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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When meeting someone or a couple for the first time and you decide to meet at a hotel, who should pay?

I have seen on some couples profile stating if a single man wishes to play with them, then the single man needs to pay for the hotel!

Personally I think it should be split or at least let the person decide if they want to pay for the bill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoever is hosting should surely pay?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dutch all the way only fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"dutch all the way only fair "

if im meeting someone to play i would expect to pay half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never swung with the dutch must give it ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im just checking now going dutch did use to mean going halfs didnt it just in case its changed over the years cos i is old lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The single man must always pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I have seen on some couples profile stating if a single man wishes to play with them, then the single man needs to pay for the hotel!"

Tell them prostitution is actually illegal in the UK.

If it's a hotel, noone is hosting, it's an agreed cost and so should be shared by all parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The single man must always pay. "

why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"never swung with the dutch must give it ago "

Lol let me know when you do will join you.. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"never swung with the dutch must give it ago "

Pmsl let me know how you get on !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say to share the cost unless one of the parties involved is staying at the hotel anyway.

S.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say to share the cost unless one of the parties involved is staying at the hotel anyway.

S."

thats always been such a turn on to go to someone's room and knock the door let my coat drop walk in and make em smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I have seen on some couples profile stating if a single man wishes to play with them, then the single man needs to pay for the hotel!

Tell them prostitution is actually illegal in the UK.

If it's a hotel, noone is hosting, it's an agreed cost and so should be shared by all parties."

I beg to differ. We have hosted in a hotel room when we have been unable to accommodate at home. Each to his own tho.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would say to share the cost unless one of the parties involved is staying at the hotel anyway.

S.

thats always been such a turn on to go to someone's room and knock the door let my coat drop walk in and make em smile "

Books a hotel room now and passes you the door number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The single man must always pay.

why?"

It's the rules.

They must pay!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say to share the cost unless one of the parties involved is staying at the hotel anyway.

S.

thats always been such a turn on to go to someone's room and knock the door let my coat drop walk in and make em smile "

and realise you just knocked on the wrong room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say to share the cost unless one of the parties involved is staying at the hotel anyway.

S.

thats always been such a turn on to go to someone's room and knock the door let my coat drop walk in and make em smile

Books a hotel room now and passes you the door number "

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would say to share the cost unless one of the parties involved is staying at the hotel anyway.

S.

thats always been such a turn on to go to someone's room and knock the door let my coat drop walk in and make em smile

and realise you just knocked on the wrong room "

dont ruin the fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The single man must always pay.

why?

It's the rules.

They must pay!! lol "

remind me if we ever play to book a room at the Hyatt pent house then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol.

I was thinking back to some of the threads on here where it's seen as the guy getting a privelege so he must pay.

There was one a month or two back and the guy was asked to pay for child care aswell.

Another one where guys were asked to chip £50 a head in for the hire of a pub for a gangbang.

The single guy always has to pay.

(not that I'm whinging oh members of the Forum Mafia) lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"When meeting someone or a couple for the first time and you decide to meet at a hotel, who should pay?

"

If a couple has stated on their profile they expect the guy to pay, then any guy who contacts them and agrees to a hotel meet should expect to pay... if he don't want to pay, then he should contact someone else who is willing to at least split the bill.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When meeting someone or a couple for the first time and you decide to meet at a hotel, who should pay?

If a couple has stated on their profile they expect the guy to pay, then any guy who contacts them and agrees to a hotel meet should expect to pay... if he don't want to pay, then he should contact someone else who is willing to at least split the bill."

Surely at the end of the day the couple inviting someone who is single to play with them is doing it more for their gratification and the single person is helping them out.

Whether it be a man or a woman invited to join in.. they all should pay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel it should be shared costs as all gain from meets usually and dutch does still mean half share x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely at the end of the day the couple inviting someone who is single to play with them is doing it more for their gratification and the single person is helping them out.

Whether it be a man or a woman invited to join in.. they all should pay

Do you really see it as helping couples out, and if so why do you think that?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"When meeting someone or a couple for the first time and you decide to meet at a hotel, who should pay?

If a couple has stated on their profile they expect the guy to pay, then any guy who contacts them and agrees to a hotel meet should expect to pay... if he don't want to pay, then he should contact someone else who is willing to at least split the bill.

Surely at the end of the day the couple inviting someone who is single to play with them is doing it more for their gratification and the single person is helping them out.

Whether it be a man or a woman invited to join in.. they all should pay "

If that is how you wish to see it then go ahead and waste time contacting couples who have stated they expect the guy to pay and try to convince them they should cough-up.

What I would do and what many others would do doesn't matter... it is what the couple you contact wants to do which matters. If they have stated they expect you to pay and you don't want to... move on to a couple who will split the bill. If you don't want to split the bill, look for couples who have already booked rooms and don't expect a donation.

At the end of the day............ the couples has made clear their expectations.... no one is forced to contact them.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The couple should pay.

They're getting my magnificent cock for nothing, what more do they want?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"The couple should pay.

