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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

do people prefer a drink or a brew first or just a come in and pants down fuck me and go scenario?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials first

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Always a social first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do people prefer a drink or a brew first or just a come in and pants down fuck me and go scenario?"

Are these the only options available?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Social first.

It's much easier to gauge if you like someone or not over a coffee in a neutral location than have them turn up at yours or you at theirs and not be keen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer social first

Mrs s

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

any other options always welcome

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"any other options always welcome"

Go with the option that you and the people/person you're meeting all agree on and are most comfortable with, what we all do is irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck and go here

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Social everytime drink and a flirt and see where it goes...

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

both. there is room for all options within sexual adventure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social everytime drink and a flirt and see where it goes..."
drink later?!

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"Social everytime drink and a flirt and see where it goes..."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will find that all women do social first mostly.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Social everytime drink and a flirt and see where it goes... drink later?!"

Bit short notice for me and im working first thing lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"both. there is room for all options within sexual adventure."

This is a truefact

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

Social first, why we only meet in clubs, you're not tied down to that person/couple and its pick and mix who you play with!

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

It depends what we're looking for. If it's a quick outdoor MMF, then a brief chat and face pic swap are fine.

Otherwise, it's a social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The former, the latter can come later..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Empty my sack first and if they were any good I'll make them a brew!!

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"You will find that all women do social first mostly."

Doesn't that mean therefore that most men do too?

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

Usually meet for s drink first but will play on the first meet if we connect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social drink if all ok then on to some play fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to play on a first meet but i always meet in a public place first for a drink and a chat to make sure we like each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will find that all women do social first mostly.

Doesn't that mean therefore that most men do too? "

nice logic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will find that all women do social first mostly."

do they?

She rocks up. My door bell rings. I open the door. Her coat falls to the floor as she pushes me backwards and passes me a green. We light up as we walk to bedroom. We finish the smoke and she pulls my clothes off.....does that count as social?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will find that all women do social first mostly.

Doesn't that mean therefore that most men do too?

nice logic"
Cos men are more into the action straight away you know I recon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will find that all women do social first mostly.

do they?

She rocks up. My door bell rings. I open the door. Her coat falls to the floor as she pushes me backwards and passes me a green. We light up as we walk to bedroom. We finish the smoke and she pulls my clothes off.....does that count as social?"
Yes that counts as an social to, but just abit diferent lol.

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

I prefer a social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never social ......I don't have time for that in my life.....I probably would if there was anyone close enough....

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Socials first"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Odd one out here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a fan of socials...

I've had them but they can QUICKLY kill the build up, if I've talked to someone for a while and built up a rapport I kind of know I'd like to ravish them...then sitting in a pub making small talk can be a real mood killer...

I have friends who I meet socially and I don't want to fuck them...

My first ever meet on fab was an ex dominatrix who waited in a hotel room with the door adjar...the only bad meet I had was a 'social' where we ended up chatting like mates and that over shadowed the chemistry...

I'm all for through the door into a steamy full on snog...keep the flow going offline..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer not to have a social meet. I think I've had two in the 3 years I've been on and off here. Neither went any further. I have met for a drink in a hotel lounge or restaurant prior to sex on a first meet. I know by talking on here and my phone if I want them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Odd one out here. "

Make that odd 3 with me and nympho. Are we trollops??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Odd one out here.

Make that odd 3 with me and nympho. Are we trollops?? "

Are you bothered...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always a social first, sometimes play straight away after or arrange another time. To us it's as much about the social side. Spending time with like minded people. I personally love flirting and get so much out of it.

Char

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Odd one out here.

Make that odd 3 with me and nympho. Are we trollops?? "

Happy being a trollop if we are.

(goes off to google trollop)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Odd one out here.

Make that odd 3 with me and nympho. Are we trollops??

Happy being a trollop if we are.

(goes off to google trollop)"

Ooh, i am promiscuous but not disreputable. So half trollop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Odd one out here.

Make that odd 3 with me and nympho. Are we trollops??

Happy being a trollop if we are.

