FabSwingers.com forum: What woman can teach me some new tricks *-)

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been on here a few weeks now and the women I have spoken too are all talk and no action I want a woman who knows what she wants and when if that's possible so where are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh grab your tin hat.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

If you're looking for a teacher, try the local college.

Most of us are looking for men who know what they are doing, not those who need to be taught.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not every one person knows everything so forgive me for not knowing everything

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

There's a big difference between being skilled but not knowing everything and needing someone to teach you.

Your threads so far have been all about what you want and criticising the women here for not providing what you want. Neither of those approaches are particularly impressive.

What are you offering to set you apart from the thousands of other guys on here, many of them experienced, skilled lovers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" What are you offering to set you apart from the thousands of other guys on here, many of them experienced, skilled lovers?"

A blank slate that you can mold into your sexual desires. It's not a competition. Supposed to be enjoyed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not every one person knows everything so forgive me for not knowing everything "

I know everything

Genius Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been here a few weeks, this isn't a sex site, you're not gonna get a shag as soon as you join.

They probably weren't all talk, they just weren't interested

And I'll reiterate what's been said, women want men who know what they're doing, not someone who needs teaching

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

21 eh?

lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"21 eh?

lol."

And that stupid hat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What were your expectations of this site OP. Did you think that you would have to beat the ladies off with a stick? Now that's not happened we are all talk. Pathetic! Certainly looks like you have alot to learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What were your expectations of this site OP. Did you think that you would have to beat the ladies off with a stick? Now that's not happened we are all talk. Pathetic! Certainly looks like you have alot to learn."

Couldn't agree more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All talk hey? Maybe they're just not interested after chatting to you or you're just talking to the wrong people, blokes pretending to be women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is a virtue...you cant expect to get your dick wet because youve been on here a few weeks...alot of newbies take months to get that first meet..the women on here owe you nothing...remember that...and good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your profile, too inconsistent and keep the hat lol

Remember all the women are on here to serve and pleasure your every desire

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By *ourglasgowguyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Have you mistaken this place for the magic circle?

In saying that I knew a girl that could make a beer bottle disappear.

I'll get my coat lol

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

A lot of people struggle when they first join the site especially single guys. The thing is you don't really know what to expect until you join, I certainly wasn't sure this would work for me until I tried it.

You could maybe go to some social events or clubs and meet people there. It's a lot less pressure and sometimes more friendly.

Not everyone on the forums are sympathetic to newbies but we have all been there. Posting negative comments will get people's backs up so if you can be a bit more upbeat it will help you in the long run.....good luck

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

" What are you offering to set you apart from the thousands of other guys on here, many of them experienced, skilled lovers?

A blank slate that you can mold into your sexual desires. It's not a competition. Supposed to be enjoyed. "

You need to make an effort to stand out and advertise yourself effectively on here. Otherwise it's going to be the other guys who get the meets.

Actually it is a competition, sort of, and single men are one amongst thousands.

The OP has done nothing to suggest to women why we should choose him over the other options.

As for a blank slate, like I said, most women here want men who know what they're doing. We don't want to be doing any moulding. If you're in any doubt about that use the forum search to find previous threads started by men looking for someone to take their virginity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I didn't say I was a virgin and I don't need teaching everything would of been nice to try something new that was all I didn't think I was going to spark this many responses and it's pretty low people judging others on looks and style because there is fuck all wrong with the hat sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've been here a few weeks, this isn't a sex site, you're not gonna get a shag as soon as you join "

I was assured of sex on tap when I joined! Women throwing themselves at my feet and in my bed!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"21 eh?

lol.

And that stupid hat

At least it's not on backwards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hahaha now that is one way to not wear I hat I am aware of myself being a tit from time to time but wearing my hat backwards would be a whole new level haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think I knew everything but then I learned an important new fact....

but if you want tricks my 80-year-old great aunty can tell you which card you picked out of her marked deck...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're looking for a teacher, try the local college.

Most of us are looking for men who know what they are doing, not those who need to be taught."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I didn't say I was a virgin and I don't need teaching everything would of been nice to try something new that was all I didn't think I was going to spark this many responses and it's pretty low people judging others on looks and style because there is fuck all wrong with the hat sorry "

So we gather you thought you would have a queue forming?

This where the inexperienced bit comes in.

You did ask to be taught things though, didn't you?

Maybe if you want to try new things you should go out and meet girls your age, then come back on here when you have more to offer others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Okay right so I have obviously used the wrong word "teach" I don't need teaching just want some new doors opening and I wouldn't be on here if I hadn't already tried with women ( because I don't mess around with girls) my own age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some threads make me laugh , some piss me off and some just think what a Pratt !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

B and Q sell a good range of doors

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"B and Q sell a good range of doors

And spades for digging bigger holes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"B and Q sell a good range of doors

And spades for digging bigger holes.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

My comment about virgins wasn't aimed at you, which you can see because I quoted the post I was replying to.

