FabSwingers.com forum: Multiple daily meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

During my previous time here on the site, I arranged a met during the day and another in the evening. Both ladies had been in conversation with me for some time and it was quite clear that there was no exclusivity arrangement.

I had met the afternoon lady on a few previous occasions, whereas my evening meet was the first time of playing. As nice horny day had been planned and it panned out to live up to expectations.

A few days later and after verifications had been exchanged by all, my afternoon meet questioned me on the timing of the two meets. Once I confirmed that I had met someone else later that day, the response was of annoyance and block after a few further message exchanges.

Now I'm no idiot, I could put myself in her shoes and try to understand why she felt this way, even if I didn't agree with it....

So my question is to you all, would you be offended if you had a meet and discovered that your playmate had arranged another meet that day?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends I guess on a few things if where the 1st meet I think I would be more offended than if I was the last meet but aslong as everyone has a good time tbh I don't think it should matter unless discussed and agreed to before hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done this myself....but not had your problem....isn't this a swingers site?

Having said this one 23yr old came and stayed a weekend. I had a meet the next wednesday who verified me....the werkend meet then went ape....bloody bunny boiler! I blocked her lol! ( and on my phone too!)

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Not at all, I've done it myself. It's no different to playing at a club with multiple partners

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

tell her to take a hike, it's your life and you are not accountable to anyone...

well if you could, cause you're blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't see the problem, its a swingers site. People could be doing it all the time but if no veri is left no one would be any the wiser. Also, the veri is dated the time it is sent, this may not be the day you actually met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see the problem....as long as the person I'm meeting isn't clock watching and cuts our meet short to go elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope wouldn't bother me as long as we had fun and your open and honest about it.

I had three meets in a day once (fucked my way home from Bristol lol), all new about the other and it got very horny and well rampant

Would I do it again.....yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's different folks and different strokes on here .

There are folk looking for much more than a nsa sexual meet , and obviously they would be miffed at multiple meets . We have had a fair few who seemed upset that they ' clearly weren't enough ' to use their words . This works as a filter for us as we really don't want that kind of attitude - we do as we want to do on fab and criticism is an unecessary part of it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many variables but potentially yes it could annoy me.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

I think I probably would be a bit put out,I would want your full concentration,not be sat there thinking about the other person you're meeting later.

I wouldn't have two meets in a day anyway,no-one knows how things are going to pan out,you may have a really good first meet of the day and not want to leave them to see your second meet of the day...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I find it quite naughty to line up the meets. And it really isn't any different from a night in a club. I say block the bunny boiler girlies. Perhaps she'd fallen for you?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When meeting a lady or a couple, I enjoy it when they are meeting others during the same day or even during the same session. Love the feeling of a lady who's been with another guy recently, very horny.

I have once met a lady during the day then another in the evening. A rare occasion followed of course by 3 months of no sex!

Eddie

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Even as a man I can see how some people might see this as 'hedging your bets' and feel a little disappointed: almost as if they were simply another notch on your bedpost. But at the same time, if you only have few opportunities to play, sometimes it can be wise to have a back-up plan in case you're let down, or to make the most of your chances.

I think it's different for couples though, on average we have one meet a month, and that's enough for us. The anticipation beforehand, and the memories afterwards, keep us.., errr.., 'busy'

Mr ddc

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

It wouldn't bother me, unless it meant the first meet was clock watching. I've done it myself on a couple of occasions, but it's been more spontaneous rather than arranged in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had interest from more than one lady or couple I would agree to meet both, you can be sure at least one if not both will drop out.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

If I knew before hand I'd rearrange for another day,I don't want the guy clock watching nor do I want him worn out and flying at half mast from a previous meet

Not much I could do if I found out afterwards really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had interest from more than one lady or couple I would agree to meet both, you can be sure at least one if not both will drop out."

How delightfully negative of you....

If you do your planning and arrangements right and talk to the right people then there is not likey to be any drop out

The three guys I met in the same day all found it very horny that I was going on to meet another or had met another guy, it's all about communications really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy and we had an amazing social but he's only rarely in the area. There were lots of discussions about meeting up to play next time he was here. He seemed keen. I was keen.