(goes off to google trollop)"

Apologies in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do people prefer a drink or a brew first or just a come in and pants down fuck me and go scenario?"

Women - social

Men - fuck n' go

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I only social meet now, due to a bad experience.....So to me it is lessons learnt and safety first, but that is my reasons

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Not a fan of socials...

I've had them but they can QUICKLY kill the build up, if I've talked to someone for a while and built up a rapport I kind of know I'd like to ravish them...then sitting in a pub making small talk can be a real mood killer....

"

Yea, I agree mostly. I usually talk until I am sure one way or another, but have had the odd social where either the guy struggled with the medium, or wanted to meet before I had time to be sure. It can be hot to go home knowing you both want each other badly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Odd one out here.

Make that odd 3 with me and nympho. Are we trollops??

Are you bothered... "

Nope. Tart and proud!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not a fan of socials...

I've had them but they can QUICKLY kill the build up, if I've talked to someone for a while and built up a rapport I kind of know I'd like to ravish them...then sitting in a pub making small talk can be a real mood killer....

Yea, I agree mostly. I usually talk until I am sure one way or another, but have had the odd social where either the guy struggled with the medium, or wanted to meet before I had time to be sure. It can be hot to go home knowing you both want each other badly! "

I would hate myself for having to walk away from someone I badly wanted. I couldn't do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew I escaped being called a trollope.....I'm so invisible it's amusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Phew I escaped being called a trollope.....I'm so invisible it's amusing "

Sorry. I never noticed Nymphos was a trollop either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It used to be straight to the fun but now strictly social first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

social for me always even if i meet at a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Phew I escaped being called a trollope.....I'm so invisible it's amusing

Sorry. I never noticed Nymphos was a trollop either. "

It's ok....i wasn't complaining

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By *exsibonCouple
over a year ago

Winchester and Brussels


"Social everytime drink and a flirt and see where it goes...

This "

Seconded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer socials first......that much more exciting when it goes further!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely social 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will find that all women do social first mostly."

Not had a social yet unless ya count em makin me a brew before we get dirty xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You will find that all women do social first mostly.

Not had a social yet unless ya count em makin me a brew before we get dirty xxxx"
Yes and sit on the sofa and drink some x

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I dont really do socials. If people cant put themselves over in conversation on here i dont want to waste time to find out on a social my instinct was right and there is no mental connection which along with physical connection is very important to me.

Time is precious and 95% my instinct has been correct. So only wasted 5% than a greater percentage on socials

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes and when we have met at peoples houses have a couple of drinks and chat, if it does not click no harm done is there

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only do socials first, before a meet. I'd rather get with an actual person I have clicked with, rather then a stranger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only do socials first, before a meet. I'd rather get with an actual person I have clicked with, rather then a stranger. "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've done fuck and go once and not really for us. Happy to play on a first meet but that first meet will start with a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Odd one out here.

Make that odd 3 with me and nympho. Are we trollops??

Are you bothered... "

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Phew I escaped being called a trollope.....I'm so invisible it's amusing

Sorry. I never noticed Nymphos was a trollop either. "

I am here you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only do socials first, before a meet. I'd rather get with an actual person I have clicked with, rather then a stranger. "

How patronising to all those that don't do a social first. I make damn sure I click with someone first thank you. I have to. I'm going to fuck them when I meet them. I expect I do a lot more safety checks than those of you that insist on a social......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only do socials first, before a meet. I'd rather get with an actual person I have clicked with, rather then a stranger.

How patronising to all those that don't do a social first. I make damn sure I click with someone first thank you. I have to. I'm going to fuck them when I meet them. I expect I do a lot more safety checks than those of you that insist on a social......"

