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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many dodgy profiles are there on Fab? You know the sort of thing: either too little or too much information, poor indistinct photos & no verifications. And after contact is made & seemingly genuine claims & offers put forward (resulting in picture swaps & explanations of situations & desires) there is backpeddling, excuses & cessation of contact.

I/we still get 'suckered' into it. I think has happened again recently. Suspect it was a man posing as a married woman who sent a picture of his unsuspecting wife.

Notes to self: Must not be so gullible! Set a minimum list of rules re profiles & requests before sending pictures or contact details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we were duped yesterday,pic sent to us of his "wife" and looking closer you could see an American plug socket on the wall,not many of them in Oldham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we were duped yesterday,pic sent to us of his "wife" and looking closer you could see an American plug socket on the wall,not many of them in Oldham "

simplez - we don't answer to requests of pictures anymore (delete button) and if a meet is requested "a chat in a coffee shop or a night at the club" s out 99% of single guys with couple profiles...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Blimey! Great spot with the us plug!

This time we were arranging to meet for a social & get2knowyou chat when the excuses started: busy work schedule, maybe in a couple of weeks, in central London (miles from where they live), etc. Then no contact & they blocked the pix they sent via fab message.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I don't understand why you would contact or engage with profiles that have lack of info,poor pictures or no verifications in the first place

I know I wouldn't if the profile didn't initially attract me

While I know that not all profiles are genuine,and those that aren't are pretty easy to suss,I also know that I don't arrange meets with everyone I talk to on here either, it doesn't mean I'm dodgy,it means that I've decided that I don't want to meet you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yep! Agree with 1st point but I said I was gullible on this occasion.

On your 2nd point: the difference is that you would be staight with people not just suddenly cease all contact while discussing meeting arrangements


"I don't understand why you would contact or engage with profiles that have lack of info,poor pictures or no verifications in the first place

I know I wouldn't if the profile didn't initially attract me

While I know that not all profiles are genuine,and those that aren't are pretty easy to suss,I also know that I don't arrange meets with everyone I talk to on here either, it doesn't mean I'm dodgy,it means that I've decided that I don't want to meet you"

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

you have 3/4 lines of text, a couple profile being used to get the male half meets and you are commenting on other people's profiles being sparce or dodgy...

no offence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why you would contact or engage with profiles that have lack of info,poor pictures or no verifications in the first place

I know I wouldn't if the profile didn't initially attract me

While I know that not all profiles are genuine,and those that aren't are pretty easy to suss,I also know that I don't arrange meets with everyone I talk to on here either, it doesn't mean I'm dodgy,it means that I've decided that I don't want to meet you"

I remember back when we started on fab some three and a half years ago , we were new to swinging and thought wow ! All these like minded people to meet and have fun with , what could go wrong ?

Well , like everyone else as time went by we realised there were as many fake profiles as real ones . And that not everyone was on here to meet .

The fake profiles are not always easy to suss out , especially if you are new . And the initial excitement fades with the realisation that your criteria is not always going to be that of potential real profiles .

Of course no one is going to be interested in meeting everyone that messages , but perseverance and time reap results and don't let the fakes and timewasters drag you down

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sigh! If you read the profile you would realise that we were a couple that has been on here for quite a while but wife recently decided to stop (may return later). It is quite plain & upfront in the text. Not trying to dupe anyone.

Never ceases to amaze me the comments people get to simple honest questions (in the swinging support & help section). No offence


"you have 3/4 lines of text, a couple profile being used to get the male half meets and you are commenting on other people's profiles being sparce or dodgy...

no offence"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand why you would contact or engage with profiles that have lack of info,poor pictures or no verifications in the first place

I know I wouldn't if the profile didn't initially attract me

While I know that not all profiles are genuine,and those that aren't are pretty easy to suss,I also know that I don't arrange meets with everyone I talk to on here either, it doesn't mean I'm dodgy,it means that I've decided that I don't want to meet you

I remember back when we started on fab some three and a half years ago , we were new to swinging and thought wow ! All these like minded people to meet and have fun with , what could go wrong ?

Well , like everyone else as time went by we realised there were as many fake profiles as real ones . And that not everyone was on here to meet .

The fake profiles are not always easy to suss out , especially if you are new . And the initial excitement fades with the realisation that your criteria is not always going to be that of potential real profiles .

Of course no one is going to be interested in meeting everyone that messages , but perseverance and time reap results and don't let the fakes and timewasters drag you down "

Thanks for that! Now realise I shld set up a single profile as well as our couples profile for when my wife resumes play. However, I am always honest & open with people (more fool me, eh!).

