FabSwingers.com forum: finding sum1 to go to first club with

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How to find someone willing to take a newbie to a club

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Why can't you go on your own?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For me personally would just feel alot more confident walking in with someone ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its just the same as walking in a pub!

Bite the bullet, you'l wonder what all the fuss was about

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You are rite! What should I expect when I go in loads of different rooms with naked people in with masks on and glory holes gangbangs etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what club your planning on attending.

You will find lots of normal people wandering around in either a towel or sexy underwear. There are rooms for playing either lockable or not

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Iam not sure just yet Iam trying to find some good ones but probably first time unless I was with someone experienced a little I reckon I would just watch if invited to play I definitely would tho hah

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"You are rite! What should I expect when I go in loads of different rooms with naked people in with masks on and glory holes gangbangs etc"
You've been watching too many bad TV so called documentaries. Clubs are great you get to meet nice, normal people and it's not all sex there's the social aspect to. Most clubs will be happy to show you around on first visit you don't need someone to hold your hand

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Most clubs have social nights for newbies,that is the best way to start.

It is not all sex,it is a night at the pub with sex maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame he's not going to a club in the mids

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Masks?

Have a look out for club based socials on here. A good way to get to know people in a not (very) sexual environment and get familiar with clubs too.

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By *edallionMan
over a year ago

manchester

"Shame he's not going to a club in the mids

Nice I would like to go to the ones in the mids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to my first club a few weeks ago by myself - I was a little nervous about walking into the place from the street, I felt like everyone was watching me but as soon as I was in the club I felt relaxed - the hosts and guests were so welcoming. I did get to play but for me it was mainly about getting used to how it all works (not complicated - like it has already be said,just like being on a pub) and chatting to people.

I'm glad I went by myself because I was able to leave when ever I wanted to; although to be honest I could've stayed all night.

Just do it!

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By *arewithmeMan
over a year ago

Craven Arms

Man up, get yourself to a club, best not to go with someone because when you go on your own you can do your own thing and not have to think about what the other person is doing or thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing about clubs if your a single guy, it's a lot dearer to get in

Also a lot of the time you can end up walking round like a spare part.

Find a lass off here and take her you will have a better time, plenty of women like to go to clubs and would be happy to be club buddies.

Your in Huddersfield, there are clubs in rochdale and bury which are easy enough to get to for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shame he's not going to a club in the mids

Nice I would like to go to the ones in the mids

feel free to go to one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Iam going to one f###### ha but if someone does want to Tagalog giz a shout xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shame he's not going to a club in the mids

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i thought that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shame he's not going to a club in the mids

i thought that too

u know me too well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its so not like youre imagining but i know how you feel - its exactly how i felt when the idea wsa put to me - i thought mass orgies everywhere - ehem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing about clubs if your a single guy, it's a lot dearer to get in

Also a lot of the time you can end up walking round like a spare part.

Find a lass off here and take her you will have a better time, plenty of women like to go to clubs and would be happy to be club buddies.

Your in Huddersfield, there are clubs in rochdale and bury which are easy enough to get to for you"

I think you will find experienced female club goers would avoid taking an inexperience male to a club so he can get in cheap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you will find experienced female club goers would avoid taking an inexperience male to a club so he can get in cheap."

a single bloke would likely have to pay 50 quid on the door plus 40 or 50 quid membership.

That's probably not something you would consider as you can get in for free.

But it's not just about the money, the majority of women are in a club with partners most expect to "wife swap" so if he goes in with a lady he increased his chance to play consirably.

Admittedly some couples like to have mmf 3 somes and you do get greedy girls wanting lots of guys

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I think you will find experienced female club goers would avoid taking an inexperience male to a club so he can get in cheap.

a single bloke would likely have to pay 50 quid on the door plus 40 or 50 quid membership.

That's probably not something you would consider as you can get in for free.

