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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Let's see if can get together or just share experiences married but playing away only please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck.....in my honest opinion if you are playing away and your Mrs doesn't know that makes you a cheat not a swinger

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

OP, you're wasting your time. All you'll get is a tirade of why married people are the spawn of satan.

And there's plenty of those threads here already

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe I will try again and use " spawn of satin" as my subject

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses."

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Ah yes, defining who is allowed to join in on the thread and who isn't. Good plan! That always works!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses."

Well said..... people only have affairs if they're not happy with their relationship.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Affairs may be nothing new, and as long as I don't get dragged into it, married people can fuck whomever they like. I'll always think posting threads and bragging about it is a bit sad though.

If you actually don't care what other people think, just get on with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses."

I rarely dismount to go against my morals and my comment was ''not'' a personal attack

That guilty conscience is your issue not mine my lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses.

Well said..... people only have affairs if they're not happy with their relationship. "

Guess those people should man up and grow a set of ovaries then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Satin is calling where are you f******

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Satin is calling where are you f******"

Satin? Too cheap to spring for silk?

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

My marriage has been shit for years. I respect myself too much to sit at home lonely and bored woke he's out getting d*unk with his mate (s).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My marriage has been shit for years. I respect myself too much to sit at home lonely and bored woke he's out getting d*unk with his mate (s)."

Respecting yourself ?

By putting up with shit for years ???

Makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Affairs may be nothing new, and as long as I don't get dragged into it, married people can fuck whomever they like. I'll always think posting threads and bragging about it is a bit sad though.

If you actually don't care what other people think, just get on with it."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guess there's just us two twats then. Night all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your marriage is shit get a divorcee ?of you sleep with others with out your spouses consent your a dirty cheating rat, get on Jeremy Kyle and sort your life out

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By *edsBonkingMan
over a year ago

Near MK


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses."

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By *onkers 76Man
over a year ago

pontypool


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses. "

I'm married and playing away so yes I'm a cheat deserve to be publicly shot and all the other bullshit . But how many are doing the same and don't say they are? I'm guessing lots. If you don't like it so fucking what if I wanted shit I'd squeeze your head !!!!!! Rant over

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

The site caters for all, there are lots of people who will play and that is cool.

People should just get on with it. It causes me no angst.

I just don't see the need to glory in the fact, to inflict potential hurt on a person who is absent from the site is one thing, to grandstand it is distasteful.

Just get on with it with people who will do their thing with you.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"The site caters for all, there are lots of people who will play and that is cool.

People should just get on with it. It causes me no angst.

I just don't see the need to glory in the fact, to inflict potential hurt on a person who is absent from the site is one thing, to grandstand it is distasteful.

Just get on with it with people who will do their thing with you. "

What he said

I play with attached and unattached...my only problem with attached can be a clock watching thing (if local). I'Ve cheated on all three of my major relationships, and I carried on with my marriage long after it was dead, but fortunately (for both of us), I eventually ended it - I'm happily single (after a couple of blips), he's happily married and living in the US

I also can empathise with those in a relationship, possibly with children or financial reasons who can't or won't get out of it, or who still love their other halves even though the sexual element may be dead.

Get on with it, and don't bother slagging off those who chose not meet attached folk - we're all on here for our own reasons and for everyone that won't meet a cheater, there's some desperate owd slapper like me who probably will

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By *andS66Couple
over a year ago

Derby


"My marriage has been shit for years. I respect myself too much to sit at home lonely and bored woke he's out getting d*unk with his mate (s)."

There must be a reason why he goes out without you...

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

I want to know if you are married and claim to love your partner, how can you do something that you know would hurt them so badly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok so im married and i dont care what people think ,we all have needs.

You can chat to ur wife abt things all u like and try ur hardest to keep things in the bedroom sweet but its not always roses in married life.

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Life is all about choices x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

The trouble with 'spawn of satin' titles is that you get the holier than thou silk brigade who are only one up from nylon anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life is all about choices x"

I thought it was a roller coaster?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses.

Well said..... people only have affairs if they're not happy with their relationship. "

Then sort out the relationship. Or end it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My marriage has been shit for years. I respect myself too much to sit at home lonely and bored woke he's out getting d*unk with his mate (s)."

But on the face of it you don't respect yourself enough to get out of an unhappy marriage which clearly isn't working for either of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site caters for all, there are lots of people who will play and that is cool.

People should just get on with it. It causes me no angst.

I just don't see the need to glory in the fact, to inflict potential hurt on a person who is absent from the site is one thing, to grandstand it is distasteful.

Just get on with it with people who will do their thing with you.

What he said

I play with attached and unattached...my only problem with attached can be a clock watching thing (if local). I'Ve cheated on all three of my major relationships, and I carried on with my marriage long after it was dead, but fortunately (for both of us), I eventually ended it - I'm happily single (after a couple of blips), he's happily married and living in the US

I also can empathise with those in a relationship, possibly with children or financial reasons who can't or won't get out of it, or who still love their other halves even though the sexual element may be dead.

Get on with it, and don't bother slagging off those who chose not meet attached folk - we're all on here for our own reasons and for everyone that won't meet a cheater, there's some desperate owd slapper like me who probably will "

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

I don't judge others for fear that they may judge me

That's my stance

I meet married men who cheat

My rationale is that I'm not the one lying

They are

Oh and I'm not a swinger really

Just a sexy Domme slag

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I find more unpleasant than infidelity is people who having made the decision to cheat insist on publicly slagging off their partners sometimes for the most trivial of reasons It's vile and pathetic. And there's a few that do it on the forums with such frequency it astounds me

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"What I find more unpleasant than infidelity is people who having made the decision to cheat insist on publicly slagging off their partners sometimes for the most trivial of reasons It's vile and pathetic. And there's a few that do it on the forums with such frequency it astounds me"

I agree

I don't think that's appropriate behaviour

Divorce is always an option

I've done it twice when I was unhappy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life is all about choices x"

I thought it was like a box of chocolates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Affairs may be nothing new, and as long as I don't get dragged into it, married people can fuck whomever they like. I'll always think posting threads and bragging about it is a bit sad though.

