FabSwingers.com forum: Sex without Emotions?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Now this is a very intersting topic and I have seen quite a few discussions over the years.

Sex to me is just not an act where you can go through the motions, like riding a bike! There has to be that chemistry with that person/persons whether it be physically, mentally, lust, love etc. All of these feeling are an emotion so therfore it makes me giggle when someone says they can sleep with anybody without any of these feelings.

Now if you are fortunate enough to continuously meet someone or a couple for get togethers which leads to more surely with time you will grow feelings for that person or couple in some shape or form.

So can people really have sex without any emotions?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Hang on, i'll get you my ex-wifes number....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

So can people really have sex without any emotions?

yes..

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Yes......Im love with only my husband and only ever want to have a partnership with him

Im in lust with my playmates at the time we play and thats as far as it goes no matter how many times we've played together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I’ve laughed a few times when boxers have been dropped, does that count?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I’ve laughed a few times when boxers have been dropped, does that count?"

Most definately counts... as it is good to have a laugh and fun when having sex :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honey pot you mention lust...is that an emotion or a feeling? Or in fact, whats the difference between those two?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes......Im love with only my husband and only ever want to have a partnership with him

Im in lust with my playmates at the time we play and thats as far as it goes no matter how many times we've played together

So you do need to have an emotion to have sex... Lust

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Honey pot you mention lust...is that an emotion or a feeling? Or in fact, whats the difference between those two? "

Snap.. lol.. was just posting the same thing but in another way

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Lust for me is a physical feeling and its a short acting feeling almost like a natural high

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

No, you can't. Unless you're very unusual - because 'pleasure' is an emotion, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"No, you can't. Unless you're very unusual - because 'pleasure' is an emotion, right?

Or a physical feeling?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lust for me is a physical feeling and its a short acting feeling almost like a natural high

So you are saying there has to be an emotion of some sort?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No, you can't. Unless you're very unusual - because 'pleasure' is an emotion, right?

Basically any type of feeling we have is an emotion whether it is to due with sex, work.. etc... Life is one big emotion and there is no escaping that fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually, I'd agree with Honey now it's been put like that. To me an emotion is something that lasts, whereas lust doesn't. It turns you on and gives you the high, yet once the deed is done, lust can disappear very quickly. Especially if you then have a loving relationship that takes over again.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Lust for me is a physical feeling and its a short acting feeling almost like a natural high

So you are saying there has to be an emotion of some sort?"

If you want to call a physical feeling an emotion then yes

Im not saying anyone has to have anysort of feeling or emotion,I can only say how it is for me,Im in a solid longterm relationship,I know that the important relationship emotions are for my relationship only,the rest is lust fun and sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am not trying to take away how strong someones relationship is or even suggest the fact that they will desire their partner even less.

By going into swinging with partners consent is a strong testiment of how solid that relationship is.

I am just stating that there has to be at least one emotion to have sex with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I agree with Honey about lust being a physical feeling rather than an emotion, I have to say that as a single girl I do like emotion to play some part in my sexy time. Having said that, I'm first to hold my hand up to the fuck & go thing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to be turned on in some way, so there is always some kind of chemistry for me at least.

A FB of mine does seem to do it without ANY emotion sometimes when she goes to abfabs. She will be pestered by a few guys and will "just let them fuck me" as she feels sorry for them and to get rid of them.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Actually, I'd agree with Honey now it's been put like that. To me an emotion is something that lasts, whereas lust doesn't. It turns you on and gives you the high, yet once the deed is done, lust can disappear very quickly. Especially if you then have a loving relationship that takes over again. "

Crying is an emotion! Crying when upset is short lived! Pleasure IS an emotion. Pleasure when having sex is short lived!

Lust is an emotion. Desire is an emotion....

Therefore sex cannot be had without enmotion!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to like the person in some ways in order to have sex with him.

However, it does not mean I have to love him or want to share the rest of my life with him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that the problem is to many people confuse the emotions they have.

Sex for most is fun, now being happy is most definately an emotion and feeling good is very powerful thing.

Lust and love though can feel a little the same, however I have lost count of the amount of times people say they love someone when in fact its lust.

I swung before with my ex and I was told that I didnt need sexual attraction to have sex with someone.. but to sleep with people he picked and that I would never have gone with in a million years ( even personality wise) made me feel dirty in a bad way.

Now I am allowed to find the sexiest guys I can..and love it. I have a very intense relationship with my Master and we totally love each other, but when we have playmates and they have sex with me its an extension of that.

I think that emotionless sex is a myth, but only because even for fun, there are emotions involved. Like happiness, contentment, satisfaction etc. Fancying someone and thinking YES I want him/her is all part of it.. and even for me and my Master, jealousy is also a big part of it for us. ( not in a bad way though)

It is hard to explain though, but even sex for just sex I feel has some emotions involved, maybe not towards the person your having sex with though.

Katie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even people who are not turned on and do it to boost their self esteem and simply want to be desired will feel some emotion , just not necessarily positive emotions etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crying isn't an emotion. It's an act that is a direct result of an emotion.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Crying isn't an emotion. It's an act that is a direct result of an emotion. "

And of course you are right (well you are a woman!

) What I meant to say was sadness is an emotion, but I copied and pasted from word without checking it properly!

I bow to you xx

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

When we were young, we both believed you had to have an emotional attachment to anyone you fucked. Now, many years later, we know you can just have sex for the physical and mental pleasure, to satisfy your natural urge to mate. Obviously, we have to fancy the people we play with. Sex is fun, and why not? As long as it's enjoyable and not exploitive, go for it.

We've found swinging has made us even closer and more in love. This wouldn't have been the case if we'd gone into it to solve any marital problems.

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By *ig badMan
over a year ago

Up North :-)

"Now this is a very intersting topic and I have seen quite a few discussions over the years.

Now if you are fortunate enough to continuously meet someone or a couple for get togethers which leads to more surely with time you will grow feelings for that person or couple in some shape or form.

So can people really have sex without any emotions?

There is always some emotion involved even if its fear, loathing, boredom or disdain although passion is preferable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh come on Rumour, get up! It's lonely up here on my pedastall!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes......Im love with only my husband and only ever want to have a partnership with him

Im in lust with my playmates at the time we play and thats as far as it goes no matter how many times we've played together

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Just how we feel its all about lust on the night when playing and go home with the ones we love

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