FabSwingers.com forum: Being owned

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it best to be owned ? It a head fuck tbh I think I prefer to be free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant imagine anything worse but each to thier own...

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Clearly if you prefer to be free, then it's not best for you.

For others it may be best.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Owned is still roleplay. Nothing to worry about.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"Owned is still roleplay. Nothing to worry about."

It isn't roleplay for everyone.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"Owned is still roleplay. Nothing to worry about.

It isn't roleplay for everyone. "

Depends on the definition. But true ownership would be slavery. Hence illegal.

So maybe it's semantics. But someone who is owned can be unowned by their own choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it best to be owned ? It a head fuck tbh I think I prefer to be free "

Nobody can truly be own cos you have your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it best to be owned ? It a head fuck tbh I think I prefer to be free

Nobody can truly be own cos you have your mind

Owned oops

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Owned is still roleplay. Nothing to worry about.

It isn't roleplay for everyone.

Depends on the definition. But true ownership would be slavery. Hence illegal.

So maybe it's semantics. But someone who is owned can be unowned by their own choice."

Actually in roleplay, it is the master or owner who is usually the one who releases ownership...such are these things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just, pardon my French - complete bullshit isn't it.

bored/boring people trying to spice things up using owner instead of bf/gf.

Fet is full of this crap

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Masters and doms is one thing. Being owned is very different and usually manifests in a fem realising it's a cover story someone's using to stop her meeting others, meeting anyone else

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"Masters and doms is one thing. Being owned is very different and usually manifests in a fem realising it's a cover story someone's using to stop her meeting others, meeting anyone else

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"It's just, pardon my French - complete bullshit isn't it.

bored/boring people trying to spice things up using owner instead of bf/gf.

Fet is full of this crap"

Gosh and I thought life is what you made it.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

hey, if it makes them happy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know an awful lot about being owned but I did watch a tv programme about such a relationship and she even had to ask him to ask the waitress for salt for her in a restaurant

. She said she was happy and I have no idea of the psychology behind it but I would run so fast from that idea that my stilettos wouldn't touch the ground.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it best to be owned ? It a head fuck tbh I think I prefer to be free "
no and stay free x

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"I don't know an awful lot about being owned but I did watch a tv programme about such a relationship and she even had to ask him to ask the waitress for salt for her in a restaurant

. She said she was happy and I have no idea of the psychology behind it but I would run so fast from that idea that my stilettos wouldn't touch the ground."

Id still beat you and be out of the door first

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I don't know an awful lot about being owned but I did watch a tv programme about such a relationship and she even had to ask him to ask the waitress for salt for her in a restaurant

. She said she was happy and I have no idea of the psychology behind it but I would run so fast from that idea that my stilettos wouldn't touch the ground.

Id still beat you and be out of the door first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My theory is horses for courses. Whatever make you happy feel free to do. There is no right or wrong answer its personal choice

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My theory is horses for courses. Whatever make you happy feel free to do. There is no right or wrong answer its personal choice"

Your last two words sum it up.

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By *heTwistedKinkCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Wirral

Ownership and collaring in a D/s relationship takes many forms and is very specific to each couple.

I'm a BDSM submissive. It makes sense to me. It's not roleplay for me, nor is it slavery. I have never been discouraged by any dominant (male or female) I've met on the scene to not have a strong mind of my own.

I don't judge styles of relationships. It's about happiness between the couples and what suits them.

May use the terms collaring and ownership in the swinging world and use them lightly as role play. Maybe it's confusing and misleading as it's such a serious and responsible act in the BDSM world and very much a lifestyle choice rather than roleplay.

As long as both parties have clarity, it's consensual and creates happiness.

To OP, set your own boundaries and ask others to respect them. Explore if you're unsure.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

With one of my partners I had a Dom/sub relationship where we agreed I would be her "owner". As much as anything it was a word that she liked, and a dynamic that worked for 3-4 years. I gave her a set of (fairly flexible) rules to live by. We weren't as strict as her having to ask my permission to request salt from a waitress. However she did (and still does) wear a metal collar 24/7 - albeit something covered in black plastic that could pass in "vanilla" life situations for a decoration.

But like all things that evolved, in our case into something less strict and far more cozy/friendly.

In fact I find myself looking for the opposite side...a Domme/sub relationship where I owned to some extent....at least while with her.

I take the _iew that every relationship is different, and what works for one set of people might well not work for another. If nobody is being abused or emotionally hurt then it's OK by me. As long as the sub in such a relationship has a way out when they feel the need, and is aware of this, then there's no need for it to be harmful.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"It's just, pardon my French - complete bullshit isn't it.

bored/boring people trying to spice things up using owner instead of bf/gf.

Fet is full of this crap"

Just because you don't understand (and you clearly don't ) doesn't make it bullshit or crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't knock what you don't understand.

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