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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes.

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By *ackandkateCouple
over a year ago

Truro

To most people, yes they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there has to be an attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If u can shag anything..carry on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say yes. There had to be an attraction to actually want to have sex with the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More so than in 'real life' I'd say.

I'm not here looking for a life partner. If I was then my criteria would be different.

Saying that, what we all consider good looking can vary... at least that's what I tell myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not so much about looks just who's attracted to who as a whole.

But yes there has to be an initial "mmm not bad" so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Next. "

And in other news a bear was seen defecating in the woods earlier today.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Damn right they do!

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Damn right they do! "

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Yes there has to be attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More so than in 'real life' I'd say.

I'm not here looking for a life partner. If I was then my criteria would be different."

Absolutely 100% this ^^^

You have to fancy them to shag them.

This is why I really don't understand all the pictureless profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes absolutely - and so does a great personality! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.....is it me or was that a silly question?

(Or...having not looked...is the OP not much of a looker?)

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There sure does for us .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

That's why i block people i don't find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes absolutely - and so does a great personality! Xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all. I'd fuck a hump backed shaggy donkey if it had a lovely smile and a nice personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes.....is it me or was that a silly question?

(Or...having not looked...is the OP not much of a looker?)"

Maybe that was the point of this thread... just a way of driving traffic to his profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me yes

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North of Okehampton, South of Bideford

All depends how much you've had to drink....and provided they are not staying over

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"No not at all. I'd fuck a hump backed shaggy donkey if it had a lovely smile and a nice personality. "

Lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to have nice teeth and smile ...but no matter how good looking you are, if your obnoxious and very hairy then it's a no from us

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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

Personality, rapport and someone that makes me laugh is what I look for...

The extras just follow naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Next.

And in other news a bear was seen defecating in the woods earlier today."

And the Vatican have confirmed that Pope Francis is indeed Catholic.

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By * D 777Man
over a year ago

bathgate

Got to be an attraction so yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Errrr yes! If they didn't, people wouldn't bother with pictures!

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By *iggy1Woman
over a year ago

DORCHESTER

Absolutely....make me laugh, smell nice and don't be a tight arse, pay for the coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% yes! But looks need to be backed up by a good sense of humour. We love the fun social side too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if you're partial to orgies with the lights off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What matters most is that you FANCY the people you're having sex with. Looks do matter to me, but that doesn't mean that a woman has to be a stunner in order for me to enjoy the experience.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

I'd say yes but depends what your standards are

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

I cannot believe what i,m about to say..

But I think there does have to be an element if chemistry.....

Personally I would feel comfortable if knowing i,m getting intimate who does,nt like me...

Also i,m sure i,d pick up that vibe in the act....

Ha ha especially if I have to wake her up lol..

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By *ocksoff3Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

This is why a dick has only one eye so it can close it and say 'what the fuck I need to reproduce'. Women however have a different need

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

[qte]??p In most cases yes but must also have personality and the right attitude . I was wondering why you asked the question as I thought that the answer would be obvious or is the question to drive traffic to your profile .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me yes ........ But for some they don't care as long as it has a warm hole .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply.........yes.

We want to find the people we play with attractive and want them in turn to find us the same. Can't find a chemistry if there's no attraction for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Er yes! It's the whole package!

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Though this subject throws up another issue for me...

We all know males mostly draw on physical and visual attraction....

Women seem a little more complexed..... can a females attraction be heightened on tactile touch and responses from a fella if initially visually atraction is low??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Though this subject throws up another issue for me...

We all know males mostly draw on physical and visual attraction....

Women seem a little more complexed..... can a females attraction be heightened on tactile touch and responses from a fella if initially visually atraction is low??

Not on here...no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attraction is what's important and that's not always about looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do in our book for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Attraction is what's important and that's not always about looks. "

I think a couple of Women I chat to like my personality more then my looks,

Sexual attraction can be about more then looks but you must have something about you to start with,

(In my opinion)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Though this subject throws up another issue for me...

We all know males mostly draw on physical and visual attraction....

Women seem a little more complexed..... can a females attraction be heightened on tactile touch and responses from a fella if initially visually atraction is low??

"

Not for me it can't. If i don't find someone attractive then i don't want them to touch me.

This is why some people end up called creepy when making advances, and others are called flirts. The only difference tends to be the creep is unattractive to the person being persued.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Though this subject throws up another issue for me...

We all know males mostly draw on physical and visual attraction....

Women seem a little more complexed..... can a females attraction be heightened on tactile touch and responses from a fella if initially visually atraction is low??