If you actually don't care what other people think, just get on with it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing I will say on this post is ,I would be devastated if my husband cheated on me. I would feel even more humiliated if he had been advertising the fact on a public forum as if it were no big deal. I would feel completely disrespected if he had put my sexual health in danger without my knowledge. But most of all the deceit would tear me apart. That said, we are in a happy,secure, loving and strong marriage and every scenario is different. I suspect those who cheat are not so because there is no way you would be able to do it if you were. Or am I wrong ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My marriage has been shit for years. I respect myself too much to sit at home lonely and bored woke he's out getting d*unk with his mate (s).

There must be a reason why he goes out without you..."

People go off each other, it happens, I was in a sexless marriage for the last eight years, we did nothing together, we make no effort to fix it as inside we both knew it was over and way past the point of any return, I stayed with him because the kids, they were young and didn't understand, I found somewhere to live a couple of times in that times and both times when it came to going my kids would start crying because they didn't want to leave their daddy, so what do you do, take your children away crying or put down what you want? So I staid over and over because it was what my children wanted

We did end up splitting up eventually when the kids were old enough to understand

Sometimes it really isn't as easy as ....if your not happy leave

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By *ipswingCouple
over a year ago

portrush


"Good luck.....in my honest opinion if you are playing away and your Mrs doesn't know that makes you a cheat not a swinger "

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"My marriage has been shit for years. I respect myself too much to sit at home lonely and bored woke he's out getting d*unk with his mate (s).

There must be a reason why he goes out without you...

People go off each other, it happens, I was in a sexless marriage for the last eight years, we did nothing together, we make no effort to fix it as inside we both knew it was over and way past the point of any return, I stayed with him because the kids, they were young and didn't understand, I found somewhere to live a couple of times in that times and both times when it came to going my kids would start crying because they didn't want to leave their daddy, so what do you do, take your children away crying or put down what you want? So I staid over and over because it was what my children wanted

We did end up splitting up eventually when the kids were old enough to understand

Sometimes it really isn't as easy as ....if your not happy leave "

I agree with you

I left lost everything including my kids respect

belongings friends and a good job

Let those in glass houses think it'll never be a choice they ever have to make

Because it's a fucking shit choice to make

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Life is all about choices x

I thought it was a roller coaster?

"

Nope but it's not a bowl of cherries apparently.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I'm sorry but there is absolutely no excuse to be a lying cheating scumbag. I deplore people who do it, and who justify themselves. There is no justification!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it's just the thrill of the chase, maybe a mid life crisis.. Possibly onece done you find the grass isn't greener or maybe that illicit affair sparks a whole new interest with your spouse

And you don't need to stray again.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"Sometimes it's just the thrill of the chase, maybe a mid life crisis.. Possibly onece done you find the grass isn't greener or maybe that illicit affair sparks a whole new interest with your spouse

And you don't need to stray again."

Agreed

I was totally faithful in both my marriages

My second husband had a long affair but I only divorced him when he insisted on wanting children with her

Imagine what that would have done to our children

So I threw him out

Like I said

All these perfect couples with their very negative comments can't honestly say that one day it won't be them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's see if can get together or just share experiences married but playing away only please. "

Ohhhhhhhh yeah I got a cool story.

When I was a kid my mum decided that she would cheat on my dad because he was working very long hrs to provide for us.

When he found out it tore our family to pieces and my dad never recovered from his broken heart.

Is this the kind of story you wanted?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses.

"

Good for you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Affairs may be nothing new, and as long as I don't get dragged into it, married people can fuck whomever they like. I'll always think posting threads and bragging about it is a bit sad though.

If you actually don't care what other people think, just get on with it."

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I have tested positive for chlamydia. You will need to go to your clinic for treatment and inform anyone else you have been with".

I often wonder what married and playing away people would do if they got the above as a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck.....in my honest opinion if you are playing away and your Mrs doesn't know that makes you a cheat not a swinger "

Preach it sister! Preach! Agree 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""hi. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I have tested positive for chlamydia. You will need to go to your clinic for treatment and inform anyone else you have been with".

I often wonder what married and playing away people would do if they got the above as a message. "

I would have though people playing away more than anyone would use comdoms to stop the above ever happening

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By *rown eyes 8Woman
over a year ago

South Eastern Spain and Scotland


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses."

Well said.....at least you are very honest,more than some of the pretenders. I wish you well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never met married/attached guys and never will, just not for me, I want no part of playing with someone else's partner behind their back. I don't judge, I don't care why they're here, its none of my business but all I'd say is, if the person concerned had the tables turned on them and their other half was doing it, how would they feel? If it wouldn't bother them then crack on, its your life but it ultimately involves another if it goes tits up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""hi. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I have tested positive for chlamydia. You will need to go to your clinic for treatment and inform anyone else you have been with".

I often wonder what married and playing away people would do if they got the above as a message. "

I did get this message. i panicked and got tested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheats are different to swingers for sure. Affairs aren't new to the world, but in my eyes there's no justification to staying together if you're unhappy or lying to yourself, or your own children - in words or actions.

