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Why do you enjoy being spanked?

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I'd like to come at spanking from the spankees side. What makes it pleasurable and sensual? I have known ladies to cum while being attended to.

Seems to me that most ladies on Fab say they like spanking.

Do any see being spanked as a reason for a meet?

I'm thinking about sensual and controlled at the level both enjoy.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Spanking is good...whipping is better...it's a cross over between pain and pleasure...same as biting and scratching....we both love it.

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Spanking is good...whipping is better...it's a cross over between pain and pleasure...same as biting and scratching....we both love it."

Never tried a whip. I should think you'd need to learn how to handle it from both sides? Flogger is great but also easy to overdo. Has the advantage of being able to tickle between a lady's legs

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"Spanking is good...whipping is better...it's a cross over between pain and pleasure...same as biting and scratching....we both love it."

Yes. I kinda get a bit bored with spanking Sometimes. Just isn't enough behind it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The short sharp shock, pain and pleasure

Her

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Not how I play on fab... but with my lover its the pleasure/pain and also trust.

There is something very liberating about handing over control like that, and also the sensation that spanking brings. We've never used whips or floggers, and not sure we will, but I love being spanked.

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Thanks for "baring" all ladies. Am I reading that it does as much for your mind as it does for your nerve endings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

http://isthisbdsm.blogspot.co.uk/2013/09/the-science-behind-spanking.html?m=1

You may find this an interesting read

P.s. Controlled punishment at the hands of someone who knows what they are doing can be the most amazing release in the world x

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

It's not just the spanking (or flogging, paddling etc.). It's the tingling afterwards. And the caresses. And the emotions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"http://isthisbdsm.blogspot.co.uk/2013/09/the-science-behind-spanking.html?m=1

You may find this an interesting read

P.s. Controlled punishment at the hands of someone who knows what they are doing can be the most amazing release in the world x"

This has to be the most informative article I have ever read on the science behind spanking. Thank you for sharing!

crystal

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By *ikeC2012Man
over a year ago

Peterborough


"http://isthisbdsm.blogspot.co.uk/2013/09/the-science-behind-spanking.html?m=1

You may find this an interesting read

P.s. Controlled punishment at the hands of someone who knows what they are doing can be the most amazing release in the world x"

I agree with that, I've been punished by people who don't know what they're doing and its just hurt. On the other hand when done by an expert it is the release you describe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very welcome

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

thanks to Lucy for that blog link and to everyone for highlighting the sensual joy of one part of the joy of being human!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Spanking is good...whipping is better...it's a cross over between pain and pleasure...same as biting and scratching....we both love it."

this

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By *aidtobespankedCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Nothing better than seeing a pair of glowing buttocks!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Just replying so I can find this thread when I'm not sitting I'm Starbucks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"http://isthisbdsm.blogspot.co.uk/2013/09/the-science-behind-spanking.html?m=1

You may find this an interesting read

P.s. Controlled punishment at the hands of someone who knows what they are doing can be the most amazing release in the world x"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant blog link Lucy. Really interesting read.

For me it's the crossover between pleasure and pain. There is a major mental element to it too, what I can tolerate and the element of surprise, from soft stroking to spanking. Although like said above, spanking alone can be too one dimensional but is fantastic combined with other forms of teasing and punishment.

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I think I'm getting the vibes from the ladies. Is it fair to compare a good spanking to good sex? Also when you've enjoyed a good spanking was the same guy the business in bed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm getting the vibes from the ladies. Is it fair to compare a good spanking to good sex? Also when you've enjoyed a good spanking was the same guy the business in bed?"

A good spanking with good sex is the way forward

In answer to your question, a good spanking normally involves good sex. Yes, the same guy is the business in bed because you have that connection. It's not something you do with just anyone though. For me anyway.

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

Looking at the op's profile, I wonder if he may be curious about being spanked himself?? every picture tells a story..don't it?

I love it when it is totally unexpected and begins very gently..Mmmmmmm Ax

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I'm getting the vibes from the ladies. Is it fair to compare a good spanking to good sex? Also when you've enjoyed a good spanking was the same guy the business in bed?"

