FabSwingers.com forum: I give up!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've sent quite a few emails to local people. Mostly I don't get any reply, sometimes people delete the email without a reply and sometimes I get a thanks but no thanks. Today a local woman posted that yet again someone didn't turn up for a meeting. I emailed her and said that I could meet her now and she said no thanks.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Today a local woman posted that yet again someone didn't turn up for a meeting. I emailed her and said that I could meet her now and she said no thanks."

Very few people want to meet "right now" after one message.

All of my meets from here over 2 years have happened after weeks of daily correspondence, which is the way I prefer it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sit down. Have a biscuit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude you have 2 meets in 5 weeks, albeit club meets, but meets anyway.

Keep doing what you doing man, eventually you'll get a few regulars.

Else if you do leave, good luck and see ya.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

You only joined 5 weeks ago maybe you should have a bit more patience. It might be a swingers site but ladies still, mostly, want to take their time over who they're going to meet up with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs and parties is better to get yourself out there! It does all take time though.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Outside of the site, are you lucky with getting sex a lot?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I been here half a decade lol.. dont rely fab for sex is my tip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow as last throws of the dice go this is a good one.

Your married BI and living where you do will have implications on the frequency of meets you get. It's a number games on here and if your not patient and proactive then you lose.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I would never meet anyone that quickly either, and find meet me now messages a real turn off.

Have a look at your profile too.

I check profile picture, profile, message content and then go on to chat.

I enjoy upbeat positive people - fab is fun for me...

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

a month ! ive been here 5 years so how do u think i feel ..actually close to givin up to ..used to be good on here ..too many smartfone fantasy wankers now ..u gotta give it longer tho.. a month isnt long

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

"I would never meet anyone that quickly either, and find meet me now messages a real turn off"

so are the endless emails about meeting and then not showing up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't forget that some people get so many emails daily..also just because it's a swingers site, it doesn't mean it's an easy lay..swingers still have a preference and a 'type', it's not personal, it just means you may not be what they are looking for at that moment in time!.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Today a local woman posted that yet again someone didn't turn up for a meeting. I emailed her and said that I could meet her now and she said no thanks.

Very few people want to meet "right now" after one message.

All of my meets from here over 2 years have happened after weeks of daily correspondence, which is the way I prefer it. "

I have never arranged a last minute meet after being let down

Its not how I like to meet

I always feel that any guy who will meet me that quickmis a member of the will fuck anything brigade and though its only no strings sex and the chances are I will never meet him again I would like to meet someone who I feel likes me as a individual and don't see me as....you have a fanny you'll do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not the site. It's you

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

time.... patience.... basic common sense...

does 5 weeks show you have given it time.... not really...

does 5 weeks show you have given it patience.... not really...

does your opening post show you have used basic common sense to use the tools of the site to help yourself to help yourself.... not really...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony"

We gave up looking for meets on here a long time ago.. no one was interested, wanted to arrange anything in advance etc.

we only use it for clubs and parties now - we're popular and active in that domain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not the site. It's you"

Agreed. Lots of people on here are too quick to blame the site or others but there are many successful guys on here. Expect nothing then you won't be disappointed. As others have said, 5 weeks is not long at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not the site. It's you

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

As a fellow Arse Ender, I feel your pain...it looks like you're getting some fun via clubs so I'd say concentrate on that side, but keep plugging away with messages to locals you like the look of (and whose preferences you think you match) and you may get lucky with a meet. As others have said, I doubt I'd arrange a meet off the back of a letdown after a coupla messages, but I have met within hours of first message if diaries permit. Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not the site. It's you

Haha that's true

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By *ambslass48Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough

I've given up on site and clubs now just don't get nowhere in months. Since having had breast cancer feel like a leper

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By *lttattoocoupleCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We tend to meet the same guy if spontaneous then maybe a new guy but usually speak for a few weeks first. The guy we normally meet well we spoke to him for over a year before we met. Swinging for us is about friends with that little extra. Can't answer for everyone but patience pays off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 meets through clubs says it all

stick to clubs. Fab is shit for hook ups plain n simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worst thing you could do is message someone who's been let down. They were all excited about meeting a certain person, got that rush and then ended up deflated and pissed off (pissed off enough to put a status up too).

I always keep meets spontaneous so that if i don't get let down. Find that if i plan meets they never work out because i either forget or the other person has something turn up. Plus the way my libido works is that i get horny and want sex and go for it, i don't get excited about planning meets it just makes me more nervous as time approaches.

Good idea to change how you use this site so that it works for you, i think using a site like this can leave you feeling let down if it doesn't work to your expectations, as do all things in life, you often have to take things as they are rather than how you want them to be.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Mate, seriously - you're charging into this like a bull at a gate.

It simply doesn't work like that on here, mainly because women get huge numbers of messages. Someone at the social I went to on Friday had 166 messages messages on her phone that she hadn't had time to look at yet.

