FabSwingers.com forum: contribution= escort work

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A few times now I have had mail from lady's,couples saying fancy coming my hotel,party or house it's a 60 or 70 pound contribution...

How do these people still get allowed to use this site ? I heard some these people do party's with piss and make like 700 quid each, when did this site turn in to a escort site ?? Gone are the days when you split a hotel room, it's now you meet them and they can buy a new wardrobe out the money

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Report them, Admin don't have a crystal ball, they need informing this is going on, in order to deal with it.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"A few times now I have had mail from lady's,couples saying fancy coming my hotel,party or house it's a 60 or 70 pound contribution...

I was asked for £60 "petrol money" on two occasions by allegedly two different couples but tell-tale signs revealed they were the same couple with two different profiles... I ignored the requests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And the only way they'll make that money is if someone is stupid enough to pay it. If you're not then just report and move on.

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By *luffy_bunniesCouple
over a year ago

Ilkeston

There's a contribution, then there's profit.

If you're making a profit, then you aren't swinging, you're working!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a chap mail me not long ago asking if I wanted to join a g.b one of his fem friends, who happened to also be an escort, was organising.....for a contribution of £60.

I said I'd think about it, and swiftly reported the message...it's not great is it getting propositioned for cash on here...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It depends what the contribution is for. I don't think it's unreasonable to be asked to pay a share of a hotel room or the costs of a party.

Do you resent clubs charging an entry fee too, out of interest?

If you're asked for a contribution to something that you feel is excessive, just say no thanks. It's easy enough to do.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"A few times now I have had mail from lady's,couples saying fancy coming my hotel,party or house it's a 60 or 70 pound contribution...

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it's a contribution, if you don't won't to pay it then don't. Parties and hotels cost it's that simple. Party I attended the other weekend was a £40 contribution I wanted to attend so paid and it was very much worth the money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's an odd one though, what happens if there is money left over from contributions? It becomes profit I guess.....does that equal escorting? Would a host divide up the leftover contributions and give back the change?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"It's an odd one though, what happens if there is money left over from contributions? It becomes profit I guess.....does that equal escorting? Would a host divide up the leftover contributions and give back the change? "

Or perhaps it's compensation for the time and effort that went into organising the event, to cover any damage or wear and tear on beds, bedding etc.

As I said, it depends on the situation.

Anyone who doubts that a lot of work goes into organising a good party should try doing it sometime.

I used to go to regular BDSM/fetish parties in a private house, for which there was a 'contribution'. The host provided a buffet and used any profit to buy extra dungeon furniture and equipment.

I never resented the contribution because they were great parties and a lot of effort went into them, (and cleaning up after them!)

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

How many times have we heard accounts of people going to parties at private houses and soaking a mattress etc?

Who pays to replace the mattress?

Who is left responsible for any damage done in a hotel room?

A lot of people are not at all careful with other people's property.

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By *ot4ujoWoman
over a year ago

Eccles

I've met people off here who use this site to contact potential clients just makes me think why isn't there a section for people who wish to advertise there services and then the site could charge to advertise

And both of the people I've met are guys offering services

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many times have we heard accounts of people going to parties at private houses and soaking a mattress etc?

Who pays to replace the mattress?

Who is left responsible for any damage done in a hotel room?

A lot of people are not at all careful with other people's property."

I'd think a rubber sheet would be cheaper than replacing mattresses every time...but that's not the question here I guess.

Err....I dunno, I understand the costs of party's etc, food, drink, condoms, lube, breakages etc...conributing to that I get..

Nit sure I agree with compensating someone for their time, if they aren't doing it for the live of doibg it...

I don't want to pay someone for their time really, it doesen't sit well with me, it's too close to escortibg/pimping if it's a person's time that is being paid for..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends what the contribution is for. I don't think it's unreasonable to be asked to pay a share of a hotel room or the costs of a party.

Do you resent clubs charging an entry fee too, out of interest?

If you're asked for a contribution to something that you feel is excessive, just say no thanks. It's easy enough to do."

Hey,

This is not paying part towards a hotel room this is people booking a hotel room for 65 quid and inviting ten or more guys over to make a nice little wager ,,

Some the people who do it at clubs and are making 700 plus a night have over 230 veri on the site, one a 19 year old girl, very rich but she going be sore when she older ..

Regarding club prices I do think they make a killing out of prices for single guys but that's a club they have outgoing bills to pay towards paying staff, someone looking after the two pound bottles of water, cleaning the sheets and so on, slightly not the same thing though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or perhaps it's compensation for the time and effort that went into organising the event, to cover any damage or wear and tear on beds, bedding etc.

As I said, it depends on the situation.

