FabSwingers.com forum: I'm obviously not a swinger

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

every day larger and older women are insulted here by saying they were just second choice and only desperate men would want to meet them.

if this here is like swingers are I find more and more I that I am not a swinger. I might meet people for an erotic meet but I don't see them as flesh as it obviously is the case in "the swinger scene".

no thanks.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

every day lots of people on here are insulted. Don't just take the bad and think it represents everyone, that's quite insulting in itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I started swinging over 20 years ago I was thinner than I am now and I had fun but not as much as I do now

body shape doesnt bother me its the person x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

insulted ?? well thats just rude - i rarely get insulted,,,ignored YES , insulted NO - just ignore and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rise above the insults and I'm enjoying thoroughly the men I have met from here. I don't class myself as a swinger and I don't care what others think about who I meet and their spiteful comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I don't see larger and older women insulted everyday

In fact I see more threads seeking older and larger than I do for any other type of woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"every day lots of people on here are insulted. Don't just take the bad and think it represents everyone, that's quite insulting in itself."

I said IF.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure where you are going With this. Swingers do not have the monopoly on fatist insults.

If you are a plump lady then there are still thousands of genuinely appreciative men who would love to please you.

There are of course the odd gym bodied young guys who want a 1:1 with a Mila Kunis lookalike who will rent a hotel room. But they don't get far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For every thread about larger women there is usually some hating on the skinny and making out your not a real woman.

It's a breeding ground for white knights and nasty people on here sometimes and both don't mix well.

Fuck em I say! we are too busy being awesome to let nameless keyboard knob heads get to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see larger and older women insulted everyday

In fact I see more threads seeking older and larger than I do for any other type of woman

nor me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't see larger and older women insulted everyday

In fact I see more threads seeking older and larger than I do for any other type of woman

just have a look at the comments these guys get and you know what I mean.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"every day lots of people on here are insulted. Don't just take the bad and think it represents everyone, that's quite insulting in itself.

I said IF. "

Yes I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"I don't see larger and older women insulted everyday

In fact I see more threads seeking older and larger than I do for any other type of woman

just have a look at the comments these guys get and you know what I mean."

Really? For every 'off' comment there are usually far more compliments

If you look for animosity hard enough anywhere then you'll find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No your right I have just seen a single guy 370 verifications

Now that's a swinger

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

If you set out looking to be insulted on here you will find it... These aren't my thoughts but a gist of what you see on here...

Slim - your a bag of bones, a skeleton or something only a dog would want

Athletic - vain as f*** and gym addicted

Gym bunny - boring, obsessed, dull

Curvy - must be bigger

larger - fat and easy.

BBW - up yourself and over confident, easy ride.

There are those who find larger people attractive and those who prefer other builds... but you know what - there is someone for everyone out there, focus on the ones who like you not the ones who don't.

Signed, the up-her-own arse skinny-miserable-bitch.

(gotta love a fab generalisation or 5

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"every day larger and older women are insulted here by saying they were just second choice and only desperate men would want to meet them.

no thanks."

Sorry, I've misunderstood your post, I see what you mean now...you're saying you don't want any part of that aspect of swinging. As you were

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you set out looking to be insulted on here you will find it... These aren't my thoughts but a gist of what you see on here...

Slim - your a bag of bones, a skeleton or something only a dog would want

Athletic - vain as f*** and gym addicted

Gym bunny - boring, obsessed, dull

Curvy - must be bigger

larger - fat and easy.

BBW - up yourself and over confident, easy ride.

Signed, the up-her-own arse skinny-miserable-bitch.

(gotta love a fab generalisation or 5

you get me wrong. I'm not offended that someone wouldn't want me. god, no!

