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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering if anyone else finds it hard to come from just oral. Don't get me wrong I'm absolutely loving every second of it but unless there is some other stimulant I cant cum from just someone's mouth.

And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this

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By *eknownMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm the same, never ever cum when given a blow job! Neither my ex wife or my last attachment enjoyed blow jobs so I rather missed out for a very long time.

Though I've played with one or two couples and a few women during the last 5 years, apart from the initial sensation and excitement soon wears off when I get a blow job now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh don't get me wrong I enjoy every second of it. I've had one girl I met give me head for over an hour and it was great. Just I didn't cum.

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

Same, the only way I've cummed in mouths is by pulling out of a pussy just before.

It's not for everyone I suppose.

Mrs has tried really hard and got very good at them nevertheless, still enjoy a blowjob though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it and always chum, Danny gets lock jaw though as I enjoy it so much, that I take my time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps cum ..... bloody auto correct drives me mad lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Suppose if women enjoy long oral sessions I can easily take part and reciprocate haha

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Not everyone can but as long as its enjoyable for all that's the main thing .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not everyone can but as long as its enjoyable for all that's the main thing ."

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Just wondering if anyone else finds it hard to come from just oral. Don't get me wrong I'm absolutely loving every second of it but unless there is some other stimulant I cant cum from just someone's mouth.

And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this "

Nope. No problem here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have made my husband cum through oral but that's with moving his foreskin back and forth while in my mouth and twisting skin as I go down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have made my husband cum through oral but that's with moving his foreskin back and forth while in my mouth and twisting skin as I go down

Always a chance I just need someone who is better at the task at hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cum pretty quickly and easily with sex, and sometimes with oral. But i find you have to be really relaxed, not tired, not have things on your mind, because if someone is giving you oral you can be 'just lied there' and there's nothing for you to do. Which this is nice to be the centre of the sexual attention but if your mind starts wandering to something else it will mess it up.

Also it can be quite intimidating being on show and exposed when someone's giving you oral, unlike with sex where both your bodies are closer and covering each other up.

I wouldn't be offended if someone didn't cum from oral with me, doesn't bother me at all. I'm not bothered if i cum at all either, so long as the sex was good and they tried to make sure i enjoyed it (and i will enjoy it just for the bodily contact alone and the passion).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

See I'm not a small guy but I'm always relaxed when it comes to that. Definitely not body conscious either, if anything I find it more comfortable. I will always repay the favour though and do what I can to make my partner have a great time. I get off more when she's enjoying herself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a blow job? Lol. Nearly all my girlfriends and exs never gave them but had affairs and every one liked to blow. Was I just unlucky?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think you may have been I'm afraid

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

I've found some men just dont, I rarely cum thruough oral either, it's just not enough stimulation for me. People are different , it makes life fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have too much control ...well been accused of it, waiting until I'm ready to blow, I put mine down to that...however ONE meet did it completely caught me of guard, knees trembling like Bambi...

To this day don't know how she did it....??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'd love to meet her haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only been blown by one person who is not into it so have always held back and no longer sure of I would cum

Hopefully will find out soon

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

I've never had that problem. 'Till now. I'm on drugs for nerve problems (as in nerves in the body, not being nervous!) and it's almost impossible to cum from oral at the mo.

In fact, cumming at all is pretty damn hard work right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take FOREVER to cum anyway but whether it be by hand or tongue, mental stimulation has the biggest impact on my ability to cum. If I'm in "the zone" then there's no stopping me but if I'm just nit feeling it then hours of oral aren't going to achieve anything. I guess it's the same for everybody but particularly women who aren't as visually stimulated as men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can count on one hand the number of times I've cum from a blow job and half of those times were after other stimulation beforehand. Have to be super aroused!

Like the OP, I love receiving them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have had a long session with lots of sex then sometimes I can't come through oral

Bloody frustrating it is especially if the lady is doing her best

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I think everyone is different. I've had guys take ages to or not at all and quite a few with very little encouragement lol. I dont think its my technique but ill claim credit!

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Btw I think women need to do the whole seduction thing..looking into a guys eyes, moaning just generally looking like theyre loving it rather than a chore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Btw I think women need to do the whole seduction thing..looking into a guys eyes, moaning just generally looking like theyre loving it rather than a chore."

