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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take "

I can be but, not super submissive.

I can handle ...

Hair pulling when fucking

Hand around my neck

Being tied and blindfolded

Denial

Ass smacked

Have no idea what level that would be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take "

lol, just completely lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to be an equal although I have been known to be a.little sub now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm naturally passive so when a man is naturally dominant I take what he gives. Anyone who just gets off on abuse gets told where to go and if a man wants to be submissive for a while I will take control and do what he asks me to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New slant on "50 Shades"

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take "

I love having all of the above done to me....but I also have a dom side to me...just depends on my mood...even more thrilling when there is a battle to take the lead...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spanked very hard.

Flogged and whipped.

Caned and use of belt.

Passed out with neck grip.

Fully tied.

Blindfolded.

Fucked hard.

On my knees with hair being pulled while facefucking.

Have not yet had orgasm denial..would find that hard to be honest

Her

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

With most men, not submissive at all. But I do like a man to be in control, unfortunately they are few and far between, no matter what they may say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take

I can be but, not super submissive.

I can handle ...

Hair pulling when fucking

Hand around my neck

Being tied and blindfolded

Denial

Ass smacked

Have no idea what level that would be? "

Oh my

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take

I can be but, not super submissive.

I can handle ...

Hair pulling when fucking

Hand around my neck

Being tied and blindfolded

Denial

Ass smacked

Have no idea what level that would be? "

This is me too

S

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take

I can be but, not super submissive.

I can handle ...

Hair pulling when fucking

Hand around my neck

Being tied and blindfolded

Denial

Ass smacked

Have no idea what level that would be? "

Perfect I'd say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"New slant on "50 Shades" "

I guess its all the posts about 50 shades that made mo wonder. I am genuinely curios, given all the interest. I do find most women slightly submissive, and obviously it all has to be consensual. Draw the line at abuse, but it is interesting isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite submissive, but not lick your boots clean submissive... I like rough sex but only with someone I trust, but I do love hair pulling and choking, both combined, hot, a bit of spanking, and I do try and warn him of my orgasms, and sometimes I'm not allowed to come.

there are weird instances where after we cuddle and he runs his fingers over my body, or chokes me a bit, and I come all over again, with no penetration... Very erotic!

I definitely prefer rough sex, but there are times when I want to be in charge, and that is also a lot of fun...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take "

All of this.

You sound perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Spanked very hard.

Flogged and whipped.

Caned and use of belt.

Passed out with neck grip.

Fully tied.

Blindfolded.

Fucked hard.

On my knees with hair being pulled while facefucking.

Have not yet had orgasm denial..would find that hard to be honest

Her"

3&4 your brave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take

I can be but, not super submissive.

I can handle ...

Hair pulling when fucking

Hand around my neck

Being tied and blindfolded

Denial

Ass smacked

Have no idea what level that would be?

Perfect I'd say "

Do you reverse roles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to be spanked,hair pulled, roughly handled,hands around my throat, cock forced down my throat so I gag and choke.... Love being called a filthy little slut while being roughly fucked too. All of this with P only, wouldn't trust another man to treat me this way, but another cute girl....;-) Jxx

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I love to be spanked,hair pulled, roughly handled,hands around my throat, cock forced down my throat so I gag and choke.... Love being called a filthy little slut while being roughly fucked too. All of this with P only, wouldn't trust another man to treat me this way, but another cute girl....;-) Jxx"

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Its not how I play on fab... but very submissive.

My submission is currently gifted and resides with my current lover. With him, pretty much anything goes.

Love being choked, bound, spanked, the belt used, orgasm denial, being forced, gagging, deep throating, on demand. Love being kept on my knees for him, and love to dress how I know will please him, and to present myself for his use (which I get so much out of) I have a very exhibitionist streak too, so love showing off when we are out - like intentionally leaving the changing room curtain open enough that he can watch if I try anything on when we are out. He adores stockings and suspenders, so the flash of the top of them inappropriately earns me a firm lesson. As he puts it, I'm very much a lady when we are out together, right down to still wearing white silk gloves out with him if my dress for the day matches, but his dirty little slut in private.

