FabSwingers.com forum: what do couples look for...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm keen to experience the mmf side of swinging and I realise a single male cant just expect to wade in cock in hand between couple that obviously have a loving, fiercely protective bond and to share something so intimate must always be a huge risk..

But what do you couple look for if you're looking for a single male

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

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You are going to get a different answer from every poster, but I would say that respect is going to be a top answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are going to get a different answer from every poster, but I would say that respect is going to be a top answer."

I would expect that to be a given but how would you possibly show that in a message let alone a profile.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are going to get a different answer from every poster, but I would say that respect is going to be a top answer."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest it's more about attitude for us. If a man is cocky or overconfident then that puts us off completely. The whole experience for us should be about mutual enjoyment and if we think a guy (or a woman or couple for that matter) will be out to prove how great he is it changes the whole dynamic. We want to play with people who are respectful and fun so that we can all have a say in what goes on together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are going to get a different answer from every poster, but I would say that respect is going to be a top answer."

could not agree more. Respectful, politeness, gsoh, hold a good conversation and be yourself. everything else falls into place. Just because you are on a swinging site.does not mean you get to behave like an arse.....an instant turn off to most couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a previous life I used to play regularly in clubs and parties with a lady. Most certainly the thing we would look for was lack of arrogance. Just be reached and let the couple dictate the pace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm keen to experience the mmf side of swinging and I realise a single male cant just expect to wade in cock in hand between couple that obviously have a loving, fiercely protective bond and to share something so intimate must always be a huge risk..

But what do you couple look for if you're looking for a single male

Someone confident (not arrogant - BIG difference), easygoing, fun and who can go with the flow - doesn't view himself as being in competition with the partner of the female.

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*be relaxed*

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

"You are going to get a different answer from every poster, but I would say that respect is going to be a top answer.

I would expect that to be a given but how would you possibly show that in a message let alone a profile.x"

You would expect it to be a given, but if you see some of the messages I/we get, respect can seem to be in short supply.

On our couples profile we get messages from single guys and couples who seem to ignore the fact that as a M/F couple there is another male involved, my husband. They sometimes seem to believe we are in some kind of cuck relationship or that he isn't enough for me. That couldn't be further from the truth.

I would actually be quite happy if the man who contacts us, either the male half of the couple or single guy, didn't concentrate on me, rather built a rapport with my husband. Because if he isn't happy with the man nothing will happen.

Of course the opposite applies to, if I don't get on with the woman there will be nothing further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit shallow I know but looks, has to be an attraction then if we both like face pics then a little skype chat then if we click then let the fun begin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are going to get a different answer from every poster, but I would say that respect is going to be a top answer.

I would expect that to be a given but how would you possibly show that in a message let alone a profile.x

You would expect it to be a given, but if you see some of the messages I/we get, respect can seem to be in short supply.

Of course the opposite applies to, if I don't get on with the woman there will be nothing further."
This is so true! So many contact us but just assume they are talking to the female half of the couple which is completely disrespectful, or we've even had messages saying that he will show her what a real man can do etc, which is annoying but also kind of funny I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would actually be quite happy if the man who contacts us, either the male half of the couple or single guy, didn't concentrate on me, rather built a rapport with my husband."

I agree completely!

we are looking for someone at the moment and we experience the same.

and yes, respectful, being sensitive on how the atmosphere is and how far you can go.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Acknowledging were a couple and no assumptions who they're chatting to.

People who say they're going to blow our minds are an instant put off.

And we really can't abide those who message us thinking we're lacking anything in our relationship. We're not. We do this, not because we're missing anything but because we love the thrill of meeting people and trying new things.

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By *inups99Couple
over a year ago

manchester

We always insist on a social meeting first and agree about the respect angle - the guy has to remember it's a couple he's with and not just the woman. I also try to imagine if I can see the guy fucking my wife and if I'd be happy to let him as well as watching to see if she is enjoying his company at a social.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"To be honest it's more about attitude for us. If a man is cocky or overconfident then that puts us off completely. The whole experience for us should be about mutual enjoyment and if we think a guy (or a woman or couple for that matter) will be out to prove how great he is it changes the whole dynamic. We want to play with people who are respectful and fun so that we can all have a say in what goes on together "

Yeah, this. Someone who is respectful and fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with always remember you're talking to a couple but I find the guys that only address my husband as rude as the one's that act as if I don't have one lol.

We get a lot of messages talking to Clarence like I'm owned by him and hired out

' Hi the lady is so sexy, please could I meet with her' lol

Address both and just relax, we don't all bite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty much everything we'd like to see if we were ever to consider single men has been said.

Polite, respectful of the fact that there's two of us, confident but not cocky, pleasing to the eye for Mrs N, an easy conversationalist for me, most of all.....he's got to be single not the other kind if 'single'

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Respectful, polite and inclusive of the 2 of us. We met lovely single guy Thursday who treated us with kindness and repsect and got same in return. We met a couple, no longer on here, in January and the guy was very pushy and talking about what he would do to K as if it was a given. Without sounding like me mum, treat as if you'd wanted to be treated yourself. And no one-liners or assumptions about stuff that isnt offered on the profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple who looks after themselves really catches my eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't really care, because it would never happen from simply messages on a website. Far better to meet couples at clubs, admittedly it will take time to build up a rapport with them. However, we would only consider inviting a single guy into the fun and games once that has been firmly established.

By the way your profile seems pleasant, we would suggest losing the cock pics, put to visible by friends only and have some pictures of yourself dressed smart, exclude face for privacy purposes etc

Good luck fella..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look for people who can string more than a few words together, confident without being cocky and if they can make us laugh even better. Respect for us both as well although we are a cuck couple its a fantasy that both of us share. If we weren't meeting people we'd still have a pretty good sex life, single guys are there to enhance it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The art of asking what the lady drinks has been lost when meeting at the couples house its just respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The art of asking what the lady drinks has been lost when meeting at the couples house its just respect"

Bottle of wine for a shag.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The art of asking what the lady drinks has been lost when meeting at the couples house its just respect"

Why just the lady?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The art of asking what the lady drinks has been lost when meeting at the couples house its just respect

Bottle of wine for a shag.

Seems fair to me, I've had men ask me for two bottles to come anywhere near me.

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