I'm offended because people insult others about their shape or age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm larger and older, but since I select who I chat to and meet very carefully, I do not get any insults!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm larger and older, but since I select who I chat to and meet very carefully, I do not get any insults!!

me too.

with "here" I meant the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe its not a good idea to rely on men on here to make you feel good about yourself if you have such low self esteem this isn't the place for you, maybe I said. people get insulted all the time on here not just fat or older women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

who said I rely on anyone here?

is it that wrong to expect a bit of respect in a forum? is it really that wrong to be turned off by rude people?

not in my world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"who said I rely on anyone here?

is it that wrong to expect a bit of respect in a forum? is it really that wrong to be turned off by rude people?

not in my world."

its not being rude its being honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

it's not honest to say things that you might think as if tgey were facts.

think about it.

you are one if the people here I find really rude and superficial.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"If you set out looking to be insulted on here you will find it... These aren't my thoughts but a gist of what you see on here...

Slim - your a bag of bones, a skeleton or something only a dog would want

Athletic - vain as f*** and gym addicted

Gym bunny - boring, obsessed, dull

Curvy - must be bigger

larger - fat and easy.

BBW - up yourself and over confident, easy ride.

Signed, the up-her-own arse skinny-miserable-bitch.

(gotta love a fab generalisation or 5

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you get me wrong. I'm not offended that someone wouldn't want me. god, no!

I'm offended because people insult others about their shape or age."
I get it offends you but if it's not directed at you then don't worry about something you have no control over. If you are that offended then either ignore or report

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

but I waste my time.

most if the people here will not get it anyway....

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"it's not honest to say things that you might think as if tgey were facts.

think about it.

you are one if the people here I find really rude and superficial."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's not honest to say things that you might think as if tgey were facts.

think about it.

you are one if the people here I find really rude and superficial."

Yes but im not the only one, I have heard men talking I know what they think, a lot of them anyway. open your eyes and ears. some are good liars that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did I hear bickering....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"it's not honest to say things that you might think as if tgey were facts.

think about it.

you are one if the people here I find really rude and superficial.

she wants honesty and that's what I think. read a lot of her comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havent stared swinging yet but yes I am a gym addict lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"but I waste my time.

most if the people here will not get it anyway...."

To be fair your original post wasn't clear, it took me several reads and referring back to an answer you made in another thread to understand your point of view.

Your phrase "most people will not get it" isn't that a tiny bit like the rude comments you refer to though?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"it's not honest to say things that you might think as if tgey were facts.

think about it.

you are one if the people here I find really rude and superficial.

Yes but im not the only one, I have heard men talking I know what they think, a lot of them anyway. open your eyes and ears. some are good liars that's all."

you know the truth then. ok.

I'm definitely wasting my time with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's not honest to say things that you might think as if tgey were facts.

think about it.

you are one if the people here I find really rude and superficial."

I just said the same things that has been said by many others before, men as well as women. Its not me that's superficial its the people I have mentioned only you don't want to believe there are people who think that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"but I waste my time.

most if the people here will not get it anyway....

To be fair your original post wasn't clear, it took me several reads and referring back to an answer you made in another thread to understand your point of view.

Your phrase "most people will not get it" isn't that a tiny bit like the rude comments you refer to though?

do you think they will?

I doubt.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Said it before on another site but as open minded as some swingers claim to be, they can be the most hurtful and judgemental.

We believe in preferences and everyone's right to have their preferences. We don't believe those who are outside your preferences should be insulted by petulant threads about not being real women etc.

We're not slim. We accept everyone has they are. And those we've met, we've got on well with.

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

We find this sort of searching for a perfect looking person is wrong. For us it's more about being able to hold a conversation with us and using your intellect to flirt rather than looking for a perfect looking person, it's searching for the ideal person.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"but I waste my time.

most if the people here will not get it anyway....

To be fair your original post wasn't clear, it took me several reads and referring back to an answer you made in another thread to understand your point of view.

Your phrase "most people will not get it" isn't that a tiny bit like the rude comments you refer to though?

do you think they will?

I doubt."

Yes I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"insulted ?? well thats just rude - i rarely get insulted,,,ignored YES , insulted NO - just ignore and move on "

Same here - often ignored, never insulted. Some days I'd kill for a good insult!

