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By *oxes OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only messages I get are about my profile so can't say I've experienced it.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

I would say that 90% of the messages we get are from people that have never read through our profile. The thing that bugs me more is the amount of single guys that reply to our couple profile but address their message to me (the female)

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By *oxes OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

I take it those men get an instant delte or block.

I probably only get a message once ever 6 Days or something but ones I do are reply to me messages or people with no Profile pic saying "you want to fuck today?" and I think No fuck off you clearly have not read what my profile says 1/2 way down.

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

No the sad thing is I usually end up chatting just for something to do during quiet spells at work

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By *oxes OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

Thats not sad that just being social surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had I read your profile in isolation I'd say it was a single females.

People don't read profiles. Majority messages I get are gay men. Something I ask not to message me.

Be happy you are getting messages and get on with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long winded and demanding profiles are boring .

We are here to have fun and we smoke

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Unfortunately this happens all the time. Most of my messages are from single men and because of how my profile is written it is clear that they either haven't read or at least not understood some of it but I suspect couples and women would be as bad in other circumstances.

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By *oxes OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

Bambi in what way to you does it sound like a single females?

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By *ercy the Park KeeperMan
over a year ago

Chester


"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? "

I think people read fine they just don't respond in relation to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we get it all the time ! We have put in our profile we don't meet people from our home town but we still get loads of messages from people here xx

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I have an average of 30 messages per day, not all from separate people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bambi in what way to you does it sound like a single females? "

Lots of rules and regulations, deleted or blocked if you don't comply etc etc.

Sounds like half the demanding females on here. No wonder you don't get many messages

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By *oxes OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

Thats fair point Bambi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? "

if i send a message i read the profile

on getting messages about 80/20 80 that people dont x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

The fact that someone was daft enough to read all of my profile is a good reason for me not to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? "
I had this couple harrasing me for a face pic. Pretty sure they hadn't read my profile.

I'm not into couples, I don't arrange to meet online - why on Earth had they come to the conclusion that I owed them the favour of sending my face pic?

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Hey Tina as you've not explicitly ruled then out do you do semaphore, morse code or smoke signals?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"Hey Tina as you've not explicitly ruled then out do you do semaphore, morse code or smoke signals?"

I semaphore in smoke signal, but only after dusk, as it is a smokeless zone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty sure most guys do read my profile, but sometimes after a bit of conversation i realise they haven't always. I just stop talking to them then, if i bothered speaking to them in the first place.

Same for people who didn't read it in the first place. I don't bother talking to them.

If they don't give a shit what i want then i don't see why i should speak to them. Can imagine them being vwery selfish in bed tbf. I always read profiles from anyone who messages me, to see what they want and that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i do get the odd message its generally about what ive wrote on my profile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I message someone it's because I find them interesting so I usually reference something from their profile (or use the secret word!), I think a basic message, or a copy & paste that bears no relation to the profile is obvious to everyone and isn't worth sending let alone replying to.

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By *oxes OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"If I message someone it's because I find them interesting so I usually reference something from their profile (or use the secret word!), I think a basic message, or a copy & paste that bears no relation to the profile is obvious to everyone and isn't worth sending let alone replying to."

Thats a good idea Jessie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had I read your profile in isolation I'd say it was a single females.

"

I agree, you sound like a right diva, I wouldn't message women that was so demanding, so think about if one would message you, bearing in mind the ratio on here.

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By *oxes OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? I had this couple harrasing me for a face pic. Pretty sure they hadn't read my profile.

I'm not into couples, I don't arrange to meet online - why on Earth had they come to the conclusion that I owed them the favour of sending my face pic?

"

There is a reason why I don't send face pics out and I can understand why people want them as veri but surly it is better to skype someone as you can physically see them or if you are happy sendig face pics out and one with a fab swingers link drawn on paper that way we ca veri for defo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree, you sound like a right diva, I wouldn't message women that was so demanding, so think about if one would message you, bearing in mind the ratio on here."
In defense. I couldn't care less what he writes in his profile text on a random website.

It's the person I eventually bump in to in real life, in a club, I value.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same and when I do get a msg they haven't read the profile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think quite a few don't or choose to ignore it as I have had some men keep asking me what I like or when I meet them keep trying to get me to do things I say I don't like, not too many though fortunately.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

yes

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I like it when someone shows they have read it by mentioning something in your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never read profiles...I just lick the pictures

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By *oxes OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"Had I read your profile in isolation I'd say it was a single females.

I agree, you sound like a right diva, I wouldn't message women that was so demanding, so think about if one would message you, bearing in mind the ratio on here."

Whats your perfect guide to writing the single male profile.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Oh yes!

Part n parcel of the site, unfortunately. It doesn't bother us that much but have to agree with the earlier poster about only addressing one half of a couple, that grates a little, we find that a bit rude tbh but not enough to lose any sleep. Speaking of which.......................

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats your perfect guide to writing the single male profile. "

I doubt there is one as everybody is different and looking for different things, but I would say that a list of do's and don'ts, shouty capitals or rants would be very off-putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? I had this couple harrasing me for a face pic. Pretty sure they hadn't read my profile.

I'm not into couples, I don't arrange to meet online - why on Earth had they come to the conclusion that I owed them the favour of sending my face pic?

There is a reason why I don't send face pics out and I can understand why people want them as veri but surly it is better to skype someone as you can physically see them or if you are happy sendig face pics out and one with a fab swingers link drawn on paper that way we ca veri for defo. "

We like to see a face pic. Because if there is no attraction and the first view you get is Skype, it's going to be a strained embarrassing conversation.