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Even with strict rules on profiles you can still be suckered in. We have pretty stringent "hoops"before we commit to a meet, ie, must be verified by meet and a few of them too, also the veri lineage must appear sound, we'll hotlist until that happens. Recent pics and be recently active within past 3 months. Willing to commit to a hotel room, (we'll contribute half but you book it), number exchange when a meet is agreed and so on but we've still gone through this and had a no show. Pretty sure if we'd not had certain things in place it would have happened more, a lot more. A bit much some may say, however, we've found it necessary just wish it wasn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont set up single profile!!! Youll get less interest have to work 5x harder and get more fakes

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Sigh! If you read the profile you would realise that we were a couple that has been on here for quite a while but wife recently decided to stop (may return later). It is quite plain & upfront in the text. Not trying to dupe anyone.

Never ceases to amaze me the comments people get to simple honest questions (in the swinging support & help section). No offence

you have 3/4 lines of text, a couple profile being used to get the male half meets and you are commenting on other people's profiles being sparce or dodgy...

no offence"

No offence taken

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Even with strict rules on profiles you can still be suckered in. We have pretty stringent "hoops"before we commit to a meet, ie, must be verified by meet and a few of them too, also the veri lineage must appear sound, we'll hotlist until that happens. Recent pics and be recently active within past 3 months. Willing to commit to a hotel room, (we'll contribute half but you book it), number exchange when a meet is agreed and so on but we've still gone through this and had a no show. Pretty sure if we'd not had certain things in place it would have happened more, a lot more. A bit much some may say, however, we've found it necessary just wish it wasn't. "

As you say, it can be hard work & you still get suckered. No approach is infallible. Perhaps the only sure way is to visit clubs or organised events (never done this so far) to meet people in the flesh from the start. Nothing beats looking people in the eyes!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dont set up single profile!!! Youll get less interest have to work 5x harder and get more fakes "

Thanks for the encouragement

Entertaining profile btw

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Caveat emptor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You said it yourself,don't be so gullible. Men who start talking about what they want to do and ask for pics are after wanking material. I don't entertain them. It might get a bit flirty,but the men who actually want to meet and are worth meeting barely mention sex. You live and learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah I haven't tbh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont set up single profile!!! Youll get less interest have to work 5x harder and get more fakes

Thanks for the encouragement

Entertaining profile btw"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the more fake profiles there are .the more fun it leaves for the genuine guys..if it hasnt put people off meeting..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There must be hundreds, thousands of them. I like to think I never get caught by them, but I do sometimes. I soon them out though. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You said it yourself,don't be so gullible. Men who start talking about what they want to do and ask for pics are after wanking material. I don't entertain them. It might get a bit flirty,but the men who actually want to meet and are worth meeting barely mention sex. You live and learn "

Agreed. On this occasion it was from a supposedly married woman who wanted to have a more exciting sex life. Said 'she' had had a few meets (apparently veris were private & hidden) & even tried mmmf & wanted more. Shld have had alarm bells from the sparse profile really even though 'she' sounded plausible & genuine (used everyday matter-of-fact language & didnt go overboard with sex chat). I have given myself a good talking too!

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By *rallvalCouple
over a year ago

Dunfermline

We prefer to verify via Skype or phone call early on.

It is amazing how many people's Web cams suddenly break down or the woman who was there just a moment ago has gone out and cannot chat on the phone.

Simple fake-filter but it works.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I quite like going through the new pics and looking for the fakes. In the last day or so I've found a few international pornstars, a youtuber with 2 million followers and composite profiles with pics of more than one woman on, or at the least no reason why her areola were 3" or so across on some pics and the size of a 2p on others.

It's amazing how many are actually verified, though and also a bit disturbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't try and out the fakes, I just look for genuine profiles instead. Works a treat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I quite like going through the new pics and looking for the fakes. In the last day or so I've found a few international pornstars, a youtuber with 2 million followers and composite profiles with pics of more than one woman on, or at the least no reason why her areola were 3" or so across on some pics and the size of a 2p on others.

It's amazing how many are actually verified, though and also a bit disturbing. This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why you would contact or engage with profiles that have lack of info,poor pictures or no verifications in the first place

I know I wouldn't if the profile didn't initially attract me

While I know that not all profiles are genuine,and those that aren't are pretty easy to suss,I also know that I don't arrange meets with everyone I talk to on here either, it doesn't mean I'm dodgy,it means that I've decided that I don't want to meet you"

Is this an American plug ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont set up single profile!!! Youll get less interest have to work 5x harder and get more fakes "

Disagree.....I'm one half of a couples profile...good pics, veris, text etc....and yet I find life so much easier on here using this, my singles profile...both my g.f and I attract way more attention seperately than on a couples profile in fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont set up single profile!!! Youll get less interest have to work 5x harder and get more fakes "

Hang on.....o.p'a profile is a single male profile....with the heading 'normal couple'

That he's straight, but looking for m or mm couples

And the wife isn't playing.