Your attempt to be a last minute substitute smacks of impatience, if not utter desperation. Take your time, play the long game, relax and find what works.

I'm hardly Mr Fab Superman, but I've found I can make nice connections with women on here and actually get the occasional message initiated by them. How - it's not exactly rocket science and I'll leave it up to you to find your own path of discovery

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Outside of the site, are you lucky with getting sex a lot?"

Im married to a woman who is not in the least bit interested in sex. That is why I'm here with her permission. Not much sex in the past 20 years ! don't try outside of the site. I have some club meets lined up, so we will see.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all for the comments. I'm just going through them all. I agree a Month is not very long. It's not all about meeting someone today though. I have hardly been able to get anyone to answer any email about potentially meeting at any time. Living in Cumbria probably does have quite a bit to do with it.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

So the woman who had a let down should not have turned you down? Is that what you are suggesting?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So the woman who had a let down should not have turned you down? Is that what you are suggesting? "

No. It's not what I'm suggesting. What happened with the Woman today is hardly relevantvat all. I wasn't even asking her to meet today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the woman who had a let down should not have turned you down? Is that what you are suggesting?

No. It's not what I'm suggesting. What happened with the Woman today is hardly relevantvat all. I wasn't even asking her to meet today. "

That's not what your OP says or am I reading it wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe its cuz you're pushy, no one likes pushy its the most beta thing ever

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

I wouldn't be interested because of all the moaning and negativity on your profile! If I meet I want to meet people who are happy and positive

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

To be fair this is not a dating site... It's for something else...

Add some more tools to your arsenal...

For other marrieds, Ashley Maddison - I have a good single male friend who uses it exclusively and is inundated with sex.

Tinder for regular dates - I use this all the time, talking on Monday, date by Friday, be warned though, there are strings everywhere.

Going out - yep out!... Sometimes the old ways are the best...

Go to any major city, a decent hotel bar and talk to the single 30-40s women who are drinking at the bar alone...

You can't rely on a swingers site for sex, because what people want here doesn't conform to the formula in the real world...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So the woman who had a let down should not have turned you down? Is that what you are suggesting?

No. It's not what I'm suggesting. What happened with the Woman today is hardly relevantvat all. I wasn't even asking her to meet today.

That's not what your OP says or am I reading it wrong?"

It does say that. Not really what I meant though. I said I could meet sometime including today. What frustrated me is that some guy let her down and I would never do that. Apparently, he deleted his profile after not showing up, so he didn't sound genuine anyhow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe its cuz you're pushy, no one likes pushy its the most beta thing ever"

Seriously, I'm not pushy at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the woman who had a let down should not have turned you down? Is that what you are suggesting?

No. It's not what I'm suggesting. What happened with the Woman today is hardly relevantvat all. I wasn't even asking her to meet today.

That's not what your OP says or am I reading it wrong?

Possibly she didn't meet married guys but to be honest, if I'd been let down I'd be so furious I wouldn't want a meet and would prefer to go without than meet someone I wasn't into for whatever reason.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So the woman who had a let down should not have turned you down? Is that what you are suggesting?

No. It's not what I'm suggesting. What happened with the Woman today is hardly relevantvat all. I wasn't even asking her to meet today.

That's not what your OP says or am I reading it wrong?

Fair point

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be fair this is not a dating site... It's for something else...

Add some more tools to your arsenal...

For other marrieds, Ashley Maddison - I have a good single male friend who uses it exclusively and is inundated with sex.

Tinder for regular dates - I use this all the time, talking on Monday, date by Friday, be warned though, there are strings everywhere.

Going out - yep out!... Sometimes the old ways are the best...

Go to any major city, a decent hotel bar and talk to the single 30-40s women who are drinking at the bar alone...

You can't rely on a swingers site for sex, because what people want here doesn't conform to the formula in the real world..."

Thanks very much for the info mate. I shall take a look.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"So the woman who had a let down should not have turned you down? Is that what you are suggesting?

No. It's not what I'm suggesting. What happened with the Woman today is hardly relevantvat all. I wasn't even asking her to meet today. "

I don't understand why you mention it then. Unless I am totally misunderstanding your post.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't be interested because of all the moaning and negativity on your profile! If I meet I want to meet people who are happy and positive

Fair point. The site has just made me this way but negativity is now gone. Just added that first bit recently. Didn't realise it sounded so bad. Thanks for pointing it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to say swooping down on a poor old lady when she has been let down is a bit "Vulture" like. She could have been putting some time in for that meet and feeling bad about being let down and then some chancer swoops down trying their luck.

