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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont expect people to write us a letter on a meet.

Her

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Just blocked a female profile who has just joined "this fab sight"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not really,

As long as I can read it,

I'm poor at spelling and grammar as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just blocked a female profile who has just joined "this fab sight""

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Aw, I know. I don't mean to be harsh but there's some really good profiles and then they spoil it! I know, I'm a nerd/snob! X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?"

If for whatever reason you don't like a profile move on to the next one.

If I can understand what is written it's fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolute snobbery .

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

It's a little annoying but as long as I can understand what they are saying, it's not like I'm perfect. Although when I get messages saying "Want to fuck"... now, is that a question or a statement?

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I won't meet guys who can't write a decent message. That's mainly because I enjoy intelligent conversation and am fairly literate. I find conversation much easier with people who can string a few words together. I'm not really into caveman or text speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do look at spelling and grammar but it wouldn't stop my other half and I meeting people! Best I check ours having said that ! Her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a stickler, but writing something like 'a' instead of 'I' and 'M' instead of 'I am' drives me nuts.

Having said that, 'LOL' also makes my skin crawl...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No and i've got a degree in English.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think you can tell if you are going to get along with a person by the tone and content of their profile and messages....and this works both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammer that show up in a bad light to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammer that show up in a bad light to me "

Agreed

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammer that show up in a bad light to me "

to be fair the op isn't making any judgement, just saying they find it annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nut dis subgekt agane

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammer that show up in a bad light to me "

I don't think I would actually block someone or not meet them. I do have to say I find it a turn off. But I'd rather that than text speak!!! Wasn't meant to be a deadly serious thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nut dis subgekt agane"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammer that show up in a bad light to me

Agreed "

And me (started a sentence with and )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammer that show up in a bad light to me

Agreed

And me (started a sentence with and )"

Couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammer that show up in a bad light to me

I don't think I would actually block someone or not meet them. I do have to say I find it a turn off. But I'd rather that than text speak!!! Wasn't meant to be a deadly serious thread! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?"

It does when they specifically say if you use text speak or have bad grammar don't bother contacting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am guilty of poor spelling and grammar on here at times due to not paying attention to detail and being more relaxed about writing as I would be with pen to paper. That said, it does bug me a little when people confuse there, their and they're in general. Watch me slip up and do so myself at some point and feel free to point it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what I hate seeing is people using some latin phrase...expecting someone to message back...when in fact they probably just googled what it meant..

thats what I'd do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am guilty of poor spelling and grammar on here at times due to not paying attention to detail and being more relaxed about writing as I would be with pen to paper. That said, it does bug me a little when people confuse there, their and they're in general. Watch me slip up and do so myself at some point and feel free to point it out. "

I'm just waiting for someone to check mine or for my autocorrect to kick in and I'll be jumped on for any errors I've made!! No-one is perfect! That's what makes us special!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Puts me off completely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am guilty of poor spelling and grammar on here at times due to not paying attention to detail and being more relaxed about writing as I would be with pen to paper. That said, it does bug me a little when people confuse there, their and they're in general. Watch me slip up and do so myself at some point and feel free to point it out.

I'm just waiting for someone to check mine or for my autocorrect to kick in and I'll be jumped on for any errors I've made!! No-one is perfect! That's what makes us special!! Xx"

I'd rather just perv your pics , cheers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what I hate seeing is people using some latin phrase...expecting someone to message back...when in fact they probably just googled what it meant..

thats what I'd do "

Now that's just someone being a bawbag (Scottish phrase - spelling may be dodgy!!)! What is the point in that? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor grammar, spelling and profiles/messages written in txt are a real turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not necessarily the grammar and sppelling but the effort that's put in.

I like a conversation and it's easier to read if spelt well and put together well, it's says alot about the person I think.

It's like the profiles that ask for more than a one word or two word email, then once you've penned an email you get back lol or one word!!! Works both ways doesn't it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what I hate seeing is people using some latin phrase...expecting someone to message back...when in fact they probably just googled what it meant..

thats what I'd do

Now that's just someone being a bawbag (Scottish phrase - spelling may be dodgy!!)! What is the point in that? X"

Hmmm...it perhaps brings out the well educated finer gents who want to face ride their fannies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the English on display is fairly atrocious, but who cares that much?

It's better to be kind than to be right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we really discussing this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I envy people with ability

I've never got my head round it, but I do try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?"

It bothers me more than it should lol! I do think it's a decent filter too though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what I hate seeing is people using some latin phrase...expecting someone to message back...when in fact they probably just googled what it meant..

thats what I'd do

Now that's just someone being a bawbag (Scottish phrase - spelling may be dodgy!!)! What is the point in that? X

Hmmm...it perhaps brings out the well educated finer gents who want to face ride their fannies"

Bollocks ...... Did I spell it cor cor oh bollocks right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammer that show up in a bad light to me "

This isn't a spelling test it's a swingers site and some people may be dyslexic. I find people who judge and have no manners to be far worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are we really discussing this? "

why shouldnt we? lol

though it has been mentioned lots over the years..it only serves me to find the real posh totty amongst the chaff

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

From a single man's point of view...why risk being rejected for poor grammar/ spelling? There are enough criteria you can't control, so to add another seems like a bad idea to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me on profiles. It's their profile and I don't have to read it or message them.

Forums are a different matter: it's difficult for me to take anyone seriously if their English is worse than a primary school kid.

Phones with touch screens and autocorrect don't help though, so you have to cut people a bit of slack!

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I use it as part of a filtering tool but it won't be a make or break issue.

However if I can't click mentally with someone via messages because of how they use grammar, language or spelling then more times than not I struggle when I meet them in the flesh.

It's no different to how I mentally manage liaisons in the real world.

Everyone assesses in some form or another I don't why this should be seen as any different to physical appearance.

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By *razymadlunaticsCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Grammer.....Sex....

nah cant see the relationship..

'spose it onli matterz if ya wanna jab at da Daily Sport....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammer that show up in a bad light to me "

Well said x

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By *razymadlunaticsCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammer that show up in a bad light to me

Well said x "

defo have our backing on that to x

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Grammer.....Sex....

nah cant see the relationship..

'spose it onli matterz if ya wanna jab at da Daily Sport.... "

To me it's part of a mental attraction. I'm attracted to people who I can hold a conversation with and who can communicate. Different strokes for different folks. Thankfully I don't have to suffer the Daily Sport.

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By *razymadlunaticsCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"Grammer.....Sex....

nah cant see the relationship..

'spose it onli matterz if ya wanna jab at da Daily Sport....

