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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely your allowed to go limp at some point, otherwise you'd pass out with the blood deprivation to your brain.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it means after they've cum. and yeah a fair amount of guys can do this so i don't think it's an unreasonable demand.

lol, if guys want tight pussy they could put that on their profile you know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we've seen it on many profiles . Mainly couples and often where the hubby likes to watch . And this is often where the problem occurs - some guys can't stay hard when they are with another guys wife and he is there too .

It's nothing to do with her lack of effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before? "

Nothing wrong with saying what you want though. Its easier to feel turned on if a man has got a nice hard cock that doesn't keep going floppy. semi hard doesn't have quite the same effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we've seen it on many profiles . Mainly couples and often where the hubby likes to watch . And this is often where the problem occurs - some guys can't stay hard when they are with another guys wife and he is there too .

It's nothing to do with her lack of effort "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before?

Nothing wrong with saying what you want though. Its easier to feel turned on if a man has got a nice hard cock that doesn't keep going floppy. semi hard doesn't have quite the same effect.

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

could always dip your cock in some concrete....then you'll stay hard for years

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before? "

Have a little think about what you said in para 1. This may be the root of why you are not staying hard. Do something to turn her in and she might not lie like a wet fish. Or..... Raise the bar a bit higher and don't just fuck people who don't turn you on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"could always dip your cock in some concrete....then you'll stay hard for years "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before?

Nothing wrong with saying what you want though. Its easier to feel turned on if a man has got a nice hard cock that doesn't keep going floppy. semi hard doesn't have quite the same effect.

"

I understand this but I can't imagine too many men would stay rock hard if a woman wasn't putting in some effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before?

Have a little think about what you said in para 1. This may be the root of why you are not staying hard. Do something to turn her in and she might not lie like a wet fish. Or..... Raise the bar a bit higher and don't just fuck people who don't turn you on!"

Bang on!

From what I've seen, the profiles that have 'must stay hard' have very sexual, energised up for it women - not the kind to lay there like 'wet fish'.

It takes two to bedroom tango...

I'm lucky in that my other half is w/e and stays as solid as a rock for ages... If we're meeting a man or mf couple - is it not fair to expect the same?

We've had couples tell us just before a meet that the male is diabetic and struggles to get hard-on...or goes limp if having to use condom...

None of these things are their fault - but neither is it mine or the women that want men to 'stay hard'.

So yes, it is perfectly acceptable to have such a request on one's profile.

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always take a can of starch for just such an emergency.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be my age, but I need a little flop break in between

Time to make a sandwich or tea ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up until the age of around 30 I could stay hard after cuming and carry on fucking no problem and cum many times in a few hours...sadly the body doesn't allow me at the age of 48 to still do this....

Now its one good session and then some time to recover and get hard again ..

How I miss those sessions that went on forever....happy days....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

BTW, this is a hypothetical thread. It does not mean that I cannot stay hard!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Must be my age, but I need a little flop break in between

Time to make a sandwich or tea ......"

I don't think that's the problem really.

It is more the case of men either remaining hard during sex or sex in situations with other men present.

I mean as far as just carrying on with sex after orgasm, its possible now, but wont happen all the time. Granted I could just constantly bang my way through 3 or 4 orgasms when 20, but even now it's not an issue.

Just make sure Madam is pleasured to orgasm first, cum yourself during sex, then stroke and lick the good lady for a few minutes to ensure she does not go without, which has the side effect of making you hornier than a stag in mating season.

Two minutes later and its a case of "Would her ladyship wish to be penetrated again? Let me honour those wishes..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BTW, this is a hypothetical thread. It does not mean that I cannot stay hard! "

Yeah right... I have a mate who.... ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"could always dip your cock in some concrete....then you'll stay hard for years "

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe


"Must be my age, but I need a little flop break in between

Time to make a sandwich or tea ......"

There's always room for a tea break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Must be my age, but I need a little flop break in between

Time to make a sandwich or tea ......"

Lmao in thinking the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only stay hard for 1 min can stretch it it to 2min during a fuck. But when I am wanking I can be hard for 30 to 40min

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only stay hard for 1 min can stretch it it to 2min during a fuck. But when I am wanking I can be hard for 30 to 40min "

Yeah likewise...i found that wanking on my own I could stay constantly hard for as long as I was wanking..(which could be upto 2hrs sometimes) but during a good half hour session of fucking I can feel my hard cock relaxing and have to wank it back to being erect again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always take a can of starch for just such an emergeny."

Yeah, I used to also...... its a fucking splint these days. Lol..

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

My profile says that if a man can't stay hard when wearing a condom, not to bother me.

It's not uncommon for rock hard to become limp and floppy when the condom appears.

It's purely a mental thing, I believe. They could train themselves to stay hard in a condom if they wanted but they don't want to because a) they can't be bothered and b) they hope it means the woman will say never mind, let's do it without.

