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Why are straight couples put off when bi men get in touch

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cant believe how many straight couples chat to u then when they find out your bi they r all of a sudden not interested i still prefer ladies and would never over step the mark with a man who has let me fuck his wife im very clean and hygenic they must think every bi guy has hiv lol

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"they must think every bi guy has hiv lol "

Maybe they just don't like idiots who think like that?

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Its simple really, look for couples that are into bi or bi curious guys.

Its not our thing so we won't play with bi guys, but theres loads of straight guys for us to choose from.

Something for everyone on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe they simply don't want to meet Bi guys?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So why am i a idiot why wink and message u first then all of a sudden block u or say they r not interested because u r bi people have got in touch with me its on my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A little thing called personal preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's lots of reasons, sometimes straight guys don't like being in a situation where they think the other guy may be checking them out, there are some that think that bi guys are more at risk of sti's, some just plain don't like bi guys. Whatever the reason just accept it and move on, there are plenty that do, some couples only want bi guys

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

Your verifications are from a TV/TS and from a man. Of course there is nothing wrong with either but it doesn't indicate experience with couples.

Your question is a good one though OP. Perhaps straight men are more wary of bisexual encounters than straight women are. We haven't knowingly met any bicurious males and given the number of straight men on here and in clubs we wouldn't feel the need.

Him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

But they got in touch with me and started chatting they had looked at my profile so why carry on chatting

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

When I played as part of a couple we took no issue with bi guys contacting us and we were very clear we were happy to meet on the understanding that he was straight and noale to male play was to occur but the ammount of bi guys that still tried it on with him was unreal so maybe experience has taught them otherwise, as opposed to all bi guys having hiv which is a ridiculous statement

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank u at least one sensible person on here lol

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"So why am i a idiot why wink and message u first then all of a sudden block u or say they r not interested because u r bi people have got in touch with me its on my profile"

Maybe you un.intentionally said somethinf that put them off you so you being bi gave them the perfect excuse to get out of jail free so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But they got in touch with me and started chatting they had looked at my profile so why carry on chatting "

Just because they winked or messaged u doesnt mean they read your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots of cpls that meet bi lads.

We have met and they have played straight. Dont see any difference to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A little thing called personal preference"

It seems on fab,personal preference only applies to ones self.the personal preference of others is irrelevant.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Thank u at least one sensible person on here lol "

Why only bi curious? As you are clearly more than just curious

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By *ornybi1965Couple
over a year ago

Guildford

Maybe they are just using the bi thing as am excuse. They have just decided for whatever reason that they don't want to meet you. Also your profile says you are bi curious, yet your verifications indicate you are fully bi. Be good to be honest about that on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A little thing called personal preference

It seems on fab,personal preference only applies to ones self.the personal preference of others is irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

But they had read it because they knew i couldnt accomodate and how old i was as ive just been told its probably the guy being homophobic but i did tell tthem i wud respect all boundaries never mind its a new profile i have met straight couples and bi but had to delete thru one of the many idiots on here

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford


"But they got in touch with me and started chatting they had looked at my profile so why carry on chatting "

Please stop whining. Perhaps they over-looked you were bi, people do make mistakes you know. We have made mistakes when _iewing people's profiles.

Or perhaps you put them off by what you were saying and this is just an easy scapegoat for you. You're not for them and as your veris are from men with no female or couple involvement, perhaps they don't feel comfortable with that.

Live with it and move on.

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By *ornybi1965Couple
over a year ago

Guildford


"But they got in touch with me and started chatting they had looked at my profile so why carry on chatting

Please stop whining. Perhaps they over-looked you were bi, people do make mistakes you know. We have made mistakes when _iewing people's profiles.

Or perhaps you put them off by what you were saying and this is just an easy scapegoat for you. You're not for them and as your veris are from men with no female or couple involvement, perhaps they don't feel comfortable with that.

Live with it and move on. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There r some lovely people on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But they had read it because they knew i couldnt accomodate and how old i was as ive just been told its probably the guy being homophobic but i did tell tthem i wud respect all boundaries never mind its a new profile i have met straight couples and bi but had to delete thru one of the many idiots on here"

Try them again,maybe after reading this forum post they will see how hard done by you feel,and have a change of heart

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have u ever known anybody on here change their mind lolnot whining like the idiot said but glad to have had chance to air my veiws first time ive been here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We avoid bi men and bi couples were the guy is bi a good friend of ours had sex with bi men . And payed the price shes now in a cemetery the risk is 2 great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We avoid bi men and bi couples were the guy is bi a good friend of ours had sex with bi men . And payed the price shes now in a cemetery the risk is 2 great"
yes and also beware the illiterate ones, sleeping with them is really dangerous.... you never know how much homophobic you can catch!

People have preferences, as has been said maybe they didnt see you were bi until reading your profile again or maybe they just plain decided you were not for them. Relax, move on and forget it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We avoid bi men and bi couples were the guy is bi a good friend of ours had sex with bi men . And payed the price shes now in a cemetery the risk is 2 great yes and also beware the illiterate ones, sleeping with them is really dangerous.... you never know how much homophobic you can catch!