To me it's part of a mental attraction. I'm attracted to people who I can hold a conversation with and who can communicate. Different strokes for different folks. Thankfully I don't have to suffer the Daily Sport. "

Speaking of the Daily Sport, I just happened to be sat next a copy the other day.. and it claimed Kim Jon Un was very upset at having his countries internet disconnected as it automatically cancelled his 'Clown Porn' subscription..

The only reason i read this article was for grammar mistakes haha

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Mr has poor spelling, and sometimes I have to read things a few times to understand him.

He often tells people if the message looks like it was written by a five year old, it's from him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The odd typo wouldn't bother us, as we shouldn't judge a book by its cover. I'm a bad speller, takes ages to write things sometimes, because I'm always proofreading what I've written, so that the words are in the write order, or that I haven't used the wrong words. It's not because I'm not intelligent or can't string 2 words together, but I have dyslexia and currenty doing a masters degree at uni.

What does put us off is text speak - it shows little effort.

Portia

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Text speak is so annoying

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

I have real problems with spelling and my grammar is not that good so I use a spell checker... Its easy and means I am understood. In many cases poor spelling and grammar is just lazyness and I think if a person is too lazy to use a spell checker then what else are they too lazy to do. I also believe it is important to be able to make yourself clearly understood in your own language! It is not snobbery to use or want others to use the language correctly.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

When posting in the forums I tend to put me & ma instead of my, and yer instead of your because that's how I pronounce those particular words. In a message or in a professional capacity I tend to spell things correctly.

As long as I can understand the gist of what someone is trying to say, it matters little to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?"

Two of my kids are dyslexic and have trouble spelling. Appalling that anyone would judge someone on their spelling and grammar capabilities. It's a sex site not a book club!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolute snobbery .

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I agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?"

Yours isn't too good either actually!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spelling and grammar are measures of communication. This is a sex site. If you are unable to make your own wishes or wants understood it is difficult to achieve what you really desire for others or yourself. We are not suggesting that everyone suddenly use erudite flourishes in their prose but surely you want to have the best time possible. Even if you have difficulty with the aforementioned and suffer from Dyslexia the real world will judge you on your vocabulary and knowledge.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?

Two of my kids are dyslexic and have trouble spelling. Appalling that anyone would judge someone on their spelling and grammar capabilities. It's a sex site not a book club!!!!"

Can I just point out that I haven't said at any point I judge the person writing it. Just that it bothers me. Oh, and I also didn't say I was perfect either!

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"We dont expect people to write us a letter on a meet.

Her"

Maybe a French letter. However we do bypass the profiles that have bad punctuation and grammar only for one reason. We also want to have a good conversation too and the way someone talks due mek a big diverense und if dey dun mek senze it puts us ov.

Wow my spell check was going mad then. Yes we know it is a swingers site but a conversation has to the place at some time. Nice just to have an educated conversation.

So yes it does put us off.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"Aw, I know. I don't mean to be harsh but there's some really good profiles and then they spoil it! I know, I'm a nerd/snob! X"

OP, It should say "there are" not "there's"

Seriously though, I don't think it's snobbery at all. The issue usually raises its head when a bloke has come on asking for profile advice. Very often they are so badly written as to be nearly incomprehensible.

It's not snobbery to suggest they work on that - it's helping them to improve their chances. Women (including some who are arguing it wouldn't be a factor in this thread, I'd wager) have to make snap decisions on messages and it's inevitable and understanable readability will be a factor.

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By *et n wild alexWoman
over a year ago

berkhampstead

I'm glad I'm not the only one who gets annoyed with poor spelling and grammar.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Aw, I know. I don't mean to be harsh but there's some really good profiles and then they spoil it! I know, I'm a nerd/snob! X

OP, It should say "there are" not "there's"

Seriously though, I don't think it's snobbery at all. The issue usually raises its head when a bloke has come on asking for profile advice. Very often they are so badly written as to be nearly incomprehensible.

It's not snobbery to suggest they work on that - it's helping them to improve their chances. Women (including some who are arguing it wouldn't be a factor in this thread, I'd wager) have to make snap decisions on messages and it's inevitable and understanable readability will be a factor."

Oops. Maybe I should edit!!

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?

Two of my kids are dyslexic and have trouble spelling. Appalling that anyone would judge someone on their spelling and grammar capabilities. It's a sex site not a book club!!!!"

Before I get shot down... I agree. There is a difference between being dyslexic and using text speak.

Generally you can tell an uneducated profile by the way it is worded. I know some dyslexic people and there are different levels, some are difficultly with certain letters and others may be words. We do come across profiles that are just bad.

Also there are many friendly people on here so if a dyslexic person has a problem just ask someone to send their profile to them in a message and copy and paste. There are many ways to deal with something that hinders you, just ask help. A good friend of mine (RIP) was a well known fisherman and made many many forums, magazines etc. he just did what he could do and got help where needed. No one would know. I take my hat off to him. He never complained about it. He got on with it the best he could.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?

Two of my kids are dyslexic and have trouble spelling. Appalling that anyone would judge someone on their spelling and grammar capabilities. It's a sex site not a book club!!!!

Before I get shot down... I agree. There is a difference between being dyslexic and using text speak.

Generally you can tell an uneducated profile by the way it is worded. I know some dyslexic people and there are different levels, some are difficultly with certain letters and others may be words. We do come across profiles that are just bad.

Also there are many friendly people on here so if a dyslexic person has a problem just ask someone to send their profile to them in a message and copy and paste. There are many ways to deal with something that hinders you, just ask help. A good friend of mine (RIP) was a well known fisherman and made many many forums, magazines etc. he just did what he could do and got help where needed. No one would know. I take my hat off to him. He never complained about it. He got on with it the best he could."

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

I got bigger fings in my life to worry bout than other peeps English (or lack thereof), Innit

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"Aw, I know. I don't mean to be harsh but there's some really good profiles and then they spoil it! I know, I'm a nerd/snob! X

OP, It should say "there are" not "there's"

Seriously though, I don't think it's snobbery at all. The issue usually raises its head when a bloke has come on asking for profile advice. Very often they are so badly written as to be nearly incomprehensible.

It's not snobbery to suggest they work on that - it's helping them to improve their chances. Women (including some who are arguing it wouldn't be a factor in this thread, I'd wager) have to make snap decisions on messages and it's inevitable and understanable readability will be a factor.

Oops. Maybe I should edit!! "

Sorry, couldn't resist. :-

I spelt "understandable" wrong - you should have for your own back

Anyway, I'm on your side with this. I reckon that every single reply I've ever had from a woman has said thank you for writing a message that's well written (and polite), so it's evidently important. I think that's fair enough and isn't women being unduly fussy.

