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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they think they can get away with it good for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't do it, but if other ladies get away with it then more fool the guys for complying with such demands!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are happy to be paid for sex. They won't admit it though.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Prostitution's legal, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's up to yourself but unless its reciprocated I'd question what kind of person was making the demands. On the face of it it sounds very materialistic and like they're saying "I'm so special and fantastic that you must make tributes"

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

I never ask for gifts. If someone brings sonething, be it wine, flowers, I will accept gratefully though.

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By *ack Genuine BullMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

I had a lady text me just as I was leaving home to drive to her house for a meet......

She asked me to stop off at a cash-point as she needed "to borrow £90 to pay her car tax"!!

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

is we went to a guys house, we'd take a bottle, it's polite isn't it?

but if beforehand he said "bring a nice bottle of wine for me" in a way that indicated it was somehow a requirement, well, we wouldn't go

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

If someone comes to my house they often bring a bottle of plonk or a bunch of flowers - I do the same if I do a house visit and for parties I'll often take a wee gift for the hosts. I'd never ask for anything and if I were asked to bring something, I'd probably not bother

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

but lets face it... the requests are only half the problem.

they are used to getting away with it with somewhat desperate men, so they keep doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd worry that some guys might think that just because they had brough a 'Gift' they might think they are owed something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's up to yourself but unless its reciprocated I'd question what kind of person was making the demands. On the face of it it sounds very materialistic and like they're saying "I'm so special and fantastic that you must make tributes" "

Yes maybe they do but cant blame them for trying and some men don't mind so its ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a lady text me just as I was leaving home to drive to her house for a meet......

She asked me to stop off at a cash-point as she needed "to borrow £90 to pay her car tax"!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've clearly missed a trick here.

Im going to ask my next meet to bring me a 52" 3d telly (with glasses x2 and all wall brackets included) as a tribute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't like to go to someone's house empty handed but wouldn't expect anyone to reciprocate. However, if they expect to be fucking, we like to see someone offer to bring some condoms even though we like to use our own...

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on another site and one the options you could choose in your likes was shopping. Did find guys who wanted to take me as well, never took them up on the offer coz i hate shopping full stop.

Think it is a bit of a kink for some people to buy others gifts, but yeah does seem a bit cheeky to ask for stuff.

I've had messages offering to spoil me, and you can tell from the guys pics they like buying romantic things. Some people get pleasure form it and would love those profiles probably.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300."

Why would you buy condoms?

If a guy doesn't turn up with them, he doesn't get to play, end of

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if you are daft enough, people will take them.

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By *un4threeCouple
over a year ago

Waterford

love the thought of the gent to organise a bottle of pop and some strawberries for Mr's

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"if you are daft enough, SOME people will take them."

quick change there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't expect gifts but we would take a little something for the hosts of a party or some wine if we were meeting a couple at their home. We would never ask for anything though, that is just plain rude (Imo).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll always take a bottle of massage oil.... If they wanna drink it fine, but I am usually asked to bring it for other uses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a guy is real keen on me but too far away i may ask politely for some help with the petrol .

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

As I've always said I've never expected anything but if I've been bought a gift its lovely.

But if there are fools that are going to give in to these demands there going to keep on demanding

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

Why would you buy condoms?

If a guy doesn't turn up with them, he doesn't get to play, end of"

Because I've got a latex allergy and can't risk somebody using a latex one. And I'm dead horny. If he doesn't have one and I really want to I do. Simples. Also I only really meet married men who don't want to be discovered by having condoms on them or at home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just.... .....some women really do think the would revolves around them....and some guys let them.....i pay my own way as I have self respect.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

One of my first few meets brought me a block of red spiced cheese that we had talked about days before, and I had never tried it (cheese lovers will get this.

Met him again 2 days later

Never expect to get or give gifts.. but sometimes, in the right circumstance.. can make a strong mental thingumijig.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wish I could expand on some of the profiles, but one basically labels a lot of people on the site as being 'cheapskates', with a note that 'if you think you can just roll up for a play, empty handed, (you should) forget it'. Just found that very odd!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Asking for gifts/drinks/lingerie ect is a piss take as far as I can see

Is it a bad time to mention how much I love Bollinger darling?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish I could expand on some of the profiles, but one basically labels a lot of people on the site as being 'cheapskates', with a note that 'if you think you can just roll up for a play, empty handed, (you should) forget it'. Just found that very odd! "

At least they have it on their profile so you can avoid

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Asking for gifts/drinks/lingerie ect is a piss take as far as I can see

Is it a bad time to mention how much I love Bollinger darling? "

Lol... All out of Bolly dear, but two cases of DP 1996 in the cellar! Hic...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wish I could expand on some of the profiles, but one basically labels a lot of people on the site as being 'cheapskates', with a note that 'if you think you can just roll up for a play, empty handed, (you should) forget it'. Just found that very odd! "

It's immensely rude to go to someone's house and not take a gift .

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"I wish I could expand on some of the profiles, but one basically labels a lot of people on the site as being 'cheapskates', with a note that 'if you think you can just roll up for a play, empty handed, (you should) forget it'. Just found that very odd!

It's immensely rude to go to someone's house and not take a gift .

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Thats a very different situation than being told you have to take something

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"Asking for gifts/drinks/lingerie ect is a piss take as far as I can see

Is it a bad time to mention how much I love Bollinger darling?

Lol... All out of Bolly dear, but two cases of DP 1996 in the cellar! Hic... "

DP in the cellar? filthy bugger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want anyone to bring me a gift (the burden is always on the receiver) and I certainly wouldn't want anyone to bring me alcohol (I don't drink).

I'm ok with their company being my gift, and my company being theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone specifically asks for something it is embarrassing - even champagne is cheap these days. I think it's acceptable to take a gift, but nothing should be expected.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Asking for gifts/drinks/lingerie ect is a piss take as far as I can see

Is it a bad time to mention how much I love Bollinger darling?

Lol... All out of Bolly dear, but two cases of DP 1996 in the cellar! Hic...

DP in the cellar? filthy bugger "

Trust you to pick up on that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't expect, least of all ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes maybe they do but cant blame them for trying and some men don't mind so its ok."
I can blame them. And I judge. As someone has already mentioned above, it is plain rude.


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300."

I think it is unreasonable for the guy to do so.

With regards to you "Body Budget", worst excuse ever!!!

I am an adult woman, I manage my own body, my own hair removal, my own finances, shame on me if I expected someone to contribute financially for making my own choices! It's not a parent-child relationship we are talking about here!

I do swinging for me, for my own lust, and for my own satisfaction. No financial contributions needed, thank you!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

Why would you buy condoms?

If a guy doesn't turn up with them, he doesn't get to play, end of"
seriously, if I was arranging a meet and it was bickering about who was supplying condoms I'd give up on swinging.