Anyone unable to stay hard when using a condom will be sent packing and I'll be pissed off so it's better if they don't message me or arrange to meet me.

I don't see the problem with saying that up front.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before? "

Is the female equivalent "Must remain wet throughout"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile says that if a man can't stay hard when wearing a condom, not to bother me.

It's not uncommon for rock hard to become limp and floppy when the condom appears.

It's purely a mental thing, I believe. They could train themselves to stay hard in a condom if they wanted but they don't want to because a) they can't be bothered and b) they hope it means the woman will say never mind, let's do it without.

Anyone unable to stay hard when using a condom will be sent packing and I'll be pissed off so it's better if they don't message me or arrange to meet me.

I don't see the problem with saying that up front."
You can never plan it really, it can be hard one day, limb the next, you cant control it and say it will be defo working the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only stay hard for 1 min can stretch it it to 2min during a fuck. But when I am wanking I can be hard for 30 to 40min

Yeah likewise...i found that wanking on my own I could stay constantly hard for as long as I was wanking..(which could be upto 2hrs sometimes) but during a good half hour session of fucking I can feel my hard cock relaxing and have to wank it back to being erect again..."

I may be wrong but I think you may be suffering from erectile dysfunction, maybe see your doc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BTW, this is a hypothetical thread. It does not mean that I cannot stay hard! "

Course it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile says that if a man can't stay hard when wearing a condom, not to bother me.

It's not uncommon for rock hard to become limp and floppy when the condom appears.

It's purely a mental thing, I believe. They could train themselves to stay hard in a condom if they wanted but they don't want to because a) they can't be bothered and b) they hope it means the woman will say never mind, let's do it without.

Anyone unable to stay hard when using a condom will be sent packing and I'll be pissed off so it's better if they don't message me or arrange to meet me.

I don't see the problem with saying that up front."

Good thinking, I should do the same maybe.

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

To be honest quite a few guys struggle to say even befor comming. More often than not when the condom appears!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been in situations where guys either go limp because there are other guys in the room watching them or as the lady said the minute the condom appears they flop.

So there are a few reasons this might occur !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only stay hard for 1 min can stretch it it to 2min during a fuck. But when I am wanking I can be hard for 30 to 40min

Yeah likewise...i found that wanking on my own I could stay constantly hard for as long as I was wanking..(which could be upto 2hrs sometimes) but during a good half hour session of fucking I can feel my hard cock relaxing and have to wank it back to being erect again...

I may be wrong but I think you may be suffering from erectile dysfunction, maybe see your doc? "
lol no as if you had erectile dysfunction it would mean you wouldn't be able to wank for 40min and stay hard as long

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By *laineabdneilCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

I sometimes wish hubby would go soft sometimes tovgive me a break lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh as i'm a frequent orgasmer i'm happy to have a break after a while if my partner needs to recover a little. If we're all discerning with our choice of partner re personality as well as looks/build then we'll have fun and giggles getting to know one another better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before? "

I think most men find it hard enough finding women on here without stipulating fanny size and lessening their chances even more

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton


"I have been in situations where guys either go limp because there are other guys in the room watching them or as the lady said the minute the condom appears they flop.

So there are a few reasons this might occur !!!! "

Yep, and age does not help !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been in situations where guys either go limp because there are other guys in the room watching them or as the lady said the minute the condom appears they flop.

So there are a few reasons this might occur !!!! "

Pressure does not help, not being a man I can only imagine, but if I was to read a profile that says must stay hard and I met with that in my head surely the added pressure to perform will actually affect your performance?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if i saw that, I would click next....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before? "

What do you expect when they are receiving too much attention from men and their toys also by the side and from fellow ladies too. Men will always make it too easy for ladies and they often believe that men will do anything to get laid. As i won't be surprised to hear from fellow men that they were asked to mow their lawn(any) and other domestic chores just specifically given to mess up with their head.

Anyway,everyone has got standard but it's in different degrees.You can't drown a person without getting wet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before?

I think most men find it hard enough finding women on here without stipulating fanny size and lessening their chances even more "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only stay hard for 1 min can stretch it it to 2min during a fuck. But when I am wanking I can be hard for 30 to 40min j

Yeah likewise...i found that wanking on my own I could stay constantly hard for as long as I was wanking..(which could be upto 2hrs sometimes) but during a good half hour session of fucking I can feel my hard cock relaxing and have to wank it back to being erect again...

I may be wrong but I think you may be suffering from erectile dysfunction, maybe see your doc? lol no as if you had erectile dysfunction it would mean you wouldn't be able to wank for 40min and stay hard as long "

Not really. Its about having a reliable erection or not. If you can't keep an erection when you are with a woman, I would say that's a problem. There's no shame in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can only stay hard for 1 min can stretch it it to 2min during a fuck. But when I am wanking I can be hard for 30 to 40min j

Yeah likewise...i found that wanking on my own I could stay constantly hard for as long as I was wanking..(which could be upto 2hrs sometimes) but during a good half hour session of fucking I can feel my hard cock relaxing and have to wank it back to being erect again...