Anyone who doubts that a lot of work goes into organising a good party should try doing it sometime.

I used to go to regular BDSM/fetish parties in a private house, for which there was a 'contribution'. The host provided a buffet and used any profit to buy extra dungeon furniture and equipment.

I never resented the contribution because they were great parties and a lot of effort went into them, (and cleaning up after them!)"

It is simple really: if you don't want to pay a 'contribution' or entry fee of any sort then decline the offer & don't go

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"How many times have we heard accounts of people going to parties at private houses and soaking a mattress etc?

Who pays to replace the mattress?

Who is left responsible for any damage done in a hotel room?

A lot of people are not at all careful with other people's property.

I'd think a rubber sheet would be cheaper than replacing mattresses every time...but that's not the question here I guess.

Err....I dunno, I understand the costs of party's etc, food, drink, condoms, lube, breakages etc...conributing to that I get..

Nit sure I agree with compensating someone for their time, if they aren't doing it for the live of doibg it...

I don't want to pay someone for their time really, it doesen't sit well with me, it's too close to escortibg/pimping if it's a person's time that is being paid for.."

Yes, taking care of the furniture would be preferable but not everyone does. The mattress was just an example, although you'd think someone aware they were likely to drench the bed would ensure it's adequately protected. A lot don't. It's someone else's problem.

If someone is providing the venue and taking the time to arrange a good event, I don't see the problem with asking for a fair contribution to costs, even if a (moderate) profit is made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we held a party in our home for swinging purposes we wouldn't treat it any differently to holding a house party as far as finances were concerned. Our guests would be welcomed in to our home as guests not paying customers. We may say bring a bottle as we would with any party but we certainly wouldn't ask for nor expect financial "contributions".

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I would say a contribution of £60 sounds more like a business proposition and I wouldn't touch it with a barge pole myself, I've been to parties where there's been a small contribution to the rental of the cabin (less than a tenner) for kipping overnight and I've taken brekkie items (as have others staying over) which we've all shared next day...I've also been to house parties where there's been similar contributions for buffet (these are same per person and regardless of gender)

It doesn't bother me if the hosts end up with a few quid extra, but if blokes were asked to pay more for parties or similar amounts as some clubs charge, then I wouldn't be attending

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"It depends what the contribution is for. I don't think it's unreasonable to be asked to pay a share of a hotel room or the costs of a party.

Do you resent clubs charging an entry fee too, out of interest?

If you're asked for a contribution to something that you feel is excessive, just say no thanks. It's easy enough to do.

Hey,

This is not paying part towards a hotel room this is people booking a hotel room for 65 quid and inviting ten or more guys over to make a nice little wager ,,

Some the people who do it at clubs and are making 700 plus a night have over 230 veri on the site, one a 19 year old girl, very rich but she going be sore when she older ..

Isn't it? They're providing a venue and arranging an event.

If you don't think what you're being offered is reasonable, don't go. Nobody has a gun to your head.

And setting aside the fact that this site shouldn't be used to charge for sex, you could pay for entry to a club and not get sex, so if you're invited to an event where sex is guaranteed, for less than an escort would cost, some would consider that a good deal.

It's all about your perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I were a single man I would want to be fucking women who want me to be there because they want me and not my money

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"If I were a single man I would want to be fucking women who want me to be there because they want me and not my money "

Same here, personally, but I'd also never expect to go to an event of any sort and be guaranteed sex.

It seems to me that people who want to be guaranteed sex with beautiful young women but also want it for free are being a mite unrealistic.

As pointed out above, this only happens because some people are willing to pay these "contributions".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I were a single man I would want to be fucking women who want me to be there because they want me and not my money

Same here, personally, but I'd also never expect to go to an event of any sort and be guaranteed sex.

Exactly!

It seems to me that people who want to be guaranteed sex with beautiful young women but also want it for free are being a mite unrealistic.

As pointed out above, this only happens because some people are willing to pay these "contributions"."

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I get this the other way round. Men messaging to say they have lined up a group of horny guys and would I be interested in letting them use me? I am not sure which is worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get this the other way round. Men messaging to say they have lined up a group of horny guys and would I be interested in letting them use me? I am not sure which is worse

Depends on what turns you on

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Oh and so does "arrangement" apparently...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many times have we heard accounts of people going to parties at private houses and soaking a mattress etc?

Who pays to replace the mattress?

Who is left responsible for any damage done in a hotel room?

A lot of people are not at all careful with other people's property."

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a lady from Crewe, no longer on site, for a social where she suggested after much flirting going to a hotel.