Well said...

Illiterate and ignorant!

People have preferences, as has been said maybe they didnt see you were bi until reading your profile again or maybe they just plain decided you were not for them. Relax, move on and forget it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have u ever known anybody on here change their mind lolnot whining like the idiot said but glad to have had chance to air my veiws first time ive been here "

Even if this is your first time on the forums, you should still know that using a term like that is likely to inflame people.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

Perhaps the male half is worried a bi guy might look at his willy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We avoid bi men and bi couples were the guy is bi a good friend of ours had sex with bi men . And payed the price shes now in a cemetery the risk is 2 great"

And know for certain it was a bi guys fault?

Who is to say the bi guy didn't pick up whatever from a woman and then pass it on?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"But they got in touch with me and started chatting they had looked at my profile so why carry on chatting "

They've given a reason, which is more than many guys get. I'm guessing that the bi thing becomes an easy scapegoat, where they've weighed up all of the data about you and the meet and then decide not to continue.

If it was a complete no-go they would probably not started chatting in the fomirst place.

If you're bi then it may be better to drop the curious about label, as that could make you more attractive to fully bi couples, who might see you as a novice.

Stay confident and honest as it really is better to have the right meets, even if it means more effort.

Don't try to figure out others who aren't a match - it is a misdirection of effort.

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By *eglieanCouple
over a year ago

Torbay

If the OP put as much effort into replying to profiles as he does about banging on about being turned down ,, he might get somewhere.

They dont wanna play with bi guys,, move on....get a life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yuk eeeoww bi guys I only deal with straight guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the OP put as much effort into replying to profiles as he does about banging on about being turned down ,, he might get somewhere.

They dont wanna play with bi guys,, move on....get a life."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, they changed there mind, it's everybodys choise.

But, I would like to know if we could have a "Bi tolerant " option.

I would prefer that if given a choise on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at the thread titled "Swingers Rant Therapy" and let it all go there!

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

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over a year ago

Bradford

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford


"We avoid bi men and bi couples were the guy is bi a good friend of ours had sex with bi men . And payed the price shes now in a cemetery the risk is 2 great

And know for certain it was a bi guys fault?

Who is to say the bi guy didn't pick up whatever from a woman and then pass it on?

"

Clutching at straws perhaps? They may know much more about the situation whilst you're just been Uber defensive.

According to leading HIV charities approx 1 in 17 men who have sex with men, or 5.88% of the male bi/gay population, carry HIV. Also the chance of a man contracting HIV from unprotected vaginal sex is so slim to be almost nil, less than 1%, anal sex though posing a much more significant risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's amazing how many straight men are actually bi,, but it's is a very good question, because if they are playing straight what's the difference

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I sometimes chat with a lovely couple in my friends list who state quite categorically on their profile and in an early message to me that they want no sexual contact with bisexual men. We chat. It doesn't bother me if people don't want to meet me because of my sexuality. I meet people who DO want to meet me. Obviously

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

Get over it. I very seen profile here saying no straight guys. Same as lesbian or gay person. Respect people preference or choice. Don't get me wrong. There are bigoted idiot hiding under the impression of choice and preferences.

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

Because I'm worried about bi men sucking so many guys off and the risk that poses to me. It's an infection nightmare!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yuk eeeoww bi guys I only deal with straight guys"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any bi-guy contacts us are just ignored as this guy will not even think about meeting with them at all he's not against gay or bi - guys just don't want to be close to one in plat situation

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I admire straight people who are upfront that they are not looking to meet bi guys.

I have zero worry about it, I respect their choices..

end of....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We avoid bi men and bi couples were the guy is bi a good friend of ours had sex with bi men . And payed the price shes now in a cemetery the risk is 2 great"

What did she die of?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

ps... I never ever, ever justify my preferences, nor do I expect others to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol it sais ur bi on your profile, it seems the couple didn't get it after 10 messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We avoid bi men and bi couples were the guy is bi a good friend of ours had sex with bi men . And payed the price shes now in a cemetery the risk is 2 great

What did she die of? "

Hhhmmm I was thinking the same,, bi or not risk of catching something if you don't use protection is great anyway

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford


"We avoid bi men and bi couples were the guy is bi a good friend of ours had sex with bi men . And payed the price shes now in a cemetery the risk is 2 great

What did she die of?

Hhhmmm I was thinking the same,, bi or not risk of catching something if you don't use protection is great anyway "

But protection still fails. Guess it's all about just minimising risk and not playing with high risk groups will help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We avoid bi men and bi couples were the guy is bi a good friend of ours had sex with bi men . And payed the price shes now in a cemetery the risk is 2 great

What did she die of?

Hhhmmm I was thinking the same,, bi or not risk of catching something if you don't use protection is great anyway

But protection still fails. Guess it's all about just minimising risk and not playing with high risk groups will help. "

I agree so guess you should stop playing with more than half the men on this site who either state straight but are not or the others who will screw anything as long as they get to cum and have never been checked for anything except high blood pressure.... think I would prefer to make sure my wife and I are as safe as possible, get checked regularly and at least know what risks we are running but good luck with you "well his profile says his straight "approach, hope it works out for you.

