FabSwingers.com forum: Straight is honest ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, I wonder what people really think when a guy posts straight on their profile..Do you believe them? I don't..I get so so many straight guys wanting me..I say to them, you say straight, they give me reasons such as but you look so femme too, I have to say straight, because if women found out I had been with you or indeed couples then they would not want to know me..It makes me feel such a bad person as if I am the ungodly, unclean, unwanted piece of shit that decent people dont want to know...I/we are just as capable of safe sex as anyone else and do so..I notice also that it is fine for 70% of women to post Bi, but not men...Jesus people, wake up, its about safe sex . xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messages from ladies who aren't looking to meet, or have NO MARRIED Men in big letters.

They do this so they don't get too many messages, but allows them to still browse and contact.

It may be that some bi men say straight to stop them getting too many messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I never get that reply when I ask them, it is always, if I put Bi then I will never meet couples or women x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just seems that there is so much falsity on this site, in all area's. And most people try to justify it, because they don't want to actually come out and say the obvious, people bullshit.... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not a piece of shit, you look great in your outfits. Some people are just sneaky sly arseholes. You deserve better. My preference is for straight men who are hopefully single. Still get lots of messages from married and bisexual, some I've become friends with. Hope you meet some decent honest people xx

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Hi, I wonder what people really think when a guy posts straight on their profile..Do you believe them? I don't..I get so so many straight guys wanting me..I say to them, you say straight, they give me reasons such as but you look so femme too, I have to say straight, because if women found out I had been with you or indeed couples then they would not want to know me..It makes me feel such a bad person as if I am the ungodly, unclean, unwanted piece of shit that decent people dont want to know...I/we are just as capable of safe sex as anyone else and do so..I notice also that it is fine for 70% of women to post Bi, but not men...Jesus people, wake up, its about safe sex . xxx"

There are a number of TV/TS profiles that specifically ask for straight men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because many women and couples have something against bi guys and treat them like lepers...that is why men lie...you only have to read the forum to know that much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP an I ask how many straight men have become regular fuckbuddies please? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know that Scarlett and its wrong..I have met so many men and couples too that wont veri me because I am trans and what it might do to their future meet prospects...This is why I feel so bad about being me xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wanted to reply to you scarletta after your nice reply to this but you have blocked my sex !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know that Scarlett and its wrong..I have met so many men and couples too that wont veri me because I am trans and what it might do to their future meet prospects...This is why I feel so bad about being me xxx"

They don't deserve to meet you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im put off by "straight" guys who've been verified by TVs...not because they've met them and had sex with them (gawd some ive met are more convincing females than I am!)...but because they cant be honest about who they are xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I wasn't aware I had, I'll check xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have got to the point that I should Lie too, and make a new profile as me as well as April xx I can be 2 people, but, i dont want to do that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you have loads of verifications, why are you complaining?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

LOl I am only 12 months outside your age range now xxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP you have loads of verifications, why are you complaining?

Because none of them I wanted to meet really , It was desperation, had to meet someone, sick of being on my own..I had to meet men, didnt really want you...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have got to the point that I should Lie too, and make a new profile as me as well as April xx I can be 2 people, but, i dont want to do that x

Leave the lying to the liars and concentrate on those who aren't ashamed to be associated with you as you are xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP you have loads of verifications, why are you complaining?

Because none of them I wanted to meet really , It was desperation, had to meet someone, sick of being on my own..I had to meet men, didnt really want you...x

What???? Lost us/me Pal..... I salute you and wish you well ...

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

OP don't make the arseholes on here make you feel bad about being you.... It amazes me on a site meant for 'adults' just how pathetic and childish some people can be

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was in a relationship for over 20 years, the first 10 were great, after that I had to take on 3 kids that were not mine, my partner tried to deal with them but couldnt ans the 'shit' I had everyday I got home...I took to dreesing up to make me feel better and not to be aggressive to anyone..I liked dressing up, I still do and now its my life..I do fancy women more and respect them, infact i want to be like them xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What amazes me also is that I want to thank people on this thread for being nice, but I cant as I am blocked !!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right, lets put this to bed, So to speak. My/Our first message was in support of the OP. Then when OP said about not getting verified, we/I wrote that we would happily verify him and would chat etc

(why, you ask? Because one we are nice people and our close friend is a CD, whom happened to be our best man and maid of honour at our wedding)

We/I deleted that comment because we/checked OP's profile and there was plenty of verifications...

Hence why the question, what was the OP complaining about?

OP, please don't message us with further explanations, your personal life is your own and we/I did not start out to be hurtful...

Just crossed wires.....

Happy swinging all x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I was in a relationship for over 20 years, the first 10 were great, after that I had to take on 3 kids that were not mine, my partner tried to deal with them but couldnt ans the 'shit' I had everyday I got home...I took to dreesing up to make me feel better and not to be aggressive to anyone..I liked dressing up, I still do and now its my life..I do fancy women more and respect them, infact i want to be like them xx

Be whatever/whoever you want to be......only you can make it happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you Sparkle, and too everyone else on this thread..You have made me feel better xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I may not get anywhere but it is nice to know there are nice people to talk to....Thank you everyone xxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Where do I mention that I do not have any veris? The op is complaining about people being honest as per.this is a quote from previous . OP, please don't message us with further explanations, your personal life is your own and we/I did not start out to be hurtful...

Just crossed wires.....

