FabSwingers.com forum: Oh dear, what I dreaded had happened!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had been contacted by the partner of someone I know as a single gent.

I just replied asking him how a recent social gathering that we all attended went, to let him know I know what he is up to.

Don't really care if he blurts out I am on here as I am single with no ties.

However, the same cannot be said about him, and I care about his partner and family.

I shan't say anything to his partner though, as I believe he needs to sort out whatever issues he has at home himself.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

oh dear ....

she will know shortly, as he will have crapped himself and need to explain to wifie ... why he pooped his pants when on line checking work emails...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She is aware of his wandering eyes, that I picked up at the said social event, so you could be right!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

well Pearl as you said... you are single and so no harm done on your part.. it's over to him now.. xx

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

Shitty situation to be in tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno if he will....some folk love the thrill and the thought of being caught out adds to it.

I had a family member who used to play the game and would try it on with other women at family parties and everyone knew what he was up to...he didn't care. his wife played dumb as she was scared to lose him, he took clear advantage of that.

it's a shame that folk act with such disregard for the person that stands by them, supoports them and loves them.

complacency is a killer huh?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No business of ours!

Discretion in this world is essential!

Let them go sort it out, why bring it to everyones attention in the forums?

Paddy xx

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

"No business of ours!

Discretion in this world is essential!

Let them go sort it out, why bring it to everyones attention in the forums?

Paddy xx"

stop mailing her then

hahahahahahaha

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Why, because he is being an bottom hole and it is so frustrating that people do this to the person they love.

Will it embarrass him if he reads it,,,flipping hope so.

Just dont understand some people.

I hope he reads this and comes clean.

Bet he doesnt tho.

Some people are sh1tty arent they.

Raises a glass to all the real single people and honest couples on here xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let them go sort it out, why bring it to everyones attention in the forums?

Ever heard of the expression: A problem aired is a problem shared?!

Thanks for your support!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your response to his contact was excellent, without saying it you have made it clear your not interested, you have sent him a warning shot that just may be enough to make him think twice about cheating on his partner, he is a lucky guy, he has been shown how "a bit of fun here" could bring an end to his life as he knows it, no relationship, no family, the ball is in his court now, he can act upon the warning or carry on, I think you have done him and his partner a favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*coughs*

I haven't been..... silly girl!

"No business of ours!

Discretion in this world is essential!

Let them go sort it out, why bring it to everyones attention in the forums?

Paddy xx

stop mailing her then

hahahahahahaha"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just goes to show with some people! Swinging with partner not enough, needs the thrill of illicit sex with someone his partner doesn't know about.

He's unlikely to change, he'll just target women who don't know him! At least you won't be part of it!

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By *andoras DreamCouple
over a year ago

Swindon Area

i have had a similar situation. A good friends husband recognised us on here and mailed me privately. He asked all sorts of questions and kept trying to message me on facebook, he even started to message adam on facebook too trying to talk about sex etc.

anyway, he mailed me one day, i was so fed up by this time that i replied and said, yes adam and i are swingers, we do cam with other couples and are looking for a couple to meet, now please leave us alone as you are married to my friend. (they live in Oz now though).

so, you guessed it, my friend saw the email and it all hit the fan. It was horrendous, they were due to come to the UK in June but she cancelled the trip. So, its a difficult situation and its bound to happen at sometime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He won't say anything, he clearly has more to loose than you do. He's probably bricking it that you'll drop him in the shit.

But this again brings us back to the other topic of 'do you tell the wife'.

I think it's best left alone!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats terrible Pandora. Your friend needs to look closer to home for her problem. You did nothing wrong,it was him.

One of the main reasons I am on here rather than a dating site is so I dont have to lie to anybody.

I do get a bit fed up with how men are treated on here but sometimes you really can see why!!

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"I had been contacted by the partner of someone I know as a single gent.

I just replied asking him how a recent social gathering that we all attended went, to let him know I know what he is up to.

Don't really care if he blurts out I am on here as I am single with no ties.

However, the same cannot be said about him, and I care about his partner and family.

I shan't say anything to his partner though, as I believe he needs to sort out whatever issues he has at home himself.

Am i missing something here?

"contacted by the partner of someone I know as a single gent"

"i replied to him"

so that's two guys?

I suppose they have their issues too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The women on here need to get off the moral high ground!

There are plenty of cheating women out there!

Funny old thing....for every man who cheats there is a woman cheating too!

Not justifying this mans actions....but the reaction from the women...boils my wee!

Rant over. sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The women on here need to get off the moral high ground!

There are plenty of cheating women out there!

Funny old thing....for every man who cheats there is a woman cheating too!

Not justifying this mans actions....but the reaction from the women...boils my wee!

Rant over. sorry

What were you expecting, it is a thread about a man after all

not sure where you get the for every man who cheats there is a woman cheating too! from though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if an OP had opened a thread same as this about a woman cheating the responses would have been the same.