But it's not just about the money, the majority of women are in a club with partners most expect to "wife swap" so if he goes in with a lady he increased his chance to play consirably.

Admittedly some couples like to have mmf 3 somes and you do get greedy girls wanting lots of guys "

So what would the woman get from the deal? Sounds very much like she'll just be used so he gets a better time. Can't see many being up for that.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its usually cheaper to go with someone than as a single male to a club lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what would the woman get from the deal? Sounds very much like she'll just be used so he gets a better time. Can't see many being up for that....."

Well a lot of women don't go to clubs on thier own, maybe you do I don't know but I'm going to hazard a guess and say most don't.

So I'm going to say she gets to go to the club and have fun. I have heard that some women actually enjoy going to clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to clubs on my own and it isn't always easy, but I do it. OP, grow a pair and crack on.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

So what would the woman get from the deal? Sounds very much like she'll just be used so he gets a better time. Can't see many being up for that.....

Well a lot of women don't go to clubs on thier own, maybe you do I don't know but I'm going to hazard a guess and say most don't.

So I'm going to say she gets to go to the club and have fun. I have heard that some women actually enjoy going to clubs "

I go regularly on my own and love it. I would not want to go in the situation you mentioned above as I would feel used by the guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go to clubs on my own and it isn't always easy, but I do it. OP, grow a pair and crack on."

Yes it's not easy but when you get there you get in for free and find your the most popular kid at the party, where as the OP will find 100 quid removed from him and very likely end up not playing cos often swingers clubs are like the inside of a packet of Richmond stuffed full of sausage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go regularly on my own and love it. I would not want to go in the situation you mentioned above as I would feel used by the guy"

Great, respect for making the effort and I'm sure you have a fantastic time.

But my advice isn't for you its for the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go to clubs on my own and it isn't always easy, but I do it. OP, grow a pair and crack on.

£100? What clubs are you talking about? The clubs I go to charge single women. I have to make as much effort in a club as everyone else and have been to clubs and been ignored. Do you actually go to clubs yourself?

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I go regularly on my own and love it. I would not want to go in the situation you mentioned above as I would feel used by the guy

Great, respect for making the effort and I'm sure you have a fantastic time.

But my advice isn't for you its for the OP"

I am pointing out that he will find it easier to go alone than waste time trying to find a woman willing to be used in this way. It's also not a very nice way to treat women, using them to get in cheaper and to get at other women. It won't show him in a very good light if he takes your advice surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go to clubs on my own and it isn't always easy, but I do it. OP, grow a pair and crack on.

Lots of clubs charge a single guy 50 quid on the door and also insist on a membership which is 40 or 50 quid.

Yes I have been to clubs many times,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go regularly on my own and love it. I would not want to go in the situation you mentioned above as I would feel used by the guy

Great, respect for making the effort and I'm sure you have a fantastic time.

But my advice isn't for you its for the OP

I'm not suggesting he use any one, I'm suggesting he use this site for what it's meant for. That is to meet people. Then I'm suggesting he go with one of those people because in my considerable clubbing experience he will have a better time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to agree with the girls above, all the single females I know are very happy to go on their own with the knowledge they're going to have a good evening, think the op much better of being brave and attending on his own, that way he has the ability to mix and chat with people independently and the freedom to arrive and leave on his own time frame.

Op the clubs are generally very friendly and people more than happy to chat with new people and make them feel welcome. You will get a tour and the chance to chat with the staff to ask any questions that you may have. Be brave and go enjoy yourself

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

OP if you go to a few socials before hand then you will most likely see people in the club that you have met before. That way you won't feel so isolated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What should I expect when I go in loads of naked people with masks on"

That made me laugh

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Nice I would like to go to the ones in the mids

Id like you to go to one in my area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always go with a fuckbuddy you see single guys waking about clubs and I'm not sure if they play a lot but I think to myself im glad I came with a playmate op if you are paying for the woman I hope you find SOMBODY I think clubs are a bit over rated but that's my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing about clubs if your a single guy, it's a lot dearer to get in

Also a lot of the time you can end up walking round like a spare part.

