FabSwingers.com forum: people jumping in!!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

when your in the middle of "getting it on" shall we say. have you ever had a person just join in? i mean without even a word

i have and to be fair its bloody anying!!! i have had situation wher it is ok because i have or the other people have spoken to them earlyeir on in the night so thier is a little interest.

However more often than not i find it to be someone who is really old and doesnt stand a chance and thats why they didnt ask and just jumped in without a word.

the strange thing is i remember one situation wher i guy stormed of in a huff because after litrally pushing me out the way to try and burry his face in the beautifull womens thighs. she pushed him off. as he was mumbling away as he stormed off i remember hearing person after person saying "you wernt invited!"

this doesnt include an orgy situation, just 3somes that i guess some people asume is a free for all because it isnt in a private room :S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This post is hardly likely to draw sympathy from me on a few points.

Back in a bit im off to read it again.

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

I had it once, and from a guy that his date already discussed with him that I did not play with married men after that last party that he was getting handsy at...I was with someone who was going down on me and I felt hands all over my breasts...opened my eyes to see it was him and I said sorry...but I don't play with married men...he went off in a huff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At a party once, Kate was "entertaining" 5 guys

I pushed in, to join in the fun, and one of the other guys said, "hey mate, wait your turn"

When I said, "fook off, she's my wife" he took my advice and scarpered

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

"At a party once, Kate was "entertaining" 5 guys

I pushed in, to join in the fun, and one of the other guys said, "hey mate, wait your turn"

When I said, "fook off, she's my wife" he took my advice and scarpered

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At a party once, Kate was "entertaining" 5 guys

I pushed in, to join in the fun, and one of the other guys said, "hey mate, wait your turn"

When I said, "fook off, she's my wife" he took my advice and scarpered

haha fair play, i found that one hilarious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily no, as we play at home they'd be burglars!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At a party once, Kate was "entertaining" 5 guys

I pushed in, to join in the fun, and one of the other guys said, "hey mate, wait your turn"

When I said, "fook off, she's my wife" he took my advice and scarpered

Pmsl would loved to have seen his face hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are very young. Everyone is older than you. Maybe the people who have joined in are a lot older but for you to say that it is ‘just because they don’t stand a chance’ is a clear indication of how much negative thought you have of older people.

If it was someone your own age what would you say? Oh it’s because they are young and don’t know any better ?

Could it possibly be that as the others are older they have the confidence to join in.

How do you signal to people that you don’t want them to join in BEFORE you start in a public arena?

Or don’t you bother? Would you rather be the big bucky bull who can push any other men off your woman ?

Is it wrong for people who see sex going on in a non private room in a ‘swingers’ club to become aroused and think that they might be able to join in ?

You say many people said ‘you weren’t invited' as one man walked away maybe he learned the hard way.

How did you learn ? Or are you the guy that everyone wants ?

And yes – I do think I have taken exception to the ageist attitude. It’s as if you think anyone over a certain age should be grateful for your left overs.

You could have made the point about people jumping in without alienating people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At a party once, Kate was "entertaining" 5 guys

I pushed in, to join in the fun, and one of the other guys said, "hey mate, wait your turn"

When I said, "fook off, she's my wife" he took my advice and scarpered

You're very greedy Jack

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sorry to of hit a nerve with you crumpet but no i dont think everyone is old, i prefer older than myself by far

but this guy was ALOT! older lol

and no that bulky bull comment is compleetly wrong

i enojoy sharing women thats why i enjoy swinging.

i learnt by commen sense, i will not join without actually being asked

and the age thing is irrelavant i was just talking about a personal experiance wher the women did feel violated

you really needed to see this poor girls face. in fact you could class it as almost rape!!!!!!

she did not give him consent he just did it!

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"Luckily no, as we play at home they'd be burglars!"

I've got my stripy jersey and bag marked swag already........

LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sorry to of hit a nerve with you crumpet but no i dont think everyone is old, i prefer older than myself by far

but this guy was ALOT! older lol

and no that bulky bull comment is compleetly wrong

i enojoy sharing women thats why i enjoy swinging.

i learnt by commen sense, i will not join without actually being asked

and the age thing is irrelavant i was just talking about a personal experiance wher the women did feel violated

you really needed to see this poor girls face. in fact you could class it as almost rape!!!!!!

she did not give him consent he just did it!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"x "

are we kissed and made up now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well ignoring the ageist bit etc, when we go to clubs(the place this is most likely to happen),Suz says who she plays with always.

