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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Forgive me if I'm wrong but do most women / couples go for guys with more veris then say ones with hardly any or none? Well that's what I went by, but I'm realising now that meets with guys who have a fare few are more hard work and to be honest think there God's gift, just beacuse they've done well on here.where as meets with guys who have very few veris seem to be more easy going and well normal. Anyway just what I'm finding maybe it's just me lol. Im pretty normal and appreciate people! and don't care about veris as long as they know how to message, are in my eyes attractive and respectful.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Doesn't that depend entirely on the individual? Some people will be lovely, some people will be hard work, regardless of how many veris they have had.

Maybe guys with lots of veris are more likely to be 'hardened swingers'...but never been really sure what that is supposed to mean, anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not keen on no veris especially after some long time on here. Otherwise a lot or a few don't seem to matter.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"Doesn't that depend entirely on the individual? Some people will be lovely, some people will be hard work, regardless of how many veris they have had.

Maybe guys with lots of veris are more likely to be 'hardened swingers'...but never been really sure what that is supposed to mean, anyway. "

Seasoned is a more apt description I feel. Hardened sounds uncaring.

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By *opmanforfun300Man
over a year ago

. Newcastle

Im a guy who treats everyone one the same. Being polite and honest doesnt cost nothing. People who think they are better then anyone else are the ones with the biggest hang ups. We are all here for fun hence the site name fab swingers op I would say if you come across any more guys like that just reply sorry no pussy for you and look for some guy who will enjoy what you have to offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't that depend entirely on the individual? Some people will be lovely, some people will be hard work, regardless of how many veris they have had.

Maybe guys with lots of veris are more likely to be 'hardened swingers'...but never been really sure what that is supposed to mean, anyway.

Seasoned is a more apt description I feel. Hardened sounds uncaring. "

Seasoned sounds like they need a shower.

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines

Horses for courses, like almost every topic. There are lovely blokes with 100 verifications and there are twats with 100 verifications.

There are lovely blokes with two verifications and there are twats with two verifications.

I think you can get a half decent feel of the person from their profile, how their verifications have been written and and how they wrote verifications the other way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think coz a lot of guys moan on here about not getting meets then some of the guys who do get them probably do think they're all that.

I've met several heavily verified guys from here and been lucky not to have met anyone like that, although one guy did used to brag about being a genuine single guy (which yeah i realise what he meant now lol), but he'd had almost 200 meets and never bragged about that, treated me like a princess he did and is a lovely guy, shall be seeing him again soon.

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple
over a year ago

Hinckley

I thought this was going to be about law!

Sent me scurrying off to my text books as I knew what 'mens rea' was but not 'mens veri'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of veris put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're right...and sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet them first for chat coffee or if been verified by someone we know and trust that's good enough for us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys who have been here ages with no veri's almost invariably want to chat for ages and then don't turn up when a meet is arranged .

Guys with loads are reliable and it's often exactly what it says on the tin .

Newbies (on the site less than a month ) with none can be the most exciting .

Overall it's the fact that we see all guys as equal to ourselves that makes it so good for all involved , and that we have never let anyone down . All to often non verified guys are great at talking the talk but when it comes the meet it goes so quiet ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys who have been here ages with no veri's almost invariably want to chat for ages and then don't turn up when a meet is arranged .

Guys with loads are reliable and it's often exactly what it says on the tin .

Newbies (on the site less than a month ) with none can be the most exciting .

Overall it's the fact that we see all guys as equal to ourselves that makes it so good for all involved , and that we have never let anyone down . All to often non verified guys are great at talking the talk but when it comes the meet it goes so quiet ....

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Nice sweeping generalisation there.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met guys with loads...I've met guys with barely any. The one thing they had in common is I decided to meet them because I liked them and I wanted to fuck them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most men iv met havnt got that many verifications, you could be right though. the ones to avoid are the ones with only one verification.

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By *rant4Man
over a year ago

South Wales & London

I have a few verifications but still find it hard to get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zoe, you are fucking GORGEOUS! Jesus Christ, is it even possible to be that unbelievably beautiful? Mr AJ is one lucky son of a bitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys who have been here ages with no veri's almost invariably want to chat for ages and then don't turn up when a meet is arranged .

Guys with loads are reliable and it's often exactly what it says on the tin .

