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We are shy sobar but very keen d*unk

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys we been here for about 6 months now we put sexy pics on nealy every week but it's only when we have had a drink we have had offers but would like to get to no the person couple first we are both very keen in drink plzz give us advise is this wrong when sobar we both still keen but very shy is it so wrong to meet someone in drink thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry about spelling guys

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

The problem with people in drink is consent.

It very much depends on how much you have to drink to overcome your shyness, if you have to be typsy then very dangerous for your new partner(s)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're ok having a little drink I would say but get too d*unk judgement is affected most clubs wouldn't let you in if you're obviously intoxicated. Best lay off drink or not have much is my advice .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the odd drink is ok to help relax us, for most of us we are shy until we get to know peeps more ,

we have had several repeat meets and the 2nd 3rd time ect it gets better and more relaxed and open,

stick to an odd one or two or you could end up doing things you may have not wanted too, with someone you didn't want to do it with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to have a few drinks on a meet to calm our nerves and give us a little Dutch courage!! We think it helps lubricats the situation a little, and I can be a little self conscious so it makes me a bit more confident. We would never get d*unk though and risk impairing our judgement (or making tits out of ourselves!) Juicy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't like playing with d*unks. Nothing sexy about getting smashed to play.

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

Have a few drinks and get the webcam onto the chat rooms here, that way you get a taste of playing live without meeting anyone while too d*unk, might help you over the nerves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like playing with d*unks. Nothing sexy about getting smashed to play."

Totally agree, but I'm not sure they've said they get smashed? And enjoying a few drinks on occasion doesn't make someone a 'd*unk'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like playing with d*unks. Nothing sexy about getting smashed to play.

Totally agree, but I'm not sure they've said they get smashed? And enjoying a few drinks on occasion doesn't make someone a 'd*unk'"

I didn't say they were. I said I dont like playing with d*unks. People who need drink to have the courage to play are not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like playing with d*unks. Nothing sexy about getting smashed to play.

Totally agree, but I'm not sure they've said they get smashed? And enjoying a few drinks on occasion doesn't make someone a 'd*unk'

I didn't say they were. I said I dont like playing with d*unks. People who need drink to have the courage to play are not for me. "

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Don't like playing with d*unks. Nothing sexy about getting smashed to play.

Totally agree, but I'm not sure they've said they get smashed? And enjoying a few drinks on occasion doesn't make someone a 'd*unk'"

OP said 'keen when d*unk'. I read that as more than a few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like playing with d*unks. Nothing sexy about getting smashed to play."

We played with a couple and the girl was very d*unk, not good at all and although really up for it she burst into tears straight after. They left fab but since rejoined

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By *o30Woman
over a year ago

Lincoln

A glass of wine helps me relax so when I do meet I'm a little less self conscious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like playing with d*unks. Nothing sexy about getting smashed to play.

Totally agree, but I'm not sure they've said they get smashed? And enjoying a few drinks on occasion doesn't make someone a 'd*unk'

OP said 'keen when d*unk'. I read that as more than a few. "
OP actually said 'keen in drink' so could be taken either way I guess.

I totally agree though that we would never play with someone who was actually d*unk for lots of reasons.

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Don't like playing with d*unks. Nothing sexy about getting smashed to play.

Totally agree, but I'm not sure they've said they get smashed? And enjoying a few drinks on occasion doesn't make someone a 'd*unk'

OP said 'keen when d*unk'. I read that as more than a few. OP actually said 'keen in drink' so could be taken either way I guess.

I totally agree though that we would never play with someone who was actually d*unk for lots of reasons."

I am referring to the post title

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sharing a bottle of wine is nice a sociable, having a drink to get in the mood is a cause for concern.

Drink removes your inhibitions, thus stopping you from making rash decisions. so some people might not meet due to this.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I am practically tea total and as other have said I would not want to meet anyone that needs a drink (or several) to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a total goof with a drink in me

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

Think you have two problems:

Drink does ease up the inhibitions but I think you both need to have a chat about what you really want.. Having a sexual encounter with people who have d*unk to much is not fun. A little drink is ok.. Try having a few no drink meetings and just be determined that you are going to dive in at the deep end and have as much fun as possible... You might find pre thinking that puts you in the right place mentally...