If someone tries to push in then Suz usually gives them (a polite) 'cold shoulder' (moves their hand away or similar).

We have had very few problems.

But this last weekend at a club, we had a guy that was a 'problem'. Apart from being 'pushy', he also was far too rough with Suz (he actually bit her!!!). Suz yelped and then proceeded to tear strips off him in front of everyone. He apologised and left. It did spoil the evening and we decided to leave as well.

Generally it is me that has suffered from other men being more forcefull then me in the sense that i will be with a lady and another guy would come along and slowly push me out of the way.

Suz is always telling me off for letting it happen.

I don't want to be like them and start being pushy but as a result I often end up being pushed out. Such is life!

Alan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are we kissed and made up now

I respected your grace. I still think you are totally out of order and yes we are made up. Until your ageism pops out again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we had a guy that was a 'problem'. Apart from being 'pushy', he also was far too rough with Suz (he actually bit her!!!)."

True Blood has a lot to answer for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

are we kissed and made up now

I respected your grace. I still think you are totally out of order and yes we are made up. Until your ageism pops out again x "

ok we will leave it at that and a final sorry but i didnt mean it to come across that way

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

"True Blood has a lot to answer for."

And "First Blood", it's made me flail about shouting "Don't push meeeee".

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By *ohnandLouiseCouple
over a year ago

eccles

Me and de Mrs are new to the scene but I have to say I agree with you. If you're in an orgy room, fair enough because in those rooms I believe the rule is there is no rules.

However in any other sort of room I would never just join in, it'd feel rude. I'd just say 'mind if we join you guys' and if I got a no I certainly wouldn't huff.

Oh and the 'fuck off its my wife comment' made me laugh loads....

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Me and de Mrs are new to the scene but I have to say I agree with you. If you're in an orgy room, fair enough because in those rooms I believe the rule is there is no rules.

However in any other sort of room I would never just join in, it'd feel rude. I'd just say 'mind if we join you guys' and if I got a no I certainly wouldn't huff.

Oh and the 'fuck off its my wife comment' made me laugh loads....

There are still rules, even in an orgy room, if I don't want someone to join in I politely and quietly tell them but people do usually ask first which is the done thing. I once had a member of staff in a club barge in on me and push me out of the way when I was playing with a lady! Was less then impressed but don't go there any more anyway! No is still no where ever you are! Z

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are still rules, even in an orgy room, if I don't want someone to join in I politely and quietly tell them but people do usually ask first which is the done thing. I once had a member of staff in a club barge in on me and push me out of the way when I was playing with a lady! Was less then impressed but don't go there any more anyway! No is still no where ever you are! Z"

wow would you mind pm-ing me the name of that club please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At a party once, Kate was "entertaining" 5 guys

I pushed in, to join in the fun, and one of the other guys said, "hey mate, wait your turn"

When I said, "fook off, she's my wife" he took my advice and scarpered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and de Mrs are new to the scene but I have to say I agree with you. If you're in an orgy room, fair enough because in those rooms I believe the rule is there is no rules.

However in any other sort of room I would never just join in, it'd feel rude. I'd just say 'mind if we join you guys' and if I got a no I certainly wouldn't huff.

Oh and the 'fuck off its my wife comment' made me laugh loads....

You are absolutely right Zoe Steve, bout time some of these ignorant people took it on board that women get to choose who they play with. Good on ya!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and de Mrs are new to the scene but I have to say I agree with you. If you're in an orgy room, fair enough because in those rooms I believe the rule is there is no rules.

No rules? If someone can't say "no" to someone, that's called rape.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If someone started playing/touching or doing anything else to me i didnt want done they would soon get told to fuck off, thats if i hadnt got a free leg available to kick them in the bollocks

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

In an orgy room, the same standard rules of decency apply.

No means no, regardless of which room you are playing in.

Personally I'd just be happy for anyone to jump in me right now. Bloody horn. It won't go away!!

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By *onny BonesMan
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

"In an orgy room, the same standard rules of decency apply. No means no, regardless of which room you are playing in. Personally I'd just be happy for anyone to jump in me right now. Bloody horn. It won't go away!! "
Can imagine that your inbox has just had an influx o messges!!!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

"In an orgy room, the same standard rules of decency apply.

No means no, regardless of which room you are playing in.

