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"Don't forget to read the text in the profiles, and not just look at the pics! " You mean there's also some text in people's profiles....? | |||
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"I keep reading profiles asking single men to not be idiots and wanted some advice as to avoiding being said idiot? I wink if I am interested and to see if there is any attraction with a view to messaging in depth if there is. Am I on the wrong track folk's? cheers, Matt" Personally i never reply to winks To me winks are for chancers, i have imagines of men sat at home just winking every women on here to get better odds of getting a reply lol I prefure men to mail me with a personal mail that shows they have read my profile and are talking to me, rather than a cut and paste message that they have sent me because they want to meet a woman and any old women will do lol | |||
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"I keep reading profiles asking single men to not be idiots and wanted some advice as to avoiding being said idiot? I wink if I am interested and to see if there is any attraction with a view to messaging in depth if there is. Am I on the wrong track folk's? cheers, Matt Personally i never reply to winks To me winks are for chancers, i have imagines of men sat at home just winking every women on here to get better odds of getting a reply lol I prefure men to mail me with a personal mail that shows they have read my profile and are talking to me, rather than a cut and paste message that they have sent me because they want to meet a woman and any old women will do lol" Well... I think the wink should be seen or looked upon differently and not a thing of chancers... if you get a wink and aren't interested do nothing... if you think the person who sent the wink might be of interest then what does it take to wink back? Nothing! Now the ball is back in the first persons court... "oh.. he or she winked back!?" Its over to them then to progress to a message to follow you their interest in you surely? Wouldn't it make more snes to kind of have that sort of rule to it... beacuse whats the point in typing out what is a polite personal message to each person that capture your attention to then find nothing comes back from the person you've just written the message too? Is it now wonder people take the cut and paste option... that is the same then as a wink... its a chancers game isn't it?! So I think wink the person your interested in... if they don't wink back... move on! if they do wink back... think of it as an invitation to put your game face on and send they a polite ans well constructed message... still doesn't mean you'll get anywhere... if once you've open your mouth in effect the person isn't interested?! But at least it would stop those that moan about massge that they equally didn't or don't want to receive? Trust me ther is nothing worst than reading a profile that interest you... you think I fit their bill... you send a polite message and nothing! if your lucky they read it... if your very lucky they say no thanks sod off! and if your really really lucky they might say hello... (loser! pmsl) | |||
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"It works both ways... I still keep getting: 1) some couples I don't know wanting to add me without emailing first 2) Some couples wanting pictures (face or otherwise) even though they have none of theirs 3) Some couples who for some reason can only communicate in one-liners ("Come fuck my wife") and hope I'm grateful. I'm sure few would argue the behaviour is unique to single guys - its a "some people" thing." phwoar thats a nice ass sorry what was the question | |||
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"I keep reading profiles asking single men to not be idiots and wanted some advice as to avoiding being said idiot? I wink if I am interested and to see if there is any attraction with a view to messaging in depth if there is. Am I on the wrong track folk's? cheers, Matt Personally i never reply to winks To me winks are for chancers, i have imagines of men sat at home just winking every women on here to get better odds of getting a reply lol I prefure men to mail me with a personal mail that shows they have read my profile and are talking to me, rather than a cut and paste message that they have sent me because they want to meet a woman and any old women will do lol Well... I think the wink should be seen or looked upon differently and not a thing of chancers... if you get a wink and aren't interested do nothing... if you think the person who sent the wink might be of interest then what does it take to wink back? Nothing! Now the ball is back in the first persons court... "oh.. he or she winked back!?" Its over to them then to progress to a message to follow you their interest in you surely? Wouldn't it make more snes to kind of have that sort of rule to it... beacuse whats the point in typing out what is a polite personal message to each person that capture your attention to then find nothing comes back from the person you've just written the message too? Is it now wonder people take the cut and paste option... that is