It was in response to the suggestion that being inexperienced and a blank slate to be moulded is a good thing, and something to offer on here. Most people see it as a negative, not a positive as demonstrated by threads by self-proclaimed virgins looking for experience.

If people quote a post, that's usually the post they are replying to. If it's not your post then their comment isn't aimed at you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have seen a lot of threads where young guys want doors opening, lessons taught etc., then moan when nothing happens.

It seems that all these guys have a pre-conceived idea that a Swinging site means easy sex.

They may disagree, but with all their comments about no meets or contact, it certainly seems that way to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to lots of places where there are many people of this lifestyle.

We don't think we have ever come across people who are looking for 'banter' with young people, just mainly mature people who want a relaxed conversation (or maybe more) about our experiences and our common shared interest.

We guess this is where the age thing comes in.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah I see where your coming from with the moulding situation I didn't mean to offend I'm not simply asking for women to throw themselves at my feet I was just intrested to see what kind of doors I could open myself as I like to push myself but clearly it's went down the wrong way with people commenting on age and experience and all I would like to say is yes I'm 21 not 12 I do know what I'm doing and yea I have experience and I just wanted to further the experience without getting shot down every 2 minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I see where your coming from with the moulding situation I didn't mean to offend I'm not simply asking for women to throw themselves at my feet I was just intrested to see what kind of doors I could open myself as I like to push myself but clearly it's went down the wrong way with people commenting on age and experience and all I would like to say is yes I'm 21 not 12 I do know what I'm doing and yea I have experience and I just wanted to further the experience without getting shot down every 2 minutes "

May we ask what experience you have in this adult world?

Have to say, the way you have conducted yourself on here shows a lack of experience in this lifestyle.

Maybe you have not worded your posts well, but that also comes with experience, doesn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You may ask away message me if you would like to know by all means and yes I I'd choose the wording very poorly but this is my first time on a site like this so tbh I never really knew what to put until the response came in

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Accusing the women who didn't jump on you of being all talk, no action did you no favours at all. Your failure is down to you, not them.

You're going to find it more difficult on here as a young man than someone older would, and even then it's hard work.

You need to show yourself to your best advantage and focus on what you can offer as well as on what you want. Women have their own needs and desires and I can virtually guarantee that nobody is sitting at home fantasising about making all your dreams come true.

So far you've come across as if you're entitled to something here and that never goes down well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well put.

Remember forum rules; be nice to newbies and no slagging off their profile unless they've asked for it to be critiqued or it'll be the naughty step.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You may ask away message me if you would like to know by all means and yes I I'd choose the wording very poorly but this is my first time on a site like this so tbh I never really knew what to put until the response came in"

A piece of advice then.

Take a look around the Forum and look at the countless other number of posts by young guys moaning about the lack of quick results.

What you have done has labelled yourself as yet another one of this type, and this post will always be seen by anyone who wants to click on the little green arrow.

Next time try to avoid being like the other young inexperienced guys by not doing what they have already done, then maybe people will take you more seriously.

And, no offence, we won't message you. Having spent a lot of time in this environment, we have yet to come across an experienced swinging single male who is 21. You may surprise us, but we very much doubt it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You know what you have nailed it I really didn't want to come across as like every woman on here owed me something because that isn't me so thankyou for the pointers that have been given and I will try to better myself on here thankyou everyone it's opened my eyes a little more wider

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You don't know until you try but I get it that you two wont so no worries

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I've been on here a few weeks now and the women I have spoken too are all talk and no action I want a woman who knows what she wants and when if that's possible so where are you?"

the one common factor could well be you fella, saying that others are all talk will never go down well even if that is your perception..

i want, doesn't get as my old Mum used to say and on here you are one amongst many thousands of guys with a track record of success in this aspect..

maybe look at some of their profiles and pick up some pointers, of course be yourself but coming over as if your entitled to sex because your on this site is a bad idea..

attend some socials maybe..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't know until you try but I get it that you two wont so no worries "

What two are you talking about?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I've been on here a few weeks now and the women I have spoken too are all talk and no action I want a woman who knows what she wants and when if that's possible so where are you?"

Plenty of ladies on here who fit that bill, problem is there are even more men. Good luck in your search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been on here a few weeks now and the women I have spoken too are all talk and no action I want a woman who knows what she wants and when if that's possible so where are you?

Plenty of ladies on here who fit that bill, problem is there are even more men. Good luck in your search"

That is very true.

We guess the answer is to make yourself look better than the rest.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

With this thread and your other one.... Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thankyou all been a tremendous help time to redo my profile I think

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"With this thread and your other one.... Good luck! "

to be fair to him he seems to be one of the ones who may take on board whats some have said, we have all been 21 before and a little bit new to things..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"With this thread and your other one.... Good luck!

to be fair to him he seems to be one of the ones who may take on board whats some have said, we have all been 21 before and a little bit new to things.. "

Thankyou and of course I am taking the comments on board it's clear to me that the majority of people who have commented have been. On here a while or been swinging for a while all the comments have been a big big help

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"With this thread and your other one.... Good luck!

to be fair to him he seems to be one of the ones who may take on board whats some have said, we have all been 21 before and a little bit new to things.. "

Like I said.... Good luck... If he does prove to be one of them, time will tell.