Well written messages/profiles are easier to read - simple as that.

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

Some people may not be good in Grammar or spelling. But very good in love making and good presentation. Remember this is not a Dating site.looking for a complete package material in a man? I am afraid you are in the wrong place.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?"
. . Yes . It is not a very encouraging start if spelling is poor and use of grammar is incorrect. . This applies in all walks of life . Some members should maybe have made more effort at school. I have recently purchased a book on the use of grammar in an attempt to improve mine . As you go through life , you should never stop learning .

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By *aidtobespankedCouple
over a year ago

Chester

We would ignore a profile or message we couldn't make head nor tail of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As Portia's partner here, I can can confirm that she does indeed have dailysex. I mean dyslexia!

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

SO GRAMMAR AND SPELLING IS A PREREQUISITE FOR MEETING UP WITH SOMEONE ON FAB

ACADA INDEED.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?"

It doesn't bother me, as the vast majority of poorly written profiles are written by men and as such, their lousy profile makes mine look all the better!

I don't mind a bit of grammar or punctuation or spelling errors as people use phones which is easy to make mistakes on and spell check sometimes changes words and people post before checking. It's only when the meaning of something is unclear, then if that is a result of errors, they should sort it. After all, the amount of ducks I've been offered is ridiculous!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"SO GRAMMAR AND SPELLING IS A PREREQUISITE FOR MEETING UP WITH SOMEONE ON FAB

ACADA INDEED.

"

No, but jumping to simplified conclusions is...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Absolute snobbery .

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I don't agree. Misuse of words such as 'there', 'they're' and 'their' is basic primary school level education. It's not snobbery (in my opinion) to expect people to be able to use the right one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people may not be good in Grammar or spelling. But very good in love making and good presentation. Remember this is not a Dating site.looking for a complete package material in a man? I am afraid you are in the wrong place."

Well I think you will find that the vast majority of women particularly, on here are interested in the whole package, its been discussed many times. We are not looking for an unattached penis. Inattention to grammar and spelling, because that's what it is, inattention, Is part of what makes a person, the same as height, ethnicity, hair colour etc etc. they are all part of the package. We make a judgement every time we turn someone down or make an approach. We are judging whether we are likely to click with this person or not. We make a judgement about whether it is worth the effort and we do this taking into account all facets of the person they are.

Of course there are some people who are just desperate for a fuck, will fuck anyone and anything, but even these are making a judgement

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

As much as bad spelling annoys me, I don't judge anyone on it. I don't think it's a clear indication of a person.

Mr is a poor speller, but in person he's articulate, funny and intelligent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have real problems with spelling and my grammar is not that good so I use a spell checker... Its easy and means I am understood. In many cases poor spelling and grammar is just lazyness and I think if a person is too lazy to use a spell checker then what else are they too lazy to do. I also believe it is important to be able to make yourself clearly understood in your own language! It is not snobbery to use or want others to use the language correctly."

I am dyslexic and a spell checker doesn't help me at all because generally i have no idea i have spelt a word wrong !

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

I guess, like anything, it may be a sign they're not for the poster.

Some people look at the number of verifications to see if people have too many or not enough. Others will be put off by the pile of washing in the corner of a profile picture.

In my book, screening for poor English is no worse or better than the host of other criteria people use to separate the "will meet" from the "chavs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't spell very well and usually have no idea if a word is spelt right or wrong however i can talk and have a good conversation with others (if i am interested in them) and also i am good at sex no one has ever said to me they don't want to meet me because i can't spell

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

My grammar spelling punctuation are rubbish even if I dont write much still get offer meets.so cannt be grammar if I dont message much tell them I better speaking in person because u shouldnt judge by writing as I got daughter who dyslexia very frustrating yes spell checker ok but I dont seem why stop the interest of meet has when u get message of guy want to fuk or would you bj me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolute snobbery .

I don't agree. Misuse of words such as 'there', 'they're' and 'their' is basic primary school level education. It's not snobbery (in my opinion) to expect people to be able to use the right one. "

That is assuming that people have had the primary school education

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have real problems with spelling and my grammar is not that good so I use a spell checker... Its easy and means I am understood. In many cases poor spelling and grammar is just lazyness and I think if a person is too lazy to use a spell checker then what else are they too lazy to do. I also believe it is important to be able to make yourself clearly understood in your own language! It is not snobbery to use or want others to use the language correctly.

I am dyslexic and a spell checker doesn't help me at all because generally i have no idea i have spelt a word wrong !"

But that's what a spellchecker does...it highlights any words spelled incorrectly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't exclude somebody purely because of poor writing, but it definitely does go towards forming a complete picture of them, and suggesting if we're likely to get on or not.

I do tend to feel that it they can't make an effort to write well, then they probably won't make much of an effort to be nice in bed either....

In contrast, having received many messages on Fab, I can't avoid forming the opinion that most men are less bothered about spelling or grammar, but are more interested in whether a woman has nice tits....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have real problems with spelling and my grammar is not that good so I use a spell checker... Its easy and means I am understood. In many cases poor spelling and grammar is just lazyness and I think if a person is too lazy to use a spell checker then what else are they too lazy to do. I also believe it is important to be able to make yourself clearly understood in your own language! It is not snobbery to use or want others to use the language correctly.

I am dyslexic and a spell checker doesn't help me at all because generally i have no idea i have spelt a word wrong !

But that's what a spellchecker does...it highlights any words spelled incorrectly "

I would have to spell check every word though !!!!! Plus then i would have to chose which i feel is the right spelling of it !!!!

I don't have a problem getting meets so i guess my bad spelling has no effect on people wanting to meet me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have real problems with spelling and my grammar is not that good so I use a spell checker... Its easy and means I am understood. In many cases poor spelling and grammar is just lazyness and I think if a person is too lazy to use a spell checker then what else are they too lazy to do. I also believe it is important to be able to make yourself clearly understood in your own language! It is not snobbery to use or want others to use the language correctly.

I am dyslexic and a spell checker doesn't help me at all because generally i have no idea i have spelt a word wrong !

But that's what a spellchecker does...it highlights any words spelled incorrectly

I would have to spell check every word though !!!!! Plus then i would have to chose which i feel is the right spelling of it !!!!

I don't have a problem getting meets so i guess my bad spelling has no effect on people wanting to meet me "

A spellchecker when turned on checks all the text you don't have to pick particular words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do yous fancy a fuck"

This is an actual example of a message we received recently from a bloke who hadn't bothered to actually read our profile.

I accept this is a sex site and people are not submitting job applications however we like meeting with people who we can also chat & laugh with.