I meant no offence. I imagine a meet without a social is very exciting and has an element of the unexpected. It's just I am a bit of a worrier, and like to know what I'm getting into(no pun intended) first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't see the point in pure social meets

If I met a guy and I've sat having a chat, d*unk and spent time flirting with him, we both hit it off and its obvious we like each other I want to fuck him NOW not three week on Wednesday when we're both free again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enters topic, sees replies, realises my socialising has become more inept.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Personally I don't see the point in pure social meets

If I met a guy and I've sat having a chat, d*unk and spent time flirting with him, we both hit it off and its obvious we like each other I want to fuck him NOW not three week on Wednesday when we're both free again "

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done both social and non social and both have worked for me it depends on what the build up is like

There are times when I have been glad of a social, times when I've taken it straight to a full meet in a very short time and time when I've done the door open walk in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only do socials first, before a meet. I'd rather get with an actual person I have clicked with, rather then a stranger.

How patronising to all those that don't do a social first. I make damn sure I click with someone first thank you. I have to. I'm going to fuck them when I meet them. I expect I do a lot more safety checks than those of you that insist on a social......

I meant no offence. I imagine a meet without a social is very exciting and has an element of the unexpected. It's just I am a bit of a worrier, and like to know what I'm getting into(no pun intended) first. "

Then you'd be wrong.....i get to know the guys extremely well before agreeing to meet......i already know exactly what I'm getting into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only do socials first, before a meet. I'd rather get with an actual person I have clicked with, rather then a stranger.

How patronising to all those that don't do a social first. I make damn sure I click with someone first thank you. I have to. I'm going to fuck them when I meet them. I expect I do a lot more safety checks than those of you that insist on a social......

I meant no offence. I imagine a meet without a social is very exciting and has an element of the unexpected. It's just I am a bit of a worrier, and like to know what I'm getting into(no pun intended) first. "

Everybody does things different

I wouldnt go straight to someones home or hotel room walk in and fuck, even though I like to play on a first meet I still like a drink and chat first, but I can decide pretty quick after meeting if I want to play with them or not, I don't need a full night out to decide that, one drink is enough.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only do socials first, before a meet. I'd rather get with an actual person I have clicked with, rather then a stranger.

How patronising to all those that don't do a social first. I make damn sure I click with someone first thank you. I have to. I'm going to fuck them when I meet them. I expect I do a lot more safety checks than those of you that insist on a social......

I meant no offence. I imagine a meet without a social is very exciting and has an element of the unexpected. It's just I am a bit of a worrier, and like to know what I'm getting into(no pun intended) first.

Everybody does things different

I wouldnt go straight to someones home or hotel room walk in and fuck, even though I like to play on a first meet I still like a drink and chat first, but I can decide pretty quick after meeting if I want to play with them or not, I don't need a full night out to decide that, one drink is enough....."

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I've only ever had one social first, yet to have the second meet as we are both so busy!

I struggle to free up time to meet someone, so I would usually meet in a pub to check I like them, with the intention of playing if we get along!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fuck and go here "

knew youd say that

never fuck and go here -

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I only do socials first. My safety comes first.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Social first, why we only meet in clubs, you're not tied down to that person/couple and its pick and mix who you play with!"

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By *uggarbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Always a social with no expectations that way there is no pressure. After all what looks good here may not face to face. And the safety aspects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As we have said before , we don't do socials .

It's easier as a couple to choose this as safety is not an issue as it might be for single women .

We have to pay and arrange sitters to go out , and there is no way we want to do this to have a social , no matter who may want to .

We are on fab to meet and play , our vanilla life provides the means for our social life .

Too much socialising often dampens the excitement of a meet , and the moment goes . For many the chase is all its about , and they talk the talk but rarely meet .

Despite what you may think , our style works well in so much as we play a couple of times a week and don't waste hours of our time arranging and chatting endlessly . This gives a clear line between our private life and swinging .

Swinging is something we do as a welcome break from the everyday life , but doesn't take over .

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Social first: always. I've dodged more than one bullet that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always a social with no expectations that way there is no pressure. After all what looks good here may not face to face. And the safety aspects. "

I don't really get the safety argument. ....someone could appear perfectly normal in a social situation but be totally different when alone. ...I really don't think my safety is any more at risk than those that meet socially first.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

fuck and go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only do socials first, before a meet. I'd rather get with an actual person I have clicked with, rather then a stranger.