I adore it!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"I love to be spanked,hair pulled, roughly handled,hands around my throat, cock forced down my throat so I gag and choke.... Love being called a filthy little slut while being roughly fucked too. All of this with P only, wouldn't trust another man to treat me this way, but another cute girl....;-) Jxx"

Not for me but each to their own ,something on here for everyone.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Zero lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Spanked very hard.

Flogged and whipped.

Caned and use of belt.

Passed out with neck grip.

Fully tied.

Blindfolded.

Fucked hard.

On my knees with hair being pulled while facefucking.

Have not yet had orgasm denial..would find that hard to be honest

Her"
good sub x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something that has to be built up to as far as I'm concerned. Maybe not the gagging or hair pulling, but bondage, use of restraints, paddles and certainly restriction of airway would have to be done with someone you trust implicitly. Not with someone you have just met. Unless you are part of a couple and have someone looking out for you, anyway.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Been known to partake........

Regularly.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"This is something that has to be built up to as far as I'm concerned. Maybe not the gagging or hair pulling, but bondage, use of restraints, paddles and certainly restriction of airway would have to be done with someone you trust implicitly. Not with someone you have just met. Unless you are part of a couple and have someone looking out for you, anyway."

Totally agree...trust is everything...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take

I can be but, not super submissive.

I can handle ...

Hair pulling when fucking

Hand around my neck

Being tied and blindfolded

Denial

Ass smacked

Have no idea what level that would be?

Perfect I'd say

Do you reverse roles?

"

No, I have tried, but it doesn't work for me, weird isn't it, just need to be in control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am naturally submissive and love the man to take control but depends on the guy, has to be an element of trust there, I love being tied up, pinned down, hand round my throat, spanked,hair pulled, made to gag, blindfolded, nipple clamps etc but I cannot stand aggressive men who think dominance is about being nasty or degrading and humiliating me, some women may enjoy that but for me i am aroused by giving control over to the man sexually.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I prefer to be an equal although I have been known to be a.little sub now and then "

I'm very conscious that were all equal, to be honest, I'm not completely sure if I'm fulfilling my desires, or meeting her needs. Bit of both I suspect. And I completely agree that trust is everything when it comes to making her gag on my cock, or holding her throat, never met a lady that didn't love it when I pull her head back by the hair (gently) and kiss her passionately as I fuck her from behind. And, yes, its trust that builds over time, always establish the boundaries before playing and if its agreeable, just push them that little bit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am naturally submissive and love the man to take control but depends on the guy, has to be an element of trust there, I love being tied up, pinned down, hand round my throat, spanked,hair pulled, made to gag, blindfolded, nipple clamps etc but I cannot stand aggressive men who think dominance is about being nasty or degrading and humiliating me, some women may enjoy that but for me i am aroused by giving control over to the man sexually."

Topping from the bottom eh? I find that so sexy

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"

Topping from the bottom eh? I find that so sexy "

Isn't that what true submission really is? The submissive has all the power. NO dominant should do anything the sub doesn't wish, so who really has the power?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Topping from the bottom eh? I find that so sexy

Isn't that what true submission really is? The submissive has all the power. NO dominant should do anything the sub doesn't wish, so who really has the power?"

Very much so, something a lot of guys do not understand, you choose to give yourself to someone, they don't take it x

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"

Topping from the bottom eh? I find that so sexy

Isn't that what true submission really is? The submissive has all the power. NO dominant should do anything the sub doesn't wish, so who really has the power?

Very much so, something a lot of guys do not understand, you choose to give yourself to someone, they don't take it x"

Its why I have always thought of my submission as a gift - not easily given, but within my power to control. I also don't "play" sub via fab. Its about trust, mutuality and respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Topping from the bottom eh? I find that so sexy

Isn't that what true submission really is? The submissive has all the power. NO dominant should do anything the sub doesn't wish, so who really has the power?

