FabSwingers.com forum: What do you do?

By *asokitty OP Woman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Is it just me that's cagey over what I do for a living. It always surprised me when it's one of the first questions asked.

I'd answer if I was on a dating site, but I just don't see the relevance on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me that's cagey over what I do for a living. It always surprised me when it's one of the first questions asked.

I'd answer if I was on a dating site, but I just don't see the relevance on here. "

No not just you. I may hint if I get talking to people for a good length of time but only two people know the actual job I do and where.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I'm happy to say that I'm a secretary, but I won't say where. Nor will I say where I live, as I don't accommodate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make fab fabber that's what I do just for the haters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont mind saying what i do...but,yes, no details...why would i?

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

It's just a general conversation starter - no specific details are necessary, but if we ask and people are hesitant, we back off and don't probe further (on that issue at least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are interested to get to know you as well as just Fuck you. I ask what people do for a living And happy to tell them what I do. And most people hate me when I tell them. Well if they ever went to uni they do...

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By *asokitty OP Woman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

"Some people are interested to get to know you as well as just Fuck you. I ask what people do for a living And happy to tell them what I do. And most people hate me when I tell them. Well if they ever went to uni they do...

Student loan collector?

I guess I'm more cagey because of the whole code of practice thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I bet I can work it out given your location ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people asking me that because when I tell them they are more curious and start asking lots of questions.

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By *eMontresMan
over a year ago

Halesowen

It's your right to divulge or withhold whatever info you want - no-one should be put out if you are reticent about personal stuff like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you're on here for the social side too then it is perfectly acceptable to get to know one another. It is just down to preference

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I don't tend to mention it publicly. A few people I have been chatting to for a while know, but I don't go into loads of specific details.

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By *riendlyGirlWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

I usually give a general answer/industry I see it as taking an interest and have no problem being asked but I'd never give specifics.

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By *oconut2Woman
over a year ago

Nether regions of the back of beyond

"I think if you're on here for the social side too then it is perfectly acceptable to get to know one another. It is just down to preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I bet I can work it out given your location ha!"

I've been rumbled!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about sparking a convo, and also certain professions can turn people on x

I'm a scientist and it sparks more conversation x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I bet I can work it out given your location ha!

I've been rumbled!

Well I have very few issues with the people. Major ones with the policy! You carry on there! Secret is safe with me

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I don't say what I do to most people anyway, I am happy to generalize it though.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I like to keep what I actually do as personal. Some took offence when I said that.

Now I just say I work nightshift, which is true, but then I add I'm a burglar . . . Some see it as it is, light hearted. Some don't.

I can't win lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In this crazy world life could get very difficult if people at work found out about seining lifestyle some employers might even object

Saying it's not a image they want at there company

I understand interest I ask for vague job description just so I can figure chances of accidental meetings

Ie if I was a vicar other was funeral director say high chance of meeting

We're say a butcher and vegetaterian vicar slightly less chance

If that makes sense

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

I dont mind saying I am a barmaid but I wont say where having learnt from previously saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are purely on fab to enjoy sexual encounters with like minded folk , and not in the slightest bit interested in what anyone does for a living .

However it often comes up in conversation upon meeting , and we have no problem saying what we do . After all , we are still people and its a logical conversation starter , but we don't divulge too much , nor quiz anyone .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dunno. you can be very broad with your answer

its not like you have to give the company name you work for

i work in an office

i work in construction

i work in social care

blah blah blah

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

My bugbear is the 'where are you from/where do you live'. If I wanted people to know perhaps I'd have put it on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy to say I'm a bovine insemination engineer,

It's a complete lie but I'm happy to say it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's your right to divulge or withhold whatever info you want - no-one should be put out if you are reticent about personal stuff like that"

I don't give any personal information out at all. It's irrelevant for this site. I tend to lie instead of not answering, as saying nothing seems to get people's backs up. But I shouldn't have to lie, they should respect my wish for privacy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I don't mind admitting I'm a housewife but I couldn't go into great detail on where I'm based

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

I am happy to say I am a teaching assistant, which is true, but I have been asked what is the name of the school I work in! That is definitely too much information to give out! I mean, why would they ask? Why does it even matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give clues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess if you were into uniforms or something it could be relevant, or the whole sexy secretary thing. Bloody hate the whole "I'm a professional" thing though, I have absolutely no idea why that would be relevant. All it does is make us think you're a bit up yourself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me that's cagey over what I do for a living. It always surprised me when it's one of the first questions asked.

I'd answer if I was on a dating site, but I just don't see the relevance on here. "

There is no relevance on here, and I don't want everyone, on here or elsewhere, knowing what I do and where. Nothing to hide, just don't see why it matters

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Is it just me that's cagey over what I do for a living. It always surprised me when it's one of the first questions asked.

I'd answer if I was on a dating site, but I just don't see the relevance on here. "

We keep it vague, just like all our other personal details. Ultimately no matter how we dress it up we're meeting strangers from the net, I'd tell my kids to be very wary so we are too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind telling people I'm a hotel housekeeper, but don't tell just anyone where my work is lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me that's cagey over what I do for a living. It always surprised me when it's one of the first questions asked.

I'd answer if I was on a dating site, but I just don't see the relevance on here.

We keep it vague, just like all our other personal details. Ultimately no matter how we dress it up we're meeting strangers from the net, I'd tell my kids to be very wary so we are too.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I don't mind telling people what I do,I'm not telling them where I work or my address or bank details

Just an occupation

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"My bugbear is the 'where are you from/where do you live'. If I wanted people to know perhaps I'd have put it on my profile. "

I will tell people what sector I work in, but not job title and company! Similarly my profile says where I am from, it really irritates me being asked "where do you live in Wigan" as a first message! How exact do people need to know?!

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Is it just me that's cagey over what I do for a living. It always surprised me when it's one of the first questions asked.

I'd answer if I was on a dating site, but I just don't see the relevance on here. "

I am exactly the same...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if you're on here for the social side too then it is perfectly acceptable to get to know one another. It is just down to preference

Agreed. It all depends on what you want from the site. if all youre after is quick one off meets then no it's irrelevant, however if you're meeting regularly or socially then it's part of getting to know someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy I'm always wary of scam profiles or fakes so i have no problem if get to know them but I don't raise the subject.

Plus I don't want the world knowing I train porn stars for a living...doh!

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Doesn't bother me, there's 10k people working where I work, there's no disrepute clause and the security service is aware of my lifestyle...I've also met people who work on the same site as me. It's just part of the convo as far as I'm concerned

I'm disappointed Scarlet may have lied to me when she told me she was the Duchess of Cambridge's personal dresser though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Doesn't bother me, there's 10k people working where I work, there's no disrepute clause and the security service is aware of my lifestyle...I've also met people who work on the same site as me. It's just part of the convo as far as I'm concerned

I'm disappointed Scarlet may have lied to me when she told me she was the Duchess of Cambridge's personal dresser though

You've seen me. I can't even dress myself! Gok Wan ran screaming when I asked for help.

I'm actually an astronaut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not surprised people ask, often they are on here while at work, and gotta admit work takes up most of peoples lives so they probably have nothing else to talk about.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I say what i do but not where i work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a gynocologist

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