How patronising to all those that don't do a social first. I make damn sure I click with someone first thank you. I have to. I'm going to fuck them when I meet them. I expect I do a lot more safety checks than those of you that insist on a social......

I meant no offence. I imagine a meet without a social is very exciting and has an element of the unexpected. It's just I am a bit of a worrier, and like to know what I'm getting into(no pun intended) first.

Everybody does things different

I wouldnt go straight to someones home or hotel room walk in and fuck, even though I like to play on a first meet I still like a drink and chat first, but I can decide pretty quick after meeting if I want to play with them or not, I don't need a full night out to decide that, one drink is enough....."

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

I can see the sense in single men and women meeting up for a social first..

We tend to want to be naked within half hour of meeting though!lol.I suppose that's the social element for us.

We know why we have messaged etc..its to have sexy fun so lets get it on

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By *ookingaboutMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Social, been caught a few times with very old pics,

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Social, been caught a few times with very old pics, "

us too.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"do people prefer a drink or a brew first or just a come in and pants down fuck me and go scenario?

Women - social

Men - fuck n' go"

If men like to fuck and go then it stands to reason that there are women that do too.

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop

What changed if you don't mind me asking?X

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"Always a social with no expectations that way there is no pressure. After all what looks good here may not face to face. And the safety aspects.

I don't really get the safety argument. ....someone could appear perfectly normal in a social situation but be totally different when alone. ...I really don't think my safety is any more at risk than those that meet socially first. "

This x 10000

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Always a social with no expectations that way there is no pressure. After all what looks good here may not face to face. And the safety aspects.

I don't really get the safety argument. ....someone could appear perfectly normal in a social situation but be totally different when alone. ...I really don't think my safety is any more at risk than those that meet socially first.

This x 10000"

I tend to agree with that. Although it would out those that were truly unable to hide their strangeness. If I were single I would meet in clubs only but even that isn't a guarantee.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Prefer phone chat and social, as well as drastic ing out of the unsuitable - which I always think works both ways, allowing everyone to get the meets they want. Clubs give you a bit of everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always a social with no expectations that way there is no pressure. After all what looks good here may not face to face. And the safety aspects.

I don't really get the safety argument. ....someone could appear perfectly normal in a social situation but be totally different when alone. ...I really don't think my safety is any more at risk than those that meet socially first.

This x 10000

I tend to agree with that. Although it would out those that were truly unable to hide their strangeness. If I were single I would meet in clubs only but even that isn't a guarantee."

Just because I meet only for sex, it doesn't mean that when I get there and he doesn't appear to be completely how he has come across in the many many chats we would have already had, or didn't look like his pics, that I can't turn around and go home again....plus I don't have to sit through an awkward social meet knowing that it won't go any further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a social we talk over the phone and skype to me thats equivalent to a social in public....

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I rarely do socials, it takes me a long time to decide to meet someone new so I tend to be sure it's someone I want to have sex with, besides the longer we chat the more chance they have of changing their mind

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

On meeting anyone for the first time a social. If there's rapport, appeal beyond the urge to meet from online contact in then first place then a social will cover that

Beyond any first social/fun meet then it's whatever we fancy, social or not so

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Always a social with no expectations that way there is no pressure. After all what looks good here may not face to face. And the safety aspects.

I don't really get the safety argument. ....someone could appear perfectly normal in a social situation but be totally different when alone. ...I really don't think my safety is any more at risk than those that meet socially first.

This x 10000

I tend to agree with that. Although it would out those that were truly unable to hide their strangeness. If I were single I would meet in clubs only but even that isn't a guarantee.

Just because I meet only for sex, it doesn't mean that when I get there and he doesn't appear to be completely how he has come across in the many many chats we would have already had, or didn't look like his pics, that I can't turn around and go home again....plus I don't have to sit through an awkward social meet knowing that it won't go any further."

Nobody is saying that you do. I think the consensus is that we should all do what we're comfortable with. For me that means social only first but I don't think playing it differently is wrong.

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over a year ago


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Nobody is saying that you do. I think the consensus is that we should all do what we're comfortable with. For me that means social only first but I don't think playing it differently is wrong."

