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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What is the main reason you started swinging??

We always thought this was an interesting question as we have all kinds of people in her with a load of sexual tastes.

Basically a questions that can be answered by Cpls , singles fems, single males , MM couples , FF couples , TVs, etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To add a little spark in life and stop him playing away from home lol fems idea to start love it ,except time wasters lol

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By * strongMan
over a year ago

hull

I love sex and allways have allways wanted to join in with another blokes wife big fantasy of mine and have been lucky enough to do this but I think you can easily get addicted to it just my two penny worth lol x

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By *ashes83Couple
over a year ago

wirral

We meet when we where very young and didnt experiment sexually when we were younger. As we're older and completely content and happy in are relationship we decided to experiment to fulfil fantasies we both have TOGETHER x

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I don't want a standard relationship, but enjoy sex. Like playing with other couples, and other women too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In enjoy the rush & especially the wind rushing past me, with the thrill of potentially falling off the damn thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And fem since found she loves to be greedy with extra guys to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Joined to meet couples then found they were hard to come bye thank goodness for single ladies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i started swinging the 1st time i went commando! think it was coz i was wearin baggy shorts!

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I had a fantasy for ages that I wanted to see my OH doing to another woman what he did to me. I was very horny at the thought of watching him with his face between someone else's thighs. We decided to try a swinger club with the idea that we could find a female there (at the time I wasn't confident I would want to do anything more than that). Once I walked through the door I got so excited all previous fears melted away and we haven't looked back since. We love it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some varied answers already. We do think it's a great subject x

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By *aime DowneMan
over a year ago

stoke on trent

It's the thrill and the buzz being around similar minded people....love it

My first experience , I was invited in a 24 person orgy...never looked back since tbh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we enjoy the thrill that comes with the meeting of new people and the sex that goes with it. We always discussed between us that we'd always say if we wanted to try sex with others so neither of us felt the need to cheat on the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the fantasy's been the bull scenario, where the hubby would clean up my creampie from his wife

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

This is my story

After my divorce I didn't need or want a bf so wanted sex away from my children so they didn't see a steady stream of uncles

My poem explains

Lifechanging

When my friend Penny said I'll take you swinging

I said NO all the men there just have to be minging

So I sat and I pondered for almost a year

Absolutely avowing I'd never go near

When my birthday arrived instead of a gift

She faithfully offered to give me a lift

I said no I'd prefer to drive up in my car

All the while wishing I'd stayed at home in the bar

On arrival we got in for free cos we're ladies

Surprisingly inside most of the men were younger than my babies

So I stuck to her all evening I hadn't a clue

Even watching people fucking inside the loo

Upon leaving I swore blind I'd never go back

Two days later I returned to shag Marc Andrew and Jack

That's the truth x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It gets us out of the house , and Mrs P can indulge her Bi side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was a natural progression from fantasy talk in the bedroom. We have a very honest relationship and freely tell each other anything. We are both pretty laid back and confident so we knew there was no threat to our relationship. We thought about it for a long time then decided why not enhance things a bit. We tried it and liked it. I doubt we will ever go further than soft swap though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started to swing by going to a swingers club just to get away from the teenagers in the house and evolved from there, we swung now as we enjoy meeting new people and we get to do things we can't do as a couple, gorl on girl, spit roast etc etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because meeting up with lovely new interesting people and then fucking them straight away will never get old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work away from home, so it's not really the best for a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because my wife wanted a cock to suck while she was getting fucked and I wanted to see her do it.

I wanted to play with willies too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In enjoy the rush & especially the wind rushing past me, with the thrill of potentially falling off the damn thing

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My 1st thought was...because I don't like the roundabouts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok we will come clean (jokes aside).

With six kids rapidly getting bigger our self time is very restricted, gone are days that we could ship them all off to bed early & therefore enable us to have some naughty fun.

We are very mature minded and enjoy great sex, so the natural progression was to try swinging clubs.

After all, it beats going to a hotel to have a shag. Far more fun in a hot tub around other hot couples. And if we combine that with a play time with another couple then Hip Hip Hooray!

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

I love it

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it was a way of carrying on my sexually promiscuous youth into older life, my previous partner felt the same so it was a no brainer.

My new partner and I got together when she was 19 and knew about my swinging as I've always been open about it.

She sees it as a way of exploring sexuality and sleeping around while in a long-term relationship, the best of both worlds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For that nervous excitement you get with every meet, plus we both like watching each other have sex lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is my story

After my divorce I didn't need or want a bf so wanted sex away from my children so they didn't see a steady stream of uncles

My poem explains

Lifechanging

When my friend Penny said I'll take you swinging

I said NO all the men there just have to be minging

So I sat and I pondered for almost a year

Absolutely avowing I'd never go near

When my birthday arrived instead of a gift

She faithfully offered to give me a lift

I said no I'd prefer to drive up in my car

All the while wishing I'd stayed at home in the bar

On arrival we got in for free cos we're ladies

Surprisingly inside most of the men were younger than my babies

So I stuck to her all evening I hadn't a clue

Even watching people fucking inside the loo

Upon leaving I swore blind I'd never go back

Two days later I returned to shag Marc Andrew and Jack

That's the truth x "

Great poem xx

Fell into by accident really on the old msn chat rooms (remember them lol) went to a few socials at the clock near bham airport bobs your uncle.

