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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering is it the first time that people have been brought into courtroom to give evidence of what sort of meet they had with another person. It's come to my notice this week in a murder trial where a lady was on a bdsm site and was subsequently murdered by a guy she met online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is scary.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It certainly is and the men she met their faces were on every news paper over here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a couple up here murdered a guy after keepin him as a slave for months beating and starved! then killed

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think lots of people take their safety when they meet very lightly. I'm often horrified by the risks men and women take in going alone to houses of people they barely know. I also wonder what goes through the heads of people who invite strangers to try and seduce their unaware partner.

This is the internet where any of us can be anybody we want.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"a couple up here murdered a guy after keepin him as a slave for months beating and starved! then killed

poor man

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It does make you think and when i get grief for not inviting someone straight to mine i point things like this out to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hence why clubs are supposed to be safer. The single women on sites like this really do need to take extra care. Even as a couple we are still very cautious.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Men need to have a care too. People who would be horrified if their kids went to the house of someone they met on the net will cheerfully turn up at a random internetters house and make themselves vulnerable in the worst way i.e. naked and defenceless. Of course 99% of the time it's fine but a lady from here tells the tale of entering a hotel room to meet a single man to find several guys he'd invited to take part in a gang bang and if I remember right he'd taken money from them.

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By *ndykinkyMan
over a year ago

STOKE-ON-TRENT

Club meets are definitely safer, one lady I have met went to a guy's hotel room to meet before coming to the club. She ended up phoning a friend to help as the guy wouldn't let her out of the hotel room.

Always meet at a club or public place until you get to know someone.

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By *aylor8Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

For me safety always comes first, I always meet socially in a public place first and I always have a lift so someone knows where I am. For some people they get the buzz from the danger..

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Disturbing these acts are but thete are evil wicked people out there.

Why people don,t use the same safety common sense as they would on other date is beyond me.

No matter what level of fun you eventually wish to have.

Meet public place

Confirm identity of person

Exchange mob numbs

Check verifications

Keep alcohol intake to minimum

Never be afraid to say no and walk away.

If possible safety in numbers/ groups.

Ask the right questions

Good one for ladies ask to meet a friend either a few hours after meet or next day. Ifyou do,nt show maybe alarm bells may ring.

Obviousley its impossible to to cover all angles sometimes its just down to gut instinct. Theres always an element of risk, the buzz for some, you may just have to take a leap of faith.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in the case up here! it was the female who was dom! she got her partner to invite the guy round!things went from there!

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

Always have a safety call.

Tell someone you know your going on a date. Have them call you at least once during the date as piece of mind.

Call - not text.

Tell your date this will happen. He/she wont mind and may have his own call.

Tell your caller that you will call again at the end of the date.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I have always taken safety measures, even from the initial first point of contact. I've had a man accuse me of being a technophobe, because I wouldn't give out my mobile number out after 4 messages, even after being pestered for it with every message he sent; been blocked, because I said I prefered to meet in a hotel instead of meeting in a random strangers house; and been taken off a couple friend's list, because I wouldn't send a face pic and discuss about meeting earlier in the contact.

Whether my measures are right or wrong, I'm not going to lower them and put my safety at risk. Those who are patient and understanding, are those I would like to meet.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

We had a single friend on here that we known for years in the ' vanilla world'... She met men on her own. Always gave me ( mrs) details of meets address and phone numbers .... And used to txt me that all ok etc ....

Luckely all her meets were ok ... Apart from some who obviously had issues from the behaviour they showed after

As a couple we are always aware of what going on around us... Yes we have been to peoples homes... And all been totaly on point and how all should be

A false sense of security is all it takes to be in a situation you may regret, big time ... Be safe and trust your own instincts ...

Is propa frightening to hear of what can happen .

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Men need to have a care too. People who would be horrified if their kids went to the house of someone they met on the net will cheerfully turn up at a random internetters house and make themselves vulnerable in the worst way i.e. naked and defenceless. Of course 99% of the time it's fine but a lady from here tells the tale of entering a hotel room to meet a single man to find several guys he'd invited to take part in a gang bang and if I remember right he'd taken money from them."

Yes, I remember that too and her cautionary tale always springs to my mind when people post about the thrill of spontaneous meets etc.

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By *atinbootsTV/TS
over a year ago

Market Rasen

Some good advice in here, ultimately you need to make sure you've got an exit strategy well prepared as if you need to get out in a hurry, then it's better to be ready rather than not... I once got set about on by a group of four lads who chased me in my car from a spot where I'd been for a walk. Good job I knew the area, lost them in a heartbeat... Hate to contemplate what might have happened that night. Now that *was* scary...

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