FabSwingers.com forum: Bye bye Paula all Alone

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys!

Going to have to delete this account because some total prick copied picks of me from fab and sent them to my ex with a horrible message. My uber-straight laced ex now thinks i'm scum and the great relationship we maintained for the kids has been destroyed!

As i've no idea what this person might do next (tell my mother/kids etc) i've decided to delete this profile and set up another, more discreet profile that hopefully he/she won't recognise.

Will be on the forums when permitted with my new profile name - and i'm sure you'll recognise my unique wit and charm easily enough!

In the meantime - big hugs everyone!

Paula all Alone xx

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

That's a pisser , au revoir and welcome back ( just thought I would get in first )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes that's fine and big hugs from me, looking forward to your return xxxxx.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no. What a complete and utter shitbag ! Sorry to hear this. Some people have no discretion or tact whatsoever !

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By *heDevilsinthedetailMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Sorry to hear that! Some people are horrible! Sad to see you go Paula!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Some people are so vicious - so sorry to hear, good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Appalling when that happens, and look forward to working out your new profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys. See you all again soon! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear what happened. This place seems to bring out the best...and the worse in people.

I'm glad it won't change your lifestyle and hopefully in time you can repair said damage.

T x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh sweetie, how awful.. See you soon. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sad to see you go,,all the best xxxx

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By *asmanian TigerMan
over a year ago

lala land

How sad and what a scumbag whoever it is cowered i will miss looking at your bum

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

Bye Paula. See you soon I hope xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear what that prick did......shameful... Did u report to admin.

Best wishes....keep having fun....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See you soon sweetie. x

when you come back maybe keep some of your photos friends only & have generic ones for public ~ harder to prove its you.

honestly some people need to mind their own business, hope you can repair the damage that's been done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bye sweetie some people are total twats xx

C u soon x

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By *MP3Man
over a year ago

Between Scylla and Charybdis

That's bloody awful. Sorry to hear this Paula x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that and hope ur back soon some sad people spoiling it for some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's so spiteful. Hope to see you back soon. Xxx

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

We've not chatted, but best of luck & see ya soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people have no life and get a kick out of shit like this. Hope it all works out with the new one and you manage to stay below the radar.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Oh Paula that's horrible! Some people are so nasty! Xx

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

That's awful! See you soon

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

That's awful! I hope it all works out and I'll look forward to seeing you in your new incarnation xxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God that's horrible. I hope you can sort things out. Best wishes xx

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By *t3_jalapenoMan
over a year ago

darlo

speak soon paula x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How horrid

When you come back on block them straight away.

See you soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ridiculous the length some people go to sad that something amicable was destroyed.

Best wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How horrid

When you come back on block them straight away.

See you soon "

Assuming she knows who it was which I suspect she does not.....sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give us a shout when you're back. There'll always be cake here for you lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How horrid

When you come back on block them straight away.

See you soon

Assuming she knows who it was which I suspect she does not.....sadly

I would imagine she does if the scumbag knows her ex and she thinks he's capable of contacting her family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what comes around goes around...good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arseholes! See you on the flip side though mate....!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell

Some sad people about

Hope things settle down for you.

Dont let the bastids win x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've not chatted, but best of luck & see ya soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sorry that has happened

its horrible to think some people would take enjoyment out of doing stuff like that on these sites x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I dick he is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arsehole springs to mind. I hope the damage he caused is short term, and that karma chews his nuts off...

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

That's awful. Cyber bully,prick and nasty with it. Hope all is ok in the end xxx

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Unbelievable what some arseholes will do and for what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

need any help with the " problem " paula im available

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does this mean our marriage is null and void?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How horrid

When you come back on block them straight away.

See you soon

Assuming she knows who it was which I suspect she does not.....sadly

I would imagine she does if the scumbag knows her ex and she thinks he's capable of contacting her family."

Unfortunately i've no idea who it was. Didn't know I had any 'enemies' - not a nice thought!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does this mean our marriage is null and void?"

Just delayed babe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is awful! Hope things settle down for you. Some sad little people around. x

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By *ichaelangelaCouple
over a year ago

notts

just find it strange (if your reading this) that you advertise the fact that you will be back on under a different name for all to see .... including the person who blew your cover in the first place.

but good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I echo the sentiments of everyone else Paula, you're well liked here, don't be gone too long x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though you've gone and can't see this I genuinely feel for you. I hope you manage to get this sorted out and the scum that did this rots. They've ruined your relationship with your children's father which will impact on your kids. There's never a reason for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Horrible stuff. How awful for you.