Put some time in on here and your meets and it will pay off.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

One of the main reasons I stopped putting that I'd been let down on my status was the men who'd message me, 'altruistically' offering themselves for my pleasure. It's a bit creepy IMO.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Got to say swooping down on a poor old lady when she has been let down is a bit "Vulture" like. She could have been putting some time in for that meet and feeling bad about being let down and then some chancer swoops down trying their luck.

Put some time in on here and your meets and it will pay off. "

I didn't really see it like that, but again very well put and a fair point. I never really considered myself a vulture! I just told her it frustrated me to see a post like that because I would never let anyone down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One of the main reasons I stopped putting that I'd been let down on my status was the men who'd message me, 'altruistically' offering themselves for my pleasure. It's a bit creepy IMO.

Oh dear. I never really considered myself creepy either. Not looking good really is it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interesting that no one has commented about the guy who wanted me to pay for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has commented about the guy who wanted me to pay for sex."

hopeu reported it to admin

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has commented about the guy who wanted me to pay for sex.

hopeu reported it to admin

I didn't. I thought about it, but then just let it lie. I can't prove it because it was a phone call. He did waste quite a bit of my time so I just blocked him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have still reported

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has commented about the guy who wanted me to pay for sex."

Ok, how was he?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interesting that no one has commented about the guy who wanted me to pay for sex.

Ok, how was he?"

What do you mean? I didn't meet him thankfully. Im not really that much into sex with guys, so no way I'm paying for it. I was so inundated with requests from guys on here that I had to block them in message filters.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I would suggest u search the forums under titles such as , why are single guys not liked or ive had enough of this site im leaving or why do people not reply to my messages. Theses show you that women are inundated with messages. Many on here meet once they chat wand have a connection. It gives advice to what pics and profile content attract women. As for men contacting you just look at your preferences as you can prevent men from messaging you. Always report people selling sex. Otherwise good luck. You are trying clubs and socials which is a fab way. Chat here in the forums. Above all be patient and chatty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would suggest u search the forums under titles such as , why are single guys not liked or ive had enough of this site im leaving or why do people not reply to my messages. Theses show you that women are inundated with messages. Many on here meet once they chat wand have a connection. It gives advice to what pics and profile content attract women. As for men contacting you just look at your preferences as you can prevent men from messaging you. Always report people selling sex. Otherwise good luck. You are trying clubs and socials which is a fab way. Chat here in the forums. Above all be patient and chatty

Cheers.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony"

Your post kind of smacks of entitlement. Did you think there's be a queue of women lining up to meet?

You're married, even with permission it's possible this is gonna cause women to overlook you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony

Your post kind of smacks of entitlement. Did you think there's be a queue of women lining up to meet?

You're married, even with permission it's possible this is gonna cause women to overlook you."

Nonsense. I don't feel a sense of entitlement at all. What difference does it make that I'm married? This is a swingers site full of married men. My wife is letting me play just as other people's are. She just doesn't get involved. It's not a dating site. I'm not looking for a relationship.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Interesting that no one has commented about the guy who wanted me to pay for sex."

I doubt many are surprised by it. The only useful thing anyone could say is that it's against the rules and you should report him, but I expect you know that anyway.

That's why, I suspect, nobody mentioned it.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony

Your post kind of smacks of entitlement. Did you think there's be a queue of women lining up to meet?

You're married, even with permission it's possible this is gonna cause women to overlook you.

To some people it does matter. They won't meet attached people unless they meet them together, as a couple.

It might not make a difference to you, and you might not understand why it would matter to anyone, but there are women that would decline to meet you because of it.

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony

Your post kind of smacks of entitlement. Did you think there's be a queue of women lining up to meet?

You're married, even with permission it's possible this is gonna cause women to overlook you.

I'm afraid I'd be unlikely get involved with a married man, with permission or not as id assume he wouldn't be free very often. Even if I did, your mention of being 'discreet' seems to me to suggest you wouldn't be ok with me chatting to your wife to check her comfort with it (and given the number of guys who say they have permission but actually don't on here). I'd never play with a married man unless I was 100% certain his wife was happy and not under duress.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony

Your post kind of smacks of entitlement. Did you think there's be a queue of women lining up to meet?

You're married, even with permission it's possible this is gonna cause women to overlook you.

I avoid married men as most of them are on a timer or clock watching, I like unhurried sex, all night sessions are good but not many married men can do that, even those whos wife's do know don't usually want their fella spending the whole night with a woman they want him home, I'm not into a couple of hours then back home to wifey sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony

Your post kind of smacks of entitlement. Did you think there's be a queue of women lining up to meet?

You're married, even with permission it's possible this is gonna cause women to overlook you.

It kind of makes me laugh these last two posts from single women going on about not having anything to do with married men. I am married and I am swinging, that's why I'm on a swingers site. I'm just looking for sex not a relationship because I already have one. I'm just looking for no strings sex. If I was single I woukd be on various dating sites for singles. Maybe that is where you should be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony

Your post kind of smacks of entitlement. Did you think there's be a queue of women lining up to meet?

