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By *ingphot OP   Man
over a year ago

Bucks

Evening fabbers

Like a lot of men on here I am finding it hard to get a meet. Fair enough, if someone says no, then move on. But really, when you explain to someone you are looking for your first meet,you are nervous but excited about the prospect then they ask you for a face and cock pick after several messages and you send them it costs nothing to say " no thanks, you are not for us" if you don't like what you see. I appreciate that some do not accept rejection well, there will always be a few loonies,but there are some genuine people on here who want to explore and enjoy.

Happy Swinging fellow fabbers. Except the rude ones. You can go phooey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually put a £50 charge for manners on my invoices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

O I.always say please and thank you. Open doors for people if im through it 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply to your message is a reply in itself

would an inbox full of no thank yous make you feel any better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah but how do we know you are not a loonie who dosent take rejection well?? I get fed up with the abuse I have to take if i turn someone down so really if a guy ain't for me then a just don't reply simple as that.. and yep blame it on the loonies

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By *ourglasgowguyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"No reply to your message is a reply in itself

would an inbox full of no thank yous make you feel any better

"

No thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I always say please when I ask to see Tits and thank you if they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't fret. Most women receive lots of messages. It would be pretty time consuming to even partly reply to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here is like every other cross section of life,People with and without manners.

Just chin up and enjoy yourself there are some fantastic people on here i have met quite a few over the last 2 years, then there are people at the other end of the scale

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Evening fabbers

Like a lot of men on here I am finding it hard to get a meet. Fair enough, if someone says no, then move on. But really, when you explain to someone you are looking for your first meet,you are nervous but excited about the prospect then they ask you for a face and cock pick after several messages and you send them it costs nothing to say " no thanks, you are not for us" if you don't like what you see. I appreciate that some do not accept rejection well, there will always be a few loonies,but there are some genuine people on here who want to explore and enjoy.

Happy Swinging fellow fabbers. Except the rude ones. You can go phooey "

If i've spoken a while to someone i would at least say no thanks if there was no attraction.

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By *ingphot OP   Man
over a year ago

Bucks

Fair points from the two last ladies, but one message I received this week was a simple Thanks for your interest but I must decline. Now, I did reply, but only to say thank you for doing so and wish her happy and safe swinging. If no message comes back then that is a given. It means no thanks, accept it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's right op. I get them looneis all the time here. I just block them, makes you wonder that manners don't cost anything lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to Fab OP. Just remember though some people get hundreds of messages and yours may fall by the wayside.

We always respond if we can but some slip through. It does say in the site FAQ's though that no response means no thank u.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Evening fabbers

Like a lot of men on here I am finding it hard to get a meet. Fair enough, if someone says no, then move on. But really, when you explain to someone you are looking for your first meet,you are nervous but excited about the prospect then they ask you for a face and cock pick after several messages and you send them it costs nothing to say " no thanks, you are not for us" if you don't like what you see. I appreciate that some do not accept rejection well, there will always be a few loonies,but there are some genuine people on here who want to explore and enjoy.

Happy Swinging fellow fabbers. Except the rude ones. You can go phooey "

And this is a polite post Mr. Phooey ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't cost anything apparently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening fabbers

Like a lot of men on here I am finding it hard to get a meet. Fair enough, if someone says no, then move on. But really, when you explain to someone you are looking for your first meet,you are nervous but excited about the prospect then they ask you for a face and cock pick after several messages and you send them it costs nothing to say " no thanks, you are not for us" if you don't like what you see. I appreciate that some do not accept rejection well, there will always be a few loonies,but there are some genuine people on here who want to explore and enjoy.

Happy Swinging fellow fabbers. Except the rude ones. You can go phooey "

Ive got to say, that this issue really pisses me off. Reason being that if some is good enough to take the time to message you, even if it's just a brief hello and you read that message, whether you like them or not, it should be reciprocated with the same grace it was given. I'm aware and I personally struggle in seeing/reading and then responding to all messages ( ive currently got 1750 still unread) as I use my phone to access the site and if I have a tsunami of messages I can only go back and read approx 15, I do try to at least say thank you but is difficult at times. But the rudeness and sheer disrespectful disregard for the messages that some people recieve on here with flippant arrogenr in a polite and simple, thank you but unfortunately I'm not able to meet etc, is really shocking. I'm laid back and don't take myself seriously but this is a bug bare for me and I really wish people would just remember that we all start from the same point and we are all on a personal journey, so let's not tar everyone with the same brush and show some decent human kindness, even if number one knobhead messages, apologies rant now over. Ive stood down from my soap box xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear oh dear, looks like someone else hasn't read the site FAQ's.

Under normal circumstances in society, yes, manners cost nothing, but on fab, considering the high numbers of messages some users get, you should be aware that fab rules are that you should take a message deletion or non-response as a 'no thanks'.

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By *ingphot OP   Man
over a year ago

Bucks

I get the system of no reply = no interest 100% and respect it the same amount. I really do not have a problem with it, it makes sense. When I have not received a reply or seen that the message is deleted I move on. It is what you do as an adult. But when you have entered a conversation things have moved up a level. Absolutley the other party has the right to say no thanks, you are not for me/us, just because you are in that conversation you do not have the right to expect that a meet will happen. But having exchanged several messages and sent pics as they requested you would hope that they would let you know personally instead of ignoring you. Although I suppose the end result is the same Didn't and dont want to start a whole morality debate here ( boy is it the wrong site for that ) just wanted to make a point. I shall now get back in my box. Happy swinging, everyone (even the rude ones I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read - and understood!- your OP. And I agree with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually do fancy a lot of people haha, so if a guy asks me for a meet i probably do wanna meet him, but too many people ask for meets, and i have poor self control. It's easier for me to ignore messages if i can't meet at the time otherwise i will have a queue of 100s of men expecting to fuck me at some point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good manners cost nothing!

I always offer to pull a ladies knickers down for her.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

depends where you shop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gimps top tip.

Put a profile Picture up..Anything but a knob picture will do. As one of many thousands of Blokes hoping to get his dick wet first impressions count.

Gimp

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I am guessing people didn't read the bit where it said you had already exchanged pics and mails and why they are answering you on this thread as if you are complaining you are not getting replies to any mails.

For me I think it is rude to not let someone know they are not for us if we have been in mails with them about a potential meet and I can understand your frustration.

Hopefully the next people will be polite.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

PS welcome to the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There totally free and should be used at every chance in life

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