If a guy has little or not control in the rhythm, placement and force of each spank he delivers then he'll probably be just as uncoordinated with his ability to do other things. I realise this is a massive generalisation but as with everything else, you make assumptions regarding a person based upon your own experiences and observations.

crystal

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't see it as punishment and never look on it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it coz it feels good. I would meet someone purely for a spanking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to come at spanking from the spankees side. What makes it pleasurable and sensual? I have known ladies to cum while being attended to.

Seems to me that most ladies on Fab say they like spanking.

Do any see being spanked as a reason for a meet?

I'm thinking about sensual and controlled at the level both enjoy."

I enjoy power exchange. Spanking - and other similar things - can be an expression of power exchange.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"I like it coz it feels good. I would meet someone purely for a spanking. "

Damn that distance thing g r r r r r r

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I like it coz it feels good. I would meet someone purely for a spanking. "

I understand that and have met to enjoy the giving and seeing the pleasure it can give. Like sex on a first meet, to be good you have to feel the electricity.

As a spanker I have also swapped places on many occasions but it hasn't delivered the tease that other acts do. Might be generalisation but perhaps the biology of a lady helps the whole scene be more sensual?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Spanking is good...whipping is better...it's a cross over between pain and pleasure...same as biting and scratching....we both love it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can orgasm from being spanked....

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises.

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises."

Are we turning up the heat and extending spanking to include the dying art of caning. Those glorious parallel red stripes framed by the raised welts....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises.

Are we turning up the heat and extending spanking to include the dying art of caning. Those glorious parallel red stripes framed by the raised welts...."

Twitch....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last time we finished playing with another couple Will spanked me, making me cum all over again

The other couple were surprised - to say the least! Lol

More please !

Sara x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to be able to spank not just a nice bottom but breasts and pussy too...

alternating between soft and hard spanks

then changing paddles for a whip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises.

Are we turning up the heat and extending spanking to include the dying art of caning. Those glorious parallel red stripes framed by the raised welts....

Twitch...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises.

Are we turning up the heat and extending spanking to include the dying art of caning. Those glorious parallel red stripes framed by the raised welts....

Twitch...."
a happy one i hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love giving a good spanking it's about starting slowly getting the bottom nice red then getting bit harder keeping a good rythem and moving you spanks around the bottom and top off the thighs so they don't know where next spank will land

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god yes

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"The last time we finished playing with another couple Will spanked me, making me cum all over again

The other couple were surprised - to say the least! Lol

More please !

Sara x"

Wow...true confession! Imagine it had ended in a double spanking....maybe next time?

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises.

Are we turning up the heat and extending spanking to include the dying art of caning. Those glorious parallel red stripes framed by the raised welts....

Twitch...."

Methinks the lady has received the wisdom of the swishing stick judging by the profile pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises.

Are we turning up the heat and extending spanking to include the dying art of caning. Those glorious parallel red stripes framed by the raised welts....

Twitch....

Methinks the lady has received the wisdom of the swishing stick judging by the profile pic?"

Hehe, guilty as charged your honour

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises.

Are we turning up the heat and extending spanking to include the dying art of caning. Those glorious parallel red stripes framed by the raised welts....

Twitch....

Methinks the lady has received the wisdom of the swishing stick judging by the profile pic?

Hehe, guilty as charged your honour "

I trust the crime fitted the punishment? Only thing is its prob not a deterrent.. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a macochist, what can I say

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I am a macochist, what can I say "

ask for more.... a gent wouldn't turn you down!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely the mix of pleasure and pain xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

reminder to self.. need a new cane!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I so love to be spanked.

Now I'm off to follow the link

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife will not even contemplate a light spanking. Tried it once and she went mad. However, she does love to give it and is very adept with the cane. I really get off on the endorphin rush and she gets very wet taking it out on my arse. Strange but there you go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love been spanked by a lady wearing a black corset or basque but she must be baringn her breasts and I can watch in a mirror . As you can imagine it has not happened enough for me over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"reminder to self.. need a new cane! "
add paddle to basket

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My wife will not even contemplate a light spanking. Tried it once and she went mad. However, she does love to give it and is very adept with the cane. I really get off on the endorphin rush and she gets very wet taking it out on my arse. Strange but there you go."
thats hot not strange

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By *exyspecs and supermanCouple
over a year ago

A house, a very big house in the country

Ooh love spanking.

