very open and honest person but I'm also aware that there's a side to me that would lose me a lot of friends.

Good job that I have my fab friends coz we all need to vent off sometimes. I wish in many ways there were casual group meets, socials locally where we could just meet to chat without fear of something slipping out!

So, anyone want to join me for a drink at a pub on a regular, perhaps monthly, basis?

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Most of my mates know, a few work colleagues and I declared it on my security vetting...my parents think I "date" guys off t'interweb...it's my hobby - I don't put anyone down for following footie or crocheting but I realise a few folk might see it as a disgusting perversion, however I'm not going to lose any sleep over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My work mates know and some of my friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The rest of the world would be horrified! I've told my two best mates but only for safety reasons; it's as well somebody knows where I'm going and with whom.

It's not something I'd discuss over dinner but if anybody asked I'd be up front.

My husband knows what I do but he doesn't want to hear about it or any details. If he wanted to know I'd tell him the truth. I don't believe that lying helps. I'm a very open and honest person but I'm also aware that there's a side to me that would lose me a lot of friends.

Good job that I have my fab friends coz we all need to vent off sometimes. I wish in many ways there were casual group meets, socials locally where we could just meet to chat without fear of something slipping out!

So, anyone want to join me for a drink at a pub on a regular, perhaps monthly, basis? "

wish there was something like this local to me

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

We got married very young been swinging many year,s none of our friend,s no about this side of our life they would never believe it and that,s the way we want to keep it. It,s good to talk to like minded people on these site,s. We are more happy than any of our friends who most have gone behind each other. Lost count how many have made a pass at me over the year,s and Paul as had it offered on a plat. We made a rule not friends we have stuck with it

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By *atelotmanMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Be careful who you tell about your life,let what I believed was a good friend know about me an the site.He blabbed big time an lost me a few friends.So now don't tell anyone about the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well we've loved reading your comments but it sounds very 50-50 so we're still not sure wot to do so think we'll keep it to ourselves for now until we decide for ourselves.

Thank you, you sexy bunch

John & Kelly xx

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

Discretion is for the best. We know what swinging is and isn't but your friends may have prejudices you aren't aware of and may judge you in a way you might not expect.

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of my mates know and the rest would not be surprised as it's me. I know many would say that they wished they had the will to do it and go to swingers club but the social constraint is too great + being really alien to them.

I just wish I had more meets from here but I notice I have better luck outside. Funny enough a lot of it is either on the bus, at a bus station, local shops or on a bus.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Just have it put on the front page of the local newspaper. ..

No secrets then ....

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Some of my friends and workmates know, I'm quite open about it. None of them have been judgemental, mostly curious

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

I'm very open in my personality anyway,as most of my friends know about my "fab antics" Ofcourse I never rave about personal sexual matters with whom..They love me for who I am & most are envious (i think)...;-)

I guess it's upto you. Ask yourself do you trust them do they value your friendship are you close enough..They maybe shocked some may not understand & that's when friendships break down through lack of understanding..that can be damaging...

Whatever you decide I wish you luck..

Bambi xx

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By *eyondCuriousWoman
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Some know, I'm pretty open about it our lifestyle. Obviously I don't tell them exactly what goes on and definitely not who's involved. They ask a lot of question, a couple are a bit jealous lol

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be careful who you tell about your life,let what I believed was a good friend know about me an the site.He blabbed big time an lost me a few friends.So now don't tell anyone about the site."

I just read that as 'choose better friends'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well we've loved reading your comments but it sounds very 50-50 so we're still not sure wot to do so think we'll keep it to ourselves for now until we decide for ourselves.

Thank you, you sexy bunch

John & Kelly xx "

'decide for ourselves'

Those are the three best words on this thread

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