the same then as a wink... its a chancers game isn't it?! So I think wink the person your interested in... if they don't wink back... move on! if they do wink back... think of it as an invitation to put your game face on and send they a polite ans well constructed message... still doesn't mean you'll get anywhere... if once you've open your mouth in effect the person isn't interested?! But at least it would stop those that moan about massge that they equally didn't or don't want to receive? Trust me ther is nothing worst than reading a profile that interest you... you think I fit their bill... you send a polite message and nothing! if your lucky they read it... if your very lucky they say no thanks sod off! and if your really really lucky they might say hello... (loser! pmsl) " i dont mind winks either, i can then decided to peek at the profile and wink back or not | |||
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"It works both ways... I still keep getting: 1) some couples I don't know wanting to add me without emailing first 2) Some couples wanting pictures (face or otherwise) even though they have none of theirs 3) Some couples who for some reason can only communicate in one-liners ("Come fuck my wife") and hope I'm grateful. I'm sure few would argue the behaviour is unique to single guys - its a "some people" thing. phwoar thats a nice ass sorry what was the question " Geeeeeeeeeez - you can talk! | |||
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"I keep reading profiles asking single men to not be idiots and wanted some advice as to avoiding being said idiot? I wink if I am interested and to see if there is any attraction with a view to messaging in depth if there is. Am I on the wrong track folk's? cheers, Matt Personally i never reply to winks To me winks are for chancers, i have imagines of men sat at home just winking every women on here to get better odds of getting a reply lol I prefure men to mail me with a personal mail that shows they have read my profile and are talking to me, rather than a cut and paste message that they have sent me because they want to meet a woman and any old women will do lol Well... I think the wink should be seen or looked upon differently and not a thing of chancers... if you get a wink and aren't interested do nothing... if you think the person who sent the wink might be of interest then what does it take to wink back? Nothing! Now the ball is back in the first persons court... "oh.. he or she winked back!?" Its over to them then to progress to a message to follow you their interest in you surely? Wouldn't it make more snes to kind of have that sort of rule to it... beacuse whats the point in typing out what is a polite personal message to each person that capture your attention to then find nothing comes back from the person you've just written the message too? Is it now wonder people take the cut and paste option... that is the same then as a wink... its a chancers game isn't it?! So I think wink the person your interested in... if they don't wink back... move on! if they do wink back... think of it as an invitation to put your game face on and send they a polite ans well constructed message... still doesn't mean you'll get anywhere... if once you've open your mouth in effect the person isn't interested?! But at least it would stop those that moan about massge that they equally didn't or don't want to receive? Trust me ther is nothing worst than reading a profile that interest you... you think I fit their bill... you send a polite message and nothing! if your lucky they read it... if your very lucky they say no thanks sod off! and if your really really lucky they might say hello... (loser! pmsl) " Whilst I see your point of view I don't acknowledge winks as I think they're from chancers too. How many messages must one send out to get frustrated by the lack of response to see winking as an easy option? Loads!! Ergo to me winker = chancer. I only delete messages without reading if I can tell at a glance they've not read my profile ie anyone outside London, couples, women, anyone with "bi, Dom, tv, black" in their user name, any message that starts "hi sexy/hun/babe/wotcha" etc. The senders of such messages are advised it would be a waste of time sending a message as I delete without reading messages from people who don't meet my criteria. I know there's no correlation between winking being lazy therefore lazy in the sack but it's perception. | |||