Find a lass off here and take her you will have a better time, plenty of women like to go to clubs and would be happy to be club buddies.

Your in Huddersfield, there are clubs in rochdale and bury which are easy enough to get to for you

I think you will find experienced female club goers would avoid taking an inexperience male to a club so he can get in cheap."

this is one reason why i dont go to clubs with people x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think you will find experienced female club goers would avoid taking an inexperience male to a club so he can get in cheap.

a single bloke would likely have to pay 50 quid on the door plus 40 or 50 quid membership.

That's probably not something you would consider as you can get in for free.

But it's not just about the money, the majority of women are in a club with partners most expect to "wife swap" so if he goes in with a lady he increased his chance to play consirably.

Admittedly some couples like to have mmf 3 somes and you do get greedy girls wanting lots of guys "

interesting you say "its not about the money" but then you bring up the prices of a night to go (by the way... would love to know which clubs charge 50 + 50 because in all the clubs in the uk I have been to.... none have come close to that)

its not that he can't go to clubs.... its that he can't go enough..... so do what a lot of us single guys have to do....

budget......

if I go out on a saturday night... I budget

if I go to a social.. and in involves travelling... I budget

if I go to a club.... guess what... I budget!!!

its interesting that people want to be hand held by people they don't know thru big scary doors.... and still wont know people... as opposed to sucking in it, going in and talking to people they don't know.... I don't really see the difference

I think it is done because they think it is some sort of guarentee... and because its gets them in cheaper....

what do you think most other single guys do... we just go in....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love how every one has jumped on the cost issue, it's not about that.

Also how a lot of people have had ago about the OP needing his hand held, it's not about that either.

It's about having a good time, and if your an ugly bastard like me then going to a club on your own actually isn't that great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cost is worth considering, as i wonder if the Op would be asking if it was like 20 quid in

(just a thought)

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I love how every one has jumped on the cost issue, it's not about that.

Also how a lot of people have had ago about the OP needing his hand held, it's not about that either.

It's about having a good time, and if your an ugly bastard like me then going to a club on your own actually isn't that great.

......... the irony being if you read back thru the entire thread, the first person to mentioned anything about costs in the thread...... is you!

a club night is what you make of it... if your terms of a "good night" is that you have to play.... then I wouldn't advise that person to go to a club, because they are likely to be disappointed, and that "sense of entitlement" actually does come across in clubs more than people realise.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love how every one has jumped on the cost issue, it's not about that.

Also how a lot of people have had ago about the OP needing his hand held, it's not about that either.

It's about having a good time, and if your an ugly bastard like me then going to a club on your own actually isn't that great.

......... the irony being if you read back thru the entire thread, the first person to mentioned anything about costs in the thread...... is you!

you are a guy that has said he has to budget to go out. This means the cost of getting into a club is relevant information, that's why I originally mentioned it.

You are right a club night is what you make of it.

The sense of entitlement from some guys is because its dear to get in, at least this is what I have found when I have talked to single guys.

Now it is what it is, I don't think the cost is unreasonable tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sadly going to clubs, i have heard couples (yes couples) as well as single men and women assuming that going to a club will get them sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes some people do assume they are going to get sex, I saw a woman at the week end get into the jacuzzi next to another couple and grope the lady of that couple in an intermate manner. It was uninvited and unwelcome.

I love the relaxed attitude you find at good clubs, I like the mix of people and I love the thrill that there may be naughty shinanigins.

Like anything I life you should have aspirations not expectations

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

you are a guy that has said he has to budget to go out. This means the cost of getting into a club is relevant information, that's why I originally mentioned it.

You are right a club night is what you make of it.

The sense of entitlement from some guys is because its dear to get in, at least this is what I have found when I have talked to single guys.