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton

Just to get things back in perspective. Some couples get off on playing with bi guys, some are the opposite of turned on by the prospect. And we all fancy some people and not others..... simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We avoid bi men and bi couples were the guy is bi a good friend of ours had sex with bi men . And payed the price shes now in a cemetery the risk is 2 great

What did she die of?

Hhhmmm I was thinking the same,, bi or not risk of catching something if you don't use protection is great anyway

But protection still fails. Guess it's all about just minimising risk and not playing with high risk groups will help.

I agree so guess you should stop playing with more than half the men on this site who either state straight but are not or the others who will screw anything as long as they get to cum and have never been checked for anything except high blood pressure.... think I would prefer to make sure my wife and I are as safe as possible, get checked regularly and at least know what risks we are running but good luck with you "well his profile says his straight "approach, hope it works out for you."

I'm not sure who this is aimed at?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just to get things back in perspective. Some couples get off on playing with bi guys, some are the opposite of turned on by the prospect. And we all fancy some people and not others..... simples "

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By *rissieMan
over a year ago

Gwynedd & Knutsford Cheshire

I am totally bi and not gay, and feel very relaxed in mixed company. Some couples love it! In all the couples I have met the limits are always set and in fairness very little straying away and most females feel very relaxed and enjoy

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

URBAN MYTH ..

It got out ages back that if your knob touched another guys,even accidentally,you would immediately turn bi...

Same as if you got any splash back,like at a bukkake or gang bang,or if you looked at anyones cock too long..

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich


"Cant believe how many straight couples chat to u then when they find out your bi they r all of a sudden not interested i still prefer ladies and would never over step the mark with a man who has let me fuck his wife im very clean and hygenic they must think every bi guy has hiv lol "

On a serious note the GAY community is notoriously promisecuos ,with alot of bi guys on the scene...and also gay guys on the pull have been known to pretend they are bi..

What with so many people HERE (read the profiles) preffering `bare back` `cream pie` etc you can understand why some guys and girls might wanna avoid ..

Its down to choice but some people really dont think twice about the risks to their health..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cant believe how many straight couples chat to u then when they find out your bi they r all of a sudden not interested i still prefer ladies and would never over step the mark with a man who has let me fuck his wife im very clean and hygenic they must think every bi guy has hiv lol "
Because it scares the shut out of most straight men that you might want to duck them instead of their female partner. Or worse still, they might actually enjoy it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says your bi curious not bi. We will meet couples where the man is bi curious as long as he knows he isn't to touch andy as he is fully straight and being an ex marine I wouldn't like to see what would happen lol xx

But I wouldn't meet a bi man as I wouldn't want to put andy in that situation I want him to be relaxed during our meet not think Christ is going to touch me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile says your bi curious not bi. We will meet couples where the man is bi curious as long as he knows he isn't to touch andy as he is fully straight and being an ex marine I wouldn't like to see what would happen lol xx

But I wouldn't meet a bi man as I wouldn't want to put andy in that situation I want him to be relaxed during our meet not think Christ is

going to touch me "

That's a bit narrow minded in my opinion.

There's no difference between bicurious and bisexual apart from the fact they don't want to admit it

And as a bi guy we can quite happily play a straight mmf without throwing ourselves at the guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"URBAN MYTH ..

It got out ages back that if your knob touched another guys,even accidentally,you would immediately turn bi...

Same as if you got any splash back,like at a bukkake or gang bang,or if you looked at anyones cock too long..

Lol hilarious!!

"

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By *rightonCheekyMan
over a year ago

Brighton


"

And as a bi guy we can quite happily play a straight mmf without throwing ourselves at the guy "

Ahh, of course you can play straight but many couples (ourselves included) don't want a bi guy who can play straight, they want a guy who IS straight. BIG difference. If we want a straight guy why would we entertain a bi guy?

Equally there are plenty of couples who like or even insist that the guy is bi. There's something for everyone in this scene!

But to want to have your cake and eat it wouldn't work with us (and many other couples with a straight male we suspect)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It comes down to personal preference but that doesn't take anything away from the original point (could have been worded better!!) there is still an unconscious and sometime very conscious stigma surrounding bi guys.

I am pretty sure the majority of straight couples wouldn't hesitate to accept a bi lady into the fold, but a bi guy would be totally off limits, which is again fine, but if we got down to the crooks of it I'm sure the reason are quite interesting!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile says your bi curious not bi. We will meet couples where the man is bi curious as long as he knows he isn't to touch andy as he is fully straight and being an ex marine I wouldn't like to see what would happen lol xx

But I wouldn't meet a bi man as I wouldn't want to put andy in that situation I want him to be relaxed during our meet not think Christ is going to touch me "

Crumbs when you have dp (one of your profile interests) how do two guys not get close and touch!!!

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