It's entirely personal choice, but it'll never end well as a thread because cheating isn't 'swinging' and it's being honest about being dishonest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a lot of holier than thou people on here for a swinging site apart from couples how do u know u havent met a married guy or lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never met married/attached guys and never will, just not for me, I want no part of playing with someone else's partner behind their back. I don't judge, I don't care why they're here, its none of my business but all I'd say is, if the person concerned had the tables turned on them and their other half was doing it, how would they feel? If it wouldn't bother them then crack on, its your life but it ultimately involves another if it goes tits up. "

How do you know you haven't met attached guys?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"There is a lot of holier than thou people on here for a swinging site apart from couples how do u know u havent met a married guy or lady "

I probably have in a club setting as you tend not to go into great details but when I look for a meet I tend not to want to meet attached males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are three types of person in this worls, dicks pussies and assholes.

Pussies don't like dicks because pussies get fucked by dicks. But dicks also fuck assholes. Assholes that just want to shit on everything. Pussies may think they can deal with assholes their way. But the only thing that can fuck a asshole is a dick, with some balls. The problem with dicks is they fuck too much or fuck when it isn't appropriate. And it takes a pussy to show them that. But sometimes pussies can be so full of shit that they become assholes themselves. Because pussies are a inch and half away from assholes. I don't know much about this crazy crazy world, but I do know this. If you don't let us fuck this asshole we're going to have our dicks and pussies all covered in shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just like to point out that though I have had my say in this thread I never cheated on my ex, I was lucky that he didn't give a shit about me or what I did so I had no need to, I told him I was going to see other guys if I wasn't getting sex from him and he didn't care, he just shrugged and said do what you want, so I did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably get shot down for this ... Is a nsa meet different from an affair?

Discuss...

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Probably get shot down for this ... Is a nsa meet different from an affair?

Discuss..."

Er, my NSA meets are very different from affairs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""hi. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I have tested positive for chlamydia. You will need to go to your clinic for treatment and inform anyone else you have been with".

I often wonder what married and playing away people would do if they got the above as a message.

I would have though people playing away more than anyone would use comdoms to stop the above ever happening "

Not in my experience. Not met a guy who has insisted on a condom for oral yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cheats are different to swingers for sure. Affairs aren't new to the world, but in my eyes there's no justification to staying together if you're unhappy or lying to yourself, or your own children - in words or actions.

It's entirely personal choice, but it'll never end well as a thread because cheating isn't 'swinging' and it's being honest about being dishonest "

Agree totally, cheating is simply just that; cheating.

It isn't swinging.

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham


"My marriage has been shit for years. I respect myself too much to sit at home lonely and bored woke he's out getting d*unk with his mate (s).

There must be a reason why he goes out without you...

People go off each other, it happens, I was in a sexless marriage for the last eight years, we did nothing together, we make no effort to fix it as inside we both knew it was over and way past the point of any return, I stayed with him because the kids, they were young and didn't understand, I found somewhere to live a couple of times in that times and both times when it came to going my kids would start crying because they didn't want to leave their daddy, so what do you do, take your children away crying or put down what you want? So I staid over and over because it was what my children wanted

We did end up splitting up eventually when the kids were old enough to understand

Sometimes it really isn't as easy as ....if your not happy leave "

this

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By *3xymamaWoman
over a year ago

Uptown Top Ranking

Each to their own I say. I'm totally single and do my own thing. I'm not here to judge anyone else. People have have their reasons and also have to deal with their own conscience. I don't meet sexually that often but enjoy the social aspect. You can't have too many friends is my motto

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Probably get shot down for this ... Is a nsa meet different from an affair?

Discuss..."

In my opinion an affair will involve the emotions hence it's often termed "a love affair" while nsa is just that, no strings attached.

One will break somebody's heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile "

You usually get a inkling that they are attached when speaking to them...it's not difficult to suss out

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

I've been approached on swingers sites for years by the male of the cpl asking me to meet him alone without her knowing

Just this week in fact

As I keep saying

People in glass houses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile "

You don't

I met a guy a few times who was a single guy who accommodated, never gave it a second thought, went to his flat several times, then one time he hasn't done such a good job of clearing away her things before I came round, there were several tell tail signs a woman had been there, when I questioned him he admitted he lived with his girlfiend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always meet socially first in a local pub/coffee shop or similar, married men generally won't be seen with another woman so close to home and I only go to their place for fun. After chatting for a bit its usually pretty obvious if people are married or not.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile

You usually get a inkling that they are attached when speaking to them...it's not difficult to suss out "

And I'd rather they be honest than lie and say they are single when clearly they are not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been approached on swingers sites for years by the male of the cpl asking me to meet him alone without her knowing

Just this week in fact

As I keep saying

People in glass houses

"

I get it too

Its surprising how many people in loving swinging relationships are looking to play alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably get shot down for this ... Is a nsa meet different from an affair?

Discuss...

In my opinion an affair will involve the emotions hence it's often termed "a love affair" while nsa is just that, no strings attached.

One will break somebody's heart."

Both would break someone's heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile

You usually get a inkling that they are attached when speaking to them...it's not difficult to suss out "

Easy to spot attached people.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"I've been approached on swingers sites for years by the male of the cpl asking me to meet him alone without her knowing

Just this week in fact

As I keep saying

People in glass houses

I get it too

Its surprising how many people in loving swinging relationships are looking to play alone "

Yes alone is one thing

With permission if you like

But she can't find out!

Really!

I get messages like it every week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile

You usually get a inkling that they are attached when speaking to them...it's not difficult to suss out

Easy to spot attached people. "

hell yes

.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Probably get shot down for this ... Is a nsa meet different from an affair?