They're getting my magnificent cock for nothing, what more do they want?

"

A refund ?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"The couple should pay.

They're getting my magnificent cock for nothing, what more do they want?

A refund ?

Hence it's free...

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if a couple have on there profile that they would like the single guy to pay then thats there decision to make, if the single guy doesn't like that idea then he shouldn't contact them, jst move on. as he doesn't meet what they are after anyway. personally we would split the costs. but we don't judge people what they want is what they want.

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By *hundercats69Couple
over a year ago

CT14

We had an offer today actually from a single guy to meet us. Neither of us can accommodate at the moment but because we are also skint at the moment we said no despite him offering to pay several times. Just doesn't feel right letting him pay the whole room fee!

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By *urreyfun2008Man
over a year ago

East Grinstead

So long as people make things clear up front then no big problem.

A 50/50 split (going dutch) is obviously the natural way, but nothing wrong with a guy treating a lady now and then.

On the gangbang businesses, some are just that, really websites needing cocks to deliver a load so the picture gallery can get updated. If its your thing then fine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Surely at the end of the day the couple inviting someone who is single to play with them is doing it more for their gratification and the single person is helping them out.

Whether it be a man or a woman invited to join in.. they all should pay

Do you really see it as helping couples out, and if so why do you think that?"

Well if a couple wants to see their partner either been taken by another man or woman... then they will need someone extra to help carry out this fantasy so it is helping them

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Surely at the end of the day the couple inviting someone who is single to play with them is doing it more for their gratification and the single person is helping them out.

Whether it be a man or a woman invited to join in.. they all should pay

Do you really see it as helping couples out, and if so why do you think that?

Well if a couple wants to see their partner either been taken by another man or woman... then they will need someone extra to help carry out this fantasy so it is helping them "

You tell 'em!

No pay, no play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Surely at the end of the day the couple inviting someone who is single to play with them is doing it more for their gratification and the single person is helping them out.

Whether it be a man or a woman invited to join in.. they all should pay

Do you really see it as helping couples out, and if so why do you think that?

Well if a couple wants to see their partner either been taken by another man or woman... then they will need someone extra to help carry out this fantasy so it is helping them

You tell 'em!

No pay, no play.

"

LMAO... with my comments do not think it will happen anyway.. lol

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Surely at the end of the day the couple inviting someone who is single to play with them is doing it more for their gratification and the single person is helping them out.

Whether it be a man or a woman invited to join in.. they all should pay

Do you really see it as helping couples out, and if so why do you think that?

Well if a couple wants to see their partner either been taken by another man or woman... then they will need someone extra to help carry out this fantasy so it is helping them

You tell 'em!

No pay, no play.

LMAO... with my comments do not think it will happen anyway.. lol"

With your powers of deduction, you'll be Chief of Police in no time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We had an offer today actually from a single guy to meet us. Neither of us can accommodate at the moment but because we are also skint at the moment we said no despite him offering to pay several times. Just doesn't feel right letting him pay the whole room fee!"

Just saw your pics.. lets put our money together and get this party moving.. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The couple should pay.

They're getting my magnificent cock for nothing, what more do they want?

"

That is brilliant.

The post I mean

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"

Tell them prostitution is actually illegal in the UK.

If it's a hotel, noone is hosting, it's an agreed cost and so should be shared by all parties."

I have to wonder sometimes what you are on.....what the hell has a guy paying for a hotel room got to do with prostitution?

You have a funny view on life at times I must say.....

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"Surely at the end of the day the couple inviting someone who is single to play with them is doing it more for their gratification and the single person is helping them out.

Whether it be a man or a woman invited to join in.. they all should pay

Do you really see it as helping couples out, and if so why do you think that?

Well if a couple wants to see their partner either been taken by another man or woman... then they will need someone extra to help carry out this fantasy so it is helping them "

Are you god's gift to Couples?

Sounds a bit like you think you are....

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Surely at the end of the day the couple inviting someone who is single to play with them is doing it more for their gratification and the single person is helping them out.

Whether it be a man or a woman invited to join in.. they all should pay

Do you really see it as helping couples out, and if so why do you think that?

Well if a couple wants to see their partner either been taken by another man or woman... then they will need someone extra to help carry out this fantasy so it is helping them

Are you god's gift to Couples?

Sounds a bit like you think you are....

"

Ahem, that would be me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So long as people make things clear up front then no big problem.

A 50/50 split (going dutch) is obviously the natural way, but nothing wrong with a guy treating a lady now and then.

On the gangbang businesses, some are just that, really websites needing cocks to deliver a load so the picture gallery can get updated. If its your thing then fine."

The 50/50 split is one thing where there's only two people involved in the meet.

What happens when it's a couple meeting a single guy at their suggestion? Does the couple pay 66% of the cost 'cos there's two of them and only one singleton?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I'd hope that all parties would split equally, unless one party would have been there anyway, in which case nothing should be paid (although the party getting the "freebie" should possibly buy breakfast!).

For reference, I'd see a couple as a single party in the above.

