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How to bring up swinging with your wife?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I all, recently our love life hasn't been great. My wife is really shy, however, I think she will really love swinging. Has anyone else been in the same situation.......how did u bring it into conversation with your partner......really would appreciate some help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave your phone on the side, with fab homepage on show, that ought to do it

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

It takes 2 people in a relationship to have great sex.

Talk to her. See what would make it better for her.

If she is shy, I am not sure swinging would be right for her though, so be prepared for it to be a no.

With previous partners, its always been an upfront discussion - sometimes started in the heat of the moment sharing passionate scenarios and fantasies. If they have ever said they are not interested, then it stops there.

Oh and you might want to reconsider your fab profile... 4 months of going behind the love of your life's back is not about swinging, thats about deception and cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I didn't do it with my ex he brought up one day about how he wanted me to bring a man home from a night out. Later he said he thought I was into women and wanted one to join us. We had the kind of relationship we could talk like that to each other as we were together 30 years. I would say come out with it but not as a demand

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

Watch porn eg threesomes or foursomes together and discuss it as a fantasy first. If you think the time is right discuss going to a club just to socialise and watch. Once you've been to a club explain that Fab helps people to get in touch, keep in touch etc. It's not for everyone but thousands of people must have needed to have such discussions at some point.

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it helps if you already have a good open sexual relationship where you can discuss your fantasies and turn ons. S said she would like to be spit roasted and I thought that sounded like fun. So we decided to join Fab and have some fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I all, recently our love life hasn't been great. My wife is really shy, however, I think she will really love swinging. Has anyone else been in the same situation.......how did u bring it into conversation with your partner......really would appreciate some help."

show her this and been on the site for 4 months see how she takes it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's just a very nervous and difficult think to bring up incase she says no way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's just a very nervous and difficult think to bring up incase she says no way. "

Do you REALLY think this is the way forward? I mean, seriously?

Your sex life is dying a death, something is clearly not right between you both.

And you want to introduce strangers into the mix? Dangerous, but you never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I had some good advice for you but I tried to bring it up with my ex and failed. probably just as well because if he had agreed it probably would have just hidden other problems for a few more years.

Good luck

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By *ifeRockChickWoman
over a year ago

Dunfermline

You'll be lucky if she doesn't want a divorce after she see's you've been on the site for 4 months

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"It's just a very nervous and difficult think to bring up incase she says no way. "

But surely if she said no way, you would respect her wishes, and leave fab and concentrate solely on her...?

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales


"It's just a very nervous and difficult think to bring up incase she says no way. "

If she says "no way", will you still stay on this site?

If you do, then it feels like your motives for her swinging is so you don't feel guilty.

The thing is, as you say your relationship isn't at its best already, then swinging isnt a fix.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Is your wife aware you're bisexual? Or is she ignorant of the facts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's just a very nervous and difficult think to bring up incase she says no way.

If she says "no way", will you still stay on this site?

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swinging as a couple takes honesty openess and sometimes can be hard work.

swinging isn't a quick fix to patch relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also have u told her you bi?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She knows I am bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The usual advice. Talk to her. And have a biscuit. Nothing posh. A custard cream will do.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Personally I don't favour your odds...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my wife I often fantasised about seeing her with other people and asked if she would pose for some pics with a guy, she agreed and it went from there. Asking my mate to be the guy was more awkward but he agreed pretty quick lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hat is possibly a way in

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Whenever these treads pop up, generally it seems, the guy will tend to not choose the option of telling their partners straight.

They choose options like getting her d*unk etc

For us, there are a few questions that need to be answered.

The first, what's keeping both of you together? If the answer is love, then leave the site and talk other then join as a couple if she agrees.

If she still isn't interest, then your choices are, respect her and leave the site, seek her permission and carry on, end the relationship or carry on behind her back.

If the answer to "what's keeping you together" isn't love but something else like kids or you just don't want to lose her, then you need to start thinking about what's fair for your partner. You can carry on in her ignorance but it's a cowardly way out. Especially if you're living the life to the max but your partner thinks she's in a committed relationship and keeping the household together etc.

There is no easy way out of this and any option will need a little courage from you. The outcome could be sharing this lifestyle with a partner or you could lose everything.

Either way, it's the right way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

concentrate on getting your sex life sorted between yourselves first ,next time you have naughty fun before you finnish ask her if she has any fantasys and tell her you will be happy to help her full fill them what ever they might be , and reassure her it could be anything she wanted, beware she may ask for something you haven't expected, who knows where it may lead you but will be fun finding out , nothing to lose

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