I have condoms they get put on the side, they get used, fuck pratting about about bloody condoms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy is real keen on me but too far away i may ask politely for some help with the petrol"

OVER my dead body!

Would never stoop so low!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"fuck pratting about about bloody condoms"

Quote of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont expect or require gifts.

I always take my own condons, wipes and drink to a meeting and expect guys to at least bring their own condoms or as has already been said no play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy is real keen on me but too far away i may ask politely for some help with the petrol

OVER my dead body!

Would never stoop so low!"

Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300."

I spend over £300 a month on those things for myself whether im meeting or not. you cant put a price on looking nice n clean and well groomed.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300."

Then give it up if you don't like shelling out

I don't expect you throw each outfit away after every meet,therefore its unlikely you buy a new one for every meet either

Its meant to be fun not an exercise in who has spent more and who deserves more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've taken gifts before. never been gifted myself. Personally, imho, the man is the gift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

Then give it up if you don't like shelling out

I don't expect you throw each outfit away after every meet,therefore its unlikely you buy a new one for every meet either

Its meant to be fun not an exercise in who has spent more and who deserves more"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If I couldn't afford to swing then I wouldn't. I spend far more travelling to swinging socials just to see my friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've taken gifts before. never been gifted myself. Personally, imho, the man is the gift. "

no youre doing it wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've taken gifts before. never been gifted myself. Personally, imho, the man is the gift.

no youre doing it wrong. "

Only done it three times. The gifting that is. Muffins, box of chocolates and a pricey box of latex free condoms because he is allergic and he still has them too. Won't be supplying condoms again. I guess I am yes, believe gullible is the word lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've taken gifts before. never been gifted myself. Personally, imho, the man is the gift.

no youre doing it wrong.

Only done it three times. The gifting that is. Muffins, box of chocolates and a pricey box of latex free condoms because he is allergic and he still has them too. Won't be supplying condoms again. I guess I am yes, believe gullible is the word lol "

Too nice for your own good listen to mother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me at all. Anything other than a really small token silly little gift would be embarrassing and make me feel a bit odd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never asked for gifts, had flowers bought before & proper flower shop ones not tesco.. A guy turned up with milk tray once & was in his all black bike leathers.. That one made me smile!

Ive given little gifts too, especially to people i see regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?"

That's not right. These days an Amazon gift voucher is more suitable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago I met a man on a Facebook app. I added him to my FB account and in the afternoon I got a message saying I just noticed it's your birthday soon so I popped into Tiffanys and bought you a present. It wasn't a diamond ring or anything but it wasn't a bottle of wine either. I felt very awkward accepting it but I was quite choked as I'd not had anyone be that thoughtful before. I've taken drink to meets and extra lube and oils,it's part of the enjoyment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good to see some real ladies on this thread.

surprising how many users are out there

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

surly if your invited into someones homes its good manners to bring a bottle of wine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"surly if your invited into someones homes its good manners to bring a bottle of wine "

Sure. But it's very bad manners for them to demand it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy is real keen on me but too far away i may ask politely for some help with the petrol

OVER my dead body!

Would never stoop so low!

Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ...."

There is a big difference between asking for money for petrol and them offering to pay for the hotel....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"surly if your invited into someones homes its good manners to bring a bottle of wine

Sure. But it's very bad manners for them to demand it."

demand or ask though, and they can always say no if they don't think shes worth it or are too tight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"surly if your invited into someones homes its good manners to bring a bottle of wine

Sure. But it's very bad manners for them to demand it.

demand or ask though, and they can always say no if they don't think shes worth it or are too tight. "

Demand/ask. ..either way, What sort of person asks strangers for gifts?? I find it mind boggling to say the least.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford


"surly if your invited into someones homes its good manners to bring a bottle of wine

Sure. But it's very bad manners for them to demand it."

yes well mannered gents wont have to be asked .i dont think its to much to expect when youve spent 2 hours getting ready .provide condoms , lube, poppers and even viagra if required and a warm place to play

if a lady or tranny invited me round 4 sex i'd be happy to bring a bottle ..or even 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy is real keen on me but too far away i may ask politely for some help with the petrol

OVER my dead body!

Would never stoop so low!

Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

There is a big difference between asking for money for petrol and them offering to pay for the hotel...."

But surly if they want to meet and i can not afford the petrol i ask politely then the ball is in thier court .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"surly if your invited into someones homes its good manners to bring a bottle of wine

Sure. But it's very bad manners for them to demand it.

yes well mannered gents wont have to be asked .i dont think its to much to expect when youve spent 2 hours getting ready .provide condoms , lube, poppers and even viagra if required and a warm place to play

if a lady or tranny invited me round 4 sex i'd be happy to bring a bottle ..or even 2"

Viagra and poppers too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ...."

I've been thinking really, really hard for almost 50 minutes now.

And I still can't come up with one, single reason why I should not pay half of the expenses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a guy is real keen on me but too far away i may ask politely for some help with the petrol

OVER my dead body!

Would never stoop so low!

Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

There is a big difference between asking for money for petrol and them offering to pay for the hotel....

But surly if they want to meet and i can not afford the petrol i ask politely then the ball is in thier court ."

Then i would tell them that i can't meet. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"surly if your invited into someones homes its good manners to bring a bottle of wine

Sure. But it's very bad manners for them to demand it.

demand or ask though, and they can always say no if they don't think shes worth it or are too tight.

Demand/ask. ..either way, What sort of person asks strangers for gifts?? I find it mind boggling to say the least. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

I've been thinking really, really hard for almost 50 minutes now.

And I still can't come up with one, single reason why I should not pay half of the expenses."

Good for you . Honey i aint short on meets or men . if they are. Willing to pay my petrol or for a hotel well thats good . we are all here for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

I've been thinking really, really hard for almost 50 minutes now.

And I still can't come up with one, single reason why I should not pay half of the expenses."

I will give you a very good one. You have better uses for your money and would rather not meet than take away from your family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

I've been thinking really, really hard for almost 50 minutes now.

And I still can't come up with one, single reason why I should not pay half of the expenses.

Good for you . Honey i aint short on meets or men . if they are. Willing to pay my petrol or for a hotel well thats good . we are all here for sex. "

Yes I'm here for sex, not someone to pay my expenses. It changes the dynamic for me, I wouldn't like it. But if it works for you and the men who pay to meet then crack on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

I've been thinking really, really hard for almost 50 minutes now.

And I still can't come up with one, single reason why I should not pay half of the expenses.

I will give you a very good one. You have better uses for your money and would rather not meet than take away from your family."

Really?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

I've been thinking really, really hard for almost 50 minutes now.

And I still can't come up with one, single reason why I should not pay half of the expenses.

