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By *lik and Paul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cahoots

We've only been on here for a few weeks and have been approached by a lot of people...however, the majority of men approaching always assume that they are talking to Flik and dive straight in with propositioning her...when they do eventually discover they are taking to me they disappear pretty quickly. This has caused much amusement for us and embarrassment for some men.

Do other couples have the same thing happen to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, nearly every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeap.Quite funny when I get called babe or hun lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah if we get an overly creepy one addressed solely to her I (male) just tell them I'm not BI but thanks for telling me how fit I am.

Does not happen that often though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Do other couples have the same thing happen to them?

"

Frequently

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

To be fair I think its an easy mistake to make when theres a pair of boobs looking at you on an avatar. I often make the same assumption (wrongly) when I see posts in the forums.

Having said that, I often get messages saying 'How are you two?' so I know what you mean. I just assume they are referring to my two arse cheeks.

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By *lik and Paul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Yeap.Quite funny when I get called babe or hun lol."

Oh yes...especially when they message things like "I want to fuck you so hard" and even when I've responded with "I really don't think you do", they still don't get it...instead they seem to think it's Flik playing hard to get...

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We had a guy earlier message they want to get their hands on my big boobs and put their clock between them

I don't have boobs

Mr Ch33ky

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We very rarely get messages off guys to both of us...the usual are 'nice tits' or 'can I fuck your misses'

Mrs Dirty

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By *ardbellyCouple
over a year ago

Alicante

Believe or not we don't get many messages from men,but most guys tend to be respectful ..I think their scared off by our pics ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree there that all pics are of the woman of the op lol, so anyone would think that

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By *lik and Paul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cahoots


"To be fair I think its an easy mistake to make when theres a pair of boobs looking at you on an avatar. I often make the same assumption (wrongly) when I see posts in the forums.

Having said that, I often get messages saying 'How are you two?' so I know what you mean. I just assume they are referring to my two arse cheeks.

"

Good point about the avatar ...though our somewhat unimaginative username makes it more than clear that there are two of us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair I think its an easy mistake to make when theres a pair of boobs looking at you on an avatar.

...

"

This.

Our couples profile always has an avatar of both of us, and equal public pics of us both.

We are always addressed as a couple.

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By *lik and Paul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Yes I agree there that all pics are of the woman of the op lol, so anyone would think that "

There is no misunderstanding of us being a couple...just the assumption on first approach that they are talking to the female..

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"To be fair I think its an easy mistake to make when theres a pair of boobs looking at you on an avatar.

...

This.

Our couples profile always has an avatar of both of us, and equal public pics of us both.

We are always addressed as a couple. "

Ours does too.

Still get 'nice tits!' messages frequently though.

They're moobs FFS!!

A

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Our avatar has both and there are plenty of pics of Mr Ch33ky's on our profile.

But some guys just think with their cocks. You can't always make excuses. Some just don't take notice

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We get it sometimes in messages, but its worse in chat when a guy pm's us, as I (Mart) am mostly online.

They tend to bail rapidly when I tell them its me lol

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Most of the time the guy addresses me, occasionally it's both of us. We have had one guy this week who does just address him

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"Yes I agree there that all pics are of the woman of the op lol, so anyone would think that "

I didnt actually mean the OPs pics specifically, Im just saying that I tend to make assumptions based on what I see on the profile pic - and frequently Im wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeap.Quite funny when I get called babe or hun lol.

Oh yes...especially when they message things like "I want to fuck you so hard" and even when I've responded with "I really don't think you do", they still don't get it...instead they seem to think it's Flik playing hard to get... "

Yep! Had this a few times! Eventually you have to spell it out!

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By *r woodyMan
over a year ago

leeds

Personally I'd ask who I was talking to if it was a joint account as such. .. but that's just me. I like to know who I'm talking to. I've ran a few websites so I've seen it all. Fore warned is fore armed I guess...

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By *lik and Paul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Yes I agree there that all pics are of the woman of the op lol, so anyone would think that

I didnt actually mean the OPs pics specifically, Im just saying that I tend to make assumptions based on what I see on the profile pic - and frequently Im wrong "

It wouldn't be a problem even if that is what you meant...

We have just found it amusing and just wondered if others had been entertained in the same way too...that's all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I agree there that all pics are of the woman of the op lol, so anyone would think that

I didnt actually mean the OPs pics specifically, Im just saying that I tend to make assumptions based on what I see on the profile pic - and frequently Im wrong "
Yes I get you now and same with me. I would think the same about the profile pics in general x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I agree there that all pics are of the woman of the op lol, so anyone would think that

There is no misunderstanding of us being a couple...just the assumption on first approach that they are talking to the female.."
Yes that's a good point as well.

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By *evernfilthCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

The majority of messages are addressed to me (L) since a lot of guys do actually read the profile where it states it's usually me online. We do get the occasional random 'can I cum on her tits' or 'you look hot' ones. I do ask J to respond to the latter rather than me; they could be referring to either of us and he is bi...

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By *r woodyMan
over a year ago

leeds

Anyway surely if your approaching a couple you'd want a rapor with both of them not just the woman? Don't people talk to both parties involved then? Seems like a recipe for failure lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we get this a lot in the chat rooms - bugs us to bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair I think its an easy mistake to make when theres a pair of boobs looking at you on an avatar.