Then he went quiet. A while after that I notice his status saying he's in the area. I say hi. He replies after a bit saying he's off home now but how's it going?

Then I see he met a different girl and played with her while he was here.

So I reply with a quick polite message but don't go all flirty with him like I used to.

And he's wondering why I'm suddenly not chatty with him?

Err... well if he doesn't want to meet and play, what's the point?!

And they say women are hard to understand!

For the OP, maybe she was thinking you could have stayed with her longer if you wanted to play some more and that's why she was put out?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This day was in no way hedging my bets. The first I had played with on a couple of previous occasions, the second had been a coffee and loads of erotic build up ... We were both primed to play that evening.

As for clock watching, no not am issue, that would be terrible! We both had a defined time to play in and we made the most of every second.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

You did nothing wrong, its a swingers site, so you arranged a couple of meets, but I assume the 1st person took umbridge because they assumed they werent enough, but really its a case of, is swinging really right for a person that cant handle a meet going with someone else, even if it is the same day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"During my previous time here on the site, I arranged a met during the day and another in the evening. Both ladies had been in conversation with me for some time and it was quite clear that there was no exclusivity arrangement.

I had met the afternoon lady on a few previous occasions, whereas my evening meet was the first time of playing. As nice horny day had been planned and it panned out to live up to expectations.

Now I'm no idiot, I could put myself in her shoes and try to understand why she felt this way, even if I didn't agree with it....

So my question is to you all, would you be offended if you had a meet and discovered that your playmate had arranged another meet that day?"

Don't verify people and tell them not to verify ,

Don't have friends in friends list

Saves that problem

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You did nothing wrong, its a swingers site, so you arranged a couple of meets, but I assume the 1st person took umbridge because they assumed they werent enough, but really its a case of, is swinging really right for a person that cant handle a meet going with someone else, even if it is the same day."

My thoughts exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I knew before hand I'd rearrange for another day,I don't want the guy clock watching nor do I want him worn out and flying at half mast from a previous meet

Not much I could do if I found out afterwards really

I tend to have quite a lot of build up to meets, I want their full attention on me, it's part of what I like. If I thought that was compromised, yeah I might be a little bit miffed.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"This day was in no way hedging my bets. The first I had played with on a couple of previous occasions, the second had been a coffee and loads of erotic build up ... We were both primed to play that evening.

As for clock watching, no not am issue, that would be terrible! We both had a defined time to play in and we made the most of every second."

I didn't mean to imply you were, nor appear to judge. The truth is there is an amazing variety of people on here. The women range from 'happy to do anything in exchange for gifts' to 'the wedding-dress is in the wardrobe ready'. The men from 'wham, bam, thanks mam' to the doe-eyed stalkers.

As for us couples - omg, you have twice as much chance of finding a nutter! (Fyi, it's me

)

The trick is to find the people you match up with, and not worry about the rest, but just accept they are different.

Have fun

Mr ddc

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

That would not be to my taste at all no, I prefer long and fully satisfying meets and prefer them separated by several days so both parties can give of their best!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had met the afternoon lady on a few previous occasions, whereas my evening meet was the first time of playing. As nice horny day had been planned and it panned out to live up to expectations.

Now I'm no idiot, I could put myself in her shoes and try to understand why she felt this way, even if I didn't agree with it....

So my question is to you all, would you be offended if you had a meet and discovered that your playmate had arranged another meet that day?"

I think I might be a bit annoyed if I found out that way but if I knew upfront, then its a different story. I had something similar, but I think he lied to me because I couldnt meet him when he said, he then displayed a veri, when I asked him about it, he said it was a different day he met her. Have since found out he is a serial liar, among other things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had to laugh at this one as it brought back a memory of a meet.

We met this guy for a cuckold meet and he was playing the part to a Tee. He boasted that he'd shagged a blonde woman that morning. Charming I thought. Mrs N will be impressed with that (Not). At least he qualified it a bit and said she'd given him a much better blow job than her. (Phew) I thought. That's a relief

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As for clock watching, no not am issue, that would be terrible! We both had a defined time to play in and we made the most of every second.