This is fantastic when it happens, having a lady be turned on and excited turns me on and excite me.

that's definitely going to help things

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well that's just it. If I know a women is enjoying sucking on my cock it turns me on a lot more. I did have one girl just put it in her mouth and that was all she thought she had to do. Needless to say that night wasn't very fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I manage it on a very rare occasion but gotta be stimulating my clock with her hand as well as her mouth xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do hear clock stimulation is key to orgasm

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

"I do hear clock stimulation is key to orgasm

It's all in the hands

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do hear clock stimulation is key to orgasm

It's all in the hands

A bit about the face too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Btw I think women need to do the whole seduction thing..looking into a guys eyes, moaning just generally looking like theyre loving it rather than a chore."

This certainly makes a difference! X

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

I hardly ever cum from bj till I met OH SHE gets me to cum no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was the same until I met the OH. A lot of it is finding out the buttons to push and not just about the mouth on cock. It's the stroking the cupping a little gentle humming while it's in. They all contribute and now she can make me cum in an ad break. Where as before I was just used to seem to hang on the edge for ages trembling.

It's quite funny seeing her work on another guy as she has to be told to stop what's she's doing as they don't want to pop too soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find reaching the big "o" hard all the time, have only ever cum twice through oral and through sex is rare as well. As long as the sex is great tho then I'm happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As long as everyone is having fun then all is good

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"I find reaching the big "o" hard all the time, have only ever cum twice through oral and through sex is rare as well. As long as the sex is great tho then I'm happy "

So to u what makes great sex

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Forgot to say cupping balls or sucking them occasionally too..and i think licking is underated..

I think Ive studied the subject waaayyy too much lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I'm sure you'll have no shortage of offers for subjects if you want to study more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well that's just it. If I know a women is enjoying sucking on my cock it turns me on a lot more. I did have one girl just put it in her mouth and that was all she thought she had to do. Needless to say that night wasn't very fun "

Hahahaha

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Well I'm sure you'll have no shortage of offers for subjects if you want to study more"

Everyday's a school day ha ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I'm sure you'll have no shortage of offers for subjects if you want to study more

Everyday's a school day ha ha"

Ring the bell and we can start. I am a tricky student mind x

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Well I'm sure you'll have no shortage of offers for subjects if you want to study more

Everyday's a school day ha ha

Ring the bell and we can start. I am a tricky student mind x"

Extra time in detention then..just you and I

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think you've found one method in guaranteeing attendance to detention haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find reaching the big "o" hard all the time, have only ever cum twice through oral and through sex is rare as well. As long as the sex is great tho then I'm happy

So to u what makes great sex"

At the end of a session I like to feel like I've been had good and hard but I enjoy all the foreplay and then sex, if I cum then great but if I don't it's not the end of the world.

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"I find reaching the big "o" hard all the time, have only ever cum twice through oral and through sex is rare as well. As long as the sex is great tho then I'm happy

So to u what makes great sex

At the end of a session I like to feel like I've been had good and hard but I enjoy all the foreplay and then sex, if I cum then great but if I don't it's not the end of the world.

So do u like your pussy to feel as if it's still got cock deep inside and aching for more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many have tried all have failed. Different strokes for different folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.

If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x

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By *idas100Man
over a year ago

Nr LEEDS

See my Bj at the end of a session as my reward for having good stating power,n satisfying my partner.If anything I pefer it to vaginal.but then she's good at it.

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm m nice!

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.

If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x "

This is true. All the selfish guys that ive had the misfortune to meet that just lie back and expect a bj with no intention of sex always cum easily

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.

If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x

This is true. All the selfish guys that ive had the misfortune to meet that just lie back and expect a bj with no intention of sex always cum easily

See even when I've been told it's just going to be a BJ ive still never cum. I also always try and make sure I return the favour in some way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this "
I've only ever cummed once whilst getting sucked off !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.

If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x

This is true. All the selfish guys that ive had the misfortune to meet that just lie back and expect a bj with no intention of sex always cum easily

See even when I've been told it's just going to be a BJ ive still never cum. I also always try and make sure I return the favour in some way "

Do you get off on that? I know some guys do. Maybe let the other person cum first and then lie back and be selfish.

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

"i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.

If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x

This is true. All the selfish guys that ive had the misfortune to meet that just lie back and expect a bj with no intention of sex always cum easily

See even when I've been told it's just going to be a BJ ive still never cum. I also always try and make sure I return the favour in some way

Do you get off on that? I know some guys do. Maybe let the other person cum first and then lie back and be selfish.