I will give you a very good one. You have better uses for your money and would rather not meet than take away from your family.

Really?! "

The choice is between things we can do without and things we can't. I personally do not want to see anyone enough to spend more than the cost of public transport.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

I've been thinking really, really hard for almost 50 minutes now.

And I still can't come up with one, single reason why I should not pay half of the expenses.

I will give you a very good one. You have better uses for your money and would rather not meet than take away from your family.

Really?!

The choice is between things we can do without and things we can't. I personally do not want to see anyone enough to spend more than the cost of public transport."

But you'd expect them to want to see you enough to ask them to do so? What about their family, if they have one?

I agree, it's about things you can do without vs essentials. I'd quite like to buy all my food in waitrose, but I don't expect anyone to fund me to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave some one a memory stick of albums I hoped they would like.

It sort of didn't work out, my fault.

I am glad I gave them the gift of music. I know they will appreciate it and I hope they enjoy my choices

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over a year ago


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I will give you a very good one. You have better uses for your money and would rather not meet than take away from your family."

What about their family?

What about if we don't have a family?

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over a year ago


"Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

I've been thinking really, really hard for almost 50 minutes now.

And I still can't come up with one, single reason why I should not pay half of the expenses.

I will give you a very good one. You have better uses for your money and would rather not meet than take away from your family.

Really?!

The choice is between things we can do without and things we can't. I personally do not want to see anyone enough to spend more than the cost of public transport.

But you'd expect them to want to see you enough to ask them to do so? What about their family, if they have one?

I agree, it's about things you can do without vs essentials. I'd quite like to buy all my food in waitrose, but I don't expect anyone to fund me to do it.

"

I buy my food in Waitrose - they are the only ones who give a one-hour slot for deliveries. Never been a kept woman or received benefits other than the child and maternity ones, either.

But I happily accept if a man pays for my coffee, lunch or hotel if for whatever reason his place is off limits. If he wants me to chip in he needs to become a really close friend and be in dire straits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would bring some haribos, but keep the cola bottles to myself, ok can share some with her lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I will give you a very good one. You have better uses for your money and would rather not meet than take away from your family.

What about their family?

What about if we don't have a family?"

They should plan their expenses, too. Do you really worry about all men in the world? ))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

I've been thinking really, really hard for almost 50 minutes now.

And I still can't come up with one, single reason why I should not pay half of the expenses.

I will give you a very good one. You have better uses for your money and would rather not meet than take away from your family.

Really?!

The choice is between things we can do without and things we can't. I personally do not want to see anyone enough to spend more than the cost of public transport.

But you'd expect them to want to see you enough to ask them to do so? What about their family, if they have one?

I agree, it's about things you can do without vs essentials. I'd quite like to buy all my food in waitrose, but I don't expect anyone to fund me to do it.

I buy my food in Waitrose - they are the only ones who give a one-hour slot for deliveries. Never been a kept woman or received benefits other than the child and maternity ones, either.

But I happily accept if a man pays for my coffee, lunch or hotel if for whatever reason his place is off limits. If he wants me to chip in he needs to become a really close friend and be in dire straits. "

Well each to their own, it obviously works for you. It just doesn't sit right with me so I can't really relate to an attitude to expecting someone else to fund it all.

(Sainsburys do one-hour delivery slots)

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over a year ago


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

I spend over £300 a month on those things for myself whether im meeting or not. you cant put a price on looking nice n clean and well groomed."

How much?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had a person drive to meet me at my place .. I feel that's a lot with cost of petrol so would spoil them just doing that wine and beer on me and nibbles after .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow.

If I was going to someone's for a bit of a party, or at the weekend etc. then yes, I'd probably take something. But from an early experience of taking something round for someone, they accepted my (small) gift but admitted later it made them feel a little uncomfortable in that I shouldn't have felt obliged and that they didn't want to feel obliged either.

Someone suggesting a "minimum" gift? There's a word for that and it isn't swinging

If it's fun it'll be a zero sum game. As soon as the calculators start being used, I'm out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No wonder some are single.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

If we're in the hotel and hosting we always ask if "they'd" like a drink and have one incase anyhow, nibble too. We've visited a home and brought drinks, it wouldn't feel right to us not to bring a few drinks along, some for when we've left too. We consider that to be courtesy, not gifts, we wouldn't do gifts.

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over a year ago


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300."

Damn.

I use about a tenners worth of soap from Lush per year and that's about it.

And my best jeans are about four years old now.

(Doesn't stop me getting laid.)

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over a year ago


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

Damn.

I use about a tenners worth of soap from Lush per year and that's about it.

And my best jeans are about four years old now.

(Doesn't stop me getting laid.)"

Whereas I'm quite high maintenance and spend a lot on clothes, makeup, lingerie etc, but I'd still never somehow seek to call that a 'cost' of meeting people for sex. I do those things for me, not because someone else requires it. The only costs 'required' are a bar of soap and a box of condoms.

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over a year ago


"The only costs 'required' are a bar of soap and a box of condoms. "

And it's amazing how many guys don't incur either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a hotel meet, always pay half. If I'm going to someone's home, I take my own drink. On the rare occasions it's for a night out, I pay my share. If a meet were to turn up with flowers etc I'd feel awkward. I'm not on here for romance!

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over a year ago


"Do you never get men offering to pay for a hotel ....

I've been thinking really, really hard for almost 50 minutes now.

And I still can't come up with one, single reason why I should not pay half of the expenses.

I will give you a very good one. You have better uses for your money and would rather not meet than take away from your family.

Really?!

The choice is between things we can do without and things we can't. I personally do not want to see anyone enough to spend more than the cost of public transport."

Sensible lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are appearing judgemental, others as if they are standing on a moral high ground.

Just let those who want to buy do so, for those who want to receive. Let those who don't want to give meet those who don't want to receive. Win win.

I like to be seduced over dinner, so I meet my type of guy* who likes to do exactly that.

*not just anyone who offers, I'm bloody fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only costs 'required' are a bar of soap and a box of condoms.

And it's amazing how many guys don't incur either "

Yep, but those guys don't get to meet me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

I spend over £300 a month on those things for myself whether im meeting or not. you cant put a price on looking nice n clean and well groomed.

How much?! "

nails, hair, wax, eyebrow tints, perfume stockings, lingerie it all adds up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

I spend over £300 a month on those things for myself whether im meeting or not. you cant put a price on looking nice n clean and well groomed.

How much?!

nails, hair, wax, eyebrow tints, perfume stockings, lingerie it all adds up "
Its weird I do that for myself even if I don't meet for months ....... I spoil myself ok pamper myself for myself . I don't need to meet to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

I spend over £300 a month on those things for myself whether im meeting or not. you cant put a price on looking nice n clean and well groomed.