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area

"I've been on here a few weeks now and the women I have spoken too are all talk and no action I want a woman who knows what she wants and when if that's possible so where are you?"

With an attitude like that I wouldn`t rush out just yet and buy a deluxe model shitty stick to beat the women off with....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The lad seems to be taking the advice.....this thread isn't as rough as I imagined it might get for him.

There's some ok advice on here thus far fella....slow down, manage your expectations fella because as has been pointed out, your age puts you outside many people's parameters (but by no means everyone's) and the fact your quite new does the same thing.

Use the site fully, come chat on the forums and chat rooms if you like that kind of thing, you'll get a better feel for the place and make some friends...

Just don't forget, nobody here owes anyone else anything, so bear in mind your looking for someone to give you one if the most personal and intimate things one person can give to another, so treat that fact with respect and you won't go far wrong....

Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nice one everyone been brilliant just one more thing I know what I orginally put wasn't the best but can people please stop quoting what I first said if you read down it is clear the penny Finally dropped for me it would be appreciated thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The lad seems to be taking the advice.....this thread isn't as rough as I imagined it might get for him.

Use the site fully, come chat on the forums and chat rooms if you like that kind of thing, you'll get a better feel for the place and make some friends...

Best of luck "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They will do....the villagers sometimes like to get crabby over stuff....If they see it sinking in, they won't like that they've nowt to moan about....it'll be reet, they're a good bunch and they'll soon forget...just carry yourself well and all will be fine I'm sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They will do....the villagers sometimes like to get crabby over stuff....If they see it sinking in, they won't like that they've nowt to moan about....it'll be reet, they're a good bunch and they'll soon forget...just carry yourself well and all will be fine I'm sure

Nice one for the heads up its pretty hard now to try and justify what I said now haha I didn't want to come across all desperate or like a kid was just after genuine responses which I got in the end haha

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Some don't read down the thread. It'll blow over.

Those who have read can see you are listening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't have to justify it....you said it and then 'took it back' in a way...

You'll get more respect for being open and listening to folk than blindly sticking to your guns right or wrong...

If you hang about you see threads like yours quite a bit...it's the guys who just rant on the same thing and wont listen who don't last...

I mean, so many guys here...a lady is unlikely to bother with the one who sits in the corner moaning.

The ability to empathise and adapt is a good quality I'd say....but don't be a doormat either....hang about, you'll work it all out I'm sure..it's a lifestyle thing, not a get your rocks off quick thing...

I'm waffling now so I'll shut up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've been here a few weeks, this isn't a sex site, you're not gonna get a shag as soon as you join.

They probably weren't all talk, they just weren't interested

And I'll reiterate what's been said, women want men who know what they're doing, not someone who needs teaching "

Forgive my nieveity but isn't a sex site exactly what this is? In the spit and sawdust, nitty gritty, day to day its people that want to and like to fuck! Of coarse there's a lot of seduction and mutual respect thrown in. Give the young guy a break

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"You've been here a few weeks, this isn't a sex site, you're not gonna get a shag as soon as you join.

They probably weren't all talk, they just weren't interested

And I'll reiterate what's been said, women want men who know what they're doing, not someone who needs teaching

Some people use it as a sex site. Others use it in different ways.

However, anyone who turns up and expects to find crowds of women just waiting for the chance to drop their knickers for anyone who asks is likely to be disappointed.

I'm here looking for sex but with particular people. In my experience most women are here looking for something in particular, not just sex.

It's not just about the sex, so no, I don't think it's "a sex site" per se.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Oh and the guy actually is getting a break, and some good advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've been here a few weeks, this isn't a sex site, you're not gonna get a shag as soon as you join.

They probably weren't all talk, they just weren't interested

And I'll reiterate what's been said, women want men who know what they're doing, not someone who needs teaching

We are sure you agree there are differences between a sex site and a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've been here a few weeks, this isn't a sex site, you're not gonna get a shag as soon as you join.

They probably weren't all talk, they just weren't interested

And I'll reiterate what's been said, women want men who know what they're doing, not someone who needs teaching

We are sure you agree there are differences between a sex site and a swingers site."

I would agree (fuck, we normally argue)

That it is predominantly a lifestyle site yeah, though many do sucsessfully use it as a sex site....singles meeting other singles, and the site does cater for that...many couples who swing met on here as singles so it allows for people in all stages of the lifestyle I feel.....and that can only be a good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've been here a few weeks, this isn't a sex site, you're not gonna get a shag as soon as you join.

They probably weren't all talk, they just weren't interested

And I'll reiterate what's been said, women want men who know what they're doing, not someone who needs teaching

We are sure you agree there are differences between a sex site and a swingers site."

Totally agree. If been on here years and it is a lifestyle choice. Tinder is far worse than Fabs for people who just Wana fuck haha

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