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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I know i am about to commit fabicide. . but I am getting rather peeved at what I perceive to be an unfair process for some sections in the world of Fabs. .

I get that a lot of single guys can be silly and frustrating and annoying . . but if you advertise a meet specifically saying "I want to watch a younger guy with my wife/partner" it quite rightly suggests you are looking for single guys to fuck your misses. . so why do you keep your single men block in place . .

And the annoying thing is it is those very delightful couples who will then moan they've had no response . . and call all single men names when in fact it was as much their on stupid fault . .

PEOPLE IF YOU ADVERTISE for a single male meet - REMOVE YOUR BLOCKS. . .

(A friend of mine has actually shown me what its like and I really feel a little pissed for him)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people have singles males that they have interacted with before which then negates the block of they are friends of exchanged messages etc. so could feasibly be advertising to that audience and keeping their blocks on for that reason?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people have singles males that they have interacted with before which then negates the block of they are friends of exchanged messages etc. so could feasibly be advertising to that audience and keeping their blocks on for that reason? "

Surely though by that reasoning . . they'd simply message them direct as I would . . that also negates the whole block. . I would put up a meet . . xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe those couples and single fems are doing the hunting rather than being bombarded by messages from people who don't read profiles or respect preferences.

Run your profile how you wish and let others run theirs how they feel is best for them. The site offers some great tools. There to be used. I'd of left a long time ago if it wasn't for those tools.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks on with interest.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people have singles males that they have interacted with before which then negates the block of they are friends of exchanged messages etc. so could feasibly be advertising to that audience and keeping their blocks on for that reason?

Surely though by that reasoning . . they'd simply message them direct as I would . . that also negates the whole block. . I would put up a meet . . xx"

Not if you had a big friends list or had winked and exchanged messages with lots of people. Be a little hard to keep track.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe those couples and single fems are doing the hunting rather than being bombarded by messages from people who don't read profiles or respect preferences.

Run your profile how you wish and let others run theirs how they feel is best for them. The site offers some great tools. There to be used. I'd of left a long time ago if it wasn't for those tools."

But surely by advertising a meet they are saying they are open to offers and aren't looking to do the hunting . . I have no problem with people running their profile how they see fit . . but don't you think that there are enough complaints aimed at single men not making an effort . . when sometimes those that do put in the effort can't even say "Hi . . . " they could very well be the ones you have missed. . xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think we'll just carry on doing what we like with how we go about choosing our meets thank you very much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YEs I agree lol it sais they got a meet but when emailing them it sais your sex is blocked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people have singles males that they have interacted with before which then negates the block of they are friends of exchanged messages etc. so could feasibly be advertising to that audience and keeping their blocks on for that reason?

Surely though by that reasoning . . they'd simply message them direct as I would . . that also negates the whole block. . I would put up a meet . . xx

Not if you had a big friends list or had winked and exchanged messages with lots of people. Be a little hard to keep track. "

I have a huge friend list and I know most of the people I liked by username . . so don't have that issue . . if they winked that person still can't message them . . so they've shot themselves in the foot surely!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never met single men but we have discussed inviting a guy to join us in the future but when we do, we will keep the block in place, we have no desire to announce we're looking for men and have the inbox explode with 100's of random offers. We'd prefer to do the searching for ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We've never met single men but we have discussed inviting a guy to join us in the future but when we do, we will keep the block in place, we have no desire to announce we're looking for men and have the inbox explode with 100's of random offers. We'd prefer to do the searching for ourselves."

Can I ask if you would openly advertise you were looking in the meet section of Fabs (telling the world) . . or go about it more discreetly by searching your chosen area and messaging them yourselves - to me there is no need to advertise openly if you are not looking for men to come to you because they can't. . that is what I don't get. . x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think we'll just carry on doing what we like with how we go about choosing our meets thank you very much.

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The OP isn't telling you how to conduct your meets, with respect.

She is merely trying to bring light to the fact that some of us more genuine guys out there, cannot message people who advertise for single guys when they keep them blocked. If they want to search for single guys themselves, fine, but why advertise??? If you advertise ergo you are inviting people to message you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would probably put up a status saying we'll be looking for men so they'd know if we messages them that it's a genuine request as opposed to a wind up.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Think we'll just carry on doing what we like with how we go about choosing our meets thank you very much.

The OP isn't telling you how to conduct your meets, with respect.

She is merely trying to bring light to the fact that some of us more genuine guys out there, cannot message people who advertise for single guys when they keep them blocked. If they want to search for single guys themselves, fine, but why advertise??? If you advertise ergo you are inviting people to message you!!"