...

This.

Our couples profile always has an avatar of both of us, and equal public pics of us both.

We are always addressed as a couple.

Ours does too.

Still get 'nice tits!' messages frequently though.

They're moobs FFS!!

A"

Crackin moobs. If it wasn't for the afro I'd swear you were twins.

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By *lik and Paul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cahoots


"Anyway surely if your approaching a couple you'd want a rapor with both of them not just the woman? Don't people talk to both parties involved then? Seems like a recipe for failure lol"

Absolutely right!! We've both had some fantastic conversations with those that have either bothered to check first or who have at least stayed online once they've realised the error... Flik is only interested in talking to men that actually have balls...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone asks who they're talking to, we say 'why do you need to know?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If anyone asks who they're talking to, we say 'why do you need to know?'"

we have that and then get a completely different kind of chat when we said it was me - i said we both read these messages and it took a while to sink in - need to take the cock out of gear and engage brain

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

This has never bothered me too much as the pictures are of me and when the profile is fully written its obvious its from a female perspective,so it stands to reason that there will be a certain amount of initial messages directed straight at me,not all of them are though but the majority will be a compliment on the pictures

The messages that are directed straight to my OH and are full of blokey innuendo and 'ppphooaaarrrr lucky man what id like to do to her if she was my missus' comments wind me up more

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By *r woodyMan
over a year ago

leeds

I think the way is supposed to work is you talk to both find out what they like and what they have in mind ie a fantasy they want to fulfil. Relay what I'm interested in and then meet on common ground abs seal the deal. I think everyone on here has a fantasy or two they want played out and someone they feel comfortable doing that with. That won't happen if you ignore the guy and straight to the girl... so yeah I was I bit suprised by the responses I've read here. I just figured people would automatically speak to both parties involved.

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By *tevelizCouple
over a year ago

northampton


"We've only been on here for a few weeks and have been approached by a lot of people...however, the majority of men approaching always assume that they are talking to Flik and dive straight in with propositioning her...when they do eventually discover they are taking to me they disappear pretty quickly. This has caused much amusement for us and embarrassment for some men.

Do other couples have the same thing happen to them?

yes, seems that some men thing only the ladies know how to work a pc.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always as male half in couples don't excist in other males eyes lol much amusement had lol

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I know of one couple who change their avatar depending on who is on. A nice idea I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i mail a couple i address it as hi guys at the end of the day you are talking to both of them

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By *lik and Paul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cahoots


"I think the way is supposed to work is you talk to both find out what they like and what they have in mind ie a fantasy they want to fulfil. Relay what I'm interested in and then meet on common ground abs seal the deal. I think everyone on here has a fantasy or two they want played out and someone they feel comfortable doing that with. That won't happen if you ignore the guy and straight to the girl... so yeah I was I bit suprised by the responses I've read here. I just figured people would automatically speak to both parties involved. "

We did too...but hey...live and learn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know of one couple who change their avatar depending on who is on. A nice idea I think. "

which is good if you know thats what they do

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"I think the way is supposed to work is you talk to both find out what they like and what they have in mind ie a fantasy they want to fulfil. Relay what I'm interested in and then meet on common ground abs seal the deal. I think everyone on here has a fantasy or two they want played out and someone they feel comfortable doing that with. That won't happen if you ignore the guy and straight to the girl... so yeah I was I bit suprised by the responses I've read here. I just figured people would automatically speak to both parties involved. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been with 3 diffrent couples in mmf

Most of time chatted to woman first as normally her who decided a if she likes you go further but do chat to guys of couple to to find out what she likes dislikes

I make it clear from start I don't want to run away with the woman just help them to enjoy the experience

I go with the flow and am very respectfull to both them after all as I see it iam just a guest lucky enought to be there in there fantasy

Enjoy watching them as much as they enjoy watching me after all sex is sex what we are here for right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha we get the same, brilliant pmsl xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in chat once and a bloke PM'd me and started telling me what I great arse I had. I tthanked him. And he started telling me quite graphically how he'd like to rim it. So I went along with it. And he got more graphic. And then I suggested that he could lick my balls. Boy did that not go down well...

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

We get this too I think it's funny when people message my OH telling him they want to mess with his boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was in chat once and a bloke PM'd me and started telling me what I great arse I had. I tthanked him. And he started telling me quite graphically how he'd like to rim it. So I went along with it. And he got more graphic. And then I suggested that he could lick my balls. Boy did that not go down well... "

You do that as well? I can't help myself sometimes.

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By *lik and Paul OP   Couple
over a year ago

cahoots


"I was in chat once and a bloke PM'd me and started telling me what I great arse I had. I tthanked him. And he started telling me quite graphically how he'd like to rim it. So I went along with it. And he got more graphic. And then I suggested that he could lick my balls. Boy did that not go down well...

You do that as well? I can't help myself sometimes. "

It has to be done, methinks....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was in chat once and a bloke PM'd me and started telling me what I great arse I had. I tthanked him. And he started telling me quite graphically how he'd like to rim it. So I went along with it. And he got more graphic. And then I suggested that he could lick my balls. Boy did that not go down well... "

hahaha... brilliant...

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