"

Not this one you have to get to the touching phase first by having attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Though this subject throws up another issue for me...

We all know males mostly draw on physical and visual attraction....

Women seem a little more complexed..... can a females attraction be heightened on tactile touch and responses from a fella if initially visually atraction is low??

Not for me it can't. If i don't find someone attractive then i don't want them to touch me.

This is why some people end up called creepy when making advances, and others are called flirts. The only difference tends to be the creep is unattractive to the person being persued."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all as far as I'm concerned.

I normally email any prospective NSA partners a small selection of simple logic based puzzles.

I then use this data to pick out the person upon whose face I will eventually spunk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn right looks matter...damn straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Though this subject throws up another issue for me...

We all know males mostly draw on physical and visual attraction....

Women seem a little more complexed..... can a females attraction be heightened on tactile touch and responses from a fella if initially visually atraction is low??

Not this one you have to get to the touching phase first by having attraction. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A pulse helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are plenty on here who view women as little more than a free escort. I suspect people with that sort of mentality don't care too much for attraction.

Likewise when a profile covers all bases, or seeks nothing more than a bi-female, I suspect that the definition of attraction is a possibly quite liberal.

Doubt anyone would admit to it on the forums though!

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK


"Though this subject throws up another issue for me...

We all know males mostly draw on physical and visual attraction....

Women seem a little more complexed..... can a females attraction be heightened on tactile touch and responses from a fella if initially visually atraction is low??

Not for me it can't. If i don't find someone attractive then i don't want them to touch me.

This is why some people end up called creepy when making advances, and others are called flirts. The only difference tends to be the creep is unattractive to the person being persued."
Think the term " creep" is a bit harsh.....

In terms of percentages those not all who make advances on you will be desirable by you...

Surely they are doing what is natural....

Does,nt make them creeps.... This only comes into play if they ignore your NO!! Or FUCK OFF UGLY...

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I think looks important xx

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By *ay and DeborahCouple
over a year ago

Co. Down

Hell yeah...has to be a physical attraction!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course looks are important but someone I find attractive may not be attractive to everyone else. As much as I like a handsome or pretty face I am attracted to different looking people. Mostly because they have an interesting mind or personality. I don't want model looks and an icy personality. I certainly don't want an ego with no soul. I've been with many variations of a look,I like what I like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's not necessarily looks but there has to be "something". We have out tastes and preferences of course but the naughty spark is what does it for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a man a few years back,he was an albino with a very hairy body. Extremely intelligent and very caring. It wasn't an overly sexual relationship,we were more like friends than lovers. He thought he had to have a muscular body to attract women; I only saw a face pic when I first started to talk to him. His body was covered in thick golden hair which I loved. He had a little piece of my heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course looks are important but someone I find attractive may not be attractive to everyone else. As much as I like a handsome or pretty face I am attracted to different looking people. Mostly because they have an interesting mind or personality. I don't want model looks and an icy personality. I certainly don't want an ego with no soul. I've been with many variations of a look,I like what I like "

This exactly

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

Yes there has to be sn attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So all you people who have said yes, even a guy or woman who is attractive but has a personality of a brick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Though this subject throws up another issue for me...

We all know males mostly draw on physical and visual attraction....

Women seem a little more complexed..... can a females attraction be heightened on tactile touch and responses from a fella if initially visually atraction is low??

Not for me it can't. If i don't find someone attractive then i don't want them to touch me.

This is why some people end up called creepy when making advances, and others are called flirts. The only difference tends to be the creep is unattractive to the person being persued.

Think the term " creep" is a bit harsh.....

In terms of percentages those not all who make advances on you will be desirable by you...

Surely they are doing what is natural....

Does,nt make them creeps.... This only comes into play if they ignore your NO!! Or FUCK OFF UGLY... "

Google "the difference between attractive and creepy", you'll get what i mean. But yeah being a creep is the actions, attractiveness can affect how a person feels about how creepy a guy is, it's part of whether the advances are desirable or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So all you people who have said yes, even a guy or woman who is attractive but has a personality of a brick"

For a one nighter, yes. I even have that on my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mostly do overnights. So a good personality is a must if you are going to spend a all night with someone. That's why I tend to chat a while before I meet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been thinking about this, if you sat me down in a room full of people. I would obviously be drawn to those who, visually are attractive to me. Give me an hour to chat with them, and my mind I should say would more than likely change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Personality is vital too.