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O.p, you have a very confusing profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here maybe a month or so now and have noticed a number of profiles are worded in the same way, they must be fakes?

Its the same on normal dating sites, hundreds of profiles that are similar.

Amazing how many women here are fairly tall, 5'9" or 10" and above, thats well above average for a woman and they're all here..??

I know my profile height is 5 7 but its like a fake profile will have something to just miss match you.

Finally on the subject of verification, I haven't had 1 meet yet so how am I suppose to get verified...???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dont set up single profile!!! Youll get less interest have to work 5x harder and get more fakes

Hang on.....o.p'a profile is a single male profile....with the heading 'normal couple'

That he's straight, but looking for m or mm couples

And the wife isn't playing.

.

O.p, you have a very confusing profile. "

Sorry. Didn't think it was confusing. Will look at it. It was/is our couples profile. Wife stopped playing (she was looking for mmmfs/gbs hence the MM thing) so added the comments saying that but I was now available for gbs, etc. In hindsight pwrhaps I shld have just left the 'wife not playing at the moment' comment & set up a separate single guy profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Dont set up single profile!!! Youll get less interest have to work 5x harder and get more fakes

Hang on.....o.p'a profile is a single male profile....with the heading 'normal couple'

That he's straight, but looking for m or mm couples

And the wife isn't playing.

.

O.p, you have a very confusing profile.

Sorry. Didn't think it was confusing. Will look at it. It was/is our couples profile. Wife stopped playing (she was looking for mmmfs/gbs hence the MM thing) so added the comments saying that but I was now available for gbs, etc. In hindsight pwrhaps I shld have just left the 'wife not playing at the moment' comment & set up a separate single guy profile"

Mind you that still wouldn't have stopped me being suckered by a fake. Wish I hadn't asked now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont set up single profile!!! Youll get less interest have to work 5x harder and get more fakes

Hang on.....o.p'a profile is a single male profile....with the heading 'normal couple'

That he's straight, but looking for m or mm couples

And the wife isn't playing.

.

O.p, you have a very confusing profile. "

Looks like someone reported it and admin changed it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many dodgy profiles are there on Fab? You know the sort of thing: either too little or too much information, poor indistinct photos & no verifications. And after contact is made & seemingly genuine claims & offers put forward (resulting in picture swaps & explanations of situations & desires) there is backpeddling, excuses & cessation of contact.

I/we still get 'suckered' into it. I think has happened again recently. Suspect it was a man posing as a married woman who sent a picture of his unsuspecting wife.

Notes to self: Must not be so gullible! Set a minimum list of rules re profiles & requests before sending pictures or contact details."

The real question is, why on earth do people mail profiles with no text and no pics?? Why don't people just leave them alone?!

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"I don't try and out the fakes, I just look for genuine profiles instead. Works a treat. "

Surely your process of elimination looking for genuine profiles IS by definition 'ing out the fakes?'

**great pics btw

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"

The real question is, why on earth do people mail profiles with no text and no pics?? Why don't people just leave them alone?!"

Exactly this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had messages with people that are "No longer on site", who send friend requests before we've even messaged. So now we send 10/20 messages and if we are happy we offer to chat on kik. Then we like all parties to chat to prove they are genuine!! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well that went well didn't it?

I start a thread about getting duped by fake profiles & end up with having our profile arbitrarily & unilaterally changed (to a single man profile) by Fab after getting reported (probably by one of the posters - again probably obvious which one- who we have never meet or chatted to before). Unbelieveable!!!

Disappointed that there are some people on here (you see them always sniping on forum threads) who consider themselves self-appointed Fab policemen who see conspiracy everywhere. Even more disappointed in Fab for listening to a stranger with an unreasonable bee in their bonnet AND unilaterally acting on it without doing any checks or even contacting us.

We have been on this site as a couple for over 5 years. My wife is not playing at the moment but I still can. She may return in the future. WE have made all this abundantly clear on the profile. People & Friends we have met still contact us via our couples profile for updates & chat. Not trying to entice anybody with false claims or using my wife as bait to attract either women or men for me & then disappoint them by only me turning up. If you read the profile (without any preconceived attitude or agenda) it is plain & obvious what the situation is.

What we have now is a single man profile with incorrect details, our couples preferences, pictures of my wife having fun & some glowing veris about my wife!!! Now THAT is confusing.

Disappointed & disillusioned. I will contact admin to see if common sense & logic can prevail but won't hold my breath. Also probably not going to participate in the forums again. Too many times honest & well meaning posts result in unreasonable & cynical replies. Not worth the aggro. Life is too short.

Considering the title of the thread, from my perspective this is definately a sad case of the messenger getting shot!

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