Very much so, something a lot of guys do not understand, you choose to give yourself to someone, they don't take it x

Its why I have always thought of my submission as a gift - not easily given, but within my power to control. I also don't "play" sub via fab. Its about trust, mutuality and respect."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not submissive though some would argue with that, infact a lot have argued with that lol I suppose I do like some things that others may see as submissive but I don't see it as such as everything I do is done on my terms and if I want to stop then I stop

I wouldnt let anybody tie me up as I don't hold that amount of trust I'll admit it the idea of being tied up and defenclese scares me, I don't want to find out I'm with some maniac when it's to late, I also don't like being slapped, I just have this mental block on that, I have gone mental in the past when a guys slapped my arse, I mean WTF why do you want to hit me ffs, I know some women like it and I'm not saying it hurts me I just do not like the idea of being hit by a man

I guess I just don't like the idea of a man getting off on being rough with me it makes me feel like an object for their pleasure, I'd sooner be with a guy who's interested in my pleasure too

Its amazing how many guys seem to think what a woman wants is to be face fucked till she gags and rammed like a slut till he cums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am naturally submissive and love the man to take control but depends on the guy, has to be an element of trust there, I love being tied up, pinned down, hand round my throat, spanked,hair pulled, made to gag, blindfolded, nipple clamps etc but I cannot stand aggressive men who think dominance is about being nasty or degrading and humiliating me, some women may enjoy that but for me i am aroused by giving control over to the man sexually."

See that's the experience I have had with some called doms, on guys was actually telling me what I liked, he was really hurting me and when I told him to pack it in he just carried on telling me to enjoy it, I had to get really aggressive with him to get my message over, imagine being tied up with someone like that yoir opening yourself to all kinds of abuse, sod that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am naturally submissive and love the man to take control but depends on the guy, has to be an element of trust there, I love being tied up, pinned down, hand round my throat, spanked,hair pulled, made to gag, blindfolded, nipple clamps etc but I cannot stand aggressive men who think dominance is about being nasty or degrading and humiliating me, some women may enjoy that but for me i am aroused by giving control over to the man sexually.

See that's the experience I have had with some called doms, on guys was actually telling me what I liked, he was really hurting me and when I told him to pack it in he just carried on telling me to enjoy it, I had to get really aggressive with him to get my message over, imagine being tied up with someone like that yoir opening yourself to all kinds of abuse, sod that "

Yes that could be a nightmare, I rarely meet anyone quickly, I do tend to take my time getting to know them, one of the first meets I ever had on here was a social with a guy who said he was dominant, we met for coffee but he decided to shout in my face like a sergeant major first, that went well.... . I left him standing there!! Very strange behavior!

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"I am naturally submissive and love the man to take control but depends on the guy, has to be an element of trust there, I love being tied up, pinned down, hand round my throat, spanked,hair pulled, made to gag, blindfolded, nipple clamps etc but I cannot stand aggressive men who think dominance is about being nasty or degrading and humiliating me, some women may enjoy that but for me i am aroused by giving control over to the man sexually.

See that's the experience I have had with some called doms, on guys was actually telling me what I liked, he was really hurting me and when I told him to pack it in he just carried on telling me to enjoy it, I had to get really aggressive with him to get my message over, imagine being tied up with someone like that yoir opening yourself to all kinds of abuse, sod that "

Its why I don't use fab for that side of my life. Fab is about sex and fun. I have never met a dom online. They have all been found in other places...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am naturally submissive and love the man to take control but depends on the guy, has to be an element of trust there, I love being tied up, pinned down, hand round my throat, spanked,hair pulled, made to gag, blindfolded, nipple clamps etc but I cannot stand aggressive men who think dominance is about being nasty or degrading and humiliating me, some women may enjoy that but for me i am aroused by giving control over to the man sexually.

See that's the experience I have had with some called doms, on guys was actually telling me what I liked, he was really hurting me and when I told him to pack it in he just carried on telling me to enjoy it, I had to get really aggressive with him to get my message over, imagine being tied up with someone like that yoir opening yourself to all kinds of abuse, sod that

Its why I don't use fab for that side of my life. Fab is about sex and fun. I have never met a dom online. They have all been found in other places... "

Oooh where do you find them ??