As for us couples - omg, you have twice as much chance of finding a nutter! (Fyi, it's me

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The trick is to find the people you match up with, and not worry about the rest, but just accept they are different.

Have fun

Mr ddc"

Hey, no offence caused, purely elaborating for clarification purposes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Had to laugh at this one as it brought back a memory of a meet.

Haha.... Smooth!

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Hey, no offence caused, purely elaborating for clarification purposes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when youre accused of meeting someone else when you should have met a couple - the dates on the veris didnt match and they saw their arse - now if they had bothered to read the veri properly would have seen the phrase 'friday night' and they were saturday - omg - think we were here to meet only them - errrrr no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have

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over a year ago

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

You mentioned several more messages before the final block...did she not explain her feelings/attitude to you during those exchanges?

Perhaps she felt like the warm-up act before the main attraction?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

the only thing that would bother me is what other people have said and that is a possible "clock watching" element....

i don't know if i would have the energy for 2 completely seperate meets (old man now) and to give it everything.... but if you can fair to you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. It's none of my business nor is it any one else's business if I did the same (not that I would though)

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I've had two meets ones evening before. But that was because the first guy initially cancelled then said he could do it after all once I arranged something else

Both of these were just your fuck-and-go types, but if I had a meet with someone after months of build up, I would want to think we had hours to play, so wouldnt want to have to think about the next place I was going!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother my in the slightest. The whole point of this is that we're free to do what we want, when we want, with who we want.

As long as I felt I'd had their full attention during the meet and that we'd both had a good time, then I can't see the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I probably would be a bit put out,I would want your full concentration,not be sat there thinking about the other person you're meeting later.

However the afternoon one may only have a couple of hours in which case it wouldn't infringe on the evening one

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By *ollipop77Couple
over a year ago

Dubai ( / Manchester)

Not at all, done it myself. If a fb did it to me I would want all the juicy gossip after x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You mentioned several more messages before the final block...did she not explain her feelings/attitude to you during those exchanges?

Perhaps she felt like the warm-up act before the main attraction?

Yes I can see why you mention that, however she certainly didn't verbalise that in the following exchanges.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I thought that was what swinging was about - having sex with multiple partners. It would piss me off if another meet impacted negatively on me, but I guess I'd be thinking 'why the hell aren't we all meeting together?'

Clingyness or exclusivity in that respect is a big turn off for me.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Really don't understand this - it's swinging not dating. In an evening in a club I will fuck a few men who will also have fucked some other women before and/or after me. None of us feel any need for exclusivity - it's all part of the fun and one of the reasons we swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I met a guy and we had an amazing social but he's only rarely in the area. There were lots of discussions about meeting up to play next time he was here. He seemed keen. I was keen.

Then he went quiet. A while after that I notice his status saying he's in the area. I say hi. He replies after a bit saying he's off home now but how's it going?

Then I see he met a different girl and played with her while he was here.

So I reply with a quick polite message but don't go all flirty with him like I used to.

And he's wondering why I'm suddenly not chatty with him?

Err... well if he doesn't want to meet and play, what's the point?!

And they say women are hard to understand!

For the OP, maybe she was thinking you could have stayed with her longer if you wanted to play some more and that's why she was put out?

Agreed! Honesty is always appreciated!

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

this is bring up a lot of good memories

back in my single days chatting to a few ladies one fri two ladies who could only meet day times (yes married ) one only in the morning so arranged a 9am meet the other only afternoons so arranged a 4pm meet, plenty of recovery time

both ladies went home happy, later when in the chat rooms both ladies were chatting with me about how horny the day had been and would have liked to have met me together

then out of the blue another local lady came in to the conversation asking if i was free

so told her i felt a bit shagged out but she was insistent and thats how i got a 9pm meet as well,so 3 happy ladies all knew about the others,

it became the talking point in the northern room for quite a while,

so lads if you got multiple meets let the ladies know first they might suprise you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see it as clingy or wanting exclusivity. I have no problem with anyone I meet meeting as many other people as they want (it's hardly up to me), but it's the thought that I wasn't enough for them for that one day that I'd be miffed by. But the people I meet know what I'm about and are perfectly happy with my approach to things, so it's not like I'm trying to reign anyone in or keep them under lock and key all for myself.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I don't see it as clingy or wanting exclusivity. I have no problem with anyone I meet meeting as many other people as they want (it's hardly up to me), but it's the thought that I wasn't enough for them for that one day that I'd be miffed by. But the people I meet know what I'm about and are perfectly happy with my approach to things, so it's not like I'm trying to reign anyone in or keep them under lock and key all for myself."