A person who either cannot be bothered or is incapable of stringing a proper sentence together is not someone we are interested in meeting. Regardless of any other factors.

That is simply our preference & if in some peoples eyes that makes us snobs then so be it.

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Wow imagine if you met someone, you thought they were amazing so funny, so whitty and the greatest lay you ever had, then to come on here and find out they can't spell, you would be gutted lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have real problems with spelling and my grammar is not that good so I use a spell checker... Its easy and means I am understood. In many cases poor spelling and grammar is just lazyness and I think if a person is too lazy to use a spell checker then what else are they too lazy to do. I also believe it is important to be able to make yourself clearly understood in your own language! It is not snobbery to use or want others to use the language correctly.

I am dyslexic and a spell checker doesn't help me at all because generally i have no idea i have spelt a word wrong !

But that's what a spellchecker does...it highlights any words spelled incorrectly

I would have to spell check every word though !!!!! Plus then i would have to chose which i feel is the right spelling of it !!!!

I don't have a problem getting meets so i guess my bad spelling has no effect on people wanting to meet me

A spellchecker when turned on checks all the text you don't have to pick particular words "

The spellchecker i have doesn't do that, i have to chose which words to check and also then i usually have to decide which of the words spellcheck offers to me as the correct spelling

Anyway i have no problems getting meets and i am very choosy who i meet so i guess my dreadful spelling isn't off putting to many people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow imagine if you met someone, you thought they were amazing so funny, so whitty and the greatest lay you ever had, then to come on here and find out they can't spell, you would be gutted lmao"

lol

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"I wouldn't exclude somebody purely because of poor writing, but it definitely does go towards forming a complete picture of them, and suggesting if we're likely to get on or not.

I do tend to feel that it they can't make an effort to write well, then they probably won't make much of an effort to be nice in bed either....

In contrast, having received many messages on Fab, I can't avoid forming the opinion that most men are less bothered about spelling or grammar, but are more interested in whether a woman has nice tits....

"

Sometimes a man can spell correctly AND appreciate a nice pair of tits...the new era of male multitasking!

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

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over a year ago


"Wow imagine if you met someone, you thought they were amazing so funny, so whitty and the greatest lay you ever had, then to come on here and find out they can't spell, you would be gutted lmao"

I doubt it.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Used to bug me but then I have realised how many people use their phones instead of a full size keyboard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The difference between a phone typo & someone who is borderline illiterate is usually immediately obvious.

I have no problems with typos.

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By *otpair255Couple
over a year ago

Langley

We are both foreigners, and our profile clearly states this fact.We do make grammar mistakes.However we at least trying write correctly.

If we see that someone is using "text" style, we assume that this person/couple is not for us.

Don't make us wrong you do not need to have PHD, just have style .

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I have real problems with spelling and my grammar is not that good so I use a spell checker... Its easy and means I am understood. In many cases poor spelling and grammar is just lazyness and I think if a person is too lazy to use a spell checker then what else are they too lazy to do. I also believe it is important to be able to make yourself clearly understood in your own language! It is not snobbery to use or want others to use the language correctly.

I am dyslexic and a spell checker doesn't help me at all because generally i have no idea i have spelt a word wrong !

But that's what a spellchecker does...it highlights any words spelled incorrectly

I would have to spell check every word though !!!!! Plus then i would have to chose which i feel is the right spelling of it !!!!

I don't have a problem getting meets so i guess my bad spelling has no effect on people wanting to meet me

A spellchecker when turned on checks all the text you don't have to pick particular words

The spellchecker i have doesn't do that, i have to chose which words to check and also then i usually have to decide which of the words spellcheck offers to me as the correct spelling

Anyway i have no problems getting meets and i am very choosy who i meet so i guess my dreadful spelling isn't off putting to many people "

If I was dyslexic then I would have made an effort to get a decent spell checker. Have you ever seen someone with one leg gaffer taping a broom handle to their body to get about.... no.....If you have a permanent problem then you get the best option having to live with it day by day and not just on fab. Then you have the opposite, if you were to cut your finger opening a tin you would not go to hospital for a skin graft as you know it is temporary.

So if you have such a problem then get something with a spell checker or get a better one. I am not sure what you are using on here but to be honest pretty much everything you get these days will sort out most spelling problems etc. Take every opportunity to help yourself rather then be a victim.

As for choosing people to meet. There are thousands of people on here so you have to take every possible method to find the right meet for yourself. If you only look for a pulse then who cares about spelling. We look at the whole package. Also we have actually blocked a couple before meeting as our profiles were not fully compatible. Ten we met them at a club and could not add each other to fab as we had blocked them. Now we are great friends. If the chance arose we would probably play as long as it did not alter our friendship but just one item on each of our profiles means I doubt we would. There are always things that put people off. You move on taking the chance that they are not for you. They just might be and that is down to the person reading it. It is their choice. Some people do not like tall people, that is something I can not change, some people only like people with the same colour skin, some people go for people with opposite colour skin, some like certain colour hair, I am a sucker for straight hair, mmmm, not saying if a curly haired person was there I would dismiss them. We are just fussy and with so many people out there you have to be as there are not enough days to meet everyone on fab.

Everything abut a profile makes a difference. In a supermarket if a package is not appealing then you may not buy the product unless you know what it is like.

Everyone has the right to make a choice. I am going to take a chance and press send knowing that there maybe a spelling error on here as I am on an iPad and so prefer a physical keyboard.

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Look I aint bothered about poor grammar one bit but maths, now that's a different story.

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Look I aint bothered about poor grammar one bit but maths, now that's a different story."

Use a condom you do not want to go multiplying....

(P.s. sorry for my spelling errors in my last post ha ha... Oops)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it annoys us too. We do try and ignore it a lot of the time but sometimes it is just too much.

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over a year ago


"I have real problems with spelling and my grammar is not that good so I use a spell checker... Its easy and means I am understood. In many cases poor spelling and grammar is just lazyness and I think if a person is too lazy to use a spell checker then what else are they too lazy to do. I also believe it is important to be able to make yourself clearly understood in your own language! It is not snobbery to use or want others to use the language correctly.

I am dyslexic and a spell checker doesn't help me at all because generally i have no idea i have spelt a word wrong !

But that's what a spellchecker does...it highlights any words spelled incorrectly

I would have to spell check every word though !!!!! Plus then i would have to chose which i feel is the right spelling of it !!!!