I can keep a secret xx

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By *eaningofLifeCouple
over a year ago

York

We are quite new to the scene, so this may be a daft question but how would you stop an orgasm or cuming? I like the sound of the rough foreplay and sex, boot licking wouldn't do any thing for me at all. But wld be submissive with someone I trust. I giggle and blush even though i'm dirty minded (no idea why) im very responsive to touch and imagination so can orgasm without touch, so I just find it hard to get my head round it. Hope i've made some sense. Thanks K. X

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"I am naturally submissive and love the man to take control but depends on the guy, has to be an element of trust there, I love being tied up, pinned down, hand round my throat, spanked,hair pulled, made to gag, blindfolded, nipple clamps etc but I cannot stand aggressive men who think dominance is about being nasty or degrading and humiliating me, some women may enjoy that but for me i am aroused by giving control over to the man sexually.

See that's the experience I have had with some called doms, on guys was actually telling me what I liked, he was really hurting me and when I told him to pack it in he just carried on telling me to enjoy it, I had to get really aggressive with him to get my message over, imagine being tied up with someone like that yoir opening yourself to all kinds of abuse, sod that

Its why I don't use fab for that side of my life. Fab is about sex and fun. I have never met a dom online. They have all been found in other places...

Oooh where do you find them ??

I can keep a secret xx"

My current, and most amazing one ever, was found at a works conference, although we have known one another for about 15 years now... but I've only been his since august.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"We are quite new to the scene, so this may be a daft question but how would you stop an orgasm or cuming? I like the sound of the rough foreplay and sex, boot licking wouldn't do any thing for me at all. But wld be submissive with someone I trust. I giggle and blush even though i'm dirty minded (no idea why) im very responsive to touch and imagination so can orgasm without touch, so I just find it hard to get my head round it. Hope i've made some sense. Thanks K. X"

I'm very suggestive too, and can orgasm from him stroking my hand (kinda embarrassing on the bus) but its all about mind over matter - its bloody hard work! There are also times when I am just downright disobedient and could not stop myself having an orgasm at all. I get to a certain stage... Oh and I do also like to be a defiant brat at times, so will sometimes refuse to do what I am told, or will orgasm even when I'm not allowed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not submissive though some would argue with that, infact a lot have argued with that lol I suppose I do like some things that others may see as submissive but I don't see it as such as everything I do is done on my terms and if I want to stop then I stop

I wouldnt let anybody tie me up as I don't hold that amount of trust I'll admit it the idea of being tied up and defenclese scares me, I don't want to find out I'm with some maniac when it's to late, I also don't like being slapped, I just have this mental block on that, I have gone mental in the past when a guys slapped my arse, I mean WTF why do you want to hit me ffs, I know some women like it and I'm not saying it hurts me I just do not like the idea of being hit by a man

I guess I just don't like the idea of a man getting off on being rough with me it makes me feel like an object for their pleasure, I'd sooner be with a guy who's interested in my pleasure too

Its amazing how many guys seem to think what a woman wants is to be face fucked till she gags and rammed like a slut till he cums

"

Exactly this on many levels.

I consider myself an equal and like to give as good as I get sexually in the pleasure stakes..

I have yet to find any man who I would even contemplate mentally submitting to in any way although we have experimented with some play that might be considered hard on occasion...but only between ourselves. I find the blinkered insistence that you can't have a kinky streak without it involving dominance or submission of either partner extremely boring...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am naturally submissive and love the man to take control but depends on the guy, has to be an element of trust there, I love being tied up, pinned down, hand round my throat, spanked,hair pulled, made to gag, blindfolded, nipple clamps etc but I cannot stand aggressive men who think dominance is about being nasty or degrading and humiliating me, some women may enjoy that but for me i am aroused by giving control over to the man sexually.

See that's the experience I have had with some called doms, on guys was actually telling me what I liked, he was really hurting me and when I told him to pack it in he just carried on telling me to enjoy it, I had to get really aggressive with him to get my message over, imagine being tied up with someone like that yoir opening yourself to all kinds of abuse, sod that

Its why I don't use fab for that side of my life. Fab is about sex and fun. I have never met a dom online. They have all been found in other places... "

I agree fab is deffinatly not the place to look for that kind of thing, I would have to put all my trust in somebody before I let them restrain me and no guy off here will ever earn that amount of trust from me, I think it would have to be a partner, someome who I felt cared about me and my wellbeing before I allowed that and seeing as I'm single and most likely always will be that's a side of me that will never happen

I love the idea though but I think some fantasies are not ment to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any Dominant that says he has all the control needs to go back and read his google page.