Newbies (on the site less than a month ) with none can be the most exciting .

Overall it's the fact that we see all guys as equal to ourselves that makes it so good for all involved , and that we have never let anyone down . All to often non verified guys are great at talking the talk but when it comes the meet it goes so quiet ....

Nice sweeping generalisation there.)"

Lol ... well we have been on and off fab for almost 4 years and have met a lot of guys in that time . From our experience it may seem a sweeping generalisation , but also an accurate one from our experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Zoe, you are fucking GORGEOUS! Jesus Christ, is it even possible to be that unbelievably beautiful? Mr AJ is one lucky son of a bitch. "
thanks but I can assure you that day to day im NOT usally its the tierd need more sleep look lol, but at weekends I come to life xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Forgive me if I'm wrong but do most women / couples go for guys with more veris then say ones with hardly any or none? Well that's what I went by, but I'm realising now that meets with guys who have a fare few are more hard work and to be honest think there God's gift, just beacuse they've done well on here.where as meets with guys who have very few veris seem to be more easy going and well normal. Anyway just what I'm finding maybe it's just me lol. Im pretty normal and appreciate people! and don't care about veris as long as they know how to message, are in my eyes attractive and respectful."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to meet men who see sex as a bit of recreation. I don't care how many verifications they have as long as they want passionate,erotic,sensual sex that may get a bit filthy

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By *rtemisiaWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"Doesn't that depend entirely on the individual? Some people will be lovely, some people will be hard work, regardless of how many veris they have had.

Maybe guys with lots of veris are more likely to be 'hardened swingers'...but never been really sure what that is supposed to mean, anyway.

Seasoned is a more apt description I feel. Hardened sounds uncaring. "

It does harden you though, being on here. And not in the erectile sense of the word!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair OP I would give you something hard to work with on a meet

(tries injecting some humour)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Forgive me if I'm wrong but do most women / couples go for guys with more veris then say ones with hardly any or none? Well that's what I went by, but I'm realising now that meets with guys who have a fare few are more hard work and to be honest think there God's gift, just beacuse they've done well on here.where as meets with guys who have very few veris seem to be more easy going and well normal. Anyway just what I'm finding maybe it's just me lol. Im pretty normal and appreciate people! and don't care about veris as long as they know how to message, are in my eyes attractive and respectful."

Suppose it's down to the guy really!?

Fab is full of weird and wonderful people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say my verifications are bugging me up massively lol! I'm just a normal guy but I've been accused of being "stuck up" because I politely declined a woman who wasn't my cuppa tea.

Those who know me will tell you I'm the furthest from stuck up but I'm very fussy and I don't lower my standards.

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By *rant4Man
over a year ago

South Wales & London

Do you prefer to see and read the veri's or just know the person has veri's. Mine are private at the moment. Would it be better to show them?

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Forgive me if I'm wrong but do most women / couples go for guys with more veris then say ones with hardly any or none? Well that's what I went by, but I'm realising now that meets with guys who have a fare few are more hard work and to be honest think there God's gift, just beacuse they've done well on here.where as meets with guys who have very few veris seem to be more easy going and well normal. Anyway just what I'm finding maybe it's just me lol. Im pretty normal and appreciate people! and don't care about veris as long as they know how to message, are in my eyes attractive and respectful."

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Forgive me if I'm wrong but do most women / couples go for guys with more veris then say ones with hardly any or none? Well that's what I went by, but I'm realising now that meets with guys who have a fare few are more hard work and to be honest think there God's gift, just beacuse they've done well on here.where as meets with guys who have very few veris seem to be more easy going and well normal. Anyway just what I'm finding maybe it's just me lol. Im pretty normal and appreciate people! and don't care about veris as long as they know how to message, are in my eyes attractive and respectful."

I'm lucky enough to have a few verifications. Yet I'm as far away from being God's Gift as you could get.

Some of mine are from when I was half of a couple on here. Some are from small intimate house parties I've hosted. . I'm very easy to get on with, reliable, and never pushy . . Word does get round and i have met some great people who I still have a giggle with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Think it's just me then

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think it's just me then "

Probably just a coincidence that the ones with Veri's are up their own ass

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I've not found this ,some will be hard work no matter how many or fee verifications they have .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope I'm not up my own arse! Can still see daylight, so can't be!