Discuss...

In my opinion an affair will involve the emotions hence it's often termed "a love affair" while nsa is just that, no strings attached.

One will break somebody's heart.

Both would break someone's heart."

Yep! I thought that after I typed it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably get shot down for this ... Is a nsa meet different from an affair?

Discuss...

In my opinion an affair will involve the emotions hence it's often termed "a love affair" while nsa is just that, no strings attached.

One will break somebody's heart.

Both would break someone's heart.

Yep! I thought that after I typed it. "

and both could break the innocent parties heart. Ie the partner

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"Probably get shot down for this ... Is a nsa meet different from an affair?

Discuss...

In my opinion an affair will involve the emotions hence it's often termed "a love affair" while nsa is just that, no strings attached.

One will break somebody's heart.

Both would break someone's heart.

Yep! I thought that after I typed it.

and both could break the innocent parties heart. Ie the partner"

Hearts mend

People move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am genuinely single. However one of my (very) regular playmates is married.

Her husband is very much aware of what she does, has access to her profile etc. and is ok with it. For others the partner isn't aware and that is for their conscience and a decision others can make if or not to play with them.

The OP is being honest about his status (if not with his wife) so that people can make an informed decision about him.

Far too many "single" people on here (guessing mostly but not exclusively guys) are not fronting up on this. Hence why many ladies I know will not meet guys who cannot accommodate. It is easier for them to simply assume they are attached and to pass on and block.

I make no judgement on the OP myself...but know many ladies who, on receiving a message, would check profile and delete and block. That's fair enough.....he narrows his target audience...but will still have success as we all do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile

You usually get a inkling that they are attached when speaking to them...it's not difficult to suss out

Easy to spot attached people.

hell yes

....."
am i attached???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile

You usually get a inkling that they are attached when speaking to them...it's not difficult to suss out

Easy to spot attached people.

hell yes

..... am i attached???"

never spoke u via messages and not likely either

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Probably get shot down for this ... Is a nsa meet different from an affair?

Discuss...

In my opinion an affair will involve the emotions hence it's often termed "a love affair" while nsa is just that, no strings attached.

One will break somebody's heart.

Both would break someone's heart.

Yep! I thought that after I typed it.

and both could break the innocent parties heart. Ie the partner"

I think the potential is there for a lot of hurt all round. I'm not sure we can assume innocence on behalf of the absent partner though that for me is my main objection to advertising your extra marital status as a badge of honour, the other person has no opportunity to put their side but we are asked not to pass any sort of judgement on the person posting.

Do what you want but don't involve us is our philosophy on this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile

You usually get a inkling that they are attached when speaking to them...it's not difficult to suss out

Easy to spot attached people.

hell yes

..... am i attached???

never spoke u via messages and not likely either "
wasnt inviting you to chat i was commenting on wether i was single so roll ya necks in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My preference is I don't want to meet attached men, however, you don't always know for sure if they are attached or not.

I think the only time I'd let the rule slide is in a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile

You usually get a inkling that they are attached when speaking to them...it's not difficult to suss out

Easy to spot attached people.

hell yes

..... am i attached???

never spoke u via messages and not likely either wasnt inviting you to chat i was commenting on wether i was single so roll ya necks in "

being on here a while. People know the signs on messages and some profiles scresms they are attached.

Most women suss it out early on as some men don't care about a cheating wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My preference is I don't want to meet attached men, however, you don't always know for sure if they are attached or not.

I think the only time I'd let the rule slide is in a club. "

I don't even ask in clubs and if someone in a club started asking me about my home life I think I'd walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

This is TRUE

Some people cheat

Some swingers cheat

Get used to it

It won't change

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

There are some very successful married people on here who go quietly about their business without feeling the need to splash it all over the forums (NOT a euphemism ). We know several married men socially from here, some their wives know and either tolerate or celebrate and some their wives have no idea, one guy's wife found out.......it wasn't pretty.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"This is TRUE

Some people cheat

Some swingers cheat

Get used to it

It won't change "

Yep. Like politics and religion people will always have an opinion though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck.....in my honest opinion if you are playing away and your Mrs doesn't know that makes you a cheat not a swinger "

^^^^^^^ agreed ^^^^^^^^^^

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm another one

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"This is TRUE

Some people cheat

Some swingers cheat

Get used to it

It won't change

Yep. Like politics and religion people will always have an opinion though."

Options are great

Debates again great

Downright abuse and judgment and negative comments less great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My preference is I don't want to meet attached men, however, you don't always know for sure if they are attached or not.

I think the only time I'd let the rule slide is in a club.

I don't even ask in clubs and if someone in a club started asking me about my home life I think I'd walk away "

No I wouldn't ask in a club. If someone got talking to me and I noticed they had a ring on I would ignore it and not talk about it unless they bought it up, then I'd decide there and then at that convo if I wanted to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest If someone is married and they are on here it's their business, risk and prerogative.

I'm not gonna judge as I don't feel it's my place it's their life and they can do what they please..

As long as the people involved are consenting, to me, that is all that matters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses."

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area


"Ok so im married and i dont care what people think ,we all have needs.

You can chat to ur wife abt things all u like and try ur hardest to keep things in the bedroom sweet but its not always roses in married life."

Shes probably just as bored as you are ... why dont you introduce her to fab .... it might relight the fire x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses."
too many judged on this site who cares about people private lifea it private for a.reason you only live once so make the most of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My preference is I don't want to meet attached men, however, you don't always know for sure if they are attached or not.

I think the only time I'd let the rule slide is in a club.