Seriously though, OP, it's not you who's "not a swinger", it's the idiots doing the insulting... oh, and hello again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"insulted ?? well thats just rude - i rarely get insulted,,,ignored YES , insulted NO - just ignore and move on

Same here - often ignored, never insulted. Some days I'd kill for a good insult!

Seriously though, OP, it's not you who's "not a swinger", it's the idiots doing the insulting... oh, and hello again

xx"

You have a silly looking helmet!!!!!!

How's that?

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By *andm288Couple
over a year ago

oxford

Everyone is entitled to their personal opinion

But if we were all the same shape / size hair colour eyes etc

What would that mean ?

I personally prefer a curvy woman but would not say no to a

Aka gym bunnie either

It's looks personality & a great pair of

......

Glasses for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you set out looking to be insulted on here you will find it... These aren't my thoughts but a gist of what you see on here...

Slim - your a bag of bones, a skeleton or something only a dog would want

Athletic - vain as f*** and gym addicted

Gym bunny - boring, obsessed, dull

Curvy - must be bigger

larger - fat and easy.

BBW - up yourself and over confident, easy ride.

Signed, the up-her-own arse skinny-miserable-bitch.

(gotta love a fab generalisation or 5

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you get me wrong. I'm not offended that someone wouldn't want me. god, no!

I'm offended because people insult others about their shape or age."

Some people find happiness in making others unhappy - in life as well as on fab! Personally it bemuses me - but on the rare occasions i'm insulted I just shrug and move on! We all have to learn to develop a thick skin in life unfortunately! Fab is no different! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"insulted ?? well thats just rude - i rarely get insulted,,,ignored YES , insulted NO - just ignore and move on

Same here - often ignored, never insulted. Some days I'd kill for a good insult!

Seriously though, OP, it's not you who's "not a swinger", it's the idiots doing the insulting... oh, and hello again

You have a silly looking helmet!!!!!!

How's that? "

bless you - like Oscar Wilde said, the only thing better than being talked about is not being talked about!

(and as I've said before to climbers who don't wear helmets - the only thing that looks sillier than a climbing helmet is a serious head injury) xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi again yellowhelmet.

definitely one of the nice ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi again yellowhelmet.

definitely one of the nice ones.

awww - blushing now lol xx

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"every day larger and older women are insulted here by saying they were just second choice and only desperate men would want to meet them.

no thanks."

It's always easy to abuse someone anonymously on the Web, and for some it is "fun" to do so. We prefer to swing in clubs where everything is much more personal and respectful. We also find that in the clubs there is someone for everyone irrespective of size, colour, shape or sexual preference.

Have you tried a club? If not give it a go - it's much more of what swinging is really about than trying to arrange meets through random messages from faceless people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks for your comment.

and yes I have been in clubs.

but it's not about me here. I have absolutely no problems to get meets. and I don't even consider myself as large. that's not the point.

I'm complaining here about all these rude people and asking myself if this is how the swinger scene is.

and I say if it is so I don't think I would want to have anything to do with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it's not honest to say things that you might think as if tgey were facts.

think about it.

you are one if the people here I find really rude and superficial.

Yes but im not the only one, I have heard men talking I know what they think, a lot of them anyway. open your eyes and ears. some are good liars that's all.

you know the truth then. ok.

I'm definitely wasting my time with you."

Op - you are wasting your time with pretty much all of the forum , and indeed the site with your constant whinging about age and size issues .

There will always be the white knights who side with you as you are a woman , but by and large it's hard to not see you as some kind of crusader for larger women , and quite frankly , what's the point ?

Be happy with who you are and let the rest of us see a happier side to you .

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

"thanks for your comment.

and yes I have been in clubs.

but it's not about me here. I have absolutely no problems to get meets. and I don't even consider myself as large. that's not the point.

I'm complaining here about all these rude people and asking myself if this is how the swinger scene is.

and I say if it is so I don't think I would want to have anything to do with it.

