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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How come is it more acceptable for a married woman to play away from home? Where as men doing the same is frowned upon. I am married but my wife has gone off see. I feel so frustrated with not being able to make love. We all have our needs. Women on here who are married seem to get away without being judged on their actions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How come is it more acceptable for a married woman to play away from home? Where as men doing the same is frowned upon. I am married but my wife has gone off see. I feel so frustrated with not being able to make love. We all have our needs. Women on here who are married seem to get away without being judged on their actions."

I wonder how your wife would feel about you saying shes'gone off'? What a horrible turn of phrase!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How come is it more acceptable for a married woman to play away from home? Where as men doing the same is frowned upon. I am married but my wife has gone off see. I feel so frustrated with not being able to make love. We all have our needs. Women on here who are married seem to get away without being judged on their actions.

I wonder how your wife would feel about you saying shes'gone off'? What a horrible turn of phrase!! "

I think it was a typo and he meant gone off sex....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not more acceptable, its only the perception that it is because you rarely see a married woman come into the forums moaning about people not meeting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is not a need, water, food and oxygen are a need, you're not gonna die without sex ffs!

Sex is a selfish act and you obviously can't keep it in your pants. If she's not interested in sex, then don't be with her, let her be with someone else who won't cheat on her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because somehow in the fab wourld, its more acceptable that women does it cos there are less of them lol.

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What did she say when you spoke to her about it?"

Excellent question.

Do you think you will get an answer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex is not a need, water, food and oxygen are a need, you're not gonna die without sex ffs!

Sex is a selfish act and you obviously can't keep it in your pants. If she's not interested in sex, then don't be with her, let her be with someone else who won't cheat on her"

So true.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

From the posts/statuses i see many men find married women exciting .

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Because somehow in the fab wourld, its more acceptable that women does it cos there are less of them lol."

personally i think its because some men dont have the moral code that some women do.

you se it all the time on here on a variety of different subjects....female teachers, female bosses, abuse of power etc always get more 'grrrr get on ya, son' messages than the male equivalents. In the male equivalent threads the male teacher/boss/power abuser is condemened with such anger and the white knights charge in with offers of defense etc.

Also, the other poster was right, most cheating women just get on with it where as some cheating men like to make a song and dance about it, excuse it, validate it on the forums and so come under more fire.

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

It's not more acceptable. Who says that?

I generally find its men who think it's ok for women to cheat, think it should be ok for guys too. Guys who don't approve of women cheating don't approve of men doing it either. Morality, or lack thereof, is pretty consistent from what I see.

Anyway, what did your wife say when you spoke to her about your marital issues?

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny

be discreet.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Im always curious in these situations how the man playing away would feel if they found out the reason their partner had "gone off sex" was because they were actually already playing away themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex is not a need, water, food and oxygen are a need, you're not gonna die without sex ffs!

Sex is a selfish act and you obviously can't keep it in your pants. If she's not interested in sex, then don't be with her, let her be with someone else who won't cheat on her"

sex is a need, without it none of us would be here, and by here I mean life not fab

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

The vagina...

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny

avoiding the issue doesn't help...been there sometimes you're taken for granted...sometimes it's the hint to move on...only you can decide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds to me that you have given up on your wife , many peeps loose their sex drive from time to time , you need to talk to her ask her what she wants from sex if anything , rekindle your relationship make her feel good about herself again, find out what she used to enjoy about sex when you did do it and work on those things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Couples who play together, stay together'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Couples who play together, stay together'."

Yeah they do!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

My _iew is (most) men do not care if they are shafting another guy if it means they can get a quick shag/fumble, whilst a lot of women feel empathetic towards other females that are being lied and cheated on.

Not all but most and not for me, as my fun comes long before a cheating mans wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex is not a need, water, food and oxygen are a need, you're not gonna die without sex ffs!

Sex is a selfish act and you obviously can't keep it in your pants. If she's not interested in sex, then don't be with her, let her be with someone else who won't cheat on her

sex is a need, without it none of us would be here, and by here I mean life not fab"

Sex isn't a need, people don't rely on sex to survive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds to me that you have given up on your wife , many peeps loose their sex drive from time to time , you need to talk to her ask her what she wants from sex if anything , rekindle your relationship make her feel good about herself again, find out what she used to enjoy about sex when you did do it and work on those things"

Unfortunately some men cant be bothered to do all the talking and sorting things out so they take the easy way out and cheat

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By *un4threeCouple
over a year ago

Waterford

Sorry, but who are the judges????

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By *ickedxxxCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

It's not more exceptable for a women to play away it's just that men don't care plus the ego of a man who does play with a married women is somewhat inflated due to the fact he feels like he's better than hubby or steeling the women from another male asserting his dominance over the pack. We see it all the time on the couple profile with messages saying "are you after a real man" ect ect and even in the clubs when I'm clearly standing next to or playing with my wife and a guy just ignores me and tries to join in, that happened last Sunday and the guy was informed to do one. Men simply don't care about the other guy where as women do think of the other women. Real swingers know this and should always be respectful to both partners

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Sex is not a need, water, food and oxygen are a need, you're not gonna die without sex ffs!

Sex is a selfish act and you obviously can't keep it in your pants. If she's not interested in sex, then don't be with her, let her be with someone else who won't cheat on her

sex is a need, without it none of us would be here, and by here I mean life not fab

Sex isn't a need, people don't rely on sex to survive "

Perhaps not individually but as a race we do. It is a basal primal instinct though, to have sex and procreate. Just because we have learnt to control the outcome of the activity doesn't mean the instant is not there.

Not that I'm saying it's right to cheat. If you are unhappy in your relationship then it should be ended but, emotions and consciousness aside, sex is a basic need in order for the species to survive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex is not a need, water, food and oxygen are a need, you're not gonna die without sex ffs!

Sex is a selfish act and you obviously can't keep it in your pants. If she's not interested in sex, then don't be with her, let her be with someone else who won't cheat on her

sex is a need, without it none of us would be here, and by here I mean life not fab

Sex isn't a need, people don't rely on sex to survive

Perhaps not individually but as a race we do. It is a basal primal instinct though, to have sex and procreate. Just because we have learnt to control the outcome of the activity doesn't mean the instant is not there.

Not that I'm saying it's right to cheat. If you are unhappy in your relationship then it should be ended but, emotions and consciousness aside, sex is a basic need in order for the species to survive. "

I agree, what I meant was, you're not going to die without having it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry, but who are the judges????"
lol its the moral police, you will find them hanging about in marital thread, cos they are afraid their hubby might be playing away lol.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Neither sex is more acceptable. But from experience, if there's a problem with a relationship it usually the woman that speaks up about it.

Men are more likely to just look somewhere else or blame their high sex drive.

I'm only generalising but it's just going on my experience.

Mr Ch33ky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many guys actually find a cheating wife a huge turn on. Not sure if porn caused it or patriarchy did (or both and other reasons) but they do like that she's 'naughty'.

Women tend to _iew cheating men as pathetic coz they're meant to be providers for the women in their life i guess?

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