My first FB here met me the day after meeting a couple, unbeknown to me 'til the veri appeared a couple of days later....but he simply was not as good that day, and I did notice. Given the choice I would have rearranged our meet, I simply don't like second best - giving or receiving!

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Yes I've done it

No I wouldn't object

I'm a sec ADICT

I have needs

Would I block someone for doing the same?

Hell no

This isn't Mary Berry's baking website!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had met the afternoon lady on a few previous occasions, whereas my evening meet was the first time of playing. As nice horny day had been planned and it panned out to live up to expectations.

Now I'm no idiot, I could put myself in her shoes and try to understand why she felt this way, even if I didn't agree with it....

So my question is to you all, would you be offended if you had a meet and discovered that your playmate had arranged another meet that day?"

I suppose it may have left her feeling not good enough, like sex with her was so unsatisfying you had to go elsewhere after

I could be that rather than feeling jealous

Wouldn't bother me, I don't care what guys do when they aren't with me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

or keep them under lock and key all for

myself."

That's why I said I'd be pissed off if it impacted negatively on me. I don't think you're clingy or anything like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly, I want their A game

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Exactly, I want their A game

Lol, yup - I always give it and I'm looking for the same in return!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 4 meets in one day.

Not through here but on a vanilla dating site where I made it clear that it was NSA.

One guy later found out he had been second and was upset that I had not told him. I told him it was none of his business and to fuck off.

You wouldn't disclose how many partners you'd had on a club night, why would you do so on a meet?

However, it sounds to me like the OPs FB wants more than NSA.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Hell no

This isn't Mary Berry's baking website! "

That's all very well, but now I have a hankering to squeeze a nice pair of buns, and eat a vanilla slice and cover a fruity tart in cream.

Mr ddc

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Hell no

This isn't Mary Berry's baking website!

That's all very well, but now I have a hankering to squeeze a nice pair of buns, and eat a vanilla slice and cover a fruity tart in cream.

Mr ddc"

Check out the sploshing and wam thread

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Hell no

This isn't Mary Berry's baking website!

That's all very well, but now I have a hankering to squeeze a nice pair of buns, and eat a vanilla slice and cover a fruity tart in cream.

Mr ddc

Check out the sploshing and wam thread

I was a bit worried to, after barely getting out of the 'eye opener' thread alive this morning, I'm too nervous about looking at anything that involves me googling the title

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Hell no

This isn't Mary Berry's baking website!

That's all very well, but now I have a hankering to squeeze a nice pair of buns, and eat a vanilla slice and cover a fruity tart in cream.

Mr ddc"

I prefer a lovely long thick warm cream filled eclair myself

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Hell no

This isn't Mary Berry's baking website!

That's all very well, but now I have a hankering to squeeze a nice pair of buns, and eat a vanilla slice and cover a fruity tart in cream.

Mr ddc

I prefer a lovely long thick warm cream filled eclair myself

??"

No doubt a chocolate one too.

Just my luck, I only have a mini custard doughnut

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

This

club nights I feel differently about tbh it wouldn't bother me then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I would have told both meets what my arrangements were.if either of them had an issue with it then I would have changed the arrangements. At the end of the day if one of the meets isn't willing to wait then would you have wanted to meet them anyway?

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Hell no

This isn't Mary Berry's baking website!

That's all very well, but now I have a hankering to squeeze a nice pair of buns, and eat a vanilla slice and cover a fruity tart in cream.

Mr ddc

I prefer a lovely long thick warm cream filled eclair myself

No doubt a chocolate one too.

Just my luck, I only have a mini custard doughnut

I adore custard doughnuts too

I never ever discriminate lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree

If I was first I'd feel I wasn't enough and if I was second I'd feel like a notch ... And if I was 3rd .....

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