Luckily, this has been exactly my experience thus far.

Unluckily, it doesn't deal with no-shows, and I doubt I'd have much luck asking someone who's just cancelled on me to pay half...and even less chance of rescheduling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is booking a hotel purely for the meet then 50/50

If someone is planning to stay at the hotel and have a meet whilst there then it is more debatable, lets say Sasha and I want a nice weekend away, book into the Hilton Blackpool, see 1 single male each day and ask him to pay for the hotel - not fair

Ask 2 singles males to visit each day at seperate times and ask each for half the hotel cost - we end up paying nothing - still not fair.

ask 4 and we get the funfair paid for two, starting to sound less like swinging isn't it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was asked recently to meet a couple they offered to get me a taxi to and from there house, that was the 1st message

they didnt get a reply needless to say

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"a nice weekend away, book into the Hilton Blackpool"

You know how to show a girl the high life, eh?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone is booking a hotel purely for the meet then 50/50

If someone is planning to stay at the hotel and have a meet whilst there then it is more debatable, lets say Sasha and I want a nice weekend away, book into the Hilton Blackpool, see 1 single male each day and ask him to pay for the hotel - not fair

Ask 2 singles males to visit each day at seperate times and ask each for half the hotel cost - we end up paying nothing - still not fair.

ask 4 and we get the funfair paid for two, starting to sound less like swinging isn't it.

"

That's why I mentioned the costs being split three ways between three participants. It just would only apply to costs that wouldn't have been incurred if there hadn't been a meet and is dead easy to understand and apply.

After all, if three people, regardless of gender or relationship, go out for a meal or a drink or to the pictures, each pays an equal share, don't they?

Why should a swing meet be any different?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I have seen on some couples profile stating if a single man wishes to play with them, then the single man needs to pay for the hotel!

Tell them prostitution is actually illegal in the UK.

."

No it's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging with the Dutch is recommended. After all a rose on your piano isn't as good as tulips on your organ.....Boom, boom

By the way. Always go halves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a nice weekend away, book into the Hilton Blackpool

You know how to show a girl the high life, eh?!

"

Well you would take her to the top of the Tower

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"a nice weekend away, book into the Hilton Blackpool

You know how to show a girl the high life, eh?!

Well you would take her to the top of the Tower "

AND i'd pay for the Peter Kay tickets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If nothing is mentioned in the profile, then my expectation is 50/50 split.

However, as already mentioned before, if the couple say in their profile that single gents will be paying for the cost of hotel accommodation, then it is up to the single gents to decide whether to accept their T & Cs before contacting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a nice weekend away, book into the Hilton Blackpool

You know how to show a girl the high life, eh?!

"

I always make sex last the full 2 minutes what more can she ask.

Actually have booked into a nice hotel and plan to go up the tower first week of October ......

and we will be visiting the Moulin Rouge after a day at the tower, showing her the (alleged) grave of Mary Magdellan, visiting Notre Damme and some shopping along the champs elysse too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If nothing is mentioned in the profile, then my expectation is 50/50 split.

However, as already mentioned before, if the couple say in their profile that single gents will be paying for the cost of hotel accommodation, then it is up to the single gents to decide whether to accept their T & Cs before contacting them. "

That sounds very much to the point. If it says costs are inured by the single make than you know what your getting into. No one is forcing anyone's arm after all.

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By *ittle-Miss-MuffetCouple
over a year ago

Chester / North Wales


"If someone is booking a hotel purely for the meet then 50/50

If someone is planning to stay at the hotel and have a meet whilst there then it is more debatable, lets say Sasha and I want a nice weekend away, book into the Hilton Blackpool, see 1 single male each day and ask him to pay for the hotel - not fair

Ask 2 singles males to visit each day at seperate times and ask each for half the hotel cost - we end up paying nothing - still not fair.

ask 4 and we get the funfair paid for two, starting to sound less like swinging isn't it.

"

Yeah, you two get to ride in the funfair for free, while they get to ride on the big dipper!

Hang on, that didn't come out right..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it depends meet to meet who pays

I dont drive nor do i accommodate, if a guy travels a long way to meet me i think its only fair i provide a place for him to stay, and will and have on many occasions paid for the room, ive had guys travel over 200 miles to meet me and i dont think its right they should pay for the pertol, do all the traveling and pay for the room.

If a guy mails be saying hes working in my area and in a hotel would i like to join him, then i dont feel i should put towards the room as he has booked it anyway and most likely claiming the cost back from work

If its someone local then i think sharing the cost is fair

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By *nnebellWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

If I am attending a social at a club, then I tend to book and pay for the hotel. That way it's up to me who I have back (if anybody at all) and I can ask then to leave at any point to. Nothing worse than being stuck with somebody who really gets up your nose in some way. I like to be in contol and to chill when I get away for some fun.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Another aspect of this is to use it to out timewasters.

Ask them to book the room, and agree to pay half when you get there, then get them to email you a copy of the bookng confirmation, obviously with senstive info blanked out.

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