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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i know this is strange to ask but when people message you talking about who they met and how many they have met in a week and the likes,

do you find it off putting or a turn off or just sexy?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

turn off.... discretion is hugely important in this game xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"turn off.... discretion is hugely important in this game xx"

thanks for what i was thinkin

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"turn off.... discretion is hugely important in this game xx"
I concur.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i just don't want to know whos doing what with who

i know im on a swinging site etc but i dont want to feel like it means fuck all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i know this is strange to ask but when people message you talking about who they met and how many they have met in a week and the likes,

do you find it off putting or a turn off or just sexy?

Huge turn off

I do often wonder what people think discretion actually means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesn't matter to me where we've "met", online or in person, some things should just not be discussed. not only a turn-off, but also bad-manners as why should I want to know that I'm now being judged against your last conquest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i completely agree! I choose not to name drop. it really winds me up when people ask who i met.

you can look at my verificatoins and that is it, i am not going into any more info

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i completely agree! I choose not to name drop. it really winds me up when people ask who i met.

you can look at my verificatoins and that is it, i am not going into any more info

the person hasnt name dropped but always tells me how many the person has met and the person wonders why i wont meet him

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Massive turn off

Also people that use their status to thank certain people for a great shag is a turn off too

I have no interest in people that do that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that's why I hide my friends list, nothing to do with anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Massive turn off

Also people that use their status to thank certain people for a great shag is a turn off too

I have no interest in people that do that

im glad to see im not being over sensitive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the information is unsolicited and in too much graphical details, then yes, I too would be put off.

Not if I ask after whether he has had some fun, and he says yes, met a couple on such and such a day etc...

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I guess it's just guys trying to make out that they are the big "alpha male" and that if everyone else is onto a good thing, you should be too...

But then again, as was on another thread, everyone who says they are in the army say they are in the SAS or Paras, and any other boastful braggs about why they are better than the average guy on here. What they don't seem to realise is that most people on here have heard it all before, and as has been said on here above, it doesn't impress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a couple & the fella in it is always talking about what they`ve been doing, which is why we`re not keen on meeting them again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Horrible !

I never answer the ones that ask if im going well on here ???

any luck ??

how many have you met ??

Cheeky little barstewards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they are. In my world discretion is paramount on here. I dont pry into other peoples sex lives on here so why should i tell them what ive been up to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"turn off.... discretion is hugely important in this game xx"

*Nods in agreement*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i know this is strange to ask but when people message you talking about who they met and how many they have met in a week and the likes,

do you find it off putting or a turn off or just sexy?

Its a turn off for me, the worst though is when I speak to someone and try and arrange a time for a meet and they say their 'booked up' , allways make me cringe

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

There is an acceptable level though, isn't there?

Many people I have chatted to (including some but not all of my verifications, so no jumping to conclusions) have been happy to swap stories of swinging experiences. No names are given, and unnecessary details are eliminated, but it's all part of getting to know each other.

Isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Swapping experiences with people you know and are friends with is fine and im sure we all do it,using the number of meets and giving graphic details to others you hav'nt met to make yourself look like you're a great shag and an unmissable opportunity is a different thing

Well it is to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

total turn off....as is people asking me who/when/where I have met others...

its no ones business except mine and the people/persons I have met.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

yep i agree i wouldnt want to become the next meet that person is talking about so dont give them the oppertunity . my private life is exactly that private and i treat others the same

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We agree that discretion is a must. That is why we hide most of our varifications, we tend to leave a couple on when they are new but then hide them as we are guilty of looking at other peoples and sometimes thinking if they have played with so and so we dont want to meet them... !! We know its wrong to judge like that but it is human nature!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i completely agree! I choose not to name drop. it really winds me up when people ask who i met.

you can look at my verificatoins and that is it, i am not going into any more info

But if you have them on you verfication why not tell people? its not like its a secret

I dont mind meet chat to some extent, we all swap funny and horror stories and so long as its done in a light hearted way im ok with that

When they feel the need to tell me how many fingers they could get up, or ask whats the most cocks ive had in one night, thats just taking it a bit far for me

If someone asked me if i had met a certain person and i had i would say yes but thats it, i wouldnt go into what we did on the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is an acceptable level though, isn't there?

Isn't it?"

i think thats what i was trying to get over in my above post lol

Its hard when you meet someone for the first time to know what to talk about

I dont want to sit and talk about work

I dont want to sit and talk about my kids

I dont want to sit and talk about my marrage break up

So what else is there that you both have common grounds on?

We talk about swinging as its a good ice breaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swapping experiences with people you know and are friends with is fine and im sure we all do it,using the number of meets and giving graphic details to others you hav'nt met to make yourself look like you're a great shag and an unmissable opportunity is a different thing

Well it is to me"

ah refreshingly honest. We all do this at sometime, the discretion is in how you say things. Most of the peeps we have met have wanted to share experiences.

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