The thought of being in pain and receiving pleasure from it. Mmm

I can cum from being spanked

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Spanking is good...whipping is better...it's a cross over between pain and pleasure...same as biting and scratching....we both love it.

Never tried a whip. I should think you'd need to learn how to handle it from both sides? Flogger is great but also easy to overdo. Has the advantage of being able to tickle between a lady's legs"

A combination of all of them works so well....especially when blindfolded and you don't know what's coming next...the anticipation is thrilling..

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Table tennis, anyone?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Table tennis, anyone? "

paddles work too...

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By *exyspecs and supermanCouple
over a year ago

A house, a very big house in the country


"Spanking is good...whipping is better...it's a cross over between pain and pleasure...same as biting and scratching....we both love it.

Never tried a whip. I should think you'd need to learn how to handle it from both sides? Flogger is great but also easy to overdo. Has the advantage of being able to tickle between a lady's legs

A combination of all of them works so well....especially when blindfolded and you don't know what's coming next...the anticipation is thrilling.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooh love spanking.

The thought of being in pain and receiving pleasure from it. Mmm

I can cum from being spanked "
oh my little legs buckled when i read that! you good girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is driving me mad! Hate being single and having nobody to sort me out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love being spanked, then gently caressed, kissed and spanked again, thin line between pleasure and pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a lucky girl with a very skilled master

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a lucky girl with a very skilled master "

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House


"Spanking is good...whipping is better...it's a cross over between pain and pleasure...same as biting and scratching....we both love it."

Though I love it more than him but he does like a lady who scratches and bites gently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I adore spanking and being spanked. The look or feel or a red backside is excellent - especially when it still tingles for a while after.

You cannot beat a good flogging warming up with a soft flogger to the harder ones.

If this is administered as a punishment, then all the more fun - especially with verbal humiliation thrown in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I adore spanking and being spanked. The look or feel or a red backside is excellent - especially when it still tingles for a while after.

You cannot beat a good flogging warming up with a soft flogger to the harder ones.

If this is administered as a punishment, then all the more fun - especially with verbal humiliation thrown in."

Goes to lie in a darkened room....

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises."

Me too

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises.

Me too "

Superb pic on your profile ma'am... something like 14 proper stripes. Good job well done and compliments to the aim of the caner

I'm also off to lay down in a darkened room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have masochistic tendencies and am turned on by welts and bruises.

Me too "
Me three

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

After my lay down I now wonder if the more severe pain with bruises and welts has moved the thread away from the inner desires of more ladies to try a softer sensual spanking

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By *ILLY aka SirslagWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Prince Bishops

Spanked caned whipped and flogged all do it for me

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By *lan43sum OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Spanked caned whipped and flogged all do it for me "

........and a great set of photos showing how you get your "dark" desires fulfilled!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I'm a regular spanker and love seeing bottocks gently bloom for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been spanked although i do enjoy spanking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm craving.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm craving....."
a hard spanking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm craving..... a hard spanking? "

God yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a good spank it's just naughty and builds anticipation x although I had a bad experience once we bought a lovely pink and black leather paddle which must have had a fault as one good hard one n the leather split off n I got spanked with the thin metal rod supporting it inside a bit to far past my pain thresh hold when I'm not expecting it lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love a good spank it's just naughty and builds anticipation x although I had a bad experience once we bought a lovely pink and black leather paddle which must have had a fault as one good hard one n the leather split off n I got spanked with the thin metal rod supporting it inside a bit to far past my pain thresh hold when I'm not expecting it lol x"

Ouch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm craving..... a hard spanking?

God yes "
call me sir please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love a good spank it's just naughty and builds anticipation x although I had a bad experience once we bought a lovely pink and black leather paddle which must have had a fault as one good hard one n the leather split off n I got spanked with the thin metal rod supporting it inside a bit to far past my pain thresh hold when I'm not expecting it lol x

Ouch! "

Yea it sucked n I couldn't sit right for days lol x

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