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"I keep reading profiles asking single men to not be idiots and wanted some advice as to avoiding being said idiot? I wink if I am interested and to see if there is any attraction with a view to messaging in depth if there is. Am I on the wrong track folk's? cheers, Matt Personally i never reply to winks To me winks are for chancers, i have imagines of men sat at home just winking every women on here to get better odds of getting a reply lol I prefure men to mail me with a personal mail that shows they have read my profile and are talking to me, rather than a cut and paste message that they have sent me because they want to meet a woman and any old women will do lol Well... I think the wink should be seen or looked upon differently and not a thing of chancers... if you get a wink and aren't interested do nothing... if you think the person who sent the wink might be of interest then what does it take to wink back? Nothing! Now the ball is back in the first persons court... "oh.. he or she winked back!?" Its over to them then to progress to a message to follow you their interest in you surely? Wouldn't it make more snes to kind of have that sort of rule to it... beacuse whats the point in typing out what is a polite personal message to each person that capture your attention to then find nothing comes back from the person you've just written the message too? Is it now wonder people take the cut and paste option... that is the same then as a wink... its a chancers game isn't it?! So I think wink the person your interested in... if they don't wink back... move on! if they do wink back... think of it as an invitation to put your game face on and send they a polite ans well constructed message... still doesn't mean you'll get anywhere... if once you've open your mouth in effect the person isn't interested?! But at least it would stop those that moan about massge that they equally didn't or don't want to receive? Trust me ther is nothing worst than reading a profile that interest you... you think I fit their bill... you send a polite message and nothing! if your lucky they read it... if your very lucky they say no thanks sod off! and if your really really lucky they might say hello... (loser! pmsl) Whilst I see your point of view I don't acknowledge winks as I think they're from chancers too. How many messages must one send out to get frustrated by the lack of response to see winking as an easy option? Loads!! Ergo to me winker = chancer. I only delete messages without reading if I can tell at a glance they've not read my profile ie anyone outside London, couples, women, anyone with "bi, Dom, tv, black" in their user name, any message that starts "hi sexy/hun/babe/wotcha" etc. The senders of such messages are advised it would be a waste of time sending a message as I delete without reading messages from people who don't meet my criteria. I know there's no correlation between winking being lazy therefore lazy in the sack but it's perception. " I am much of the same opinion as you and can tell if they have read my profile without reading the message. My view on winks is if people can't be bothered to send a nice well thought out message I can only be bothered to press delete. | |||
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" he's mostly trying to decide whether he'd go for Rachel - all cute and innocent and girly, the kinda girl you'd marry - or Monica - you just know she'd be dirty as fuck, really, she would " nah,Pheobe would be the *really* dirty one I tend to use a wink if Im slightly out of the person's "want" list-too old,too young,too far away,etc, and if they wink back,that shows that at least they *might* compromise on that "want" list....of course my message is usually then just ignored | |||
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"Not thats a thoughtful post. Its like in a club, there are some that will arrive and talk to 20 women asap, on the assumption one will be a hit. Then there are the others who will head for the bar, and by the time they talk to someone are too d*unk. " So if i talk to ten women and don't get too pissed... | |||
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" he's mostly trying to decide whether he'd go for Rachel - all cute and innocent and girly, the kinda girl you'd marry - or Monica - you just know she'd be dirty as fuck, really, she would nah,Pheobe would be the *really* dirty one I tend to use a wink if Im slightly out of the person's "want" list-too old,too young,too far away,etc, and if they wink back,that shows that at least they *might* compromise on that "want" list....of course my message is usually then just ignored " Nah, Pheobs would do it, and it would all be good etc etc, but you'd never get the "you made me be a bad girl" feeling that Monica and Rachel would give you. | |||
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"hm, how not to be a sex pest? chemical castration? " Methinks the lady doth protest too much. | |||
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"I keep reading profiles asking single men to not be idiots and wanted some advice as to avoiding being said idiot? I wink if I am interested and to see if there is any attraction with a view to messaging in depth if there is. Am I on the wrong track folk's? cheers, Matt" Matt, I wink too, when I find a girl or couple whose profile i like. And, if they like my profile, invariably I get a wink back. So, contact is established, and we take it from there. To be honest, looking over the past year, all my meets have been the "result" of winks .. so, it works for me. Analogously, its like physically meeting, ie you see someone you like and smile and say hello .. and take it from there. The "internet wink" is just the same, an "electronic" smile in an "electronic" world, expressing interest .. just like a real smile in the real street, bar,... wherever | |||