Sound advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just haven't met the right woman yet. If men can use that line so can I,apologies to anyone if they said it already

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By *ike4362ukMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt

I take ages to cum under any circumstance. Always been like that. Even wanking can take me an hour or more to cum! Only once have I come purely from oral.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Its a very common "problem" in most men. The reason I put problem in air quotes is that I dont see why men make such a big fuss over climaxing from one. I mean if shes doing it right you still enjoy it, do you not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found the only way I can cum from oral is if I have my bum played with at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never usually able to cum through a bj either but this girl, a couple of weeks ago, oh my, I couldn't control myself twice with her, she must have had skills!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh don't get me wrong I enjoy every second of it. I've had one girl I met give me head for over an hour and it was great. Just I didn't cum. "

Jeez her mouth must have ached!

I've never come through oral alone - and though I enjoy it - it's just prep for the main event for me - i'm a major penetration fan!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have made my husband cum through oral but that's with moving his foreskin back and forth while in my mouth and twisting skin as I go down

That's how it's done ladies and gents

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Every time ive had a guy come from just oral he said he was just enjoying it that much he felt fully relaxed and was thinking about nothing but how good it was. Whereas before that he admitted if it was feeling good he statted thinking hed be able to cum and willing himself to do so. I find its a lot of mens problem that they want it too much and therefore mentally block themselves from doing so, so just relax and enjoy boys

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

Not a problem here,although I once dated a girl who didn't give head!lol..that didn't last long as a relationship..can you imagine never having a BJ again?...i can't believe they still make people like that,and they actually stay in long term relationships!.some idiot married her!..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle too - I think _urvymama's right, being relaxed helps but I have to admit that, in my limited experience, men tend to give better bj's than women. It's not always the case but I guess knowing how it feels to receive a bj must help a bit.

"Every time ive had a guy come from just oral he said he was just enjoying it that much he felt fully relaxed and was thinking about nothing but how good it was. Whereas before that he admitted if it was feeling good he statted thinking hed be able to cum and willing himself to do so. I find its a lot of mens problem that they want it too much and therefore mentally block themselves from doing so, so just relax and enjoy boys "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have made my husband cum through oral but that's with moving his foreskin back and forth while in my mouth and twisting skin as I go down

That is the secret to blowing your load for sure!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Btw I think women need to do the whole seduction thing..looking into a guys eyes, moaning just generally looking like theyre loving it rather than a chore."

That is spot on!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive only ever cum once from oral and once from penetration in 14yrs of having sex :/

The only way i can cum is if i play with my clit during sex, if a guy plays with it does nothing and toys dont do anything either!

Got sick of the amount of guys who tell me to cum when im playing, its hard enough without that pressure! Think I am about ready to give up on orgasms all together now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you a control freak by any chance honey flower

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i have a theory about this, when a guy thinks hes getting penetration then he knows the BJ is just the starter, he thinks about whats coming next instead of whats happening now.

If you specifically say no sex at the beginning, they cum. x

This is true. All the selfish guys that ive had the misfortune to meet that just lie back and expect a bj with no intention of sex always cum easily

See even when I've been told it's just going to be a BJ ive still never cum. I also always try and make sure I return the favour in some way

Do you get off on that? I know some guys do. Maybe let the other person cum first and then lie back and be selfish.

I really get off on pleasuring a woman

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You just haven't met the right woman yet. If men can use that line so can I,apologies to anyone if they said it already "

You are welcome to try haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its a very common "problem" in most men. The reason I put problem in air quotes is that I dont see why men make such a big fuss over climaxing from one. I mean if shes doing it right you still enjoy it, do you not? "

For what it's worth I never said it was a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't orgasm through oral even though I really enjoy it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here never ever came from oral alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you a control freak by any chance honey flower

I have slight ocd, i would say its because i worry about how i look but i was the same even when i was a size 12

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Me (Geoff) too, hardly ever cum from oral alone. It has its advantages as an excuse to fuck, if one is needed!

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By *iss PageWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this "

Best blow job in Hampshire here lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this

Best blow job in Hampshire here lol"

Going to need proof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the girl, but I normally use it as a sexy appetiser before the main course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never cum yet through oral...no biggie.

I takes a heck of a woman to get me to cum through sex or any way t.b.h....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ah a finger slipped up their arse usually sends most guys over the point of no return whilst blowing em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ah a finger slipped up their arse usually sends most guys over the point of no return whilst blowing em"

Such poetic word smitherry

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

And no this isn't me trying to get people to have a go - you're welcome to try - but more just seeing if anyone else has found this "

Me too. I think it's a mind thing - one of the earliest people I used to meet regularly hated the taste of cum - so I guess I learned to control it. Now it is very infrequently I do - and I really, really have to try and concentrate on it - and it still rarely happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met one lady some time ago who had the knack at it and bordered on obsessed with making me cum from oral, yet despite her obvious delight when she succeeded I can't say it had half as much delight for me.

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