FabSwingers.com forum: Do open relationships work??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been reading up on this subject and was wondering, do open relationships work.

Happy to hear from couples that are in them or have been. What were the good and bad points?

Also what do single females/males think about seeing someone in a open relationship?

Many thanks Mrs Tats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's the basis of swinging isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think it's the basis of swinging isn't it?"

As a couple we always swing together so see it as a different side of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit confused by this one. Swinging/Open Relationship got to be a minimum of 90% overlap or do we not understand the terms properly

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Think it's the basis of swinging isn't it?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience no, my husband left me for a woman he used to see while we were married

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I was in one once, although his idea of an open relationship was that he got to bang other women while I didn't get to bang other men. They're pretty over-rated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit confused by this one. Swinging/Open Relationship got to be a minimum of 90% overlap or do we not understand the terms properly"
Got to disagree to be honest. I'm sure there is an overlap for some but we only play together so personally I wouldn't class that as an open relationship. We have friends who are in an open relationship which to them means that if they go out separately they can still have sex with someone if they like which is something that is just not for us. It's a grey area I suppose but to us there is quite a distinct line between the two

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

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Also what do single females/males think about seeing someone in a open relationship?

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I used to think that they had sorted out everything before they visit a club. But now, this has happened to me thrice when he (and I) were interrupted by the jealous 'wife/girlfriend/fb/or whatever else she was'. On one occasion, she dumped his can of beer on his head

I now take a very jaundiced view of their 'open' relationship and swinging 'lifestyle'

Much less hassle to meet a single man or a single woman. Another advantage with that is that I then know that the single woman is truely bisexual rather than, in most cases, a performing seal for her man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was in one once, although his idea of an open relationship was that he got to bang other women while I didn't get to bang other men. They're pretty over-rated."

That clearly WASNT an open relationship then....one-sided isn't the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi, yes i understand where you're coming from there is a large over lap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with anything do to with relationships it will depend entirely on the couple involved.

To me an 'open relationship' means the possibility of another person being with your partner in more than just a casual NSA sex way.

And I think for me that would be more hassle than it's worth to get involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't work for me. If I'm love, I'd expect monogamy. A few friends are poly though and it works well in their dynamic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love one, would be ideal for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit confused by this one. Swinging/Open Relationship got to be a minimum of 90% overlap or do we not understand the terms properly Got to disagree to be honest. I'm sure there is an overlap for some but we only play together so personally I wouldn't class that as an open relationship. We have friends who are in an open relationship which to them means that if they go out separately they can still have sex with someone if they like which is something that is just not for us. It's a grey area I suppose but to us there is quite a distinct line between the two"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bit confused by this one. Swinging/Open Relationship got to be a minimum of 90% overlap or do we not understand the terms properly"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was in one once, although his idea of an open relationship was that he got to bang other women while I didn't get to bang other men. They're pretty over-rated."

Sorry to hear that, no that wouldn't be my idea of one either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been reading up on this subject and was wondering, do open relationships work...

Yes ours does, I can open my legs for who I fancy and it works great, meanwhile hubby can't... works a treat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems to us an open relationship mean each of you can do as you choose. but to us swinging is something we both agree on who we meet,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is how we got started on the swinging scene

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It is how we got started on the swinging scene

Hope you don't mind me asking, but which works best for ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is how we got started on the swinging scene

Hope you don't mind me asking, but which works best for ? "

We tried open relationship because we both worked away a lot and didn't see each other very often. Hubby was keen on getting it on with other women but not so sure about me with other men! We stopped when work changed but missed the variety and hubby had gone full circle fom jealous to getting really turned on thinking about me going with another man so that is how we started talking about swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if what we have is an "open relationship" or just a swinging lifestyle!