I may be wrong but I think you may be suffering from erectile dysfunction, maybe see your doc? lol no as if you had erectile dysfunction it would mean you wouldn't be able to wank for 40min and stay hard as long

Not really. Its about having a reliable erection or not. If you can't keep an erection when you are with a woman, I would say that's a problem. There's no shame in it "
lol but I am happy with a min or 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what about if a man says that a womans clit must stay hard?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"what about if a man says that a womans clit must stay hard? "

I wouldn't worry about that on my quest for my jollies....

In, a few thrusts, spurting and on my way...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about if a man says that a womans clit must stay hard? "
Yes or its too lose and not tight enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before? "

Perhaps it's kinder than saying impotent men need not apply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can stay hard for a good couple of hours. It depends on the scenario though. I think if you have to constantly arouse the male it sort of breaks things up. Not good.

Nothing wrong with that request.

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

I will put my hands up and say that I do have problems now and then ,,, absolutely fine at home and with my better half but its fair to say I struggled in circumstances which were totally different to what we were used to ,,,, bit of a git when you are starting out on the swinging game , so of to the doctor and was prescribed with Cialis ,,,, does the job for me and all though I cant pretend to be the stud I was a few years back at least I can join in with the party . But we are very lucky to of found a couple and they seem to be our only play partners and with familiarity comes confidence which also helps ,,,,, only side effect of Cialis I have found is delayed ejaculation and that in it self can be just as frustrating believe me

by the way now ive written my Fab death note probably best to just block us LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before?

Perhaps it's kinder than saying impotent men need not apply "

Yes indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before?

Is the female equivalent "Must remain wet throughout"? "

Some men make you wet and some don't though, I have noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been in situations where guys either go limp because there are other guys in the room watching them or as the lady said the minute the condom appears they flop.

So there are a few reasons this might occur !!!!

Yep, and age does not help !!!!"

Im actually looking forward to much more shagging when I hit 70 and retire.

70-75 hours less work a week, Christ I'll be getting my oats round the bloody clock and should I need some help with cock flop I'll just scoff viagra like sweets. Problem solved!

I think old age will actually be the biggest boost to my sex life yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh as i'm a frequent orgasmer i'm happy to have a break after a while if my partner needs to recover a little. If we're all discerning with our choice of partner re personality as well as looks/build then we'll have fun and giggles getting to know one another better! "

Exactly this! It's also fun bringing one back to life again. And there's always toys while I wait

The people I meet are more than just a cock to me so I have no problem with recovery breaks.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Tbh as i'm a frequent orgasmer i'm happy to have a break after a while if my partner needs to recover a little. If we're all discerning with our choice of partner re personality as well as looks/build then we'll have fun and giggles getting to know one another better!

Exactly this! It's also fun bringing one back to life again. And there's always toys while I wait

The people I meet are more than just a cock to me so I have no problem with recovery breaks."

Agreed. I like prolonged sessions which makes recovery breaks pretty much essential.

And as you say, it's fun working out what works best for assisting the recovery along.

I love taking the time to explore and find out what really works for people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i didn't even think about people with erectile dysfunction and stuff. my reply wasn't right i think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"could always dip your cock in some concrete....then you'll stay hard for years "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can stay hard for a good couple of hours. It depends on the scenario though. I think if you have to constantly arouse the male it sort of breaks things up. Not good.

Nothing wrong with that request."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen the above statement or similar on numerous female profiles. However, surely 99% of men will be able to maintain an erection if the woman is doing something sexy or not just lying there like a wet fish.

I suppose the male profile equivalent would be 'Must be tight'. Have any ladies or other seen this written before? "

In my experience on here it is very common and very disappointing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might put "must stay wet!!"

I'm sure it works both ways..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might put "must stay wet!!"

I'm sure it works both ways.."

Bit of spit sorts that problem out for women, you can't spit on a cock and make it hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

at wet fish.

Her

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Just think people who make so many demands are great, reminds me to not take life THAT seriously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might put "must stay wet!!"

I'm sure it works both ways..

Bit of spit sorts that problem out for women, you can't spit on a cock and make it hard "

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Surely your allowed to go limp at some point, otherwise you'd pass out with the blood deprivation to your brain....."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 'On -Off' button seems to missing on mine...

If the stimulation is there mine will stay harder than a choirboy in a porn shop however if the effort on their side is not there then my boy will be 'cocking off' early...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just think people who make so many demands are great, reminds me to not take life THAT seriously."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like assertive men who take the lead, tell me wot to do, also if you don't realy fancy the man that much then you don't feel much like bothering to make an effort.

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