I don't even ask in clubs and if someone in a club started asking me about my home life I think I'd walk away "

i admit in a club i dont ask. unless i see a ring mark on theor finger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to know if you are married and claim to love your partner, how can you do something that you know would hurt them so badly."

Something that will definitely hurt them (saying you want to end it) versus something that MIGHT, only IF found out? Weighing up the risks it's a no brainer for me. Does this make me cold and calculating? Probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so im married and i dont care what people think ,we all have needs.

You can chat to ur wife abt things all u like and try ur hardest to keep things in the bedroom sweet but its not always roses in married life.

Shes probably just as bored as you are ... why dont you introduce her to fab .... it might relight the fire x"

Take it from me, swinging will never fix a broken marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok then ... I'm not a cheat but I live with my ex because of our daughter and plus I couldn't afford to live on my own so it suites us best she's got her life and I've got mine but we keep it away from the house because of our daughter ... Nuffink said

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"My preference is I don't want to meet attached men, however, you don't always know for sure if they are attached or not.

I think the only time I'd let the rule slide is in a club.

I don't even ask in clubs and if someone in a club started asking me about my home life I think I'd walk away

i admit in a club i dont ask. unless i see a ring mark on theor finger"

Me neither but apart from feeling it's not the right thing for me to do, I don't (knowingly) meet married people from here, or similar sites, is that I don't want to get caught up in drama.

Via here they have a means to contact me, and they'll have my 'phone number and may know where I live. There's a risk of angry calls or texts if they get caught, or a furious partner turning up at my house.

Meeting someone anonymously in a club has none of those risks.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"I want to know if you are married and claim to love your partner, how can you do something that you know would hurt them so badly.

Something that will definitely hurt them (saying you want to end it) versus something that MIGHT, only IF found out? Weighing up the risks it's a no brainer for me. Does this make me cold and calculating? Probably. "

It's a very practical way to see it and I can understand the point of _iew. I even agree with it to an extent.

That's my trouble here, I can see both sides of the matter.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Let's see if can get together or just share experiences married but playing away only please. "

The Sunday School is going to 'swing' around and reform you today in huge numbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok then ... I'm not a cheat but I live with my ex because of our daughter and plus I couldn't afford to live on my own so it suites us best she's got her life and I've got mine but we keep it away from the house because of our daughter ... Nuffink said "

What are you going to when either of you meets someone else.. Love as a foursome?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok then ... I'm not a cheat but I live with my ex because of our daughter and plus I couldn't afford to live on my own so it suites us best she's got her life and I've got mine but we keep it away from the house because of our daughter ... Nuffink said

What are you going to when either of you meets someone else.. Love as a foursome?"
*live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't ask the question your never going to know, lies or otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im an hypocite. When I was single I had a 3 month affair with a married man but I would be devastated if my hubby had an affair behind my back. We are both on fab so I see no need for either of us to play away. We both play together.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


""hi. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I have tested positive for chlamydia. You will need to go to your clinic for treatment and inform anyone else you have been with".

I often wonder what married and playing away people would do if they got the above as a message.

I would have though people playing away more than anyone would use comdoms to stop the above ever happening "

but they dont though, not always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok then ... I'm not a cheat but I live with my ex because of our daughter and plus I couldn't afford to live on my own so it suites us best she's got her life and I've got mine but we keep it away from the house because of our daughter ... Nuffink said

What are you going to when either of you meets someone else.. Love as a foursome?"

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses. too many judged on this site who cares about people private lifea it private for a.reason you only live once so make the most of it "

everyone judges everyday of there lives, why should it be any different on a swinging site.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

We really need to rethink this assumption that just because you are on here or elsewhere as a swinging couple he or you will not ever ever ever ever play without the others knowledge or consent

It's a very rose tinted cloud cuckoo way of thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"Ok so im married and i dont care what people think ,we all have needs.

You can chat to ur wife abt things all u like and try ur hardest to keep things in the bedroom sweet but its not always roses in married life."

no you have wants, you want to have sex, you have the urge to sex, but are to weak willed to resist, you wont die if you dont have sex again, so you dont need to do it, that is the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok then ... I'm not a cheat but I live with my ex because of our daughter and plus I couldn't afford to live on my own so it suites us best she's got her life and I've got mine but we keep it away from the house because of our daughter ... Nuffink said

What are you going to when either of you meets someone else.. Love as a foursome?"
we will cross the bridge when it happens but am enjoying the fun and games being single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We really need to rethink this assumption that just because you are on here or elsewhere as a swinging couple he or you will not ever ever ever ever play without the others knowledge or consent

It's a very rose tinted cloud cuckoo way of thinking

"
I guess the temptation is always there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

everyone judges everyday of there lives, why should it be any different on a swinging site."

this

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"This is TRUE

Some people cheat

Some swingers cheat

Get used to it

It won't change

Yep. Like politics and religion people will always have an opinion though.

Options are great

Debates again great

Downright abuse and judgment and negative comments less great

"

Agreed. It happens a lot here though.

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

As long as the guy who's playing away can handle if she was ever to play away herself. Normally by that time however the cheater has lost the partner they think they had totally in their realm who would go near no other.

What's good for the goose....

All in not a wise thing to be doing behind a partners back. The sooner or later whatever caused it is fixed or admit the relationship is fooked and move on the better.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"

everyone judges everyday of there lives, why should it be any different on a swinging site.

this"

and I am quite happy to do so and equally happy to be judged.

why:

people on the internet on the whole,( a few excluded ) mean between very, very little to zero to me.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I choose not to meet married guys not because i think they are the "spawn of satan" but because I don't want to get caught up in any domestic situations that might arise from them being found out. It's often the case that the other won is seen as some low down dirty bitch that will snatch a man away from his family when that man has already took that step for himself.