And since the ratio of males to couples is massively one sided. We can move on if there is no face pic there are thousands who will send it.

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire


"Long winded and demanding profiles are boring .

We are here to have fun and we smoke "

You smoke! Isn't that an executionable offence these day?

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By *aughty cpl for funCouple
over a year ago

chester


"I would say that 90% of the messages we get are from people that have never read through our profile. The thing that bugs me more is the amount of single guys that reply to our couple profile but address their message to me (the female)"

Totally agree same happens to us all the time. Very rude and very annoying xx

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

Profiles (in our opinion ) should be informative, light hearted and not to long.

Dave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? "

I would agree that this in my experience is the norm, I have experience this on both this profile and my couples one and at a guesstimate I would say around 70% of people who have messaged have not read through the profile in its entirety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that the majority of people who message me have read my profile and send a decent message in response. I don't get loads of messages but the ones I do get tend to be quality ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people don't read profiles, it usually ensures I delete their message pretty quickly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had I read your profile in isolation I'd say it was a single females.

I agree, you sound like a right diva, I wouldn't message women that was so demanding, so think about if one would message you, bearing in mind the ratio on here."

Totally disagree, when I was meeting I preferred a profile that stated what he wanted and liked (as others say demands!) But its not demanding it shows you have boundaries, standards, personal preferences, a brain!! Otherwise you might as well just write I'll fuck anything! I certainly want somebody who I believed wanted me because we have similar desires and not just because I have a pussy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people? "

Maybe a lot read and choose not to message, I've certainly seen a dramatic decline in messages since I'm not meeting. However, I still get around 20 messages a day asking for a meet so I'd say 100% of them haven't bothered to read. When I was meeting I think possibly 10% read, or the 90% that appeared not to have read did and thought fuck it I'll message her anyway regardless of what she says she wants!! Either way the 90% got ignored. And the 10% that had clearly read, the majority of them decided to ignore anyway...saying things like "I see you only want local, I'm not local but can travel" or "you requested pics but I won't send them"!!! So why message I just don't get it! I've been on here 3 years in total and have received thousands of messages, and I swear on my daughters life I can count on my fingers how many of those have been what I consider a good opening message rant over sorry!

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

I'm a single bloke. We're told we don't read profiles.

I try to live up to expectations

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

hardly anyone reads our profile, they don't even get to line 2 or 3, which is very obvious the moment we open their email.

just dont understand why people don't want to make an effort to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pfff- got better things to do with my time than read fab profiles.

too many of them blabber on for ages like anyone cares. quickly skip to the bottom for any keyword, then send a copy+pasted message.

its a meat market- no one goes through the shop reading labels

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

If they can't read my profile I cant imagine they would make an effort on a meet. I do both.

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By *oxes OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"I Am single male so I do not exactly get many messages. But when on the off chance I do get messages I swear that only a few of of the peoples who messaged me have actually read what I have written. Is this the same for most people?

Maybe a lot read and choose not to message, I've certainly seen a dramatic decline in messages since I'm not meeting. However, I still get around 20 messages a day asking for a meet so I'd say 100% of them haven't bothered to read. When I was meeting I think possibly 10% read, or the 90% that appeared not to have read did and thought fuck it I'll message her anyway regardless of what she says she wants!! Either way the 90% got ignored. And the 10% that had clearly read, the majority of them decided to ignore anyway...saying things like "I see you only want local, I'm not local but can travel" or "you requested pics but I won't send them"!!! So why message I just don't get it! I've been on here 3 years in total and have received thousands of messages, and I swear on my daughters life I can count on my fingers how many of those have been what I consider a good opening message rant over sorry! "

Its because men think glass 1/2 full. If i message i might have an outside chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they can't read my profile I cant imagine they would make an effort on a meet. I do both. "

Totally agree. I see it as selfish, self centered and just looking for anyone who'll say yes, regardless of what that person wants, they'll just choose to ignore.

I wanted somebody to look at my profile and think she looks nice and we appear compatible, I'll message. Not....she's got a fanny I'll message and chance my luck!!

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By *oxes OP   Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"If they can't read my profile I cant imagine they would make an effort on a meet. I do both.

Totally agree. I see it as selfish, self centered and just looking for anyone who'll say yes, regardless of what that person wants, they'll just choose to ignore.

I wanted somebody to look at my profile and think she looks nice and we appear compatible, I'll message. Not....she's got a fanny I'll message and chance my luck!!"

I could not agree more i would not want some to look at my profile and think slab meat.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

It helps me as it does help me filter

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

I always read the profile.

Bizarrely, most of the people reading mine are male.

Off to germinate small seeds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"pfff- got better things to do with my time than read fab profiles.

too many of them blabber on for ages like anyone cares. quickly skip to the bottom for any keyword, then send a copy+pasted message.

its a meat market- no one goes through the shop reading labels

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I've taken this as a joke....I hope I'm right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently one or two haven't read my profile. I don't reply to their messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey Tina as you've not explicitly ruled then out do you do semaphore, morse code or smoke signals?

I semaphore in smoke signal, but only after dusk, as it is a smokeless zone "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently one or two haven't read my profile. I don't reply to their messages "

Good idea and don't meet anyone until you know they have read it properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they can't read my profile I cant imagine they would make an effort on a meet. I do both. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently one or two haven't read my profile. I don't reply to their messages

Good idea and don't meet anyone until you know they have read it properly."

I won't. Thank you

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