Everyone has varied tastes and standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know what? It depends entirely on the situation...on a one to one basis...absolutely they do, as people have said, there has to be an attraction, some kind of connection, however tentative..

However, put me in the zone at a party or club and stick a cock or pussy in my face and I'm probably going to suck or lick it if it ain't hideous...I'm unlikely to go so far as to fuck them though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality equals attraction but yes unfortunately looks do come into it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes personally I need to feel attraction.

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!


"Damn right they do! "

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

I hope not!

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I can go right off someone within seconds if they talk funny, smell peculiar, I don't like the way their hair is done, but the final clincher is: can he kiss and when he does, does the earth move? If not, no go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be sexually attracted to someone...whether thats looks/personality. I can be just as turned on by someones personality as I am to someone who is extremely good looking.

Unfortunately I'm quite bad on here...If I don't find you very attractive from your face pics I probably wouldn't bother to find out what your personality is like.

This is partly the reason why I prefer to go to Meet and greet/parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think about it this way,

All the Women that I come into contact with but I don't find attractive, For similar reasons a Woman who I'm attracted to doesn't find me attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do looks really matter when swinging ? x"

Damnit.....im literally fucked then i got no chance with anyone.... guess ppl have different tastes....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes "

I love hearing that word with more of an abreviation on it at the end of a sex session too... E.g ooooooooohhhhhh YES!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"???"

Yes

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By *eggaeloverMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes that's why good pics are important show yourself at your best!!!!

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By *eggaeloverMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"I've been thinking about this, if you sat me down in a room full of people. I would obviously be drawn to those who, visually are attractive to me. Give me an hour to chat with them, and my mind I should say would more than likely change. "

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By *eggaeloverMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"I've been thinking about this, if you sat me down in a room full of people. I would obviously be drawn to those who, visually are attractive to me. Give me an hour to chat with them, and my mind I should say would more than likely change. "

Then also if you end up talking to someone you don't really find attractive you can be interested in their personality. Most people have something sexy about their body somewhere that turns you on.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London


"More so than in 'real life' I'd say.

I'm not here looking for a life partner. If I was then my criteria would be different.

Saying that, what we all consider good looking can vary... at least that's what I tell myself "

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

What a silly question, were you bored op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks to get noticed, personality to get laid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks can be down to the way someone moves or smiles which is impossible to tell from a photograph.

Even the way someone talks can be sexy, or not.

Personality is important.

But how someone's mind works is probably the deal breaker for me.

And luckily what's good looking to some, isn't good looking to others so there's hope out there for us all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Course they do! (This is the most positive thread I've seen in a while!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It's why ugly buggers like me weep in their beer

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Yep. I've gotta be attracted to someone to want to fuck them. And on here where a couple of pics and a short message are the first impressions then yeah looks are very important. I don't mean every guy has to be a muscly model type but the attraction has to be there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Attraction is what's important and that's not always about looks. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Attraction is what's important and that's not always about looks. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think whether your swinging or not is important sex is sex and you woulsnt walk round in the real wold looking for someone you didn't fancy to shag, so why would you on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think whether your swinging or not is important sex is sex and you woulsnt walk round in the real wold looking for someone you didn't fancy to shag, so why would you on here "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

absolutely

unless ur blind. but even then i reckon they`d matter to some degree

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Looks can be the initial attraction but for me its the personality that keeps me interested. I cant just meet someone and fuck them, I like a bit of chat and a laugh, to do that you have to have an engaging personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Errrr yes! If they didn't, people wouldn't bother with pictures! "

Many don't

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

It does initially then personality factors, we have to like the person(s) for our meets to feel worthwhile.

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By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around


"Looks can be the initial attraction but for me its the personality that keeps me interested. I cant just meet someone and fuck them, I like a bit of chat and a laugh, to do that you have to have an engaging personality."

I totally agree sandy xx

For me its the real life chemistry not the superficial pseduo pictures and on line personnas that make a great meet which is still different to swinging xx

Believe me many of my males friends will give an amazing veri to a lady but say when they got there didnt fancy them but thought they might as well shag her as there !!!

Harsh but true... Guess the prove is whether they d meet you again..

But if you embrace the lifestyle .. then its definatley the combination of looks , chemistry, personality that make the perfect swing playmates xx

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By *thletic Fella!!Man
over a year ago

Wigan

Yes looks are important, but personality more so!

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

I would say yes when its swinging but i go into another mode when shooting films as sometimes you may not be attracted to the person, saying this i have had some of my best sex with people who i wouldn't usually choose when swinging.

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