As has been previously said - some couples (and women) will be 'advertising' the meet to friends (of which they may have dozens) or people they've messaged before. Which again may be dozens.

So whilst it may seem an odd situation to both you and the OP - those posting such meets whilst blocking males will more than likely know exactly what they're doing.

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think we'll just carry on doing what we like with how we go about choosing our meets thank you very much.

The OP isn't telling you how to conduct your meets, with respect.

She is merely trying to bring light to the fact that some of us more genuine guys out there, cannot message people who advertise for single guys when they keep them blocked. If they want to search for single guys themselves, fine, but why advertise??? If you advertise ergo you are inviting people to message you!!

As has been previously said - some couples (and women) will be 'advertising' the meet to friends (of which they may have dozens) or people they've messaged before. Which again may be dozens.

So whilst it may seem an odd situation to both you and the OP - those posting such meets whilst blocking males will more than likely know exactly what they're doing.

A"

If they were friends they were reaching out to . . they could simply put an ad on their profile and update their status . . allowing their single male friends to see. . rather than getting the hopes of a few guys up . . hoping they might be the lucky ones with such a public advert. .

I use the meets sections as I travel all over the UK . . and don't always know people in those areas, and I know I'd be miffed if it was me. . looking

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I will admit, I have only posted 2 x SOCIAL meets today, If I posted a 'Meet today?' I would be shit scared of the responses, do you think the one's that would reply to a meet today would take heed if usual preferences? NOPE! They don't! It's a free for all! And if all you have to go by is profiles? Then your fucked that way as well lol as they generally say SFA anyway and all they have are cock pics normally! Just my opinion of course!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We can't block cock pics. . usually I delete them straight sway as that is what it says in my profile. . so they are warned . . I admit yes we may get unsolicited messages. . but sometimes when digging for diamonds we have to get a little dirty xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe those couples and single fems are doing the hunting rather than being bombarded by messages from people who don't read profiles or respect preferences.

Run your profile how you wish and let others run theirs how they feel is best for them. The site offers some great tools. There to be used. I'd of left a long time ago if it wasn't for those tools.

But surely by advertising a meet they are saying they are open to offers and aren't looking to do the hunting . . I have no problem with people running their profile how they see fit . . but don't you think that there are enough complaints aimed at single men not making an effort . . when sometimes those that do put in the effort can't even say "Hi . . . " they could very well be the ones you have missed. . xx

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There are more than enough idiots on here that make filters/blocks a necessity even if people are open to a meet having an inbox full of 'fuck now' messages helps no one. As previously pointed out meet requests can tell your friends that you are available to meet. I tell my rriends that my play time is limited but I will put up a meet request when available to meet. Works for me without having to remove filters.

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By *uppy ConquerorMan
over a year ago

dundee


"We would probably put up a status saying we'll be looking for men so they'd know if we messages them that it's a genuine request as opposed to a wind up."
if you have single men blocked they will not see your status update

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Think we'll just carry on doing what we like with how we go about choosing our meets thank you very much.

The OP isn't telling you how to conduct your meets, with respect.

She is merely trying to bring light to the fact that some of us more genuine guys out there, cannot message people who advertise for single guys when they keep them blocked. If they want to search for single guys themselves, fine, but why advertise??? If you advertise ergo you are inviting people to message you!!

As has been previously said - some couples (and women) will be 'advertising' the meet to friends (of which they may have dozens) or people they've messaged before. Which again may be dozens.

So whilst it may seem an odd situation to both you and the OP - those posting such meets whilst blocking males will more than likely know exactly what they're doing.

A

If they were friends they were reaching out to . . they could simply put an ad on their profile and update their status . . allowing their single male friends to see. . rather than getting the hopes of a few guys up . . hoping they might be the lucky ones with such a public advert. .

I use the meets sections as I travel all over the UK . . and don't always know people in those areas, and I know I'd be miffed if it was me. . looking "

Meet posts offer the chance to advertise weeks in advance and give more details - date, location, meet type - plus more type characters than are available on an update.

Status updates also auto delete after a few days. And adding details for a one off meet to your profile? Why bother when you can just post a meet?

And if someone has dozens of friends and previous contacts then proactive messaging is hugely time consuming.

It's really that simple!

And trust me - it works for those that choose to do so.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" . . if they winked that person still can't message them . . so they've shot themselves in the foot surely!!!!"

Yes they can, if you wink at someone they can either wink back or message you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, everyone has 'their' way. No one more right than the other. That's the beauty of being individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would probably put up a status saying we'll be looking for men so they'd know if we messages them that it's a genuine request as opposed to a wind up.if you have single men blocked they will not see your status update"

Yes they can, it just means they can't message you!

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