I prefer the easy life simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses."

Good for you x

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24


"This is TRUE

Some people cheat

Some swingers cheat

Get used to it

It won't change "

Hear hear

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

Ohhhhhhhh yeah I got a cool story.

When I was a kid my mum decided that she would cheat on my dad because he was working very long hrs to provide for us.

When he found out it tore our family to pieces and my dad never recovered from his broken heart.

Is this the kind of story you wanted? "

...... See this post is one that's always just gets left behind in a thread because it's never answered... Its normally just passed over in the hopes that ppl will forget its put on

The fact that choices can have consequences outside of their own isn't something they like to think about

They are bulletproof... Oh it will never happen to me... I'll never get caught...I'm too smart!

I always ask myself is the sex really worth risking it all... The pain and the anguish! and I often think it's really sad if the answer to that is yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok so im married and i dont care what people think ,we all have needs.

You can chat to ur wife abt things all u like and try ur hardest to keep things in the bedroom sweet but its not always roses in married life.

Shes probably just as bored as you are ... why dont you introduce her to fab .... it might relight the fire x"

How would u introduce ur wife to fab without knowing weather she would be up for it or not..Any ideas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My marriage has been shit for years. I respect myself too much to sit at home lonely and bored woke he's out getting d*unk with his mate (s)."

So why you are with him?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

View, Crystal and others said it, just get on with it ..

its when some decide to justify their decision by slagging off the absent partner, its cowardly and downright atrocious..

no need..

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

There are always choices to make.

For me, when I was married, I valued my vows (I don't know what love really is, so we didn't have that in our vows) but for me fidelity was a large part of it. Our sex life died after years of fertility treatment took its toll, and my ex-husband decided he did not like my pregnant (told me I was disgusting) and moved out of the bedroom when our son came home from hospital after telling me my body looked vile and hideous after giving birth (he missed the birth too so missed the worst bits) We muddled by for a year, and then just after my son was one, I had a moment of clarity and decided life could not go on like that any more, so told him our marriage was over - it was not healthy for anyone, him, my son or me. He asked me move out, so I found somewhere to stay with a one year old.

I found out a while after that he had actually been having an affair that started when I was pregnant, and indeed he spent the new years eve I was in hospital awaiting the birth with her.

There is no excuse for infidelity, if you want someone else, then you should be able to break with one before moving on. It is also part of the reason now that I would never expect a monogamous relationship, open and honest is way better for me.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"View, Crystal and others said it, just get on with it ..

its when some decide to justify their decision by slagging off the absent partner, its cowardly and downright atrocious..

no need.."

and to add that anyone thinking about meeting someone who thinks its fine to blame their partner for their cheating, ffs think again..

if they've no self respect that blaming an absent person is ok how do you think their discretion is..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"View, Crystal and others said it, just get on with it ..

its when some decide to justify their decision by slagging off the absent partner, its cowardly and downright atrocious..

no need..

Ive been a good man to my wife for many years but things have changed and not just me.

and to add that anyone thinking about meeting someone who thinks its fine to blame their partner for their cheating, ffs think again..

if they've no self respect that blaming an absent person is ok how do you think their discretion is.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is 2 sides to the story in anything, i wonder what the story would be if the women came on (to all the married men)

would it match

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

is it over yet

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"is it over yet "

Even if it is, there will be another one along tomorrow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some things this thread has made me gratefull for.....

I'm glad I never married.

I'm glad I'm seeing someone from here who I can communicate honestly with...

I'm glad she knows what I do in here.....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"is it over yet

Even if it is, there will be another one along tomorrow."

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"What I find more unpleasant than infidelity is people who having made the decision to cheat insist on publicly slagging off their partners sometimes for the most trivial of reasons It's vile and pathetic. And there's a few that do it on the forums with such frequency it astounds me"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would never expect a monogamous relationship, open and honest is way better for me."

Wise words

I'm just going to repeat what been said over and over, being on a site like this and/or cheating on a partner is wrong no matter how you justify it.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


""hi. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I have tested positive for chlamydia. You will need to go to your clinic for treatment and inform anyone else you have been with".

I often wonder what married and playing away people would do if they got the above as a message.

I would have though people playing away more than anyone would use comdoms to stop the above ever happening "

You'd think so wouldn't you, but there's a married man that pops up almost daily on my local updates, who posts pictures of himself enjoying bareback sex.

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

Open relationships with both parties seeing others are very different to cheating.

The latter are psychologist's dream and its not usually a pretty site inside.

I know a few fems who discovered their partners cheating. Some are still living the lie sadly with him playing about putting her at risk but thats uo to them as splitting is not always as simple as walking out. Others however took it as an opportunity to go find a more suitable male for themselves and sack the other one off. That killed off the cheater and left them a shell of a person but good for the girls for looking after number one

Emotive subject whatever angle someone's coming from.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile "

They can only meet during the day.

Phone goes off at 6pm.

Evening and weekend meets are a no no.

They are "allergic" to perfume so ask you not to wear any. Somehow their own aftershave isn't a problem.

When I've mentioned I may leave a mark, shave pubes, apply a "property of Miss Vee" temporary tattoo they come clean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile

They can only meet during the day.

Phone goes off at 6pm.

Evening and weekend meets are a no no.

They are "allergic" to perfume so ask you not to wear any. Somehow their own aftershave isn't a problem.