I don't have a problem getting meets so i guess my bad spelling has no effect on people wanting to meet me

A spellchecker when turned on checks all the text you don't have to pick particular words

The spellchecker i have doesn't do that, i have to chose which words to check and also then i usually have to decide which of the words spellcheck offers to me as the correct spelling

Anyway i have no problems getting meets and i am very choosy who i meet so i guess my dreadful spelling isn't off putting to many people

If I was dyslexic then I would have made an effort to get a decent spell checker. Have you ever seen someone with one leg gaffer taping a broom handle to their body to get about.... no.....If you have a permanent problem then you get the best option having to live with it day by day and not just on fab. Then you have the opposite, if you were to cut your finger opening a tin you would not go to hospital for a skin graft as you know it is temporary.

So if you have such a problem then get something with a spell checker or get a better one. I am not sure what you are using on here but to be honest pretty much everything you get these days will sort out most spelling problems etc. Take every opportunity to help yourself rather then be a victim.

As for choosing people to meet. There are thousands of people on here so you have to take every possible method to find the right meet for yourself. If you only look for a pulse then who cares about spelling. We look at the whole package. Also we have actually blocked a couple before meeting as our profiles were not fully compatible. Ten we met them at a club and could not add each other to fab as we had blocked them. Now we are great friends. If the chance arose we would probably play as long as it did not alter our friendship but just one item on each of our profiles means I doubt we would. There are always things that put people off. You move on taking the chance that they are not for you. They just might be and that is down to the person reading it. It is their choice. Some people do not like tall people, that is something I can not change, some people only like people with the same colour skin, some people go for people with opposite colour skin, some like certain colour hair, I am a sucker for straight hair, mmmm, not saying if a curly haired person was there I would dismiss them. We are just fussy and with so many people out there you have to be as there are not enough days to meet everyone on fab.

Everything abut a profile makes a difference. In a supermarket if a package is not appealing then you may not buy the product unless you know what it is like.

Everyone has the right to make a choice. I am going to take a chance and press send knowing that there maybe a spelling error on here as I am on an iPad and so prefer a physical keyboard."

I am not a "victim" at all in anyway (if anyone thinks i am a victim then that is their problem not mine lol) and i don't think of my bad spelling as a "problem" when writing here on Fab, if i am writing an important letter/email then i get my hubby to check what i have written he checks that it is spelt right and makes sense and that i have used the right word to portray the meaning i intend (write or right etc), that has worked well so far and being as i rarely use my spelling (lack of) skills in my job then it has never been a probem for me or anyone else

I am educated to a very high standard and continually have to do training in my job, i do everything well and pass everything i do usually in the higher levels of it too..... despite my spelling !

I have very high standards regarding who i meet, they do have to have a pulse but also have to be polite, sexy and fun as well as meeting all my other likes and dislikes. Nost of all they have to be non judgemental

Just because i don't use a spellchecker here doesn't mean i am a loser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have real problems with spelling and my grammar is not that good so I use a spell checker... Its easy and means I am understood. In many cases poor spelling and grammar is just lazyness and I think if a person is too lazy to use a spell checker then what else are they too lazy to do. I also believe it is important to be able to make yourself clearly understood in your own language! It is not snobbery to use or want others to use the language correctly.

I am dyslexic and a spell checker doesn't help me at all because generally i have no idea i have spelt a word wrong !

But that's what a spellchecker does...it highlights any words spelled incorrectly

I would have to spell check every word though !!!!! Plus then i would have to chose which i feel is the right spelling of it !!!!

I don't have a problem getting meets so i guess my bad spelling has no effect on people wanting to meet me

A spellchecker when turned on checks all the text you don't have to pick particular words

The spellchecker i have doesn't do that, i have to chose which words to check and also then i usually have to decide which of the words spellcheck offers to me as the correct spelling

Anyway i have no problems getting meets and i am very choosy who i meet so i guess my dreadful spelling isn't off putting to many people

If I was dyslexic then I would have made an effort to get a decent spell checker. Have you ever seen someone with one leg gaffer taping a broom handle to their body to get about.... no.....If you have a permanent problem then you get the best option having to live with it day by day and not just on fab. Then you have the opposite, if you were to cut your finger opening a tin you would not go to hospital for a skin graft as you know it is temporary.

So if you have such a problem then get something with a spell checker or get a better one. I am not sure what you are using on here but to be honest pretty much everything you get these days will sort out most spelling problems etc. Take every opportunity to help yourself rather then be a victim.

As for choosing people to meet. There are thousands of people on here so you have to take every possible method to find the right meet for yourself. If you only look for a pulse then who cares about spelling. We look at the whole package. Also we have actually blocked a couple before meeting as our profiles were not fully compatible. Ten we met them at a club and could not add each other to fab as we had blocked them. Now we are great friends. If the chance arose we would probably play as long as it did not alter our friendship but just one item on each of our profiles means I doubt we would. There are always things that put people off. You move on taking the chance that they are not for you. They just might be and that is down to the person reading it. It is their choice. Some people do not like tall people, that is something I can not change, some people only like people with the same colour skin, some people go for people with opposite colour skin, some like certain colour hair, I am a sucker for straight hair, mmmm, not saying if a curly haired person was there I would dismiss them. We are just fussy and with so many people out there you have to be as there are not enough days to meet everyone on fab.

Everything abut a profile makes a difference. In a supermarket if a package is not appealing then you may not buy the product unless you know what it is like.

Everyone has the right to make a choice. I am going to take a chance and press send knowing that there maybe a spelling error on here as I am on an iPad and so prefer a physical keyboard.

I am not a "victim" at all in anyway (if anyone thinks i am a victim then that is their problem not mine lol) and i don't think of my bad spelling as a "problem" when writing here on Fab, if i am writing an important letter/email then i get my hubby to check what i have written he checks that it is spelt right and makes sense and that i have used the right word to portray the meaning i intend (write or right etc), that has worked well so far and being as i rarely use my spelling (lack of) skills in my job then it has never been a probem for me or anyone else

I am educated to a very high standard and continually have to do training in my job, i do everything well and pass everything i do usually in the higher levels of it too..... despite my spelling !

I have very high standards regarding who i meet, they do have to have a pulse but also have to be polite, sexy and fun as well as meeting all my other likes and dislikes. Nost of all they have to be non judgemental

Just because i don't use a spellchecker here doesn't mean i am a loser "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammar that show up in a bad light to me "
Yes .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't meet guys who can't write a decent message. That's mainly because I enjoy intelligent conversation and am fairly literate. I find conversation much easier with people who can string a few words together. I'm not really into caveman or text speak. "

Absolutely agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe an entrance test when applying to join Fab"s is the answer for the English Docterates amongst you.

Do not despair regular Fabbers, you may smell like a Pig, or be a crap shag, but if you can spell in association with good grammar you will get laid.

