FabSwingers.com forum: Pushy

By *adybee77 OP Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

How do you deal with pushy people on fab?

I am quite clear in my profile that I don't kik, whatsapp, swap numbers etc...

But have had a few times recently after a bit of chat on fab when the other person has felt the need to pass on personal email and phone numbers. I don't see the need for this as fab has messaging.

Also, had a few people pressuring to meet much sooner than I feel comfortable.

Am I being weird and over cautious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you aren't being unreasonable at all. You have to go at your own pace and be comfortable. Anyone who can't respect that aren't for you. Personally I'd block and keep looking.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

No your not! As soon as someone becomes pushy with me, I just cut off contact.

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By *ookingaboutMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"How do you deal with pushy people on fab?

I am quite clear in my profile that I don't kik, whatsapp, swap numbers etc...

But have had a few times recently after a bit of chat on fab when the other person has felt the need to pass on personal email and phone numbers. I don't see the need for this as fab has messaging.

Also, had a few people pressuring to meet much sooner than I feel comfortable.

Am I being weird and over cautious?"

Be who you are, your profile is the you that you wish to be so if they pester, nag, push just block them

Simples

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over a year ago

Pushiness is my biggest turn off

I go at the pace I'm comfortable with and any attempts to deviate me from that never has good results

You are not weird or over cautious

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By *ajandroseMan
over a year ago

tamworth

Yes and no , some people like us prefer to have a quick chat and break the ice and just see if they click socially ( many people also just have fab phones for safety and discretion )

However you have clearly stated your views and requests , and they should be respected !

So you are correct and sadly their loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say no. Anything I don't want gets a no. I have found the more people push to meet the more I go off them. Some want a quick social meet to see if there's a connection. I need the initial connection from talking on here a while before any kind of meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single I'd expect a back off or slow down if I became pushy. If I did then I'd respect that and not be offended.

Take it at your pace and block is an option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get put off by pushyness, I tend to stop speaking to someone if they get like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your not bein weird your profile says more than once you dnt like pushy stick to your guns girl

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Absolutely not.

It's in our opinion a way to get you commited to a meet early on in the initial message exchanges. To us it feels that if they have your number, email, whatever you'll feel more obliged to meet them but stick to your guns. Like you said everything you need is here to get to know someone to feel comfortable in your own time to give out such details. Only Saturday just gone we had one of these exchanges, the guy told us he only exchanges face pics via whatsapp, pfft!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Not at all,hate it when people push and push and i often end up blocking.you need to feel comfortable and go at the pace that suits you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with pushy people on fab?

I am quite clear in my profile that I don't kik, whatsapp, swap numbers etc...

But have had a few times recently after a bit of chat on fab when the other person has felt the need to pass on personal email and phone numbers. I don't see the need for this as fab has messaging.

Also, had a few people pressuring to meet much sooner than I feel comfortable.

Am I being weird and over cautious?"

Not at all.

Trust you're instincts.

Can't stand pushy people or people who don't read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm clear with all I chat to that I don't rush into meets. Those that don't respect that don't make it very far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its ok if they give you their number but not the other stuff, you don't have to call them, but I think you are right to be cautious if not sure otherwise you could regret it because meeting someone who is pushy is much worst.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Say no. Anything I don't want gets a no. I have found the more people push to meet the more I go off them. Some want a quick social meet to see if there's a connection. I need the initial connection from talking on here a while before any kind of meeting "

Yea, I'm the same mostly. I can see why guys want to 'close' early, and feel if they can just meet you they'll stand more chance in person. But I don't even want to meet for coffee before I have really decided I am interested in someone. I don't even really like talking on the phone before I know someone a bit. So few men know how to be persistent enough without being pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd agree with all the good sensible talk here about taking things at a pace that suits you. It's not much fun if you feel obligated or coerced in any way. Instead of being cut off, I'd certainly want to know if I came over as pushy in any way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the descriptive of pushy means different things to different people.

We would class a pushy person as someone who continually tries to persuade us to meet no matter how many times we refuse.

However we ourselves may be considered by some as pushy due to us seeking a quickish reply to a meet invite, we arent bothered if they decide if they do not want to meet but because we like spur moment meets we like a wuick answer so we can try with someone else,but this in itself could be considered pushy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you deal with pushy people on fab?

I am quite clear in my profile that I don't kik, whatsapp, swap numbers etc...

But have had a few times recently after a bit of chat on fab when the other person has felt the need to pass on personal email and phone numbers. I don't see the need for this as fab has messaging.

Also, had a few people pressuring to meet much sooner than I feel comfortable.

Am I being weird and over cautious?"

I'd say you're being sensible tbh, if a lady gets to pushy with me it's the big b I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No your not! As soon as someone becomes pushy with me, I just cut off contact."

Me too.

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By *adybee77 OP Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Thanks folks, nice to know that I'm not quite due to sit quietly in the corner rocking back and forward yet...

(well not for this anyway) hahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose theres another thing is people who want chased..and then dont appear to like that you meet other people in the meantime while waiting..

I rarely send repeat messages or lotsa online talk with my prospective meets..I just dont have the time..plus get bored of it.

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By *adybee77 OP Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"I suppose theres another thing is people who want chased..and then dont appear to like that you meet other people in the meantime while waiting..

I rarely send repeat messages or lotsa online talk with my prospective meets..I just dont have the time..plus get bored of it."

I've often got a few people chatting, and do meet others that I have been chatting to for longer... I've had a few comments about it - but thats just another filter.

I do talk a lot online - but as a single female with limited meet time, I'd rather feel sure about the people I do choose to meet. If they don't like it, then thats just my way of working it out... and it shows we aren't compatible.

The post here today was just reassurance that I'm not the only one who takes her time.

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