How much?!

nails, hair, wax, eyebrow tints, perfume stockings, lingerie it all adds up "

What do you look like if you're not meeting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some bonkers comments on this thread, I'm not judging anyone at all, just really struggling to understand / relate to some perspectives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saw a womans status local to us, saying a bottle of vodka, and 20 ciggies if you want to meet, bet she got it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I gave some one a memory stick of albums I hoped they would like.

It sort of didn't work out, my fault.

I am glad I gave them the gift of music. I know they will appreciate it and I hope they enjoy my choices "

That was a very thoughtful gift,I would have probably cried lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I gave some one a memory stick of albums I hoped they would like.

It sort of didn't work out, my fault.

I am glad I gave them the gift of music. I know they will appreciate it and I hope they enjoy my choices

That was a very thoughtful gift,I would have probably cried lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've taken gifts before. never been gifted myself. Personally, imho, the man is the gift.

no youre doing it wrong.

Only done it three times. The gifting that is. Muffins, box of chocolates and a pricey box of latex free condoms because he is allergic and he still has them too. Won't be supplying condoms again. I guess I am yes, believe gullible is the word lol

Too nice for your own good listen to mother "

I need all the help I can get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saw a womans status local to us, saying a bottle of vodka, and 20 ciggies if you want to meet, bet she got it too "

Christ. Way to value yourself! I mean I'd at least make it a bottle of champagne and a box of finest cigars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some bonkers comments on this thread, I'm not judging anyone at all, just really struggling to understand / relate to some perspectives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only a Beta male would agree to this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

I spend over £300 a month on those things for myself whether im meeting or not. you cant put a price on looking nice n clean and well groomed.

How much?!

nails, hair, wax, eyebrow tints, perfume stockings, lingerie it all adds up Its weird I do that for myself even if I don't meet for months ....... I spoil myself ok pamper myself for myself . I don't need to meet to do that. "

We can't all afford that or have a partner to pay for that. I contribute to my grandchildren's upbringing which will always come before sex. I spend £5 every couple of months on hair dye and very rarely I might buy replacement hold ups,which I hardly wear anyway. I don't spend much on myself for a meet as I can't. It hasn't stopped men wanting to see me again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes take gifts to a meet, or if it's all night, I'll ask what wine she likes etc, but if it was a condition, we won't be meeting, if I'm not enough, it's not the kind of meet I'm looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well my wife always apreciates some sheets of sea. Gets her going when she can offer fresh sushi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a lady text me just as I was leaving home to drive to her house for a meet......

She asked me to stop off at a cash-point as she needed "to borrow £90 to pay her car tax"!!

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Wtf!!! Wow how rude!! ...mines due this month how are you fixed??

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land

I always take flowers and a box of chocolates with me even to a social.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"I've clearly missed a trick here.

Im going to ask my next meet to bring me a 52" 3d telly (with glasses x2 and all wall brackets included) as a tribute."

Sony or Toshiba? Just tell me which and I'm on my way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a lady text me just as I was leaving home to drive to her house for a meet......

She asked me to stop off at a cash-point as she needed "to borrow £90 to pay her car tax"!!

Wtf!!! Wow how rude!! ...mines due this month how are you fixed??"
had similar today "you can do anal but i need £50!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we would never ask - people have brought but just because they are lovely - if we were going to meet up for a few drinks and then play we would take a bottle/cans whatever

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


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Whereas I'm quite high maintenance and spend a lot on clothes, makeup, lingerie etc, but I'd still never somehow seek to call that a 'cost' of meeting people for sex. I do those things for me, not because someone else requires it. The only costs 'required' are a bar of soap and a box of condoms. "

Same here, although I do mix some quality with not so expensive clothing, cosmetics not so. Love feeling a little special on a meet and the build up buying/selecting clothes is something we both enjoy along with the talk/pics between ourselves before a meet. It doesn't have to cost much, a small budget for play doesn't hurt plus we don't do clubs so don't have that expense.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?"

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

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over a year ago


"I had a lady text me just as I was leaving home to drive to her house for a meet......

She asked me to stop off at a cash-point as she needed "to borrow £90 to pay her car tax"!!

Wtf!!! Wow how rude!! ...mines due this month how are you fixed?? had similar today "you can do anal but i need £50!!! "

Wow

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over a year ago


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead"

Hmmmm a shag that doesn't cost a lot or a shag that expects to be treated like a date?

If I was a sensible guy on a swinging site I know what option i'd go for

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

Hmmmm a shag that doesn't cost a lot or a shag that expects to be treated like a date?

If I was a sensible guy on a swinging site I know what option i'd go for "

We all expect different treatment

I expect a 'shag' to be like a date with sex. Others may expect a quickie down a dark alley and, lets, face it, who am I to judge them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

Hmmmm a shag that doesn't cost a lot or a shag that expects to be treated like a date?

If I was a sensible guy on a swinging site I know what option i'd go for

We all expect different treatment

I expect a 'shag' to be like a date with sex. Others may expect a quickie down a dark alley and, lets, face it, who am I to judge them"

There's a world of difference available between a quickie down a dark alley and a paid-for date. I prefer a date type experience that we've shared the cost of.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I got bought a Kinder Egg once. And it was a blue one rather than pink so I got a robot, which I was well chuffed with. I bought the same guy a mug because it made me laugh. None of these were demands; if you ask for something it's not exactly a gift.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

Hmmmm a shag that doesn't cost a lot or a shag that expects to be treated like a date?

If I was a sensible guy on a swinging site I know what option i'd go for

We all expect different treatment

I expect a 'shag' to be like a date with sex. Others may expect a quickie down a dark alley and, lets, face it, who am I to judge them

There's a world of difference available between a quickie down a dark alley and a paid-for date. I prefer a date type experience that we've shared the cost of."

If your preference is for going Dutch on a date then you do that

I have never done that, soooo, I don't do it

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over a year ago


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

Hmmmm a shag that doesn't cost a lot or a shag that expects to be treated like a date?

If I was a sensible guy on a swinging site I know what option i'd go for

We all expect different treatment

I expect a 'shag' to be like a date with sex. Others may expect a quickie down a dark alley and, lets, face it, who am I to judge them

There's a world of difference available between a quickie down a dark alley and a paid-for date. I prefer a date type experience that we've shared the cost of."

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

Hmmmm a shag that doesn't cost a lot or a shag that expects to be treated like a date?

If I was a sensible guy on a swinging site I know what option i'd go for

We all expect different treatment

I expect a 'shag' to be like a date with sex. Others may expect a quickie down a dark alley and, lets, face it, who am I to judge them

There's a world of difference available between a quickie down a dark alley and a paid-for date. I prefer a date type experience that we've shared the cost of."