You're married, even with permission it's possible this is gonna cause women to overlook you.

Not really, I have been single for 7 years and happy to stay that way, I'm not after a date so don't need a dating site

I am also after no strings sex but I have the rights to choose who I meet and if I choose not to meet married men that's my choice, its not because I want a single guy so I can have a relationship with him, believe me that's the last thing I want, I have stated my reasons why I prefer single guys, because they have more time to put into meets, simple as that so no need to get snooty

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony

Your post kind of smacks of entitlement. Did you think there's be a queue of women lining up to meet?

You're married, even with permission it's possible this is gonna cause women to overlook you.

Your way of NSA sex is not the only way.

It's entirely possible to have all-night NSA sex without it being a relationship.

As explained above, that's less likely to be possible with a married person, whether they have permission or not.

It's rather patronising to suggest that anyone who doesn't want NSA sex the same way you want it is looking for a relationship and should be on a different site.

Perhaps you should remember that it's you that is complaining about getting no interest, not the two people you have just informed that they're doing it wrong.

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over a year ago

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony

Your post kind of smacks of entitlement. Did you think there's be a queue of women lining up to meet?

You're married, even with permission it's possible this is gonna cause women to overlook you.

And how's that working out for you?

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over a year ago

Being married is a very big string for me, I don't want any drama or hassle and I certainly don't want to play with someone else's partner, whether she knows or not. Like anything else, its a preference and should be respected but sadly, some married men can't always see that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys wait months before getting meets so 2 in a month isn't bad going at all yet you are still moaning

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!"

Please report him.

Contribute something (forum, chat, report fake profiles etc) to the fabs society to make it a better site. You wont feel so frustrated then.

When life gives you lemon, make lemonade,

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Some guys wait months before getting meets so 2 in a month isn't bad going at all yet you are still moaning

It's a sex site dammit! Sex should be available on demand on a sex site! The men are lining up for it, so they're doing their bit. What the hell is the matter with the women? We really need to sort ourselves out and remember where we are!

If we're not available for immediate sex with anyone who asks, we've no business being on a sex site!

(removes tongue from cheek)

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Well I have been on this site for about a Month now and I can honestly say that I have never been on a site that has annoyed and frustrated me more.

I've been inundated with requests from guys. Not really what I'm looking for here. I did agree to meet a guy, but when we spoke on the phone he asked me for money for his services!

This is my last attempt at meeting someone through the site. Would anyone within 100 miles of me like to meet even if only for a social? Living in Cumbria I'm quite happy to drive.

I am going to keep the account so that I can find clubs and events, but that is all it seems to be good for.

Cheers

Antony

Your post kind of smacks of entitlement. Did you think there's be a queue of women lining up to meet?

You're married, even with permission it's possible this is gonna cause women to overlook you.

Could you be any more condescending?!!

I'm in a relationship and don't meet married men. I didn't when I was single because they can't play how I like.

As a Domme I don't always play nice.

In the past I've met married men, one came with soap and perfume for me to wear, his wife's favourite so I didn't leave an "alien" scent trail. He was sent packing.

Don't assume because women don't meet attached men they're looking for partners: we actually want playmates that fulfil our needs!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

way to go OP digging that hole for yourself!!!!!

why would people be inclined to help...or offer any advice if that if your true attitude about the people you potentially want to meet.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

way to go OP digging that hole for yourself!!!!!

why would people be inclined to help...or offer any advice if that if your true attitude about the people you potentially want to meet....."

He want's to have his cake and eat it!! What he seems to not understand is that for many women, being married is a massive string so the them, me included, it wouldn't be a no strings encounter. I don't want to find a date so I don't need a dating site. I also don't want to meet married men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being honest as a fully single woman

I dont meet attached men with or without the persons consent, as i dont need the drama and clock watching

im not on here to date just have sex with people i like connect with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried googly eyes on your penis?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried googly eyes on your penis? "

You say that almost as much as Shag Tonight mentions his six pack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried googly eyes on your penis?

You say that almost as much as Shag Tonight mentions his six pack

It's as repetitive as the "why won't they fuck me" threads. Which is me not being very subtle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on a few months, not even a glimmer! But hey, I'm not stressing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you tried googly eyes on your penis? "

I think it's going to take a bit more than that now. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried googly eyes on your penis?

I think it's going to take a bit more than that now. Lol."

No. It works a treat. Girls love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you tried googly eyes on your penis?

I think it's going to take a bit more than that now. Lol.

No. It works a treat. Girls love it. "

No, the OP is right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for the dating remark, well I'm happy to be here for dating and/or sex (I'm on POF for just dating, ha!). So a big fat immature raspberry to the OP, and bring on those genuine, tall, dark, intelligent, sarcastic, kinky, single men!

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