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By *Y MAN n ME OP   Couple
over a year ago

FIFE

Hi folks.. can anyone explain to me what the attraction is with a sub/dom relationship...for example, if there is a dom woman that has sub "friends" f/m, is it just one bosses the other around say directing them in play time, and can either person switch off or walk away if they are not happy, or is it a constant control over a sub person.

I really would like to understand as i know this would not be for us,

please be honest with your replies,whether you agree or disagree with the principle of this type of fun.

tanks all XX take care H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a very vanilla interpretation....chuckles.

Sorry I will post seriously I mean no offence, your OP has just tickled me....and breathe lol

signs off still chuckling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally im dom

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Cause Les says i can be xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay,I am going for real basic.

A woman (usually called a mistress) who acts out the role of the dominating partner in a sadomasochistic relationship which are commonly abbreviated as BDSM.

Dominance and submission (also known as D&s, Ds or D/s) is a set of behaviors, customs and rituals relating to the giving and accepting of dominance of one individual over another in an erotic or lifestyle context.

In D/s relationships, a submissive is a person who retains freedoms and rights, but submits or potentially submits to another in areas wider than BDSM scenes.

Any help?

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

Traditionally the male has always taken on the role of the dom in a conventional relationship ...things changed after the empowerment of women starting in the 60 s and through womens movements the blurring of the sub dom gender politic took place.

Now both sexes can take either role and it is of course ok to "switch" .There is also same sex sub-dom domme scenarios where control is handed over to the dom ,giving pleasure in various ways ...abrrogation of responsibility -objectification ,etc etc

The term slave and master can and often is used ...or mistress of course ..however i personally dislike the term slave .In true slavery you can not switch it off, as you can with sub dom roleplay.

Even 24-7 Total power exchange is ultimately with the permission of the submissive, so its all just another form of role play in my opinion.

However i do accept my post has oversimplified a complex relationship ,which could fill a book .

pd

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By *Y MAN n ME OP   Couple
over a year ago

FIFE

Yes femme it does, I do understand the d/s within the lifestyle but was asking if it ever spills out into day to day life? especially if the sub is vunerable or lacking in confidence. We met a sub girl once that had a dom partner not present and she would only do certain things because the dom had said so. surely in this sort of case it is a control thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it is about control...but the sub has willingly handed that control over to another.

submissives are not the abused, to be used as and however by who ever...it is a trust thing. Arealationship.

It is really hard to try and get across the dynamics of something so diverse.

There is plenty of literature about it written by both Dom and sub, read some of them. It may give you an idea as it is penned by those who actually live or practice it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest the OP reads material on the subject as bdsm and sub/dom relationships can be quite complex.

One thing you must realise is that proper sub/dom relationships are a life style and state of mind and not just play for the bedroom. One excellent book i read (can't remember the author) is entitled 'The Loving Dominant'

You just may find yourselves getting drawn into this world...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

written by John Warren.

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By *Y MAN n ME OP   Couple
over a year ago

FIFE

thanks for all the knowledge....it is a case of each to their own. i see i will have to do some reading on the subject.

have fun all.XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem is, some Dom's just can't get out of that role, and then go on to treat all men the same way, end up looking bitter and twisted rather than Dom, I know a woman just like this.

W

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a sub gives his all her free well to his all her dom they willingly handed thaht control to a dom and dbsm sub dom can be a life style all just fun for one as role play a sub just love to please they dom and being told what to u bye some one is sexy to them as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Problem is, some Dom's just can't get out of that role, and then go on to treat all men the same way, end up looking bitter and twisted rather than Dom, I know a woman just like this.

W "

Us too. We knew someone who was dom, and tried to do it to everyone and ended up offending a lot of people.

You often find that it is actually the sub that is in control.

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By *edhot4blkCouple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

as far as this Dom/sub scene goes what i say is who wants to play by a script, what we do is meet the cpl/guy etc who we have arranged to meet and what ever happens is what happens...alot more fun that way

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