I'm lucky enough to have a few verifications, with a few from the same couple. I've always classed myself as lucky, certainly don't think of myself as anything other than that! In fact I was discussing this today with a playmate. Considering the amount of men on here, younger and more toned, I've often wondered how. So definitely not up my own arse. Perhaps it depends on how many verifications you are thinking of, Zoe?

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

its exactly the same for single guys, singles women, tv's, couples with loads of veri's.

Would a guys get put off with a single woman or couple with loads of veri's ?

I look for personality & obvious attraction & don't care about their sexual history, i do find long term singles & couples with no veri's suspect & treat them with caution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veri's mean nothing. I make my own mind up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If be on hear a few years now and have quite a few verses sum are repeats I think if people are good enough to give them show them if bn told we won't meet you have to many so should I hide them ? Lots do ! Didn't meen thay haven't met hundreds of people my verses stay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if they choose not to show their veris?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What if they choose not to show their veris? "
don't get why anyone would want to hide all there veris, what's the point otherwise x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What if they choose not to show their veris? don't get why anyone would want to hide all there veris, what's the point otherwise x"

sometimes its because they don't actualy have any or they may have one fake one. I always ask to see them first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's the thing ... Some men, women and couples have;

A) multiples veris from the same person for social, one on one and group meet

B) friendly veris where by they get hubby to veri single profile or real life friend to scratch back

It's all very subjects and Im not a fan of the details as sometimes it's actually of putting when there are 10 from the same person - we get it you've met

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here's the thing ... Some men, women and couples have;

A) multiples veris from the same person for social, one on one and group meet

B) friendly veris where by they get hubby to veri single profile or real life friend to scratch back

It's all very subjects and Im not a fan of the details as sometimes it's actually of putting when there are 10 from the same person - we get it you've met"
yeah I guess but, showing one is better than none at all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only got one, its better than to not have one lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What if they choose not to show their veris? don't get why anyone would want to hide all there veris, what's the point otherwise x"

Because some people prefer privacy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What if they choose not to show their veris? don't get why anyone would want to hide all there veris, what's the point otherwise x"

I posted about this very subject a few weeks back. I don't show my veris. I find there is a little too much emphasis on them; no one as going to write or publish a bad one! Well 99% of the time! I have them, I'm genuine, if anyone wants to see them I may show them, depending on how the conversation is going but generally veris-schmeris. Its up to the individual, but no one should get abuse (as I did) when I don't show them and respect that decision.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met loads of guys with no verifications at all and never had a problem with any

I have only had one no show and a guy who cancelled our meet, literally minutes before the arranged time, because he was meeting someome else instead and they were both well verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually hide our veris but sometimes show one when we're in 'meet mode' (like now). We reckon one is enough to prove that we really do meet and are not axe-wielding lunatics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What if they choose not to show their veris? don't get why anyone would want to hide all there veris, what's the point otherwise x

Because some people prefer privacy. x"
I recon the reason why some don't show it is cos if others are looking at their profile, they don't want to let them know who they have seen as this can be an impact on an actual meet with that person if they like them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't want to generalise but our experience is that guys with more veris pursue less and message less. For guys with less veris a meet seems more of an event with a proper build up in terms of conversation.

We met one guy with tons of great veris. Little messaging before except exchange of pics and date time to turn up at his flat. We turned up and he was in joggers and t-shirt. 'Yeah a lot of couples don't turn up' he said. He just seemed really hardened and it didn't feel like fun. Kind of like he had lost all notion of fun and was just getting his end away. That turned us off many veris and made us believe glowing veris a bit less.

Sure there are attentive guys with lots of veris but we don't know them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veri's are a virtual mine field. As some women/couples like only a few as to many makes you look a player. To Littke makes you un meet able.

On my old profile before I came off for awhile when I was part of a couple I had lots of veri's due to working behind the bar at Vivente swing club. (Not plugging) as lots came along. I like to think I'm approachable. Non pushy etc and I like chatting. But that had draw back as it put lots of meets I didn't show and made me look like a total notch cutter.

So as OP have said. some veri's are worthless. But if that person has made a good impression they will put more than a single line about them. Also you can x-check and see what that person has put.

I have found that women/couples will talk to me more now I have veri's rather than when I first started as newbies are an uncertainty. But we all start somewhere. But if you have a good meet im proud to show via a veri im trust worthy and am who and what I say I am.

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