Personally I'd just be happy for anyone to jump in me right now. Bloody horn. It won't go away!!

Can imagine that your inbox has just had an influx o messges!!!"

lol!!! nope!!! Think I might actually have to start messaging people!!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Me and de Mrs are new to the scene but I have to say I agree with you. If you're in an orgy room, fair enough because in those rooms I believe the rule is there is no rules.

this precise thing came up in a club i was in on saturday night.... where people believe this is the case! and this mad me sad...

actually the words I used were I believe "Fuck that, her body her rules!!!"

just because she may like to go in an orgy room, doesn't mean she doesn't have any say on who plays with her and who doesn't......

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By *lscmnmytngMan
over a year ago

J13 of the M5

I have been in the "big round bed room" at Chams and always ask before playing.

Been turned down a couple of times (ladies were looking for BBC) but on other times I have been complimented for being polite and given a clear YES.

Politeness is ALWAYS the best course of action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was at a party once and after specifically specifying that i only wish to play with girls, some guys still kept trying but one man who i wasnt attracted to really got very pushy. I agree that if it is free for all, then it is specified that it is a free for all room (sometimes called a dark room i think), but i think there are some rules of etiquette in my experience that you touch the persons ankle and if they say yes then u are free to join in, that was a rule at a few parties i was at. i think age is completly irrelevant and i thank granny for bringing it up, i think i can understand wat the poster meant thou, its very annoying....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had it a few times but to be fair I am in a public room and guys are just trying their luck. I havent been touched full on, its been someone stroking my arm and if I dont say anything they will move to my breast. I dont play with any more than 2 guys, one of them includes my partner, as i feel just a little threatened by it, at the moment too many men is a bit much for me. My partner used to move their hands and shake his head as I felt embarrassed to do it. Now all i do is move their hands and say sorry guys I dont play with any more than 2, and they are ok about it and move away or just watch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know just what the Op means, there are some guys who just seem to have this knack/art of slipping in there when least expected and the recipient is totally unaware!! happened a couple of times to me but then I was in the free for all room!! Guys take note and learn from it!

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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago

warwickshire

"I know just what the Op means, there are some guys who just seem to have this knack/art of slipping in there when least expected and the recipient is totally unaware!! happened a couple of times to me but then I was in the free for all room!! Guys take note and learn from it!"

You think we should learn how to slither in uninvited? Riiii-iight, OK, not for me though ta.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You think we should learn how to slither in uninvited? Riiii-iight, OK, not for me though ta."

I mean it depends on where you are and the circumstances. If you are in an orgy room expect the unexpected. Not all adhere to the same rules as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like the make the point that women do this too, not just men. There have been many times when i have been in a club with my husband and another woman has begun to fondle me without checking it is ok.

I have spoken about this with others and they have also had the same issues.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would like the make the point that women do this too, not just men. There have been many times when i have been in a club with my husband and another woman has begun to fondle me without checking it is ok.

I have spoken about this with others and they have also had the same issues.

in all honesty the women jumping didnt cross my mind

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

You think we should learn how to slither in uninvited? Riiii-iight, OK, not for me though ta.

I mean it depends on where you are and the circumstances. If you are in an orgy room expect the unexpected. Not all adhere to the same rules as you. "

Quite, but you can't say that there are no rules and let anyone get stuck in with you! I don't ever want to mauled by a fat, ugly person - I will ALWAYS reserve the right to say no - orgy rooms included! Z

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

You think we should learn how to slither in uninvited? Riiii-iight, OK, not for me though ta.

I mean it depends on where you are and the circumstances. If you are in an orgy room expect the unexpected. Not all adhere to the same rules as you.

exactly...even in dark rooms I have said no to guys...this one time a guy knew I did not want to play with him due t the fact he was playing away and he was stood outside the darkroom when I went in with a couple, we were the only 3 in there.5 minutes later when we had started playing he came in and tried it on, and worse still tried to go bareback...he said he didn't realise it was me but I was speaking and being the "only canadian in the villiage" so to speak...it was quite obvious it was me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i went to a club on saturday..pretty new to clubs been a handful of times..there was loads of single blokes there..my hubby and i found a room with a glass panel but we shut the door...i dont know how many men just walked in and credit to them did ask if they could play...all were told no!! well except one stunningly good looking young guy

i was led to believe if the door was shut it is meant you didnt want anybody in?? if you leave the door open and people watch they should wait to be invited in?? but what do i know lol

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