I'm just providing the counter argument as the general consensus of opinion tends to be that those that don't do social meets are putting themselves at more risk and are meeting and having sex with just anyone. That's all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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Nobody is saying that you do. I think the consensus is that we should all do what we're comfortable with. For me that means social only first but I don't think playing it differently is wrong.

I'm just providing the counter argument as the general consensus of opinion tends to be that those that don't do social meets are putting themselves at more risk and are meeting and having sex with just anyone. That's all. "

I understand. You can still have sex with just anyone even if you do have a social first and the most unsafe meet we ever had was after we had met socially week previously. For me at least it's a matter of taking the pressure off and genuinely enjoying a relaxed meeting with people but that is just me although plenty think I'm odd

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over a year ago

Social first every time - except twice. One a disaster and the other a huge success. It's awkward saying "no thank you" after meeting and realising things aren't quite right, but rather that than the alternative.

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"Social first every time - except twice. One a disaster and the other a huge success. It's awkward saying "no thank you" after meeting and realising things aren't quite right, but rather that than the alternative. "

I've only had one guy spit his dummy out when I have said no thanks after meeting, I find most people are adult about it, surely we all have to accept knock backs are inevitable in this game

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By *uggarbunnyWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"Always a social with no expectations that way there is no pressure. After all what looks good here may not face to face. And the safety aspects.

I don't really get the safety argument. ....someone could appear perfectly normal in a social situation but be totally different when alone. ...I really don't think my safety is any more at risk than those that meet socially first.

This x 10000

I tend to agree with that. Although it would out those that were truly unable to hide their strangeness. If I were single I would meet in clubs only but even that isn't a guarantee.

Just because I meet only for sex, it doesn't mean that when I get there and he doesn't appear to be completely how he has come across in the many many chats we would have already had, or didn't look like his pics, that I can't turn around and go home again....plus I don't have to sit through an awkward social meet knowing that it won't go any further.

Nobody is saying that you do. I think the consensus is that we should all do what we're comfortable with. For me that means social only first but I don't think playing it differently is wrong."

I'm not saying that it makes it 100% safe having a social first. But for me personally I like one. By the time I have a social its more or less given that I want to get intermate with that person and it's is making sure, I'm looking for a regular friend not one of f's. I don't meet many and am very picky and have said in my first post that they aren't always who or look like what they have said. Each to their own and I'm not saying that what someone else does is wrong. This is my choice.

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By *estingBoundariesCouple
over a year ago

Nr Louth

We don't social, if we are getting in touch with you then we like your pics and want to have sex with you.

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over a year ago

Definitely social first,have to see of there's any chemistry!!

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over a year ago

Social meeting in a public place.

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over a year ago


"Social everytime drink and a flirt and see where it goes..."

Ditto

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

*if there's any chemistry..darn you autocorrect!!-.-

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over a year ago


"Always a social with no expectations that way there is no pressure. After all what looks good here may not face to face. And the safety aspects.

I don't really get the safety argument. ....someone could appear perfectly normal in a social situation but be totally different when alone. ...I really don't think my safety is any more at risk than those that meet socially first.

This x 10000

I tend to agree with that. Although it would out those that were truly unable to hide their strangeness. If I were single I would meet in clubs only but even that isn't a guarantee.

Just because I meet only for sex, it doesn't mean that when I get there and he doesn't appear to be completely how he has come across in the many many chats we would have already had, or didn't look like his pics, that I can't turn around and go home again....plus I don't have to sit through an awkward social meet knowing that it won't go any further.

Nobody is saying that you do. I think the consensus is that we should all do what we're comfortable with. For me that means social only first but I don't think playing it differently is wrong.

I'm not saying that it makes it 100% safe having a social first. But for me personally I like one. By the time I have a social its more or less given that I want to get intermate with that person and it's is making sure, I'm looking for a regular friend not one of f's. I don't meet many and am very picky and have said in my first post that they aren't always who or look like what they have said. Each to their own and I'm not saying that what someone else does is wrong. This is my choice. "

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