When I've mentioned I may leave a mark, shave pubes, apply a "property of Miss Vee" temporary tattoo they come clean. "

As someone who has met quite a lot of married men before, I'm always really surprised by these 'indicators' as none have ever applied.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

Thrre is something incredibly vile about a person who cheats, slags off their partner, and then tries to act like a victim. It's a stupidly common act of cruelty.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Thrre is something incredibly vile about a person who cheats, slags off their partner, and then tries to act like a victim. It's a stupidly common act of cruelty. "

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

Lol...

Really respecting yourself by staying in a really shit marriage...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But how do u know if they are married or not if they have put single on their profile

They can only meet during the day.

Phone goes off at 6pm.

Evening and weekend meets are a no no.

They are "allergic" to perfume so ask you not to wear any. Somehow their own aftershave isn't a problem.

When I've mentioned I may leave a mark, shave pubes, apply a "property of Miss Vee" temporary tattoo they come clean.

As someone who has met quite a lot of married men before, I'm always really surprised by these 'indicators' as none have ever applied. "

Ok everybody to there own opinion but I think its all about been honest . I'm married with permission and always tell who I'm talking to. So they can make there own mind up to take it any further

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea


"Good luck.....in my honest opinion if you are playing away and your Mrs doesn't know that makes you a cheat not a swinger "

Yes i have my share of fun but i run everything past Kim first because doing it behind her back would be cheating/having an affair not swinging.

Good luck on your response on this one mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The trouble with 'spawn of satin' titles is that you get the holier than thou silk brigade who are only one up from nylon anyway. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see a few married/ attached guys and my friends at work ask me if I feel bad.

No is the answer! I don't force anyone to have fun, if they weren't with me they'd be with someone else. And to be honest, I think what we do helps keep their relationship with the one they claim to love going.

Sometimes I think they'd have split up if divorce wasn't so expensive but hey ho...

The only downside for me is that they can't be spontaneous and as previously mentioned, often clockwatch.

Great otherwise! !

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I see a few married/ attached guys and my friends at work ask me if I feel bad.

No is the answer! I don't force anyone to have fun, if they weren't with me they'd be with someone else. And to be honest, I think what we do helps keep their relationship with the one they claim to love going.

Sometimes I think they'd have split up if divorce wasn't so expensive but hey ho...

The only downside for me is that they can't be spontaneous and as previously mentioned, often clockwatch.

Great otherwise! !"

So in your opinion you're providing a service to the women these men are being unfaithful to? That's very noble of you.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I see a few married/ attached guys and my friends at work ask me if I feel bad.

No is the answer! I don't force anyone to have fun, if they weren't with me they'd be with someone else. And to be honest, I think what we do helps keep their relationship with the one they claim to love going.

Sometimes I think they'd have split up if divorce wasn't so expensive but hey ho...

The only downside for me is that they can't be spontaneous and as previously mentioned, often clockwatch.

Great otherwise! !"

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

"Fire (for) those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me."

This is the kind of attitude that makes us glad we don't play with those that cheat... I don't believe in karma, but I sincerely hope something happens thats screws up your happy situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Fire (for) those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me."

This is the kind of attitude that makes us glad we don't play with those that cheat... I don't believe in karma, but I sincerely hope something happens thats screws up your happy situation. "

You hope something happens to screw it up for them? That's a charming attitude too. The kind that makes me glad I don't involve myself with those who wish ill on other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses."

well said.. Fab should really be non judgmental.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"The site caters for all, there are lots of people who will play and that is cool.

People should just get on with it. It causes me no angst.

I just don't see the need to glory in the fact, to inflict potential hurt on a person who is absent from the site is one thing, to grandstand it is distasteful.

Just get on with it with people who will do their thing with you.

What he said

I play with attached and unattached...my only problem with attached can be a clock watching thing (if local). I'Ve cheated on all three of my major relationships, and I carried on with my marriage long after it was dead, but fortunately (for both of us), I eventually ended it - I'm happily single (after a couple of blips), he's happily married and living in the US

I also can empathise with those in a relationship, possibly with children or financial reasons who can't or won't get out of it, or who still love their other halves even though the sexual element may be dead.

Get on with it, and don't bother slagging off those who chose not meet attached folk - we're all on here for our own reasons and for everyone that won't meet a cheater, there's some desperate owd slapper like me who probably will "

Feel free to slap me up anytime sexy.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"I see a few married/ attached guys and my friends at work ask me if I feel bad.

No is the answer! I don't force anyone to have fun, if they weren't with me they'd be with someone else. And to be honest, I think what we do helps keep their relationship with the one they claim to love going.

Sometimes I think they'd have split up if divorce wasn't so expensive but hey ho...

The only downside for me is that they can't be spontaneous and as previously mentioned, often clockwatch.

Great otherwise! !

So in your opinion you're providing a service to the women these men are being unfaithful to? That's very noble of you."

I have a friend who's life is exactly like that. She knows he is playing away but knows he always comes back to her and they have a great life for the rest of it.

She actually likes that it takes the pressure of her regarding sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site caters for all, there are lots of people who will play and that is cool.

People should just get on with it. It causes me no angst.

I just don't see the need to glory in the fact, to inflict potential hurt on a person who is absent from the site is one thing, to grandstand it is distasteful.

Just get on with it with people who will do their thing with you.

What he said

I play with attached and unattached...my only problem with attached can be a clock watching thing (if local). I'Ve cheated on all three of my major relationships, and I carried on with my marriage long after it was dead, but fortunately (for both of us), I eventually ended it - I'm happily single (after a couple of blips), he's happily married and living in the US

I also can empathise with those in a relationship, possibly with children or financial reasons who can't or won't get out of it, or who still love their other halves even though the sexual element may be dead.