A Dominant should respect his submissive and vice versa, all down to trust this relationship.

I have seen some Dominants in the past with streaks of self gratification.

I would not trust these as far as i could throw them, let alone my body.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like equality

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By *ady G and GTCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"I'm not submissive though some would argue with that, infact a lot have argued with that lol I suppose I do like some things that others may see as submissive but I don't see it as such as everything I do is done on my terms and if I want to stop then I stop

I wouldnt let anybody tie me up as I don't hold that amount of trust I'll admit it the idea of being tied up and defenclese scares me, I don't want to find out I'm with some maniac when it's to late, I also don't like being slapped, I just have this mental block on that, I have gone mental in the past when a guys slapped my arse, I mean WTF why do you want to hit me ffs, I know some women like it and I'm not saying it hurts me I just do not like the idea of being hit by a man

I guess I just don't like the idea of a man getting off on being rough with me it makes me feel like an object for their pleasure, I'd sooner be with a guy who's interested in my pleasure too

Its amazing how many guys seem to think what a woman wants is to be face fucked till she gags and rammed like a slut till he cums

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does being submissive always have to involve pain and physically attacking a body? I had a man once who,while we were having sex,stopped and looked at me and said "You're submissive!" I nodded and received a crack across my face from his hand. He also bit me. I stopped him when he went to hit me again and he seemed surprised saying " Sorry I thought you were sub"

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Does being submissive always have to involve pain and physically attacking a body? I had a man once who,while we were having sex,stopped and looked at me and said "You're submissive!" I nodded and received a crack across my face from his hand. He also bit me. I stopped him when he went to hit me again and he seemed surprised saying " Sorry I thought you were sub" "

Only if they are an arsehole.

I don't mind physical play, but some of the most erotic sub times for me, I am not even in the same place as my lover. He can completely dominate me in public and very few people would even notice. Its tone, control and attitude, not a decent right hook that does it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does being submissive always have to involve pain and physically attacking a body? I had a man once who,while we were having sex,stopped and looked at me and said "You're submissive!" I nodded and received a crack across my face from his hand. He also bit me. I stopped him when he went to hit me again and he seemed surprised saying " Sorry I thought you were sub" "
Shakes head..Bastard.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does being submissive always have to involve pain and physically attacking a body? I had a man once who,while we were having sex,stopped and looked at me and said "You're submissive!" I nodded and received a crack across my face from his hand. He also bit me. I stopped him when he went to hit me again and he seemed surprised saying " Sorry I thought you were sub" "

I think a lot of men hide behind the Dom label when really they are just lazy lovers and bullies

I've had a few guys tell me they don't give oral as that's the subs job, now I'm not really that clued up on the whole sub Dom thing but why does being a Dom mean you can only take pleasure?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"

I think a lot of men hide behind the Dom label when really they are just lazy lovers and bullies

I've had a few guys tell me they don't give oral as that's the subs job, now I'm not really that clued up on the whole sub Dom thing but why does being a Dom mean you can only take pleasure?"

In my experience, it most definitely does not mean they only take - as you say thats just a lazy, selfish lover.

A good dom likes his sub experiencing the rewards of pleasure as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think a lot of men hide behind the Dom label when really they are just lazy lovers and bullies

I've had a few guys tell me they don't give oral as that's the subs job, now I'm not really that clued up on the whole sub Dom thing but why does being a Dom mean you can only take pleasure?

In my experience, it most definitely does not mean they only take - as you say thats just a lazy, selfish lover.

A good dom likes his sub experiencing the rewards of pleasure as well."
Here here, if a Dominant does not put his sub first get shot because its not going to work

Her

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Loads of men have an idea that being dominant is access to blow jobs whenever they demand... not realising that ultimately a sub has the power in the relationship.