Just make a note of all those here that require these things and message away, happy shagging

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I have real problems with spelling and my grammar is not that good so I use a spell checker... Its easy and means I am understood. In many cases poor spelling and grammar is just lazyness and I think if a person is too lazy to use a spell checker then what else are they too lazy to do. I also believe it is important to be able to make yourself clearly understood in your own language! It is not snobbery to use or want others to use the language correctly.

I am dyslexic and a spell checker doesn't help me at all because generally i have no idea i have spelt a word wrong !

But that's what a spellchecker does...it highlights any words spelled incorrectly

I would have to spell check every word though !!!!! Plus then i would have to chose which i feel is the right spelling of it !!!!

I don't have a problem getting meets so i guess my bad spelling has no effect on people wanting to meet me

A spellchecker when turned on checks all the text you don't have to pick particular words

The spellchecker i have doesn't do that, i have to chose which words to check and also then i usually have to decide which of the words spellcheck offers to me as the correct spelling

Anyway i have no problems getting meets and i am very choosy who i meet so i guess my dreadful spelling isn't off putting to many people

If I was dyslexic then I would have made an effort to get a decent spell checker. Have you ever seen someone with one leg gaffer taping a broom handle to their body to get about.... no.....If you have a permanent problem then you get the best option having to live with it day by day and not just on fab. Then you have the opposite, if you were to cut your finger opening a tin you would not go to hospital for a skin graft as you know it is temporary.

So if you have such a problem then get something with a spell checker or get a better one. I am not sure what you are using on here but to be honest pretty much everything you get these days will sort out most spelling problems etc. Take every opportunity to help yourself rather then be a victim.

As for choosing people to meet. There are thousands of people on here so you have to take every possible method to find the right meet for yourself. If you only look for a pulse then who cares about spelling. We look at the whole package. Also we have actually blocked a couple before meeting as our profiles were not fully compatible. Ten we met them at a club and could not add each other to fab as we had blocked them. Now we are great friends. If the chance arose we would probably play as long as it did not alter our friendship but just one item on each of our profiles means I doubt we would. There are always things that put people off. You move on taking the chance that they are not for you. They just might be and that is down to the person reading it. It is their choice. Some people do not like tall people, that is something I can not change, some people only like people with the same colour skin, some people go for people with opposite colour skin, some like certain colour hair, I am a sucker for straight hair, mmmm, not saying if a curly haired person was there I would dismiss them. We are just fussy and with so many people out there you have to be as there are not enough days to meet everyone on fab.

Everything abut a profile makes a difference. In a supermarket if a package is not appealing then you may not buy the product unless you know what it is like.

Everyone has the right to make a choice. I am going to take a chance and press send knowing that there maybe a spelling error on here as I am on an iPad and so prefer a physical keyboard.

I am not a "victim" at all in anyway (if anyone thinks i am a victim then that is their problem not mine lol) and i don't think of my bad spelling as a "problem" when writing here on Fab, if i am writing an important letter/email then i get my hubby to check what i have written he checks that it is spelt right and makes sense and that i have used the right word to portray the meaning i intend (write or right etc), that has worked well so far and being as i rarely use my spelling (lack of) skills in my job then it has never been a probem for me or anyone else

I am educated to a very high standard and continually have to do training in my job, i do everything well and pass everything i do usually in the higher levels of it too..... despite my spelling !

I have very high standards regarding who i meet, they do have to have a pulse but also have to be polite, sexy and fun as well as meeting all my other likes and dislikes. Nost of all they have to be non judgemental

Just because i don't use a spellchecker here doesn't mean i am a loser "

Never called anyone a loser, you just brought up the subject on how hard it was with your spellchecker etc that it came across like you are a victim. Just get on with it and enjoy Fab. If people do not like tall people then we am not fussed.

(By the way it was general comments, not having a go so do not think I was).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit hard reading a profile that looks like it's been texted by a 12 year old. But it wouldn't put me off.

I'm dyslexic, but still try and look competent. If I'm messaging someone and I'm tired, my spelling can be awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammar that show up in a bad light to me Yes . "

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool

I haven't read all of the replies above (there are rather a lot of them!)

I think it's important to use good spelling and grammer when communicating online in general, as your messages are what people are using to make an opinion of you. However, I also understand that the English language is 1/elusive to some & 2/not their first language, so I would not judge somebody on their written communication skills at all!!

What does really annoy me is text speak in messages. There is just no need for it nowadays, even if you are viewing fab on your phone, with predictive text etc... I hate receiving messages like 'Hi, finkin of comin da club, r uz gonna be there?'...now that makes me mad! lol Just my little 'thing' though lol

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


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You think it's important but you can't spell grammar? LOL

I prefer good spelling and grammar but in all honesty there are more important things, I would be highly unlikely to reject someone based on their spelling/grammar in reality.

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


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You think it's important but you can't spell grammar? LOL

I prefer good spelling and grammar but in all honesty there are more important things, I would be highly unlikely to reject someone based on their spelling/grammar in reality. "

Hehe oh yeh! back to school I gooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm dyslexic spelling and grammar goes over my head at times, just glad there spell check now . One thing i can't stand is text speck . I just don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm dyslexic spelling and grammar goes over my head at times, just glad there spell check now . One thing i can't stand is text speck . I just don't get it. "
Snap I don't get it text speck and like you I am dyslexic and grammar is not the best and thank god for my spell check ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is just a fuck at the end of the day, no need to spell perfectly lol

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We got a message a little while ago that read something like, 'wanna fuc u wid ma big coc.'

Don't think that was a spelling, grammar or dyslexia problem. We suspect it was more to do with a phonetic interpretation of what was being thought.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Wow imagine if you met someone, you thought they were amazing so funny, so whitty and the greatest lay you ever had, then to come on here and find out they can't spell, you would be gutted lmao"

when the veri said 'stove had a Cuck the size of a farm"

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"Wow imagine if you met someone, you thought they were amazing so funny, so whitty and the greatest lay you ever had, then to come on here and find out they can't spell, you would be gutted lmao

when the veri said 'stove had a Cuck the size of a farm" "

PMSL!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Woah folks!! Thank you all so much for putting in your opinions but I feel this thread has become a runaway train!!

I'll refer you all back to my original post - all I asked was if it bugged anyone else. At no point did I say I would block or not respond to someone who can't spell or that it's part of my selection criteria!!!

I'm pretty literate and it's just a pet hate - but I don't judge when someone can't spell. As many have pointed out there's dyslexia (or my favourite dailysex!) or loads of other reasons. I use my phone and it takes time to make sure everything is typed correctly. Sometimes if I'm tired I don't bother as much!