This is what I am up against x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Implied.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

and I know i was talking to JACK from jack and anny and he would not have a clue and lost the thread entirely x

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By *exintheairCouple
over a year ago

South London/Croydon

"It's because many women and couples have something against bi guys and treat them like lepers...that is why men lie...you only have to read the forum to know that much."

We think this is true

Also you have to look at the situation with pre op full transsexuals. Men like them because they see a “chick with a dick”. Not the pc term we know but true nonetheless. So they are not really bi at all really because they are not attracted to “men”.

We dont think you can be bi if you dont find the same sex sexually attrative.

The situation with a cross dresser or tv is different,there a man must be bi as he is attracted to someone that looks like a man albeit dressed as a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just seems that there is so much falsity on this site, in all area's. And most people try to justify it, because they don't want to actually come out and say the obvious, people bullshit.... lol

That.

I try to be as honest as I can here, whether people agree with me playing away or not. There are plenty of lies non a lot of other profiles. But I do get that sometimes it's to reduce the number of messages they receive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's because many women and couples have something against bi guys and treat them like lepers...that is why men lie...you only have to read the forum to know that much."

I find it funny how this doesn't happen to bi or bi-curious girls.

You would think people on this site would be more open minded...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had always believed myself to be predominantly straight, but the more i delve into my sexual it the less defined it has become. I fancy who I fancy basically. I am open to any suggestion or situation, and will make a decision based on the information at hand. It is frustrating when you are excluded by women and couples who stipulate no bi's, but you have to respect that. I'd rather be honest and open about who I am and who I meet than hide my verification's and pretend that I'm 100% prime heterosexual meat. We are swingers and there has to be honesty all round, no relationships should be built on lies, even if the relationship is a 5 minute knee trembler. I got a message last night from one of these "straight" guys wanting to come round, his profile stated No Single Men, men weren't in his interests and all his verifications on display were from women. But yet his verification summary was hidden and therefore hiding the true number of meets and what sex they were with. So, don't believe every straight fella out there, they present what carefully constructed image they want you to see. At least with those man enough to own their sexuality (and admit their sexual intrigue outwith the accepted parameters of gender based stereotypes) are open and honest from the start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazed by how many straight couples advertise for 'bareback' but then shout down the bi or gay profiles/meets on here.

I know who I would rather meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call me greedy but I love the vast cornucopia of filthy veritable delights to be found on here, suppose that's why I'm pansexual but there's no catagory for us to tick that particular box x

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Mr is straight, and as long as any guy who wants to meet us is aware of that and respects that boundary, we have no problem.

Our first time dogging, a guy was fingering me while I was lying across Mr sucking off another guy at the window. Unknown to me, he tried to feel Mr's cock, more than once.

Mr manouvered himself away and gave the guy a look, and he took the hint.

Mr doesn't mind being in close contact to a guy during DP, that can't be avoided, but that's it.

As long as everyone's upfront about it, there's no issue for us. We always play safe, and expect everyone else to also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ha,,labels mean nothing,i get messages from thousands of "straight" guys.

its laughable that they keep it secret.

im no ones dirty lil secret.

woman do seem to get their knickers in a twist bout it,, competition I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes im quite new here and I noticed that some people on here are against bi and TV-TS. Funny that we all promote a permissiveness but it's ring fenced by old fashion discrimination. You better specialise in these sTraight fellas. Keep cheery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call me greedy but I love the vast cornucopia of filthy veritable delights to be found on here, suppose that's why I'm pansexual but there's no catagory for us to tick that particular box x"

I wholeheartedly agree, pansexuality should be a category to select on here. That said, as a chef, my colleagues would never let me cook anything in a pan ever again if I told them that was the (lack of discernible) direction I swung in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never get that reply when I ask them, it is always, if I put Bi then I will never meet couples or women x"

Down here in Oxfordshire, it appears that most couples and single women in my.age range are looking for bi men, black men and men under 40.

As a straight white guy over 50, I wonder if I'll ever get a meet

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"What amazes me also is that I want to thank people on this thread for being nice, but I cant as I am blocked !!x"

We definitely don't block TVs as Mr Ch33ky is one. We get the same problems with straight men winking and messaging and when questioned, they say they are bi. That's why we don't arrange meets with guys anymore.

Stay true to yourself. You have integrity and you're not ignorant. That's a great place to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call me greedy but I love the vast cornucopia of filthy veritable delights to be found on here, suppose that's why I'm pansexual but there's no catagory for us to tick that particular box x

Excellent post, I love it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don't find men attractive, wish I did probably easiest way to get laid lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above - does nothing for me in any way at all.

Straight really does mean straight in some cases and it doesn't matter how much you message, ask, cajole - the answer will always be thanks but no thanks.

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By *jeibm2012Man
over a year ago

manchester nr piccadilly

I call myself 'bi' on here, but it varies for me - sometimes guys more, sometimes girls, sometimes guys more physically & girls more long-term, etc

We need the labels I guess to give people an idea, but I sometimes think there are as many subtly different sexualities as there are people.

I find myself drawn to personality and lifestyle first, with gender not a barrier haha

It's a shame that there is negativity to bi guys and other genders/sexualities on a sexually liberated, adult website like this though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I call myself 'bi' on here, but it varies for me - sometimes guys more, sometimes girls, sometimes guys more physically & girls more long-term, etc

We need the labels I guess to give people an idea, but I sometimes think there are as many subtly different sexualities as there are people.

I find myself drawn to personality and lifestyle first, with gender not a barrier haha

It's a shame that there is negativity to bi guys and other genders/sexualities on a sexually liberated, adult website like this though"

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