Being dominant isn't about being a bully and getting what you want - its about actually paying attention to what your sub needs. I have been hugely lucky with the 3 long term male dominants I've had in my life (have had 2 female dommes but that was a very different experience from my side) The men I have gifted my submission to have all taken me to places that I could never get alone, and my current one is absolutely mind blowing. Finding out new things about myself every time I see him, feel so lucky with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does being submissive always have to involve pain and physically attacking a body? I had a man once who,while we were having sex,stopped and looked at me and said "You're submissive!" I nodded and received a crack across my face from his hand. He also bit me. I stopped him when he went to hit me again and he seemed surprised saying " Sorry I thought you were sub"

I think a lot of men hide behind the Dom label when really they are just lazy lovers and bullies

I've had a few guys tell me they don't give oral as that's the subs job, now I'm not really that clued up on the whole sub Dom thing but why does being a Dom mean you can only take pleasure?"

Noooooo any dominant men I have met are more givers than takers!! They get pleasure out if giving pleasure to their sub, those men don't know what they are talking about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Topping from the bottom eh? I find that so sexy

Isn't that what true submission really is? The submissive has all the power. NO dominant should do anything the sub doesn't wish, so who really has the power?

Very much so, something a lot of guys do not understand, you choose to give yourself to someone, they don't take it x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rough sex

Violent sex

Not dominance.

True dominance is the ability to whisper softly in her ear...

To give a single look....

Then observe as she obediently offers her entire self to you.

Willingly

Without hesitation or reservation.

Knowing her most vulnerable self is in fact revered and cared for without question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does being submissive always have to involve pain and physically attacking a body? I had a man once who,while we were having sex,stopped and looked at me and said "You're submissive!" I nodded and received a crack across my face from his hand. He also bit me. I stopped him when he went to hit me again and he seemed surprised saying " Sorry I thought you were sub"

I think a lot of men hide behind the Dom label when really they are just lazy lovers and bullies

I've had a few guys tell me they don't give oral as that's the subs job, now I'm not really that clued up on the whole sub Dom thing but why does being a Dom mean you can only take pleasure?

Noooooo any dominant men I have met are more givers than takers!! They get pleasure out if giving pleasure to their sub, those men don't know what they are talking about! "

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I am pretty much indomitable, though for the right man I can become very compliant.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I like some rough sex, bit of hair pulling, restraints, spanking, playing at being sub; but I'm not at all submissive and really cant get my head around true submission. Anything like that is purely a role play during the playtime for me

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"I am naturally submissive and love the man to take control but depends on the guy, has to be an element of trust there, I love being tied up, pinned down, hand round my throat, spanked,hair pulled, made to gag, blindfolded, nipple clamps etc but I cannot stand aggressive men who think dominance is about being nasty or degrading and humiliating me, some women may enjoy that but for me i am aroused by giving control over to the man sexually."

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally, I think most women I've encountered prefer a man to take the lead, though maybe not control. Too many wannabe attitudes in terms of dom / sub stuff, or lack of understanding.

And as long as it's clear that both enjoy themselves, the rest is down to boundaries, communication, trust and ability to have fun with each other, and appreciate presence of another person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be and have been quite submissive. But I don't like hands around my throat and anyone who slapped my face should expect a broken nose.

I think of submissive more in terms of control, particularly mental control, than physical roughness or degradation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Topping from the bottom eh? I find that so sexy

Isn't that what true submission really is? The submissive has all the power. NO dominant should do anything the sub doesn't wish, so who really has the power?

Very much so, something a lot of guys do not understand, you choose to give yourself to someone, they don't take it x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that the Sub controls the limits and what actions can and can not be done

Then it is in the hands of the Dom to administer the pleasure at his/her will, within the limits set by the Sub, who also has the power to switch the activity or stop the action with the safety words

I conclude that the Sub holds the power, deceiving the Dom in to beleiving the power is in his/her hands

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"I think that the Sub controls the limits and what actions can and can not be done

Then it is in the hands of the Dom to administer the pleasure at his/her will, within the limits set by the Sub, who also has the power to switch the activity or stop the action with the safety words

I conclude that the Sub holds the power, deceiving the Dom in to beleiving the power is in his/her hands "