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead"

I share costs, unless I'm on expenses when I cover the hotel room and possibly a meal if I can get away with 2 meals at round about £40...I've never had a date where I expected the guy to pay for dinner, room, booze, chocs and flowers and I guess I never will as to me it would leave me feeling obligated to shag.- I should also say that Id never invite someone to my home from a long way away unless I'd already met or pretty much already decided to shag them on messages/calls only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes maybe they do but cant blame them for trying and some men don't mind so its ok.I can blame them. And I judge. As someone has already mentioned above, it is plain rude.

I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

I think it is unreasonable for the guy to do so.

With regards to you "Body Budget", worst excuse ever!!!

I am an adult woman, I manage my own body, my own hair removal, my own finances, shame on me if I expected someone to contribute financially for making my own choices! It's not a parent-child relationship we are talking about here!

I do swinging for me, for my own lust, and for my own satisfaction. No financial contributions needed, thank you!"

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

I share costs, unless I'm on expenses when I cover the hotel room and possibly a meal if I can get away with 2 meals at round about £40...I've never had a date where I expected the guy to pay for dinner, room, booze, chocs and flowers and I guess I never will as to me it would leave me feeling obligated to shag.- I should also say that Id never invite someone to my home from a long way away unless I'd already met or pretty much already decided to shag them on messages/calls only"

That's what it is for me...I don't think I could ever enjoy it while feeling like I'd been bought.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"I got bought a Kinder Egg once. And it was a blue one rather than pink so I got a robot, which I was well chuffed with. I bought the same guy a mug because it made me laugh. None of these were demands; if you ask for something it's not exactly a gift."

I bought a Kinder egg the other day...it was great cos the last egg I bought was mean and kept calling me names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes maybe they do but cant blame them for trying and some men don't mind so its ok.I can blame them. And I judge. As someone has already mentioned above, it is plain rude.

I don't think it's unreasonable for the guy to buy a lady a drink. I mean, we buy the condoms, any lingerie and special clothes or shoes. There's also waxing, make up and hair. Men: have a shower. Turn up. I estimate a year's swinging had cost me over £300.

I think it is unreasonable for the guy to do so.

With regards to you "Body Budget", worst excuse ever!!!

I am an adult woman, I manage my own body, my own hair removal, my own finances, shame on me if I expected someone to contribute financially for making my own choices! It's not a parent-child relationship we are talking about here!

I do swinging for me, for my own lust, and for my own satisfaction. No financial contributions needed, thank you!

Well said! "

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I may be a bit thick, but I have never really understood the difference between a woman who says "give me £50 for sex" and one who says "buy me the following gifts, which cost £50 for sex".

Except, perhaps, that one is being more honest with herself.

Nevertheless, I refuse to judge either - each to their own - but neither are for us thanks.

Mr ddc

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

I share costs, unless I'm on expenses when I cover the hotel room and possibly a meal if I can get away with 2 meals at round about £40...I've never had a date where I expected the guy to pay for dinner, room, booze, chocs and flowers and I guess I never will as to me it would leave me feeling obligated to shag.- I should also say that Id never invite someone to my home from a long way away unless I'd already met or pretty much already decided to shag them on messages/calls only"

So, do you feel obligated to strip and have sex when you go on a vanilla date where the guy pays for dinner, drinks, etc?

I don't feel any such obligation on a vanilla date so why on Earth would I feel that I owe him something if I met him from here??? Same difference to me. But I am not asking him to do all of this. It is an expectation I grew up with. Maybe you did not and had to pay for your evenings out with your vanilla dates

If he expects me to go halves on the room, etc, then I am not going to sit down and 'negotiate' with him. I'll just turn the key in the ignition and drive myself back home, alone

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"I may be a bit thick, but I have never really understood the difference between a woman who says "give me £50 for sex" and one who says "buy me the following gifts, which cost £50 for sex".

Except, perhaps, that one is being more honest with herself.

Nevertheless, I refuse to judge either - each to their own - but neither are for us thanks.

Mr ddc"

Mr ddc...Fancy a fuck? The cats need worming and I could do with a bottle of Bucky...how's that sound?

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


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Mr ddc...Fancy a fuck? The cats need worming and I could do with a bottle of Bucky...how's that sound? "

Not so keen on wormy pussies, sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a lady text me just as I was leaving home to drive to her house for a meet......

She asked me to stop off at a cash-point as she needed "to borrow £90 to pay her car tax"!!

Wtf!!! Wow how rude!! ...mines due this month how are you fixed?? had similar today "you can do anal but i need £50!!!

Wow "
i know cheek? i said ive got 25 can i put half in!

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

I share costs, unless I'm on expenses when I cover the hotel room and possibly a meal if I can get away with 2 meals at round about £40...I've never had a date where I expected the guy to pay for dinner, room, booze, chocs and flowers and I guess I never will as to me it would leave me feeling obligated to shag.- I should also say that Id never invite someone to my home from a long way away unless I'd already met or pretty much already decided to shag them on messages/calls only

So, do you feel obligated to strip and have sex when you go on a vanilla date where the guy pays for dinner, drinks, etc?

I don't feel any such obligation on a vanilla date so why on Earth would I feel that I owe him something if I met him from here??? Same difference to me. But I am not asking him to do all of this. It is an expectation I grew up with. Maybe you did not and had to pay for your evenings out with your vanilla dates

If he expects me to go halves on the room, etc, then I am not going to sit down and 'negotiate' with him. I'll just turn the key in the ignition and drive myself back home, alone"

I'm not on a vanilla date as I don't do them...yes I would feel obligated which is why I posted and explained my personal opinion...if you're not asking him to do it but expecting it, as that's what you grew up with; how on earth is he supposed to know that is your expectation? If, as you say, you'd drive away...fair dos. I'm on a swinging site, looking for NSA sex, ergo my expectation is to share costs (unless as previously stated, I'm on expenses where my work funds the hotel)...it's whatever works for one person - I'd feel like a pro if I was expecting a guy to pay all the bills on a "date" which, if I didn't fancy him, would make me feel pressurised into shagging when I wasn't attracted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

I share costs, unless I'm on expenses when I cover the hotel room and possibly a meal if I can get away with 2 meals at round about £40...I've never had a date where I expected the guy to pay for dinner, room, booze, chocs and flowers and I guess I never will as to me it would leave me feeling obligated to shag.- I should also say that Id never invite someone to my home from a long way away unless I'd already met or pretty much already decided to shag them on messages/calls only

So, do you feel obligated to strip and have sex when you go on a vanilla date where the guy pays for dinner, drinks, etc?

