FabSwingers.com forum: Couples with a bi female, advice please

By *adyA01 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

Hi, I have just coupled up and recently experienced my first couples meet! Wow it was good! Anyway my question is this, I am straight and it seems to me that there are a lot of couples with a bi female, being that I am straight would that put off another couple from chatting with a view to meet!

I never say never, and don't have a problem with close contact with another woman, but in my head I am thinking the fact that I am not bi would be an off putting factor?? Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

same for us we have been told she needs to be bi or we will struggle..then we will struggle.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

my guess would be if she is bi then it would be off putting ...just a hunch though !

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By *adyA01 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

"same for us we have been told she needs to be bi or we will struggle..then we will struggle."

Was that just one couple with a bi female who said that, or is this something you have been told several times?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore the arrogant haters. Plenty of straight women. If they won't respect your sexuality, what else won't they respect?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really bi and I'm sure that doesn't do me any favours either as I have a couples profile here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we meet couples wife is bi but have met single females who are not but wife is very exhib /voyeur so enjoys watching , showing ,directing etc and she has on one occasion aroused the other female to be pleasure orally by her . I wouldnt say its a problem for most as long as the wife enjoys the experience in other ways

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

"Ignore the arrogant haters. Plenty of straight women. If they won't respect your sexuality, what else won't they respect?!"

what arrogant haters ....deciding you are incompatible hardly makes you an 'arrogant hater' ...does it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure there are many straight female couples on here. Just be up front that you want no fem to fem play. I struggles to play straight but you sort of get that from my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ignore the arrogant haters. Plenty of straight women. If they won't respect your sexuality, what else won't they respect?!

what arrogant haters ....deciding you are incompatible hardly makes you an 'arrogant hater' ...does it ?"

I was referring to the type of couples that say if a woman isn't bi they will struggle.

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By *adyA01 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

"Well we meet couples wife is bi but have met single females who are not but wife is very exhib /voyeur so enjoys watching , showing ,directing etc and she has on one occasion aroused the other female to be pleasure orally by her . I wouldnt say its a problem for most as long as the wife enjoys the experience in other ways "

Thanks for the input, like I say I have no problem with close contact with another woman, and I actually think kissing another woman would probably be quite sensual. I wouldn't have an issue meeting a bi woman but I can't even say I am bi curious as it is not something I think oh yes would like to try it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Mrs N here.

We are yet to have our first play experience as a couple. I don't identify as Bi. I am however curious especially after exploring a little with girls before. Part of the experience for me would be to play with another female. Kissing, touching and playing together. Watching Mr N react to this and sharing her with him and him sharing me with her. I'd be uncomfortable with a meet with a couple that didn't include those things. That's just our preference though and other people will want different things.

However I think in a 2 couple situation it might be less of an issue

You should always stay true to what you want and like. Be open in communication and ensure you are comfortable otherwise there's no point

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By *adyA01 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

"Hi Mrs N here.

However I think in a 2 couple situation it might be less of an issue

You should always stay true to what you want and like. Be open in communication and ensure you are comfortable otherwise there's no point "

Thanks Mrs N great advice xx

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

I would have thought the fact you only soft swing would have put more couples off than not being a bi female.

Some couples will not meet other couples who have a bi female, that's life.

Best to do what you feel happy doing and meet only those who are happy with who you are rather than trying to fit in with other peoples demands.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

If a couple has a bi female, then it's generally the case that if they meet a woman together, the female of the couple will want to play with her as much as the man.

Speaking for ourselves, we like everyone to be involved equally, so yes, we wouldn't approach a straight woman.

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By *adyA01 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

"I would have thought the fact you only soft swing would have put more couples off than not being a bi female.

Some couples will not meet other couples who have a bi female, that's life.

Best to do what you feel happy doing and meet only those who are happy with who you are rather than trying to fit in with other peoples demands."

I'm not trying to fit in with others demands, I am who I am. Also it doesn't say soft swing on my profile, I am happy to fully swap etc, or maybe I have the definition of soft swing wrong? It's a shame as there are a lot of couples with a bi female that I think yes they both look good to me, but obviously I don't tick an important box for them, just seems a shame as I am sure plenty of fun could still be had even without bi play xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have no problem playing with straight couples. I have put myself as bisexual although I am not interested in having a relationship with another woman I do enjoy ff play so bisexual was the closest label on here I could use describe sexuality. That said it wouldn't bother me if the female of a couple didn't want any girl on girl as long as opposite partners fancied each other. On the flip side we are happy to meet couples with bi males if they play straight as Mr L is not in the slightest bit bi. Everyone is different though. Just a matter of finding someone you click with. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have no problem playing with straight couples. I have put myself as bisexual although I am not interested in having a relationship with another woman I do enjoy ff play so bisexual was the closest label on here I could use describe sexuality. That said it wouldn't bother me if the female of a couple didn't want any girl on girl as long as opposite partners fancied each other. On the flip side we are happy to meet couples with bi males if they play straight as Mr L is not in the slightest bit bi. Everyone is different though. Just a matter of finding someone you click with. X"

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

Speaking for ourselves.. Yes I like to play with females.. But my preference is men.. And if meeting will play to anyone's boundaries .... And if that is straight that is fine.... Honesty is best

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm a bi single girl and also have a bi couples profile where we're both bi. Either of us can and will play straight; it's not a deal breaker either way. Provided everyone is up front about what they want/boundaries it's never been an issue.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I'm bi, but that doesn't mean any woman we play with needs to be. If it was a ffm, then we would prefer her to be bi, but in a couples meet it really doesn't matter.

It wouldn't put us off at all. Anyway, the lady could be bi but doesn't mean I'm attracted and want to play with her

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By *adyA01 OP Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

thanks some great and varied answers! I don't feel quite so disheartened now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the bi female and as it's my love of women that brought us to fab, I'm afraid yes. It would put me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love playing with ladies but I am more than happy not to. We just look for couples and aren't bothered at all if the lady is straight x

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