We drive to a nearby one and just before we went in she stopped me and mentioned her rates

Needless to say I jumped back in my car and left her there

She left the site that day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many times have we heard accounts of people going to parties at private houses and soaking a mattress etc?

Who pays to replace the mattress?

Who is left responsible for any damage done in a hotel room?

A lot of people are not at all careful with other people's property.

I'd think a rubber sheet would be cheaper than replacing mattresses every time...but that's not the question here I guess.

Err....I dunno, I understand the costs of party's etc, food, drink, condoms, lube, breakages etc...conributing to that I get..

Nit sure I agree with compensating someone for their time, if they aren't doing it for the live of doibg it...

I don't want to pay someone for their time really, it doesen't sit well with me, it's too close to escortibg/pimping if it's a person's time that is being paid for..

If someone is providing the venue and taking the time to arrange a good event, I don't see the problem with asking for a fair contribution to costs, even if a (moderate) profit is made."

I meant the host investing in the sheet rather than the guest...to to cover eventualities.

I'm just a bit funny about paying is all when it's a private party is all...it's a bit if a grey area for me.

As has been said above, if it were me hosting the party, I'd expect it to cost me something, the same as a Christmas party or haloween party etc (i don't ask for contributions to the tree/decorations/nibbles/broken glasses and stained carpets etc).....so I wouldn't for an adult party either...it's a risk I assume as host, like any other party I may have...

That's my take on the whole thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had it the other way round where I have been invited to party's and gang bangs where they have charged the guys, not offered me anything they just wanted me to turn up and fuck all the guys that have paid them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had it the other way round where I have been invited to party's and gang bangs where they have charged the guys, not offered me anything they just wanted me to turn up and fuck all the guys that have paid them

Did you go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you go?"

No if guys are going to pay £50 each to fuck me I'll arrange the gang bang and keep the money myself

Why would anyone go to a gang bang where guys are paying and somebody else is making the money from you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you go?

No if guys are going to pay £50 each to fuck me I'll arrange the gang bang and keep the money myself

Why would anyone go to a gang bang where guys are paying and somebody else is making the money from you

Good point. At least they told you beforehand I suppose. Cheeky buggers though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you go?

No if guys are going to pay £50 each to fuck me I'll arrange the gang bang and keep the money myself

Why would anyone go to a gang bang where guys are paying and somebody else is making the money from you

I believe the term is pimping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess this is the age old supply & demand argument.

Girls are sitting on a valuable asset and guys keep their brains tucked under their cocks.

Personally I've never paid for sex, but I have paid entrance to a club, my membership on Fab, a sauna / naturist spa etc. All of these payments made as a way of putting like minded people together. No promise of sex, but you know you will be in the company of others seeking the same.

If a person is offering a service you want and you are willing to pay for it, then it's perfectly acceptable in my view.

I do think a professional advertiser profile would be useful on here for those offering or seeking services.

I can see both sides of this. I work as a professional masseur and charge my clients a fee for my services. They are paying for my time, training and skill.

I also enjoy massage as part of a sexual encounter, However, I do not charge Fab members a penny if I meet for fun and give them a massage, as I am there to enjoy myself as much as they are. I wouldn't dream of asking for a contribution or payment in any form.

It would be great to find fellow fabbers who do offer a service such as a plumber or carpenter etc. I've recently had a very sexy man do some decorating for me. We met on here, purely by chance I mentioned I was redecorating, he said he was in the trade so gave me a quote, did a great job, I paid him for his decorating services and we had some sexy fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An interesting thread.

Sunday on the events page a bukkake was being advertised. Not having been to one of these I messaged. Within seconds I had a message back saying a contribution of £50 was needed to attend. This was in their home. I declined.

I would have contributed if I was meeting a single female or a couple in a hotel, as even at their invitation, I feel that at least offering would be the right thing to do.

But to me, if I was invited to someone's home, I wouldn't expect to pay a contribution, to me that is prostituting and shouldn't be on a swingers site. A bottle of wine or some such, I wouldn't disagree with.

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By *iccardaTV/TS
over a year ago

Wallasey

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"I've met people off here who use this site to contact potential clients just makes me think why isn't there a section for people who wish to advertise there services and then the site could charge to advertise

And both of the people I've met are guys offering services "

Because its not an escort site and its against site rules to use it to either find escorts or for escorts to tout for custom.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

If you see profiles/messages/posts about any of the sort of stuff that you see mentioned up there ^^^^ then it needs to be reported to Admin so that they can check it out.

Some of it might be legitimate expenses (for hire of venue etc) but Admin will take a look and decide whether its reasonable or not.

If people are asking for 'expenses' for meeting in general then thats against site rules so they should be getting reported anyway.

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