I don't feel any such obligation on a vanilla date so why on Earth would I feel that I owe him something if I met him from here??? Same difference to me. But I am not asking him to do all of this. It is an expectation I grew up with. Maybe you did not and had to pay for your evenings out with your vanilla dates

If he expects me to go halves on the room, etc, then I am not going to sit down and 'negotiate' with him. I'll just turn the key in the ignition and drive myself back home, alone"

Your profile states... "First meeting in a hotel bar of my choice only. if we wish to go further, then you get a room in the same hotel. sorry, but no exceptions at all"

So you expect a guy to pay for the room in the 'hotel of your choice' without any expectation of sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well something on Fab surprises me every day, and today it's been this thread. I'm genuinely gobsmacked at how different so many women's attitude is to mine on this, and how some seem proud of making men pay or could suggest those of us who want to contribute its because we have to..

So it's true after all, I'm a fucking awesome catch, they don't even have to pay for it.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"

Mr ddc...Fancy a fuck? The cats need worming and I could do with a bottle of Bucky...how's that sound?

Not so keen on wormy pussies, sorry

"

Picky, picky picky....that's you off my hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well something on Fab surprises me every day, and today it's been this thread. I'm genuinely gobsmacked at how different so many women's attitude is to mine on this, and how some seem proud of making men pay or could suggest those of us who want to contribute its because we have to..

So it's true after all, I'm a fucking awesome catch, they don't even have to pay for it. "

I'm with you on this one girly

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

I share costs, unless I'm on expenses when I cover the hotel room and possibly a meal if I can get away with 2 meals at round about £40...I've never had a date where I expected the guy to pay for dinner, room, booze, chocs and flowers and I guess I never will as to me it would leave me feeling obligated to shag.- I should also say that Id never invite someone to my home from a long way away unless I'd already met or pretty much already decided to shag them on messages/calls only

So, do you feel obligated to strip and have sex when you go on a vanilla date where the guy pays for dinner, drinks, etc?

I don't feel any such obligation on a vanilla date so why on Earth would I feel that I owe him something if I met him from here??? Same difference to me. But I am not asking him to do all of this. It is an expectation I grew up with. Maybe you did not and had to pay for your evenings out with your vanilla dates

If he expects me to go halves on the room, etc, then I am not going to sit down and 'negotiate' with him. I'll just turn the key in the ignition and drive myself back home, alone

Your profile states... "First meeting in a hotel bar of my choice only. if we wish to go further, then you get a room in the same hotel. sorry, but no exceptions at all"

So you expect a guy to pay for the room in the 'hotel of your choice' without any expectation of sex?"

lol; I will only expect him to book and pay for the room IF I WANT sex with him. Why on Earth would I want him to book a room otherwise? Well, he can if he likes, but I won't be there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well something on Fab surprises me every day, and today it's been this thread. I'm genuinely gobsmacked at how different so many women's attitude is to mine on this, and how some seem proud of making men pay or could suggest those of us who want to contribute its because we have to..

So it's true after all, I'm a fucking awesome catch, they don't even have to pay for it. "

That made me laugh!

In fairness, I've only seen these on couples profiles, but it seems as if many others share the sentiment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's true after all, I'm a fucking awesome catch"

you seem to be to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So it's true after all, I'm a fucking awesome catch

you seem to be to me "

Second that

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

I share costs, unless I'm on expenses when I cover the hotel room and possibly a meal if I can get away with 2 meals at round about £40...I've never had a date where I expected the guy to pay for dinner, room, booze, chocs and flowers and I guess I never will as to me it would leave me feeling obligated to shag.- I should also say that Id never invite someone to my home from a long way away unless I'd already met or pretty much already decided to shag them on messages/calls only

So, do you feel obligated to strip and have sex when you go on a vanilla date where the guy pays for dinner, drinks, etc?

I don't feel any such obligation on a vanilla date so why on Earth would I feel that I owe him something if I met him from here??? Same difference to me. But I am not asking him to do all of this. It is an expectation I grew up with. Maybe you did not and had to pay for your evenings out with your vanilla dates

If he expects me to go halves on the room, etc, then I am not going to sit down and 'negotiate' with him. I'll just turn the key in the ignition and drive myself back home, alone

I'm not on a vanilla date as I don't do them...yes I would feel obligated which is why I posted and explained my personal opinion...if you're not asking him to do it but expecting it, as that's what you grew up with; how on earth is he supposed to know that is your expectation? If, as you say, you'd drive away...fair dos. I'm on a swinging site, looking for NSA sex, ergo my expectation is to share costs (unless as previously stated, I'm on expenses where my work funds the hotel)...it's whatever works for one person - I'd feel like a pro if I was expecting a guy to pay all the bills on a "date" which, if I didn't fancy him, would make me feel pressurised into shagging when I wasn't attracted "

A guy paying for dinner and drinks on a date is quite different from him handing you £1500.00 for the rent on your Condo. Then you are a 'pro'

But like I said; it is what you are used to. You are probably used to paying for your dates and are happy doing so. In which case, carry on

I on the other hand, never took a guy out on a dinner date and paid for it; and I am not about to start now

I too am looking for NSA sex; but I am not about to start booking rooms and paying for those so that some guy can 'shag' me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you expect a guy to pay for dinner and a room so 'some woman can shag him'

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

I share costs, unless I'm on expenses when I cover the hotel room and possibly a meal if I can get away with 2 meals at round about £40...I've never had a date where I expected the guy to pay for dinner, room, booze, chocs and flowers and I guess I never will as to me it would leave me feeling obligated to shag.- I should also say that Id never invite someone to my home from a long way away unless I'd already met or pretty much already decided to shag them on messages/calls only

So, do you feel obligated to strip and have sex when you go on a vanilla date where the guy pays for dinner, drinks, etc?

I don't feel any such obligation on a vanilla date so why on Earth would I feel that I owe him something if I met him from here??? Same difference to me. But I am not asking him to do all of this. It is an expectation I grew up with. Maybe you did not and had to pay for your evenings out with your vanilla dates

If he expects me to go halves on the room, etc, then I am not going to sit down and 'negotiate' with him. I'll just turn the key in the ignition and drive myself back home, alone

I'm not on a vanilla date as I don't do them...yes I would feel obligated which is why I posted and explained my personal opinion...if you're not asking him to do it but expecting it, as that's what you grew up with; how on earth is he supposed to know that is your expectation? If, as you say, you'd drive away...fair dos. I'm on a swinging site, looking for NSA sex, ergo my expectation is to share costs (unless as previously stated, I'm on expenses where my work funds the hotel)...it's whatever works for one person - I'd feel like a pro if I was expecting a guy to pay all the bills on a "date" which, if I didn't fancy him, would make me feel pressurised into shagging when I wasn't attracted

A guy paying for dinner and drinks on a date is quite different from him handing you £1500.00 for the rent on your Condo. Then you are a 'pro'

But like I said; it is what you are used to. You are probably used to paying for your dates and are happy doing so. In which case, carry on

I on the other hand, never took a guy out on a dinner date and paid for it; and I am not about to start now

I too am looking for NSA sex; but I am not about to start booking rooms and paying for those so that some guy can 'shag' me "

That's your opinion, and you are entitled to it, as am I. would you like a hand putting your toys back in your pram?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Have seen quite a few profiles lately asking for, (or should I say demanding) gifts to be brought along to a meeting. "something fizzy and not lemonade" "a bottle of something... and not milk" "chocolates" etc. What are your thoughts on this?