Why deceiving? Nothing deceptive about the power balance in a proper D/S relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that the Sub controls the limits and what actions can and can not be done

Then it is in the hands of the Dom to administer the pleasure at his/her will, within the limits set by the Sub, who also has the power to switch the activity or stop the action with the safety words

I conclude that the Sub holds the power, deceiving the Dom in to beleiving the power is in his/her hands

Why deceiving? Nothing deceptive about the power balance in a proper D/S relationship. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think a true D/s relationship can be explored fully without time, eons of communication, trust and some sort of emotional attachment - so whilst I may 'dabble' on here - as a singleton I've yet to find the above within this context

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take "

Hopefully we are headed in this direction as it's something I'd love to explore more....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not how I play on fab... but very submissive.

My submission is currently gifted and resides with my current lover. With him, pretty much anything goes.

Love being choked, bound, spanked, the belt used, orgasm denial, being forced, gagging, deep throating, on demand. Love being kept on my knees for him, and love to dress how I know will please him, and to present myself for his use (which I get so much out of) I have a very exhibitionist streak too, so love showing off when we are out - like intentionally leaving the changing room curtain open enough that he can watch if I try anything on when we are out. He adores stockings and suspenders, so the flash of the top of them inappropriately earns me a firm lesson. As he puts it, I'm very much a lady when we are out together, right down to still wearing white silk gloves out with him if my dress for the day matches, but his dirty little slut in private.

I adore it!"

Sounds like my fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How long should a sub wait until she is allowed to meet with her chosen Dom ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long should a sub wait until she is allowed to meet with her chosen Dom ?"

I've had a couple D/s relationships.

You should meet as soon as you can, no chemistry no commitment!

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

With the right person im very sub. Ive had masters and doms. Always had specified limits but also boundaries to be pushed with safe words. It depends who the person is to what boundaries and limits that are chosen

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts


"I think that the Sub controls the limits and what actions can and can not be done

Then it is in the hands of the Dom to administer the pleasure at his/her will, within the limits set by the Sub, who also has the power to switch the activity or stop the action with the safety words

I conclude that the Sub holds the power, deceiving the Dom in to beleiving the power is in his/her hands "

No deception? A true Dom or Master knows that in a Dom/sub relationship its the sub that has the quiet control.This takes trust understanding and communication. Never deceipt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long should a sub wait until she is allowed to meet with her chosen Dom ?

I've had a couple D/s relationships.

You should meet as soon as you can, no chemistry no commitment!

"

He keeps makin me wait i no i should say goodbye but im already emotionally attached,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never thought of myself in anyway shape or form either dom or sub.

However I do have a closeness to someone and a desire for him to take me to a place sexually I've never been before.

I can't explain 'why' it's only ever him, that's made me feel like this.

I'm all of a muddle as it goes against everything I thought I believed in.

i have never had anyone get under my skin so much and in such a powerful way before.

I'm all confused but all your posts have made me think more and given me some enlightenment and also scared me slightly.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

The most submissive person I have ever met was in a very powerful position. I suspect letting go sexually, was the flip side to her position.

However, it was her character strength that allowed her to be this way sensually, sexually and submissively.

Equally she had her finger on the button of switching the control off, yet she never did.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Topping from the bottom eh? I find that so sexy

Isn't that what true submission really is? The submissive has all the power. NO dominant should do anything the sub doesn't wish, so who really has the power?"

And that my love is what it's al about really

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I also think being dominant, ie taking the lead and being physical is different from domination. I do not want a slave and have no desire to own anyone. I don't sleep with people I have no respect for and, physically hurting someone I respect, goes against the grain for me.

I think true domination is different things to different people and rarely involves abuse, either physical or verbal (that's humiliation, a whole different thing) and whilst I'll quite hapily spank someone's ass if it excites her, I have been asked to face slap, and that's not something I'm comfortable with (subs that desire abuse are not for me). And domination outside of the bedroom holds no appeal for me.

The experiences I have had, have indeed all been about fulfilling the subs fantasies, and my gratification was I knowing I gave them that, as I say, being topped from the bottom.