As the previous poster says, its easy to sit behind a keyboard and abuse people and some get a kick out of it. You get that on lots of websites not just this one and not just swinger sites. All the people I have met, the majority being at clubs, have been lovely and would no way abuse anyone for the way they look. The people who abuse are the minority, don't let them put you off and if you see anyone being abusive then report them. There is no place for it on here xx

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

"When I started swinging over 20 years ago I was thinner than I am now and I had fun but not as much as I do now

body shape doesnt bother me its the person x"

Nowt wrong with curves... Gives guys a place to rest their hands x

You look great by the way x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"thanks for your comment.

and yes I have been in clubs.

but it's not about me here. I have absolutely no problems to get meets. and I don't even consider myself as large. that's not the point.

I'm complaining here about all these rude people and asking myself if this is how the swinger scene is.

and I say if it is so I don't think I would want to have anything to do with it.

thanks a lot for this comment.

I feel like finally someone is getting the point. it has nothing to do with me. I'm completely fine with myself.

it is about respect and a certain standard in communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks for your comment.

and yes I have been in clubs.

but it's not about me here. I have absolutely no problems to get meets. and I don't even consider myself as large. that's not the point.

I'm complaining here about all these rude people and asking myself if this is how the swinger scene is.

and I say if it is so I don't think I would want to have anything to do with it.

thanks a lot for this comment.

I feel like finally someone is getting the point. it has nothing to do with me. I'm completely fine with myself.

it is about respect and a certain standard in communication.

Is English not your first language? I only ask because your paragraph construction I often confusing.

That aside, you talk about others being insulting and yet you get angry at others who either fail to understand you or disagree with you. You then seem quite rude in your replies... Perhaps this is a language issue?

Just learn to accept we're not all alike, and that one person's rudeness is not another's. If it is then learn to ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks for your comment.

and yes I have been in clubs.

but it's not about me here. I have absolutely no problems to get meets. and I don't even consider myself as large. that's not the point.

I'm complaining here about all these rude people and asking myself if this is how the swinger scene is.

and I say if it is so I don't think I would want to have anything to do with it.

thanks a lot for this comment.

I feel like finally someone is getting the point. it has nothing to do with me. I'm completely fine with myself.

it is about respect and a certain standard in communication.

Is English not your first language? I only ask because your paragraph construction I often confusing.

Just learn to accept we're not all alike, and that one person's rudeness is not another's. If it is then learn to ignore. "

Oops: Is often confusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks for your comment.

and yes I have been in clubs.

but it's not about me here. I have absolutely no problems to get meets. and I don't even consider myself as large. that's not the point.

I'm complaining here about all these rude people and asking myself if this is how the swinger scene is.

and I say if it is so I don't think I would want to have anything to do with it.

thanks a lot for this comment.

I feel like finally someone is getting the point. it has nothing to do with me. I'm completely fine with myself.

it is about respect and a certain standard in communication.

Is English not your first language? I only ask because your paragraph construction I often confusing.

Just learn to accept we're not all alike, and that one person's rudeness is not another's. If it is then learn to ignore. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"thanks for your comment.

and yes I have been in clubs.

but it's not about me here. I have absolutely no problems to get meets. and I don't even consider myself as large. that's not the point.

I'm complaining here about all these rude people and asking myself if this is how the swinger scene is.

and I say if it is so I don't think I would want to have anything to do with it.

thanks a lot for this comment.

I feel like finally someone is getting the point. it has nothing to do with me. I'm completely fine with myself.

it is about respect and a certain standard in communication.

Is English not your first language? I only ask because your paragraph construction I often confusing.

Just learn to accept we're not all alike, and that one person's rudeness is not another's. If it is then learn to ignore. "

no english is not my first language. it's of several languages.

but that's not the point. I don't think it has to do with language if I think it is insulting to say older and larger women are second choice.

manners are manners.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

but I'm off this forum now.

have fun.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

My fat ass looks like a rhinos especially since I joined fab many years ago (the first time)

I sleep just fine at night

Nothing people say about me or to my face would upset me these days

Ignore the doubters

Believe in yourself

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