I would expect the guy to pay for the drinks, the dinner, the room, the bottle of Prosecco, the chocolates, the flowers. But hey, if you are skint then you have the choice of meeting someone for just a shag I'd say, go for that instead

I share costs, unless I'm on expenses when I cover the hotel room and possibly a meal if I can get away with 2 meals at round about £40...I've never had a date where I expected the guy to pay for dinner, room, booze, chocs and flowers and I guess I never will as to me it would leave me feeling obligated to shag.- I should also say that Id never invite someone to my home from a long way away unless I'd already met or pretty much already decided to shag them on messages/calls only

So, do you feel obligated to strip and have sex when you go on a vanilla date where the guy pays for dinner, drinks, etc?

I don't feel any such obligation on a vanilla date so why on Earth would I feel that I owe him something if I met him from here??? Same difference to me. But I am not asking him to do all of this. It is an expectation I grew up with. Maybe you did not and had to pay for your evenings out with your vanilla dates

If he expects me to go halves on the room, etc, then I am not going to sit down and 'negotiate' with him. I'll just turn the key in the ignition and drive myself back home, alone

I'm not on a vanilla date as I don't do them...yes I would feel obligated which is why I posted and explained my personal opinion...if you're not asking him to do it but expecting it, as that's what you grew up with; how on earth is he supposed to know that is your expectation? If, as you say, you'd drive away...fair dos. I'm on a swinging site, looking for NSA sex, ergo my expectation is to share costs (unless as previously stated, I'm on expenses where my work funds the hotel)...it's whatever works for one person - I'd feel like a pro if I was expecting a guy to pay all the bills on a "date" which, if I didn't fancy him, would make me feel pressurised into shagging when I wasn't attracted

A guy paying for dinner and drinks on a date is quite different from him handing you £1500.00 for the rent on your Condo. Then you are a 'pro'

But like I said; it is what you are used to. You are probably used to paying for your dates and are happy doing so. In which case, carry on

I on the other hand, never took a guy out on a dinner date and paid for it; and I am not about to start now

I too am looking for NSA sex; but I am not about to start booking rooms and paying for those so that some guy can 'shag' me

That's your opinion, and you are entitled to it, as am I. would you like a hand putting your toys back in your pram?"

No thanks, I don't do 'prams'; double barrelled or otherwise; with or without the 'ciggie' drooping from my lips

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over a year ago

If two people are meeting for mutual benefit then shared costs is fair.

Anything else suggests uneven benefit. Or one is paying the other. That's prostitution.

I'm not judging. Pay for sex, get paid for sex; just be admit to yourself that's what's happening. If you're still happy with it, keep doing it. Just don't expect others to agree with you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I on the other hand, never took a guy out on a dinner date and paid for it; and I am not about to start now

I too am looking for NSA sex; but I am not about to start booking rooms and paying for those so that some guy can 'shag' me "

I can only speak for myself on this one, but if we met on a date and you told me that, we probably wouldn't meet again. I have no problem sharing anything I own with someone or paying for them, but it's done out of thought and care on my part. Not because of expectation.

As for the 'shag me' comment... I thought we're all consenting adults agreeing to shag each other. It's not a one way thing!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"

I on the other hand, never took a guy out on a dinner date and paid for it; and I am not about to start now

I too am looking for NSA sex; but I am not about to start booking rooms and paying for those so that some guy can 'shag' me

I can only speak for myself on this one, but if we met on a date and you told me that, we probably wouldn't meet again. I have no problem sharing anything I own with someone or paying for them, but it's done out of thought and care on my part. Not because of expectation.

As for the 'shag me' comment... I thought we're all consenting adults agreeing to shag each other. It's not a one way thing! "

Rest assured, you don't have to worry about any of this at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Rest assured, you don't have to worry about any of this at all "

There is a God!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"If two people are meeting for mutual benefit then shared costs is fair.

Anything else suggests uneven benefit. Or one is paying the other. That's prostitution.

I'm not judging. Pay for sex, get paid for sex; just be admit to yourself that's what's happening. If you're still happy with it, keep doing it. Just don't expect others to agree with you. "

That is how some guys want to see it. Those are not the type of guys I would meet

A vanilla date is for "mutual benefit" too. And I guess you'd expect her to pay for her 'fair share' at McDonalds

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT


"I wish I could expand on some of the profiles, but one basically labels a lot of people on the site as being 'cheapskates', with a note that 'if you think you can just roll up for a play, empty handed, (you should) forget it'. Just found that very odd! "

Personally I'd report them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I too am looking for NSA sex; but I am not about to start booking rooms and paying for those so that some guy can 'shag' me"

Josie, is this genuinely how you see NSA sex, or are you exaggerating to try and make a point?

Is the man always desperate?

Is your time or body worth more than his?

Do you not value yourself more than just something which is just paid to be shagged?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't imagine ever feeling so inferior that I would ever expect someone to pay for me...

I don't get how anyone could be proud to have been put in that position.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I too am looking for NSA sex; but I am not about to start booking rooms and paying for those so that some guy can 'shag' me

Josie, is this genuinely how you see NSA sex, or are you exaggerating to try and make a point?

Is the man always desperate?

Is your time or body worth more than his?

Do you not value yourself more than just something which is just paid to be shagged? "

I genuinely do not expect to 'go halves' on anything. This is not about NSA or NASA sex or whatever. It is how I have always been treated

It is not a question of me valuing myself more than him. It is a question of me having an expectation that:

- he will open the car door for me

- walk on the traffic side of the side-walk with me

- be behind me when going up on the escalator and ahead of me when coming down

- carry the bags

Now you may think that this is all very well in 'normal' life but this is a 'shag site' where some women will do it down the proverbial 'dark alley'. And maybe you are right

But I don't have to go down to that level. When I get that desperate, I stick my vibrator's USB cable into my laptop and,,, problem solved

The question of him paying does not arise. He is paying for the room and drinks, etc. In my mind, he is not paying for anything that would entitle him to even touch me. Well, I would not let him pay for the room unless I wanted him to touch me, and more

I really do not know what kind of dates these other women have been on where a bowl of soup makes them feel obliged to have sex with the 'soup buyer'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If that type of crap was brought to me i'd tell her to fucc right off we're most likely only meeting once so she wont be making any profit from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without getting personal, this is really quite a depressing thread.