We have a fantastic relationship and are both very happy... We are both happy with each other having fun, one on one and as a couple! Would be good to find a regular FB for Mrs lol (has a VERY high sex drive) Would make more sense as due to work it's very hard to arrange meets..... Having a cock on tap... Would be ideal. Just got to find a guy we both get on with

So.... If you would call our relationship open... Works for us

From Mr, btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes had one for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"seems to us an open relationship mean each of you can do as you choose. but to us swinging is something we both agree on who we meet,"

have to agree on that.

there was a couple few month back who went public about there open relationship. they both do as they please,see who they please and still madly in love..dont get that. think they were only 24 too

Its like fuck buddies and regulars? would that be classed as open relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works for us!!

We were here as a couple a few years back. To cut a long story short, I wanted wife to be with another man, we dipped our toes, visited clubs, had socials etc. After some time she decided it wasn't for her at that time.

My wife however is happy for me to play & encourages me to go out every now & then for some fun.

I honestly would prefer if she were with me, but I'm not gonna force her. I'm hoping that she will soon start attending clubs with me again.

It may seem strange to some that she's ok with this, but it does work for us. She's not interested in hearing who or what etc, but she does ask where I'm going.

I guess it all depends on the relationship you have with your partner. We are very much in love, two great kids & are very happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My boyfriend and I have a completely open relationship and it works perfectly well for us both.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I've had very successful open relationships in the past, the last one only stopped because he professed he had fallen in love with me and wished to settle into a more monogamous style of relationship and life - which is not what I wanted, so we went our separate ways, but are still friends.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

As long as you dont tell the wife , yes ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been reading up on this subject and was wondering, do open relationships work.

Happy to hear from couples that are in them or have been. What were the good and bad points?

Also what do single females/males think about seeing someone in a open relationship?

Many thanks Mrs Tats

I am polyamorous rather than monogamous (so, open relationships with feelings basically) and I couldn't imagine my life any other way.

I was built to be polyamorous. I don't enjoy monogamy.

The difficulty with seeing someone who is already in a strong relationship is that you are often seen as a 'third' or basically, optional. Even the language reinforces this - primary and secondary. As such I'm quite hesitant about dating people who are in strong partnerships because I know that with some people they can suddenly draw in to protect the original relationship, and then you're dumped for no good reason.

That said, I've been dating one of my partners for about two and a half years, and he's been living with one of his partners for over twenty years. So some people who are in relationships can be wonderful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had what I thought was an open and honest relationship previous. Enjoyed swinging together and separately as long as we told the out about meets it was fine.

Then found out he was meeting and hiding it from me. This in my eyes is clear cheating!

If you are open enough to have this swinging lifestyle as a couple then why lie about meets?

Spoilt a very good thing as trust is utmost in these kind of relationships.

It still confuses me now as to why he did it

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"I don't know if what we have is an "open relationship" or just a swinging lifestyle!

So.... If you would call our relationship open... Works for us

From Mr, btw"

Bloody shame you're 200 miles away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had what I thought was an open and honest relationship previous. Enjoyed swinging together and separately as long as we told the out about meets it was fine.

Then found out he was meeting and hiding it from me. This in my eyes is clear cheating!

If you are open enough to have this swinging lifestyle as a couple then why lie about meets?

Spoilt a very good thing as trust is utmost in these kind of relationships.

It still confuses me now as to why he did it

Because some people need to have something that is just 'theirs'. They find that if everything is open, allowed and above board, it's not exciting, it becomes boring. Nowt so queer as folk

S x

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Personally I prefer an open relationship as I get sexually bored easily and like tge variety. Just starting off in my second one now. I don't think it is an issue or a gray area if you are honest and open with each other fron day dot. I personally like being told what my partner has got up to with others. Sharing is caring after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some people need to have something that is just 'theirs'. They find that if everything is open, allowed and above board, it's not exciting, it becomes boring. Nowt so queer as folk

S x"

Yeah I suppose. Still it hurts though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally agree with the above statement and i feel as if open relationships dont work because it is likely to lead to an emotional connection between the two persons. I feel that swinging is diffrent because with swinging, people look for friendships and a good bit of kinck so no severe emotional atachment is made. This is just my opinion. Clyde xxx

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Assuming this means playing separately, then it worked for R in her previous marriage; her husband didn't mind her seeing men on her own.

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