Personally we dont knowingly play with cheats, Men or Women, no matter how attractive we find them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

isnt discretion what this sites all about married single attached we all have our reasons for swinging ok hes attached he may have a gd reason as loads do no need to broadcast it to all if hes caught he deals with it

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I agree with the poster a few posts above!!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Is he a looker? Worth contacting?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Is he a looker? Worth contacting?"

Dunno, but i'm gorgeous.

Out of your league though, "pet".

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Is he a looker? Worth contacting?

Dunno, but i'm gorgeous.

Out of your league though, "pet".

That's OK I only punch above my weight... or was that meant to be I only hit fat bastards

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Is he a looker? Worth contacting?

Dunno, but i'm gorgeous.

Out of your league though, "pet".

That's OK I only punch above my weight... or was that meant to be I only hit fat bastards

Okay, i HAVE put on a LITTLE bit of weight, but i've stopped smoking recently and things have been difficult for me.

There was NO need for "fat bastard".

*sniff*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is he a looker? Worth contacting?

Dunno, but i'm gorgeous.

Out of your league though, "pet".

That's OK I only punch above my weight... or was that meant to be I only hit fat bastards

Okay, i HAVE put on a LITTLE bit of weight, but i've stopped smoking recently and things have been difficult for me.

There was NO need for "fat bastard".

*sniff*"

shush shush you're not a bastard x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I shan't go into details, however, he deleted his profile after we exchanged a few messages.

It has been eating me all day knowing he could still be looking for thrills behind her back elsewhere.

However, I shan't say anything to her.

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

interesting topic as I myself started one a few backs about what's your partner doing behind your back and the vast majority said to leave it alone and don't interfere.

seems there are more _iews are out there

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Personally i would want to know if Zoe was fooling around on me. having said that we stopped meeting a couple when we found out he was also meeting folks on here behind her back and we never told her so we cant say a lot either way.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i go on sites all the time without linda. i invite single girls to our house and if linda is at home at the time i just say its a work friend. i take them to our room and pretend we are doing work on the pc. i fuck her for an hour or so and then send her on her way. its strange though as linda has started to invite lots of guys round she says there from work as well but we work togther and i dont know any of them does anyone have any ideas lol

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Steve I prefer to know if my partner(if I had one) was messing around behind my back as for me its horrible to find out that its been going on for ages and I had no idea.

Thats why its good being single as I am my own judge of am I doing something right or wrong.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

Pearl, I think you've handled a pretty nasty situation very admirably. I don't think you could have done anything else without either hurting this man's wife or by hurting yourself by not doing anything.

Although I agree with the comments about people wanting to know if their partner was playing the field behind their back, I wouldn't want to be the one to tell someone about their partner's behaviour.

I suppose none of us know the gruesome details of anybody else's private life. For this reason I try not to judge people for this reason... whether that be in relation to the swinging lifestyle or life in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pearl, I think you've handled a pretty nasty situation very admirably. I don't think you could have done anything else without either hurting this man's wife or by hurting yourself by not doing anything.

im of the opinion if someone asks me a direct question i would tell the truth but i wouldnt pre empt a situation by telling on someone .....

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"im of the opinion if someone asks me a direct question i would tell the truth but i wouldnt pre empt a situation by telling on someone ....."

Oh yes, I completely agree with this. If specifically asked, I'd be truthful too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"im of the opinion if someone asks me a direct question i would tell the truth but i wouldnt pre empt a situation by telling on someone .....

Oh yes, I completely agree with this. If specifically asked, I'd be truthful too."

Same here, I hope that moment of being asked a direct question will never come!

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By *aughtyHubbyMan
over a year ago

Sunderland

"well i go on sites all the time without linda. i invite single girls to our house and if linda is at home at the time i just say its a work friend. i take them to our room and pretend we are doing work on the pc. i fuck her for an hour or so and then send her on her way. its strange though as linda has started to invite lots of guys round she says there from work as well but we work togther and i dont know any of them does anyone have any ideas lol"

If Linda needs any help with the computer she only has to ask.

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

your better than me as I would tell my friend. discretion may be what this sites about but I for one am not on hear to cheat or to be part of any cheating situation and that is with out knowing them by knowing the wronged party makes it all worse, I am not too bothered about our secret being outed tbh I do not feel people will be that shocked (well maybe a church but I will live)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell...if I wanted the friendship to end as I've yet to meet anyone who has been able to maintain the friendship after spilling the beans.

The other party seldom leaves the cheat and often turn on the "news carrier", what my dad used to call the "messenger".

Most people being cheated on know, but prefer to live in a blissful state of denial.

Personally I keep out of other peoples business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so true well said

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By *r and Mrs FlintstoneCouple
over a year ago

bridgwater

so true sassy never known the messenger end up as anything other than a scapegoat

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