There are serious self-respect issues and possibly more on display here.

I'm privileged to know professional, academic, intelligent women who would never dream of lowering themselves to being bought.

... and on that note I shall slip back out of this weird, depressing thread and try and find some people talking about fun things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just checking is this fab swingers or golddiggers.com ?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Without getting personal, this is really quite a depressing thread.

There are serious self-respect issues and possibly more on display here.

I'm privileged to know professional, academic, intelligent women who would never dream of lowering themselves to being bought.

... and on that note I shall slip back out of this weird, depressing thread and try and find some people talking about fun things. "

It seems to me that it is you with the self-respect issues. Nobody is saying that you have to buy anything. I am saying that I will not pay for a room, drinks, etc to have sex with a guy. To me, that is a serious lack of self-respect

Skint single male swingers try and polish this up with 'equality'. What they are really saying is that they would, on a vanilla date, pay for the evening without any expectations but here, the women are just 'slags' who should pay their own way for a f**k. Lets be clear about that

Yet, the same skint single male swingers have to fork out £20.00 for membership AND £60.00 for entrance fee at any swinger's clubs in and around London. And these places are literally crawling with them. What happened to 'equality' then?

See you at a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Without getting personal, this is really quite a depressing thread.

There are serious self-respect issues and possibly more on display here.

I'm privileged to know professional, academic, intelligent women who would never dream of lowering themselves to being bought.

... and on that note I shall slip back out of this weird, depressing thread and try and find some people talking about fun things.

It seems to me that it is you with the self-respect issues. Nobody is saying that you have to buy anything. I am saying that I will not pay for a room, drinks, etc to have sex with a guy. To me, that is a serious lack of self-respect

Skint single male swingers try and polish this up with 'equality'. What they are really saying is that they would, on a vanilla date, pay for the evening without any expectations but here, the women are just 'slags' who should pay their own way for a f**k. Lets be clear about that

Yet, the same skint single male swingers have to fork out £20.00 for membership AND £60.00 for entrance fee at any swinger's clubs in and around London. And these places are literally crawling with them. What happened to 'equality' then?

See you at a club "

You have reworded what you said. You're starting to sound less like a commodity now which is good. I hope you continue to progress. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Without getting personal, this is really quite a depressing thread.

There are serious self-respect issues and possibly more on display here.

I'm privileged to know professional, academic, intelligent women who would never dream of lowering themselves to being bought.

... and on that note I shall slip back out of this weird, depressing thread and try and find some people talking about fun things.

It seems to me that it is you with the self-respect issues. Nobody is saying that you have to buy anything. I am saying that I will not pay for a room, drinks, etc to have sex with a guy. To me, that is a serious lack of self-respect

Skint single male swingers try and polish this up with 'equality'. What they are really saying is that they would, on a vanilla date, pay for the evening without any expectations but here, the women are just 'slags' who should pay their own way for a f**k. Lets be clear about that

Yet, the same skint single male swingers have to fork out £20.00 for membership AND £60.00 for entrance fee at any swinger's clubs in and around London. And these places are literally crawling with them. What happened to 'equality' then?

See you at a club "

So are you saying you expect the guy to pay everything with no share costs?....

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"Without getting personal, this is really quite a depressing thread.

There are serious self-respect issues and possibly more on display here.

I'm privileged to know professional, academic, intelligent women who would never dream of lowering themselves to being bought.

... and on that note I shall slip back out of this weird, depressing thread and try and find some people talking about fun things.

It seems to me that it is you with the self-respect issues. Nobody is saying that you have to buy anything. I am saying that I will not pay for a room, drinks, etc to have sex with a guy. To me, that is a serious lack of self-respect

Skint single male swingers try and polish this up with 'equality'. What they are really saying is that they would, on a vanilla date, pay for the evening without any expectations but here, the women are just 'slags' who should pay their own way for a f**k. Lets be clear about that

Yet, the same skint single male swingers have to fork out £20.00 for membership AND £60.00 for entrance fee at any swinger's clubs in and around London. And these places are literally crawling with them. What happened to 'equality' then?

See you at a club "

I'm not sure you will see him at a club hun, a quick glance at veris reveals you're not operating in the same sort of circles at all. And neither are you and I, so this thread all makes a lot more sense to me now.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Without getting personal, this is really quite a depressing thread.

There are serious self-respect issues and possibly more on display here.

I'm privileged to know professional, academic, intelligent women who would never dream of lowering themselves to being bought.

... and on that note I shall slip back out of this weird, depressing thread and try and find some people talking about fun things.

It seems to me that it is you with the self-respect issues. Nobody is saying that you have to buy anything. I am saying that I will not pay for a room, drinks, etc to have sex with a guy. To me, that is a serious lack of self-respect

Skint single male swingers try and polish this up with 'equality'. What they are really saying is that they would, on a vanilla date, pay for the evening without any expectations but here, the women are just 'slags' who should pay their own way for a f**k. Lets be clear about that

Yet, the same skint single male swingers have to fork out £20.00 for membership AND £60.00 for entrance fee at any swinger's clubs in and around London. And these places are literally crawling with them. What happened to 'equality' then?

See you at a club

So are you saying you expect the guy to pay everything with no share costs?...."

Damn; did I type all of the above using the Plattdeutsch Codec???

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Without getting personal, this is really quite a depressing thread.

There are serious self-respect issues and possibly more on display here.

I'm privileged to know professional, academic, intelligent women who would never dream of lowering themselves to being bought.

... and on that note I shall slip back out of this weird, depressing thread and try and find some people talking about fun things.

It seems to me that it is you with the self-respect issues. Nobody is saying that you have to buy anything. I am saying that I will not pay for a room, drinks, etc to have sex with a guy. To me, that is a serious lack of self-respect

Skint single male swingers try and polish this up with 'equality'. What they are really saying is that they would, on a vanilla date, pay for the evening without any expectations but here, the women are just 'slags' who should pay their own way for a f**k. Lets be clear about that

Yet, the same skint single male swingers have to fork out £20.00 for membership AND £60.00 for entrance fee at any swinger's clubs in and around London. And these places are literally crawling with them. What happened to 'equality' then?

See you at a club

I'm not sure you will see him at a club hun, a quick glance at veris reveals you're not operating in the same sort of circles at all. And neither are you and I, so this thread all makes a lot more sense to me now. "

Thank, something, for that

You do the 'glancing', 'hun'

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...Agree that basically I was right all along

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Never expect anything to be bought for me. Even when i travel i dont expect a chip in for petrol money. Ive chose to travel there why should they pay? Only thing id ask for is halfsies on a hotel. Or maybe a drink at the pub.

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