Although I am thinking of taking a break as it does not hold the same appeal now and it's changed a lot in the last 15 years.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Because both of us liked the idea of S being fucked without strings by a stranger, and once we had tried it we both really enjoyed it - soon progressing to multiple men, which we enjoyed even more. Also it gives S the opportunity of exploring her bi-side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We meet when we where very young and didnt experiment sexually when we were younger. As we're older and completely content and happy in are relationship we decided to experiment to fulfil fantasies we both have TOGETHER x "

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Mr has a high sex drive and has been doing this a long time.

I was inexperienced when we met, he wanted to show me how to have fun, and that I was desirable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got into swinging because I don't like being in relationships as I prefer to feel free and not tied down to anyone.

I enjoy chatting to people and getting to know then and having fun, but am not looking for a 'future' if that makes sense.

I've always known I wanted to be alone since I was five years old, so I suppose it's a lifestyle choice that suits me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel caged when in a relationship. I like to do what I want when I want with whom I want. I love meeting people and going new places so this seems to fit in nicely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos I can.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"In enjoy the rush & especially the wind rushing past me, with the thrill of potentially falling off the damn thing

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Especially going commando!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is my story

After my divorce I didn't need or want a bf so wanted sex away from my children so they didn't see a steady stream of uncles

My poem explains

Lifechanging

When my friend Penny said I'll take you swinging

I said NO all the men there just have to be minging

So I sat and I pondered for almost a year

Absolutely avowing I'd never go near

When my birthday arrived instead of a gift

She faithfully offered to give me a lift

I said no I'd prefer to drive up in my car

All the while wishing I'd stayed at home in the bar

On arrival we got in for free cos we're ladies

Surprisingly inside most of the men were younger than my babies

So I stuck to her all evening I hadn't a clue

Even watching people fucking inside the loo

Upon leaving I swore blind I'd never go back

Two days later I returned to shag Marc Andrew and Jack

That's the truth x "

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I would almost ask "Why would nt you swing" as swinging offers entertainment, a different chance to meet new people (often genuinely broad minded) and even in some cases new long term friendships.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"This is my story

After my divorce I didn't need or want a bf so wanted sex away from my children so they didn't see a steady stream of uncles

My poem explains

Lifechanging

When my friend Penny said I'll take you swinging

I said NO all the men there just have to be minging

So I sat and I pondered for almost a year

Absolutely avowing I'd never go near

When my birthday arrived instead of a gift

She faithfully offered to give me a lift

I said no I'd prefer to drive up in my car

All the while wishing I'd stayed at home in the bar

On arrival we got in for free cos we're ladies

Surprisingly inside most of the men were younger than my babies

So I stuck to her all evening I hadn't a clue

Even watching people fucking inside the loo

Upon leaving I swore blind I'd never go back

Two days later I returned to shag Marc Andrew and Jack

That's the truth x

"

Glad you like it

I've loads more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totaly honest answer. my first wife kept cheating on me. after her 5th or 6th lover i came to terms with the fact it was something she needed. one night she came home with her boyfriend and asked me to let him stay over. i said well what the hell. but we only had the one bed. first 3 some found it the best fun we had ever had what a turn on first time seeing her being fucked by another guy whist she was playing with my cock. then i fucked her sticky wet pussy and found i loved it and wanted more of the same. so when we split up i found a new partner who was happy doing the same sort of play,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It puts me in touch with like minded women who share my desires with no hidden agendas..... Most of the time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For discreet fun!!

Can't go out and socialise so needs to be done online

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

Plenty of reasons not to, mostly religious hang ups and you probably find your in the minority, in the world.

I love the idea of long term couples, who have not had the chance to experiment and now have decided to do so together.

I know many, many women in particular who get to around 40, kids, house, cars, job.... A great life, but they have only been with one or two partners and now the partner their with is uninterested in sex, overworked, busy, gym/sports/hobby mad...

So it's no sex all round.

= Cheating, no option, I once knew someone with a disabled child, who the hubby blamed her for, their other kids were ok and they had a great life. But now she felt it slipping away and needed sex...

Being super fit, intelligent, personable and possibly in the top two kindest people I know... High quality men flocked to her.

I used to say to her, why don't you talk to your guy bout swinging, she always said he shut down her fantasies (not just swinging) straight away with "I'm just not into that shit".

So who knows, maybe one day swinging will be seen as the way forward and a suggestion from marriage councillors?

