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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have a question and I hope someone will help me understand this....

When someone reads your message they don't delete it but there is no reply?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

They might not delete messages straight away

They might be replying later

There are probably 50 other reasons..

Point is, unless someone actually replies there's no point worrying about it. Concentrate on your inbox not your sent messages....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the hot detective said.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A very good point thankyou ))

I will go and check my inbox now hehe xxx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"They might not delete messages straight away

They might be replying later

There are probably 50 other reasons..

Point is, unless someone actually replies there's no point worrying about it. Concentrate on your inbox not your sent messages...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get used to it, i know someone on here that returned from hiding her profile, she has no profile pics and she got over 30 messages during the night, i think women get so many messages they possibly just quick scan each one, go to social events to get veris, im not saying im an expert but when people ask how can they get meets, this is what others had advised. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks buddy

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

they wait to see if there,s a better offer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe your right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll read a message and think I might reply later, get distracted usually by the forums and then the message gets 'lost' in the inbox. I use the mobile site so it only shows a limited amount of messages on the front page.

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By *iggerooooCouple
over a year ago

Conwy

We do this often to be honest ... its fast as it can get very busy on here and get way too many messages.

So, will open the messages that seem to have a good opening line (regardless of sex / race)

If it's a good message then will reply ... If not, move to the next.

After a few weeks we will bulk delete and move on.

take forever to delete one by one lol

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Also we advertise as a couple seeking single male,s we get so many we can not reply to them all the next day we put a message on in the meet,s and events thanking every one.once you start to reply to a lot of people it,s like ping pong

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I see

So it's a mixture of Many reasons

How frustrating lol

Luck of the draw I guess

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

If it bothers you then as soon as you send a message go into your sent folder and delete it. Then you won't obsess over wether it's been read, deleted etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is where the odds will always stack against the single male

A single man will "always" reply as getting a message or a reply is hard work.....

Couples can and quite rightly so selective and will only reply to a message that's fits into what/who there looking for

Single ladies have the upper hand on every corner.....

But I'm still here and loving fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Dosent bother me that much I was just asking ))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They might not delete messages straight away

They might be replying later

There are probably 50 other reasons..

Point is, unless someone actually replies there's no point worrying about it. Concentrate on your inbox not your sent messages...."

This exactly... Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

My profile says exactly why that might happen unfortunately men dont read profiles much...just look at my pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why worry about things you have no control over? Delete your sent mail so you don't dwell on it, you'll either get a reply or you won't. Concentrate on your inbox.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I sometimes delete right away but at others wait and clear all measages out at once.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I have a question and I hope someone will help me understand this....

When someone reads your message they don't delete it but there is no reply?

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I suppose a no reply is a reply. If they are interested they will message you. If no message then no interest. So that's the reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd not think about it tbh. it's poor management skills on behalf of the recipient.

i've got 148 unread messages, and a few read but not replied to. i always intend to reply to the unread ones, but they've disappeared off my page and i now have 100+ more to go through, it is unlikely i will reply to any of my read messages now, and will mostly delete these unread ones too.

if you message couples usually both people need to read the message before they decide, so could be a bit different here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i read a message i read it. if i dont reply it maybe that im busy and thinking of a reply or im not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they wait to see if there,s a better offer"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Busy? Distracted? Just not deleted it yet or waiting to have time to reply properly... They are my reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they wait to see if there,s a better offer

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not me

no thanks is just that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why they do not reply it means they too picky so u may or may not get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why they do not reply it means they too picky so u may or may not get a reply"

I get shit loads of messages most dont read profiles or meet my criterias. Why should I reply if I don't want to meet them?

Swinging is about my fun not anyone who messages me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why they do not reply it means they too picky so u may or may not get a reply"

no, not too picky at all....the majority of messages i receive are from men who have not read my profile so i do not think it is in anyway picky to choose not to reply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why they do not reply it means they too picky so u may or may not get a reply"

sorry, will reply to everyone and fuck them all as well?

some people on here?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just leave them to make people wonder why we have left them. It's the little things.....

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By *auren001Woman
over a year ago

birmingham


"I have a question and I hope someone will help me understand this....

When someone reads your message they don't delete it but there is no reply?

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I do this all the time no method behind it at all...i just delete in bulk..if i read and dont reply its not cos im saving it to reply later...if that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

often just a case of popped on whilst making tea - read messages and not got the time to reply until later - and then you may forget if inundated - we tend to reply and put people in hotlist that we like though - acts as a bit of a filtering tool for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rarely delete messages. Pure laziness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They might not delete messages straight away

They might be replying later

There are probably 50 other reasons..

Point is, unless someone actually replies there's no point worrying about it. Concentrate on your inbox not your sent messages...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Message em again and ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why they do not reply it means they too picky so u may or may not get a reply"

It generally means they're probably not interested!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were chatting to what was coming across as a nice guy, things were going well until he got the arse that we had read his newest message but not replied.... When it was pointed out to him that we may have not had time to craft a reply that immediate second, his reply was not to busy to tea it though....Guess what he is now blocked and it is his loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read it not tea it bloody autocorrect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were chatting to what was coming across as a nice guy, things were going well until he got the arse that we had read his newest message but not replied.... When it was pointed out to him that we may have not had time to craft a reply that immediate second, his reply was not to busy to tea it though....Guess what he is now blocked and it is his loss"

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there, the less desireable always show their true colours in the end!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were chatting to what was coming across as a nice guy, things were going well until he got the arse that we had read his newest message but not replied.... When it was pointed out to him that we may have not had time to craft a reply that immediate second, his reply was not to busy to tea it though....Guess what he is now blocked and it is his loss

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there, the less desireable always show their true colours in the end!"
I think you might be right lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is where the odds will always stack against the single male

A single man will "always" reply as getting a message or a reply is hard work.....

Couples can and quite rightly so selective and will only reply to a message that's fits into what/who there looking for

Single ladies have the upper hand on every corner.....

But I'm still here and loving fab

"

Woop wooop am intelligent single male ! Sir you are a rare breed on fab !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

We both use this account but not always when sitting nxt to each other.. So what message one of us reads aint deleted if the other/ both at work ( for example) as its left for both of us to read when we get around to it so thats why ours are read and not deleted or replied to always straight away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I've read a message and not replied, it usually means it is sitting there waiting for a bulk delete. I always reply straight away to any that I am interested in...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not interested.

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