This all came about as I'd had several messages along the lines of:

U so fukin sxy u wan it

Ma cok is hrd al gi u a cin 2

Strangely enough those put me off. I like to be able to chat - not looking for a forever just to be comfortable. Can't quite get to a meet and pull my knickers down and open my legs!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won't meet guys who can't write a decent message. That's mainly because I enjoy intelligent conversation and am fairly literate. I find conversation much easier with people who can string a few words together. I'm not really into caveman or text speak. "

Exactly !!!! 100% agree

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By *ieutenantMan
over a year ago

london

Question for people insisting on good grammar and spelling.

If you meet someone good in grammar and spelling. But crap on bed or meet up with someone terrible at grammar and spelling but good in bed.which will you go for? I presume a lot will go for the guy good on bed

Remember this is not a Dating site. But swing site. Don't expect too much. If prerequisite for good grammar and spelling is a priority for meeting up with guys on fab.you better off on dating site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was dyslexic then I would have made an effort to get a decent spell checker. Have you ever seen someone with one leg gaffer taping a broom handle to their body to get about.... no.....If you have a permanent problem then you get the best option having to live with it day by day and not just on fab. Then you have the opposite, if you were to cut your finger opening a tin you would not go to hospital for a skin graft as you know it is temporary."
. I have a broken ankle at the moment so I use a crutch to get around, why wouldn't I? Rather that than stumble around and expect sympathy because I am not as mobile as others or expect people to ignore that I can't get out of my seat to give them a BJ and if they decline THEY ARE JUDGING ME!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am inteligent,run my own business, lead singer in band, great on bed

but dyslexic, shit at spelling and shit grammer, Cant have it all I guess

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

In my experience, people tend to be attracted to people who portray similar values to their own. If a value is attention to the written word and they sense someone who shows the same value it is more likely to perk their interest then those who don't hold this value.

It's not a problem, just a value preference and each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question for people insisting on good grammar and spelling.

If you meet someone good in grammar and spelling. But crap on bed or meet up with someone terrible at grammar and spelling but good in bed.which will you go for? I presume a lot will go for the guy good on bed

Remember this is not a Dating site. But swing site. Don't expect too much. If prerequisite for good grammar and spelling is a priority for meeting up with guys on fab.you better off on dating site"

It might be a simple fuck from anyone with a pulse you are looking for.

We are different. We expect a little more starting with a pleasant personality, some intelligent conversation and finishing with some great sex.

You use the site your way & are perfectly entitled to your opinion but we will use it our way thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is the type of forum post and response trail that demonstrates everything wrong with forums.

There's a lot of highly opinionated nonsense (not all, but a large chunk)...

...and before someone mentions it, yes I know that no one forced me to read it, but still, I'll never get that last 5 minutes of my life back! :P

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby


"I have real problems with spelling and my grammar is not that good so I use a spell checker... Its easy and means I am understood. In many cases poor spelling and grammar is just lazyness and I think if a person is too lazy to use a spell checker then what else are they too lazy to do. I also believe it is important to be able to make yourself clearly understood in your own language! It is not snobbery to use or want others to use the language correctly.

I am dyslexic and a spell checker doesn't help me at all because generally i have no idea i have spelt a word wrong !"

The spell checker highlights a mis spelt word, I know its not fool proof and does not help with punctuation or grammar but its a start. And yes I do understand the difficulties faced by those with dyslexia.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't mind unless I don't understand.

I am French and try my best with my grammar, my spelling and my punctuation.

It would be a shame to judge me on my poor English so I tend not to judge others on theirs.

But I must admit I do have a lot of fun correcting British people when they do make a spelling/grammar mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind unless I don't understand.

I am French and try my best with my grammar, my spelling and my punctuation.

It would be a shame to judge me on my poor English so I tend not to judge others on theirs.

But I must admit I do have a lot of fun correcting British people when they do make a spelling/grammar mistake

"

Nobody can get upset where English is not a persons first language least of all us (Mrs J speaks a few languages but English is not her mother tongue).

Nor should anyone get upset where a person is dyslexic however the vast majority of poorly spelt, grammatically slapdash are from Brits.

We are not expecting anything special but where even a single simple sentence appears beyond capability of the writer then we will draw our own conclusions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind unless I don't understand.

I am French and try my best with my grammar, my spelling and my punctuation.

It would be a shame to judge me on my poor English so I tend not to judge others on theirs.

But I must admit I do have a lot of fun correcting British people when they do make a spelling/grammar mistake

Och Aye!

Nobody can get upset where English is not a persons first language least of all us (Mrs J speaks a few languages but English is not her mother tongue).

Nor should anyone get upset where a person is dyslexic however the vast majority of poorly spelt, grammatically slapdash are from Brits.

We are not expecting anything special but where even a single simple sentence appears beyond capability of the writer then we will draw our own conclusions."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We dont expect people to write us a letter on a meet.

Her"

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I would always forgive a beautiful lady for poor grammar/spelling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Woah folks!! Thank you all so much for putting in your opinions but I feel this thread has become a runaway train!!

I'll refer you all back to my original post - all I asked was if it bugged anyone else. At no point did I say I would block or not respond to someone who can't spell or that it's part of my selection criteria!!!

I'm pretty literate and it's just a pet hate - but I don't judge when someone can't spell. As many have pointed out there's dyslexia (or my favourite dailysex!) or loads of other reasons. I use my phone and it takes time to make sure everything is typed correctly. Sometimes if I'm tired I don't bother as much!

This all came about as I'd had several messages along the lines of:

U so fukin sxy u wan it

Ma cok is hrd al gi u a cin 2

Strangely enough those put me off. I like to be able to chat - not looking for a forever just to be comfortable. Can't quite get to a meet and pull my knickers down and open my legs!!!

"

Personally he needs specsavers pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No and i've got a degree in English."

Capital I in I've...........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No and i've got a degree in English.

Capital I in I've........... "

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm florence xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought but I have yet to see anyone object to a properly spelt message.

Since many apparently dislike poorly spelt messages it suggests that a few extra moments care with spelling before sending might actually improve the chances of a positive response.

A crazy idea I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?"

massively!

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Just a thought but I have yet to see anyone object to a properly spelt message.

A crazy idea I know."

I probably wouldn't even notice that it's a properly spelt message lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like when people spoke the proper England.

;-)

I think when you send messages to people it's important to take time to get it right.

After all its the first impression people get about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It stresses me out. People who get you're/your wrong in particular are absolutely worse than Hitler.

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Ok just had a wink. Looked at their profile which I have copied and pasted...

we are married couple both considerate smoking..some never notice we are..we are not newbies and looking for extra fun..