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"I keep reading profiles asking single men to not be idiots and wanted some advice as to avoiding being said idiot? I wink if I am interested and to see if there is any attraction with a view to messaging in depth if there is. Am I on the wrong track folk's? cheers, Matt Personally i never reply to winks To me winks are for chancers, i have imagines of men sat at home just winking every women on here to get better odds of getting a reply lol I prefure men to mail me with a personal mail that shows they have read my profile and are talking to me, rather than a cut and paste message that they have sent me because they want to meet a woman and any old women will do lol Well... I think the wink should be seen or looked upon differently and not a thing of chancers... if you get a wink and aren't interested do nothing... if you think the person who sent the wink might be of interest then what does it take to wink back? Nothing! Now the ball is back in the first persons court... "oh.. he or she winked back!?" Its over to them then to progress to a message to follow you their interest in you surely? Wouldn't it make more snes to kind of have that sort of rule to it... beacuse whats the point in typing out what is a polite personal message to each person that capture your attention to then find nothing comes back from the person you've just written the message too? Is it now wonder people take the cut and paste option... that is the same then as a wink... its a chancers game isn't it?! So I think wink the person your interested in... if they don't wink back... move on! if they do wink back... think of it as an invitation to put your game face on and send they a polite ans well constructed message... still doesn't mean you'll get anywhere... if once you've open your mouth in effect the person isn't interested?! But at least it would stop those that moan about massge that they equally didn't or don't want to receive? Trust me ther is nothing worst than reading a profile that interest you... you think I fit their bill... you send a polite message and nothing! if your lucky they read it... if your very lucky they say no thanks sod off! and if your really really lucky they might say hello... (loser! pmsl) " But i always wonder how many men who wink me, would remember they winked me the next day? you know if they go thro all the women and wink them how they supposed to remember the same of everyone, so there for whats the point in me responding? I just cant believe that anyone would find a profile, read it, like it as a individual and not just as a 'oh shes a woman she'll do' and just wink | |||
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"Not thats a thoughtful post. Its like in a club, there are some that will arrive and talk to 20 women asap, on the assumption one will be a hit. Then there are the others who will head for the bar, and by the time they talk to someone are too d*unk. So if i talk to ten women and don't get too pissed... " that's where i've been going wrong - I've had 10 "conversations" with "Stella" and ended up going back home with the nice lady in the flourescent jacket..... now what was her name again, WPC ...? | |||
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"Not thats a thoughtful post. Its like in a club, there are some that will arrive and talk to 20 women asap, on the assumption one will be a hit. Then there are the others who will head for the bar, and by the time they talk to someone are too d*unk. So if i talk to ten women and don't get too pissed... that's where i've been going wrong - I've had 10 "conversations" with "Stella" and ended up going back home with the nice lady in the flourescent jacket..... now what was her name again, WPC ...?" WPC...Dom, i think. Always insists we do everything the way SHE wants to do it. I NEVER get to cuff her. And no matter how much i tell her how cute she is all i get back is a steely stare. Women eh? | |||
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"If say man 1 reads my profile and messages me showing he has actually has read my profile and then man number 2 winks at me, I would be more interested that the first man has actually taken time to read my profile and make the effort to form mail to send to me rather than just wink. Man 1 took the time and effort and man 2 hasnt and probably has winked at the other 30 women showing as online. Man 1 has just finished writing the mail to me and then may only get to read and write mail to 3 others in the time man 2 has winked at 30 possibly. I think man 1 makes the effort and is about quality and man 2 is about quantity and covering his options so wink as many as possible and he may get lucky. That is my take on it and makes sence in my head. I just want to know a man has taken the time to read, think and compose a message. If they have taken the time to do that then they will get a reply from me. Those that dont make the effort dont get the effort returned. " Exactly all of this, well said. It's also the reason we have the last paragraph in our profile... I'd say 8/10 emails we get haven't read to the bottom, so they get deleted without being read ever. | |||
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