Big hugs

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

Thats awful,hope you get it sorted! was lovely to meet you on the weekend xx

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By *ecretescapeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

aww paula so sorry to hear this .something similar happened to me .i wont let them get to me though and sounds like you are the same.Really hope you work it out with your ex..mine was ok after a bit when he found out about me,after all its your sex life..totally separate from the kids x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guy had the same thing happen to him, hence no face pics in public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some nasty vindictive people around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just find it strange (if your reading this) that you advertise the fact that you will be back on under a different name for all to see .... including the person who blew your cover in the first place.

but good luck"

Exactly my thoughts

Maybe that person

The ex is also on here!!!

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By *ceraiderMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Happened to me and I just said screw you. My life. My choice. It's not illegal and if they don't like it they can do one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same. Someone even named my kids and asked if they knew there dad Was on fab. Some nasty people in this world. Good luck and see you soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to see you go Paula... some spiteful people about. Hope you get things sorted x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for you Paula. Being outed is something I fear.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

That's proper shit Paula......

I hope to see you back your bum is a fav or mine

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

Sad to hear this. That's more reason you should beef up your profile security. Your pictures shouldn't reveal much about you. In fact some female and couples profile is so open to abuse for weirdos. I think this is a wakeup call for these still dragging their feet. Blackmailers prowl for weak victims.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs Paula. That's terrible news! There are somes knobs on here.

Hope you are back soon and I hope things improve with your ex xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that's just awful that anyone would do that.

Glad to see you'll be back though. Don't let the bastards keep you down!

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple
over a year ago

Hinckley

"Sad to hear this. That's more reason you should beef up your profile security. Your pictures shouldn't reveal much about you. In fact some female and couples profile is so open to abuse for weirdos. I think this is a wakeup call for these still dragging their feet. Blackmailers prowl for weak victims."

A white knight and sweeping generalisation combo - that's worth 10,000 points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What the hell goes through some peoples heads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say I kind of agree with this. I don't understand why people are so public with their pics etc if it would cause such problems if they were found out. Yes it's horrible what has happened but why the need to do everything so publicly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A white knight and sweeping generalisation combo - that's worth 10,000 points."

I would agree with this comment, some people have a lot of identifiable photos in public which is fine but also makes its easy for someone to to do what Paula has described.

If your photos are more generic it's a lot easier to say that's not me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel for you Paula. Being outed is something I fear."

Yes me too. What an absolutely despicable thing that person did. My ex wife accused Mrs N and I of swinging and was a bit hostile and holier than though about it, even though I had some dirt on her that I kept to myself. Luckily I don't think she has ever found the evidence or has chosen not to exploit it.

It must have been a mortifying moment when he confronted you.Take comfort in knowledge that you made the right decision to leave your small minded ex and remember it's not what your kids think of you when they are 14 that counts it's when they are 40. I hope your kids are not too spoiled by it and realise that their dad is a bit of a twat but hopefully may grow up a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can never understand why some people would wish to do this to others . Its very sad in this day and age . Shame on them .... OP what goes around comes around so they better look out .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some horrible people out there!

May the flies of a thousand camels infest his every orifice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Some horrible people out there!

May the flies of a thousand camels infest his every orifice!"

Ha, that's the best hex I've heard in a while...might need to pinch that mr lee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Some horrible people out there!

May the flies of a thousand camels infest his every orifice!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can never understand why some people would wish to do this to others . Its very sad in this day and age . Shame on them .... OP what goes around comes around so they better look out ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Some horrible people out there!

May the flies of a thousand camels infest his every orifice!

Ha, that's the best hex I've heard in a while...might need to pinch that mr lee

Feel free my saan

The arabs and the gypsies have all the best olde worlde hexes n curses lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Some horrible people out there!

May the flies of a thousand camels infest his every orifice!

Ha, that's the best hex I've heard in a while...might need to pinch that mr lee

Feel free my saan

The arabs and the gypsies have all the best olde worlde hexes n curses lol"

Cheers fella

And yeah....sounds like they do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A white knight and sweeping generalisation combo - that's worth 10,000 points.

I would agree with this comment, some people have a lot of identifiable photos in public which is fine but also makes its easy for someone to to do what Paula has described.

If your photos are more generic it's a lot easier to say that's not me!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Some horrible people out there!

May the flies of a thousand camels infest his every orifice!"

Actually its 'May the fleas of a thousand camels infect your armpits'

Made popular by Mike Harding

I adapted it to 'May the fleas of a thousand camels infest your scrotum' sounds much more unpleasant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that! Why can't people mind their own business xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What an absolute ass hole, karma will soon serve him/her. x

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

It could well BE the Ex and could see the pics on here because he is on here.

If not, the OP must have given some real personal details to someone for them to know where the ex lived.

Maybe it should be a lesson learned

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

PS If the OP is true then I think it is a daft idea to advertise the fact you are leaving and coming back

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

A white knight and sweeping generalisation combo - that's worth 10,000 points."

I thought that was good advice for everyone to be honest rather than I will say what I think you want to hear so I can get into your drawers

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"what comes around goes around...good luck"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What sick f*****s there are and they have a profile on here as well scum I say

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