Get on with it, and don't bother slagging off those who chose not meet attached folk - we're all on here for our own reasons and for everyone that won't meet a cheater, there's some desperate owd slapper like me who probably will

Feel free to slap me up anytime sexy. "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses.

well said.. Fab should really be non judgmental. "

Just on this subject or on everything? People will judge and the ones who ask not to be judged are very often more than happy to judge other people.

We ALL make judgements if we accept that and decide what we put in the public domain accordingly the forums would be a boring place but less judging would occur. Stick your head above the parapet and expect it to be shot at

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Thrre is something incredibly vile about a person who cheats, slags off their partner, and then tries to act like a victim. It's a stupidly common act of cruelty. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm with you. I'm married asks having lots of extracurricular fun. I'm also having an affair with a married man. Loung may it last.

Fire those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me.

Affairs are nothing new so get of your high horses.

well said.. Fab should really be non judgmental.

Just on this subject or on everything? People will judge and the ones who ask not to be judged are very often more than happy to judge other people.

We ALL make judgements if we accept that and decide what we put in the public domain accordingly the forums would be a boring place but less judging would occur. Stick your head above the parapet and expect it to be shot at "

Floats and Boats everyone's here for their on reasons.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I see a few married/ attached guys and my friends at work ask me if I feel bad.

No is the answer! I don't force anyone to have fun, if they weren't with me they'd be with someone else. And to be honest, I think what we do helps keep their relationship with the one they claim to love going.

Sometimes I think they'd have split up if divorce wasn't so expensive but hey ho...

The only downside for me is that they can't be spontaneous and as previously mentioned, often clockwatch.

Great otherwise! !

So in your opinion you're providing a service to the women these men are being unfaithful to? That's very noble of you.

I have a friend who's life is exactly like that. She knows he is playing away but knows he always comes back to her and they have a great life for the rest of it.

She actually likes that it takes the pressure of her regarding sex."

I know people like that too. I just think it's a bit rich to assume that's the case. As I said earlier we shouldn't assume innocence of the partner at home......We shouldn't really assume anything because we don't know.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"My marriage has been shit for years. I respect myself too much to sit at home lonely and bored woke he's out getting d*unk with his mate (s).

There must be a reason why he goes out without you...

People go off each other, it happens, I was in a sexless marriage for the last eight years, we did nothing together, we make no effort to fix it as inside we both knew it was over and way past the point of any return, I stayed with him because the kids, they were young and didn't understand, I found somewhere to live a couple of times in that times and both times when it came to going my kids would start crying because they didn't want to leave their daddy, so what do you do, take your children away crying or put down what you want? So I staid over and over because it was what my children wanted

We did end up splitting up eventually when the kids were old enough to understand

Sometimes it really isn't as easy as ....if your not happy leave

I agree with you

I left lost everything including my kids respect

belongings friends and a good job

Let those in glass houses think it'll never be a choice they ever have to make

Because it's a fucking shit choice to make "

Well said. Both you and the one before.

Some people's lives are simple others are more complex. Those who judge too quickly should consider themselves lucky they've never had to make those sort of heart wrenching and difficult decisions.

Respect to you both for putting your kids and family first before your own happiness.

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By *awtybitch tooWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"As long as the guy who's playing away can handle if she was ever to play away herself. Normally by that time however the cheater has lost the partner they think they had totally in their realm who would go near no other.

What's good for the goose....

All in not a wise thing to be doing behind a partners back. The sooner or later whatever caused it is fixed or admit the relationship is fooked and move on the better. "

Totally .. Especially in a swinging relationship .. No need for the lies n disrespect ! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The word judgement should be banned. In its place should be the different meanings that occur: Condemnation and assessment.

I don't condemn adulterers but I do assess they're not for me.

Simples

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"The word judgement should be banned. In its place should be the different meanings that occur: Condemnation and assessment.

I don't condemn adulterers but I do assess they're not for me.

Simples "

Yep!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The word judgement should be banned. In its place should be the different meanings that occur: Condemnation and assessment.

I don't condemn adulterers but I do assess they're not for me.

Simples "

I like your assessment of the wordage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see a few married/ attached guys and my friends at work ask me if I feel bad.

No is the answer! I don't force anyone to have fun, if they weren't with me they'd be with someone else. And to be honest, I think what we do helps keep their relationship with the one they claim to love going.

Sometimes I think they'd have split up if divorce wasn't so expensive but hey ho...

The only downside for me is that they can't be spontaneous and as previously mentioned, often clockwatch.

Great otherwise! !

So in your opinion you're providing a service to the women these men are being unfaithful to? That's very noble of you.

I have a friend who's life is exactly like that. She knows he is playing away but knows he always comes back to her and they have a great life for the rest of it.

She actually likes that it takes the pressure of her regarding sex."

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"I want to know if you are married and claim to love your partner, how can you do something that you know would hurt them so badly.

Something that will definitely hurt them (saying you want to end it) versus something that MIGHT, only IF found out? Weighing up the risks it's a no brainer for me. Does this make me cold and calculating? Probably. "

Don't know about cold and calculating but you've definitely got a very hot, sexy arse. he he

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over a year ago

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


""Fire (for) those thinking of condemning me, I don't care what anybody else thinks. I'm having fun doing what I want to do with whoever I want for the diary time in my life. Nothing you can say will stop me."

This is the kind of attitude that makes us glad we don't play with those that cheat... I don't believe in karma, but I sincerely hope something happens thats screws up your happy situation.

You hope something happens to screw it up for them? That's a charming attitude too. The kind that makes me glad I don't involve myself with those who wish ill on other people."

This

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