The next thing about getting to know the other couple... Sorry but this is not essential in our opinion. We have been at clubs and played with people who we have not even spoken to or have simply said 'fancy joining us?'.... We have had great fun with these people. Some we have never seen or spoken to after playing and some have become good friends.

But spending too much time getting to know people can often make a bad meeting and no fun. Ok some times it doesn't. But think about it... You are there for sex and fun... Not looking for a new life partners.. We have had meeting with people who want social first. We would have been happy to gave swing with them straight off but they want to become friends first.. The more they chat the more they then start telling you about there problems in life... Then there issues and hang ups.. At this point you start wondering if you really want to be there..

So the only advice we can give is:

1) Don't drink to much

2) Make a quick decision of would I like to play with them? If yes get on with it because that is what you went there for.

3) don't over think the situation, because the more you think about it the more apprehensiveness you will have.

4) Get in the right mind set if what the hell I am going to enjoy this from the very beginning.

5) have the golden rule of what happens on a meet stays on the meet. Don't get hung up on meets as they are all different. Some meets the male gets to play more and some meets the female gets more attention. Never take issue, just enjoy.

Hope that helps and have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry if it came across wrong guys but we not d*unks we both work very hard allweek and sometimes like to wind down a bit usally on a sat night with a couple of glasses of wine thanks for the positive messages d*unks lol lol lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think you have two problems:

Drink does ease up the inhibitions but I think you both need to have a chat about what you really want.. Having a sexual encounter with people who have d*unk to much is not fun. A little drink is ok.. Try having a few no drink meetings and just be determined that you are going to dive in at the deep end and have as much fun as possible... You might find pre thinking that puts you in the right place mentally...

The next thing about getting to know the other couple... Sorry but this is not essential in our opinion. We have been at clubs and played with people who we have not even spoken to or have simply said 'fancy joining us?'.... We have had great fun with these people. Some we have never seen or spoken to after playing and some have become good friends.

But spending too much time getting to know people can often make a bad meeting and no fun. Ok some times it doesn't. But think about it... You are there for sex and fun... Not looking for a new life partners.. We have had meeting with people who want social first. We would have been happy to gave swing with them straight off but they want to become friends first.. The more they chat the more they then start telling you about there problems in life... Then there issues and hang ups.. At this point you start wondering if you really want to be there..

So the only advice we can give is:

1) Don't drink to much

2) Make a quick decision of would I like to play with them? If yes get on with it because that is what you went there for.

3) don't over think the situation, because the more you think about it the more apprehensiveness you will have.

4) Get in the right mind set if what the hell I am going to enjoy this from the very beginning.

5) have the golden rule of what happens on a meet stays on the meet. Don't get hung up on meets as they are all different. Some meets the male gets to play more and some meets the female gets more attention. Never take issue, just enjoy.

Hope that helps and have fun"

Spot on, it's a swingers site not facebook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you need a drink to do this, proberly in the wrong place.

Also some may worry of next day consent.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woa woa woa, steady on folks. This has escalated pretty rapidly.

Couple of drinks to loosen up and enjoy yourself - no problem.

Plastered so that you can do it - def no no.

I think the op was going more for the former.

And as for worrying about consent the next day??? Are you kidding me on? We're not talking about drugging someone into a coma...

OP we're with you, enjoy a few drinks on any night out and if we're meeting someone also the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks ya we were mainly just after advise on the subject but wow some of the comments on here are making us out to be d*unks and worse

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By *d_deeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

Don't listen to the rabble on here They don't mean any harm. We all like a few drinks. I have never met after having alcohol. I have been very nervous before a couple of meets, but for me its about savouring it. I am in this to enjoy myself and hopefully my meet will to. Nothing wrong with having a drink to calm your nerves as long as not over the top. I generally meet at weekends in the morning or lunchtime /early pm so wouldn't want a drink anyway. just cant eat breakfast and when I meet my tummy rumbles

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By *d_deeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

forgot to say. This may change as I am going to the Fab social on 27th of Feb. never been out dressed so will definitely be having something to calm the nerves

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