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Another divorcee here. I missed the sex went on another site looking for a fuck buddy and someone on there suggested fab. Was lucky enough to make a great friend on here he took me to cjs which was a revelation. Now it makes total sense and ironically I think it could have saved my marriage if I'd known. We split due to him cheating. I'm not jealous type but it was all the lies and him trying to make me think I was imagining it!! I've cheated in almost every relationship I've been in but been honest about it should've done it years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was living alone bored wanking over porn chat rooms after long affair with married older woman ended

Contacted a couple in news paper ad

Slightly older than me we had 3 some enjoyed by all

wanted more found swinger site saw lot of married woman couples looking for Nsa fun never looked back once we met I had string regulars friends to satisfy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the variety and differeing tastes that make it exciting, better than booze and a natural act

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By *zanyCouple
over a year ago

truro

To satisfy curiosity, meet interesting people, enact fantasies, learn from others, we now have very satisfying sex and cannot believe there are some more things to find out to make for a more interesting sex life. We are always learning. No need for decete for extra sex. We are so lucky

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"I Dom. "

Honey I agree with you

I don't swing really because swinging is essentially swapping partners and I've no partner

So like you, I Domme xx

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"We meet when we where very young and didn't experiment sexually when we were younger. As we're older and completely content and happy in are relationship we decided to experiment to fulfil fantasies we both have TOGETHER x "

This

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

My OH was fairly inexperienced sexually when we met. I knew he was interested in swinging about 15 years ago but I just dismissed it. Then about a year ago I suggested we give it a try.

I honestly thought we were doing this for him. I quickly realised that the woman rules in the swinging world (Lol) and that potentially I get a lot more from it. But 32 years together and we both have gained from our experiences and it has rekindled our sex life.

It certainly beats karaoke (that our kidults think we're out doing)!

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe


"We meet when we where very young and didnt experiment sexually when we were younger. As we're older and completely content and happy in are relationship we decided to experiment to fulfil fantasies we both have TOGETHER x "

Same kinda scenario here Mrs not experienced and Mr thought wrong to through life with only one partner x mind blowing expectancies xxx shared xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely love sex and the hubby isnt at all sexual so joined fab to fulfil my filthy fantasies while i still can more honest than having an affair i think

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

Like many, we have fantasies and choose to use sites like this in the attempt to meet like minded people.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

I like this.... It's interesting to hear heartfelt answers & not be totally misunderstood.

I honestly wish I had simular, the long term partners who both want to experiment and discover together or the singles who enjoy the lifestyle....

But alas my solitary, capricious, ambitious nature ensures my concentration is trained on my targets and little else...

Sex is in front of me and going to happen or it doesn't exist.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

came originally for the sex.... who didn't... an ex got me into it an explored a lot of things

but very much stayed for the social side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging was the compromise I suggested as an alternative to hubby continuing his sexting, dirty messages, string of affairs habit he had persued through most of our marriage. It saved our marriage back then and it's now evolved into something we do together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just love it...love the variety, the freedom, the butterflies before a meet.. ..and it's dirty... Hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was finding it more and more difficult to stay faithful and didn't want to go behind his back so it lead to a very difficult conversation but now very happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This time round I only do it to satisfy a physical need.

If I were in a steady relationship I would not have come back to Swinging.

First time, five years ago, my lover recommended me a specific club as he thought I would like it. He was right.

I do admire couples that go in to Swinging together. It always appears to make the marriage/partnership stronger and warmer.

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By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around

Morbid facinaction when I realised most POF and dating sites were mainly attached and just after a shag ...

So I thought a swing site you know what your getting

And yes. Still married attached guys after a quick shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I swing due to being addicted to pleasure , it pleases me to please and to be pleased .

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Because I get dizzy on the roundabout. (hope that aint slang for something I don't know about)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mr has a high sex drive and has been doing this a long time.

I was inexperienced when we met, he wanted to show me how to have fun, and that I was desirable "

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By *ouple_SpondonCouple
over a year ago

Spondon

Multiple reasons initially; Mrs has a high sex drive, we wanted to both experiment with others...

Now; because we love it and enjoy that we can do it together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two of our best friends died with 2 years of each other. It underlined the fact that you are only here once and must try to enjoy every minute.

We started by acting out a fantasy of Mrs Js, and just went from there.

It has brought us closer together and provided good clean fun to discuss and enjoy together. Not to mention meeting people who we can open up to.

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I love meeting new people. Hearing there experiences and hopefully give them something new. Lol

Seeing the womans eyes and facial expressions as ur pleasuring her.PRICELESS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the different types of orgasm that every lady has. The different noises, the varied amount of wetness and the different types of body movements that each woman has with an orgasm. Basically I love seeing a lady orgasm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me being Bi and married..i like the best of both world's..I get this from swinging.

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By *ngelfayeWoman
over a year ago

:)

When I had a partner the main reason that we started to swing was because I got off on him being with another woman or man, whether I was watching or he just told me about it after. And it grew from there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love cock

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