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By *orfun8181 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Myself and my wife used to swing togever until we started our family, since then we have had a few mmf evenings of fun with guys from here or clubs. We now reg play with one guy who we also see in our vanilla life. I have never felt jealous before but I'm starting to in and out of the bedroom. Just intrested if any other couples have had same problems and what the out come was? Thanks in advance A.

And I'm sorry about the spelling and gramma! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could this be because he's become regular and s bit too close?

We like the anonymity of our meets.

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By *orfun8181 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Could this be because he's become regular and s bit too close?

We like the anonymity of our meets. "

I think your right we have never realy had anything to do with the guys we meet out side of the bedroom other than a glass of wine or two before going to the bedroom. We both see this guy a lot. Am just not used to feeling jealous and I don't like it. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time to talk to her. Urgently! Xx

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

What is it that brings out these jealous feelings?

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

andover


"Could this be because he's become regular and s bit too close?

We like the anonymity of our meets. "

and we never meet local people, just a one off meet dose us..Connie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could this be because he's become regular and s bit too close?

We like the anonymity of our meets.

and we never meet local people, just a one off meet dose us..Connie xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time to read up on polyamory. Sex at Dawn by Crhistopher Ryan is a good starting point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But then again according to your profile, you seem to be meeting guys behind your wife's back?

Deception and guilt can drive feelings of jealousy?

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"Could this be because he's become regular and s bit too close?

We like the anonymity of our meets. "

This is exactly how we feel. Moreover if either one of us felt the slightest bit of discomfort with what we were doing there is no question that we would stop. For us swinging is about sharing fun - what is the point when it ceases to be fun for one of us

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"But then again according to your profile, you seem to be meeting guys behind your wife's back?

Deception and guilt can drive feelings of jealousy?"

agree!!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When one start to feel like that if your not open about your feelings to each other can kill things even your marriage .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But then again according to your profile, you seem to be meeting guys behind your wife's back?

Deception and guilt can drive feelings of jealousy?"

I must have missed this. Where in his profile does it say his wife doesn't know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you need to sit down and talk to your wife about whats bothering you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The day it stops adding fun and makes one of you jealous its over really . And time to maybe just go back to one offs .

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

Time to talk together! I think this third man needs to disappear. If you're still wanting to swing try clubs and only play there. That's our safety net, keeps the emotions of home at home and our swinging elsewhere!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time to talk together! I think this third man needs to disappear. If you're still wanting to swing try clubs and only play there. That's our safety net, keeps the emotions of home at home and our swinging elsewhere!"

Couldn't agree with this more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But then again according to your profile, you seem to be meeting guys behind your wife's back?

Deception and guilt can drive feelings of jealousy?"

Doesn't make him straight either

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Agree with everyone that says you should talk....and now. I'm sure I saw someone say on here some time ago ....when swinging don't get attached and only look back to see that person swinging with someone else which avoids emotional attachment...think it was referring to a club situation but the principle is the same. The third person should be an enhancement to your relationship...nothing moe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But then again according to your profile, you seem to be meeting guys behind your wife's back?

Deception and guilt can drive feelings of jealousy?

Doesn't make him straight either "

Fab straight dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But then again according to your profile, you seem to be meeting guys behind your wife's back?

Deception and guilt can drive feelings of jealousy?

I must have missed this. Where in his profile does it say his wife doesn't know?"

Ahh ok sorry I misread it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But then again according to your profile, you seem to be meeting guys behind your wife's back?

Deception and guilt can drive feelings of jealousy?

Doesn't make him straight either

Fab straight dear "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think jealousy can be normal even for swinging couples, I'm happy to share Mrs ls body that's what we are here for, purely sexual enjoyment it's all about us sharing each others body for pleasure, my jealousy pops up when any single men try to speak to Mrs l like she's there friend or girlfriend I'm here to share her body her mind is mine and not anyone else's"

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By *orfun8181 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"But then again according to your profile, you seem to be meeting guys behind your wife's back?

Deception and guilt can drive feelings of jealousy?

I must have missed this. Where in his profile does it say his wife doesn't

Ahh ok sorry I misread it."

Just to clear up she dose know what/who I do and don't do! I have spoke with my wife and the othe guy about it and I think it is more to do with thay don't have the same life stress with each other ie. kids, mortgage ect as I do with my wife. Thanks for the in put we're going out for diner at the weekend ill let you know how we got on if your intrested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That'd be great. A follow up is always nice.

Good luck with the chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But then again according to your profile, you seem to be meeting guys behind your wife's back?

Deception and guilt can drive feelings of jealousy?

I must have missed this. Where in his profile does it say his wife doesn't

Ahh ok sorry I misread it.

Just to clear up she dose know what/who I do and don't do! I have spoke with my wife and the othe guy about it and I think it is more to do with thay don't have the same life stress with each other ie. kids, mortgage ect as I do with my wife. Thanks for the in put we're going out for diner at the weekend ill let you know how we got on if your intrested. "

And you need to change your sexuality on here, you've said you're bi but lists yourself as straight

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By *orfun8181 OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Update:

We have had a chance to talk about our relationship alot over the weekend and we both think its time to evolve from swinging to polyamory In our persuit of mutal happiness. Neither of us think it will any less difficult than our relationship is now but beleave we will both get more from this as we our happiest when are partner is.

Anyone who knows of any good poly sites chat/forum ect please pm me. X

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