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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know this topic has been talked about over and over however people who find themselves in a fuck buddy (*not* friend with benfits) relationship cannot maintain enough emotional distance it can be a tricky situation if it’s not done right. What experience do you have of walking that transitional line between fuck buddy and friends with benefits oe are they interchangeable terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal interpretation methinks. I won't entertain an fb as I'd rather use toys. An fwb to me is similar to a relationship but without emotional attachments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havent had either, so wouldnt know lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a very regular one of each. My FWB I see outside of fab too....as a true friend. We also spend weekends away etc (she has a caravan). We are definitely NOT a couple tho. Jo joint profile and both play separately.

My regular FB is married....so no emotions at all. She tends to be my Sunday girl lol.

Had a message from her yesterday asking to meet tonight (sat). Told her I can't because away with FEB. and yes...they know each other fairly well.

No emotions, no problems....that's what fab is about isn't it?

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By *ouple_SpondonCouple
over a year ago

Spondon

We had a great bi male FB for a couple of years. No emotional attachment; he is married. When we stopped seeing him we were only upset that our Mr. Reliable was no more.

Nil desperandum...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck buddy,no interaction between sex. Fwb, chats and occasional drink or meal together and spend more time in bed

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

I have a fwb. We have what we call a situationship. Neither want a relationship with each other or anyone else but happy to spend time together, have sex and do things that friends do together. We are honest in what we wanted at the beginning and if it ends. My emotional attatchment is one I have with my closest friends just because I have sex with him doesn't mean I have any more feelings than my other close friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a fwb but lines are somewhat blurred. We hang out with friends, he buys my presents and stays at mine. Difficult as I do have feelings for him but I've kept them hidden x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a problem, have had, and stil have many friends and care about them all but, 'when it's time to get off the bus' que sera, nothing's forever, enjoy it while it lasts

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I know this topic has been talked about over and over however people who find themselves in a fuck buddy (*not* friend with benfits) relationship cannot maintain enough emotional distance it can be a tricky situation if it’s not done right. What experience do you have of walking that transitional line between fuck buddy and friends with benefits oe are they interchangeable terms. "

There's a sliding scale anyway I think - between people it just does not work to spend any time at all with, other than sex, and people you can happily spend days in the company of. The former are impossible for me to get attached to, the latter almost impossible not to, but are more rewarding.

It's one of those pesky 'risk:benefit' equations to my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These days 'friends with benefits' probably means they're unemployed with a few claims on the go..

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By *lttattoocoupleCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"We had a great bi male FB for a couple of years. No emotional attachment; he is married. When we stopped seeing him we were only upset that our Mr. Reliable was no more.

Nil desperandum... "

That's what made us sad when our fwb started a relationship. There goes Mr reliable lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well - i'd love a really lovely local fwb - but i'm a fussy bugger who's drawn to similarly fussy buggers - so it's not easy to find! Xx

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I've had both, but much prefer having a FWB. I've been seeing my current FWB for over 3 years now (we have a couple profile on here too and knows of this one). Our 'relationship' suits us well and it's just not for the 'sex' but for friendship too. It can be a fine line between a FWB and a 'proper' relationship, which can be eaily 'blurred' and at times, the feelings are there (difficult not to I think, when you have a continual arrangement which goes so well!), but we both know the boundaries and where we stand. Communication is the key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"These days 'friends with benefits' probably means they're unemployed with a few claims on the go..

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Oh phooey

, my past and present fwbs had/have decent jobs

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By *oapysubmarineMan
over a year ago

rotherham

Its a rough ride if u get emotionally attached . Im on beer rite now as proof . God I loved that girl .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fwb for me I think.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"I've had both, but much prefer having a FWB. I've been seeing my current FWB for over 3 years now (we have a couple profile on here too and knows of this one). Our 'relationship' suits us well and it's just not for the 'sex' but for friendship too. It can be a fine line between a FWB and a 'proper' relationship, which can be eaily 'blurred' and at times, the feelings are there (difficult not to I think, when you have a continual arrangement which goes so well!), but we both know the boundaries and where we stand. Communication is the key.

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Exactly where we are

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By *lirtyjjWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I have had a couple of fuck buddies in the past but they ended up becoming good friends so the playing stopped. I get bored easily sexually and as soon as it gets emotional (as in caring for the person, not falling for them) i prefer to stop the physical. I'm not here for a relationship so it's NSA only. Got some great friends tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck buddy,no interaction between sex. Fwb, chats and occasional drink or meal together and spend more time in bed "

nailed it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck buddy,no interaction between sex. Fwb, chats and occasional drink or meal together and spend more time in bed

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This is how it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know this topic has been talked about over and over however people who find themselves in a fuck buddy (*not* friend with benfits) relationship cannot maintain enough emotional distance it can be a tricky situation if it’s not done right. What experience do you have of walking that transitional line between fuck buddy and friends with benefits oe are they interchangeable terms. "

I'm only interested generally in fucking people that would be my friends. Also I don't really see why sex is a 'benefit' over any other hobby that I might do with a friend.

I guess I'm not traditional because I am a relationship anarchist, but I just have friends, some of whom I have sex with. I have feelings and emotions for them just like any other friend.

A fuck buddy sounds so dull. Why would you have a person you repeatedly fucked that you didn't count as a friend?

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Friends with the Benedicts. Would be mildly surprised if anyone knew what that was from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friend with benefits ,I like kissing and intamacy , but it's more than just sex with a friend , who else can I boar to death about my sad life . Share fantasy and fun and not feel guilty about not having time for a proper relationship .

A FB isn't quite the same ??

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Think FB is better

Get it leave it think about it replay good fun xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I had a fb thing going on. But I havent. So I would say dont go there, just stick to meeting different men. The fb thing is sometimes too easy to get involved with if you are that type that is

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

"Fuck buddy,no interaction between sex. Fwb, chats and occasional drink or meal together and spend more time in bed "

sounds good to me

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"Friend with benefits ,I like kissing and intamacy , but it's more than just sex with a friend , who else can I boar to death about my sad life . Share fantasy and fun and not feel guilty about not having time for a proper relationship .

A FB isn't quite the same ??"

No, it's not. I cuddle up with Mr, I'd never do that with a FB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought I had a fb thing going on. But I havent. So I would say dont go there, just stick to meeting different men. The fb thing is sometimes too easy to get involved with if you are that type that is "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rather have a friend with benefits than a fuck buddy, I like to cuddle after, talk and it's not just about the sex but it's not a relationship either, hard to find someone that ticks the right boxes though

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