It's all about communication, agreed boundaries and trust. I consider myself dominant but have no desire to be classed as a Dom.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I also think being dominant, ie taking the lead and being physical is different from domination. I do not want a slave and have no desire to own anyone. I don't sleep with people I have no respect for and, physically hurting someone I respect, goes against the grain for me.

I think true domination is different things to different people and rarely involves abuse, either physical or verbal (that's humiliation, a whole different thing) and whilst I'll quite hapily spank someone's ass if it excites her, I have been asked to face slap, and that's not something I'm comfortable with (subs that desire abuse are not for me). And domination outside of the bedroom holds no appeal for me.

The experiences I have had, have indeed all been about fulfilling the subs fantasies, and my gratification was I knowing I gave them that, as I say, being topped from the bottom.

It's all about communication, agreed boundaries and trust. I consider myself dominant but have no desire to be classed as a Dom."

Oh, I don't know, I have a bit of a thing about role playing a Roman slave girl type orgy.

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

I say im a Domanant. Before im shouted down i believe that domanace starts waaaay outside the bedroom.

In fact only about 10% involves sex.

Its more about developing trust, understanding and (a phrase i hate) getting in her head.

Its small and subtle and eventually leads to bigger things. I say eventually because a true Dom needs to learn about you before doing anything domly.

Its not always about the physical, any guy who leaps in with slapping is a damn fool. I am a loving domanant, i reward what i like and NEVER EVER punish.

Your not a dog and dont need whipping for being bad.

in fact if your bad, id say no to the whipping lol.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rough sex

Violent sex

Not dominance.

True dominance is the ability to whisper softly in her ear...

To give a single look....

Then observe as she obediently offers her entire self to you.

Willingly

Without hesitation or reservation.

Knowing her most vulnerable self is in fact revered and cared for without question."

that is total control

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

I'm very open sexually with very few limits x

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By *asokittyWoman
over a year ago

Nr Worksop


"truly consider themselves submissive and, to what level?

I've been lucky to have met some truly submissive ladies who do as they're told and are happy to be restrained and treated very physically, hair pulled whilst going down on me, pinned down or tied up and fucked hard, neck held as she's fucked, not allowed to cum until I say, there is something incredibly erotic about a woman in lingerie, being edged, and having her ass smacked for getting carried away, until she's begging for the release of orgasm. Of course, she's always rewarded with affection and gentle lovemaking .... if she deserves it.

Whats your limit, and is this the norm for you ? Got to say, that the majority of my meets are a little less 'full on' but regardless, I do like to take control and be very physical nonetheless, its the only aerobic exercise I take

I can be but, not super submissive.

I can handle ...

Hair pulling when fucking

Hand around my neck

Being tied and blindfolded

Denial

Ass smacked

Have no idea what level that would be? "

This yes.

Submissive....not in a million years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very submissive. I very much being told what to do and being given a slap for mis behaving. Blind folded and tied up. Orgasm denial. Spanking. Being flogged. Also tits slapped until bruised and love being left with lovely bruises and marks. I find nothing more attractive than a man who can make me do anything he wants And makes me want to please him in all ways Possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a fwb to whom I submit, it's taken time to reach where we are now and I was initially wary. Turns out I'm a painslut but only with him, still consider myself a switch bit couldn't just meet someone and play sub or domme straight away.

I see it separate to more straightforward sex as it involves, as has already been stated, communication and time to develop trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very submissive. I very much being told what to do and being given a slap for mis behaving. Blind folded and tied up. Orgasm denial. Spanking. Being flogged. Also tits slapped until bruised and love being left with lovely bruises and marks. I find nothing more attractive than a man who can make me do anything he wants And makes me want to please him in all ways Possible. "
your very sexy

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"How long should a sub wait until she is allowed to meet with her chosen Dom ?

I've had a couple D/s relationships.

You should meet as soon as you can, no chemistry no commitment!

He keeps makin me wait i no i should say goodbye but im already emotionally attached, "

Why do you think he is making you wait?

I think you need to tread carefully. A Dominant that has your best interests at heart as they should do will have nothing to hide. Would also imho want to meet asap to demonstrate that and start to get a much better understanding of you and your needs, not to mention to see if you 'fit' each other.

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