Now it is what it is, I don't think the cost is unreasonable tbh "

I budget to go out regardless... for example, saturday night (if i am well enough fingers crossed)... I am going to the newcastle social... so i will go out, buy drinks... if they are alcoholic then I need transport in, and transport back out, oooh... what if i get hungry, ect ect ect....

so I budget......

will i spend more that night having a blast than i would do at a club... probably....

budget....

we budget for everything...... that sky big package i had, where i wasn't watching everything and using everything.... i scaled that back... means i have a bit more money to be doing other things.....

and so on.... and so on......

the biggest inpediment to single guys are themselves.... in that strangely in clubs, they speak to other single guys, but suddenly go mute around couples like they are a different species....

silent ninja's treading grooves in the carpet patrolling all the play areas...

whereas those who can have a civilised conversation about normal things and just chat and talk tend to be the ones who stand out and tend to have a lot more fun........

thats why i say a club night is what you make of it.....

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"How to find someone willing to take a newbie to a club "

I would, but too far away lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are a guy that has said he has to budget to go out. This means the cost of getting into a club is relevant information, that's why I originally mentioned it.

You are right a club night is what you make of it.

The sense of entitlement from some guys is because its dear to get in, at least this is what I have found when I have talked to single guys.

Now it is what it is, I don't think the cost is unreasonable tbh

so I budget......

will i spend more that night having a blast than i would do at a club... probably....

budget....

and so on.... and so on......

the biggest inpediment to single guys are themselves.... in that strangely in clubs, they speak to other single guys, but suddenly go mute around couples like they are a different species....

silent ninja's treading grooves in the carpet patrolling all the play areas...

whereas those who can have a civilised conversation about normal things and just chat and talk tend to be the ones who stand out and tend to have a lot more fun........

thats why i say a club night is what you make of it....."

I actually agree with you in all points, I love the imagery of silent ninjas clothed in black towels stalking the passageways of a club

ready to pounce on unsuspecting couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are a guy that has said he has to budget to go out. This means the cost of getting into a club is relevant information, that's why I originally mentioned it.

You are right a club night is what you make of it.

The sense of entitlement from some guys is because its dear to get in, at least this is what I have found when I have talked to single guys.

Now it is what it is, I don't think the cost is unreasonable tbh

so I budget......

will i spend more that night having a blast than i would do at a club... probably....

budget....

and so on.... and so on......

the biggest inpediment to single guys are themselves.... in that strangely in clubs, they speak to other single guys, but suddenly go mute around couples like they are a different species....

silent ninja's treading grooves in the carpet patrolling all the play areas...

whereas those who can have a civilised conversation about normal things and just chat and talk tend to be the ones who stand out and tend to have a lot more fun........

thats why i say a club night is what you make of it.....

I actually agree with you in all points, I love the imagery of silent ninjas clothed in black towels stalking the passageways of a club

ready to pounce on unsuspecting couples "

one reason why i love xtasia as no unddressed men x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Your right!! Iam just gunner go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your right!! Iam just gunner go "

enjoy

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By *orthwest_cplCouple
over a year ago

Stretford

Lots of clubs charge a single guy 50 quid on the door and also insist on a membership which is 40 or 50 quid.

Yes I have been to clubs many times,

Your figures seem slightly out of touch. Which clubs in the northwest charge £50 entry for guys? The dearest in Manchester seems to be a maximum of £30 (Sat night but cheaper other nights). There are at least 3 clubs in the area that don't charge single males for membership.

Finding a woman on here to get into a club as a couple could be a long drawn out search - going as a single male will be much more practical for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading from the website of a popular manchester club Entry is between 15 and 25 if a member, membership is 75 quid for 12 months. With out membership it's 40 or 50 on the door.

Other clubs may differ but I can't be arsed to check

But it matters little as he is going on his own regardless

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I might be??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I need to get myself a mask first haha jk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you only need a mask if your going on a crap tv program

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or if its a mask event lol

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