WTF?????? This is what I mean...... If I have to try to work out what people mean I really do not care.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

grammar. .... The difference between knowing your shit and knowing you're shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"grammar. .... The difference between knowing your shit and knowing you're shit "

Brilliant. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quiet few days nothing to write about so let's criticize spelling & grammar mistakes if it's readable read it if not move on SIMPLE

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Quiet few days nothing to write about so let's criticize spelling & grammar mistakes if it's readable read it if not move on SIMPLE"

Yes the whole point of the thread......

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By *lan43sumMan
over a year ago

Leicester

The next time a lady makes a typo in any PM to me can I put her over my knee, pull her knickers down and turn her bottom red with my open hand? Please... lol

Lets have more fun to warm these damp days up. Or do I mean more dampness for those of you playing while your read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me fail english that unpossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If fab ever becomes 'selective' as some swinging groups/sites are - then I'll be the first through the door! What I love about fab and swinging is that it attracts every age, gender, religion, colour, intellect and financial status. Why on earth would I only want to meet boring, middle class pseudo intellectuals like me? At clubs and parties i've met everyone from the long-term unemployed to multi-millionaires. Vive la difference!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A teacher once told me "I want you two do too sentences to". I though that that was a strange way to put it? She said "they're really is a proper way to do it, put it up their, on the chalk board next to theres".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone's spelling is not 100% or the message is not grammatically correct... Does that make them "thick or stupid" I hope not! I'm am also someone with dyslexia and make spelling mistakes and my grammar might be a bit dodgy...

Does it mean I am not worth talking to or can't hold an intelligent conversation?

It has not held me back in life ( was an officer in the Army and have a degree in Psychology and a PhD in Geology) So if I make a mistake in a message and get blocked/ignored.... It's not my loss!!

(It's Red's hubby writing this)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to remember that it's not always their fault.

I have problems myself, which might be reflected in my profile, but I tried my best to make it look presentable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My grandma has really good spelling. Leave her alone please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, I'm the other way round. It's the people on here that judge others for their poor grammar that show up in a bad light to me Yes . "

I do agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd much rather have a stupid but fantastic lover then an educated sexual failure!

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By *denMan
over a year ago

near Preston

"Lol". Hypocrite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?"

I've been jumped on for correcting people, in the past - to be honest, I don't really care. However, things like misuse of their/there and your/you're and no/know ..do tend to grate a little.

But then I am a teacher of sorts...

That said, I'm not the best when it comes to grammar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like previous posters have said, spell checkers can be used, but to someone with dyslexia (like myself), it only picks up incorrect spelt words, not incorrect words used, incorrect tenses used, etc.

I was given Read and Write Gold programme for my uni studies, which talks back to me as I type (no, I haven't gone crazy!! ), which helps me to identify incorrect words or missing words.

It is easy to distingush between someone who is too lazy with their spelling and grammar, and someone with a learning disability.

By the way, I'm not blessed with 'dailysex', but 'sex daily'\. Thanks partner!

Portia

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hey Dyslexics, take a step back and look at the big picture here. Chill pill time. If you read the posts you will see that this thread is NOT attacking you. It is generally people who actually can not be bothered to put a profile together. It is not about people who have a learning disability at all. A lot of you are getting a bit touchy over something that is not aimed at you (well at least not by me and many others - if there are people knocking dyslexics then shame on you) but please take this thread in the way that I took it. There are people who come home from the pub pissed and think, I wanna fuck and come on here and write a pissed up profile, there are people who could not be arsed at school who just can not string words together let alone sentences, there are people out there that just do not care and it shows. That is what I thought this was being aimed at. I have even spoke to people at clubs who sound like it. Dyslexics, it is not about you so chill. Anyone challenged in anyway in life should not be ridiculed or shown up in any way. This is aimed at the people who could but don't. So do not take offence.

RANT OVER EVERYONE CALM AND RELAXED - GOOD. Hey thread will soon be over, nearly maxed out.... Finish on a night note eh. All is good. Hopefully someone will give me a thumbs up on this. Message meant in the nicest way possible.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

_itsam

i'm on my phone, and it doesn't like long quoted messages.

Many high horses being ridden as usual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey Dyslexics, take a step back and look at the big picture here. Chill pill time. If you read the posts you will see that this thread is NOT attacking you. people at clubs who sound like it. Dyslexics, it is not about you so chilll! "

OP didn't distinguish between those who cant and those who can't be bothered, so yes, offence is taken!!!!

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Hey Dyslexics, take a step back and look at the big picture here. Chill pill time. If you read the posts you will see that this thread is NOT attacking you. people at clubs who sound like it. Dyslexics, it is not about you so chilll!

OP didn't distinguish between those who cant and those who can't be bothered, so yes, offence is taken!!!!"

Ok will let op comment on that one but to clarify that we are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey Dyslexics, take a step back and look at the big picture here. Chill pill time. If you read the posts you will see that this thread is NOT attacking you. people at clubs who sound like it. Dyslexics, it is not about you so chilll!

OP didn't distinguish between those who cant and those who can't be bothered, so yes, offence is taken!!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd much rather have a stupid but fantastic lover then an educated sexual failure!"

Those things, thankfully, are not mutually exclusive

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By *adgodCouple
over a year ago

Greensburg

It can be a turnoff for us, but it's not one of our main criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No and i've got a degree in English.

Capital I in I've...........

mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm florence xx"

Even with a degree i fuck up. I don't expect people to be perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am graet wtih gramma n that so i wnat thr smae bkac. Amazing what the human mind can read so even if u cannot spell i bet you still understand who cares id still fuck you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would prefer to meet a lady who was willing to help her Uncle Jack off a horse.

I would decline to meet a lady who was willing to help her uncle jack off a horse.

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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago

The Dungeon

i fink i dunt no wot ur taking aboat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always nice to know if you can show you know your shit rather than showing you're shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do look at spelling and grammar but it wouldn't stop my other half and I meeting people"

Same !

S x

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By *itSamCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I would prefer to meet a lady who was willing to help her Uncle Jack off a horse.

I would decline to meet a lady who was willing to help her uncle jack off a horse."

Clever and funny. Whatever floats uncle's boat eh? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

AW your not a snob...just mildly ocd

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK


"Lol. I know this isn't exactly a swinging topic but just viewed yet another profile with awful grammar and spelling. No I'm not a teacher - but does it bother anyone else?"
Really...?? My grammar is appauling of which i,m fully aware of. Now if this bugs others, sorry but thats your issue.

If such a trivial things such as this gets to you.......... perhaps this site isn,t for you.

I judge on face value and character and let people exspress themselfs without prejudice... ( christ thats probabley spelt wrong.. Lol )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"AW your not a snob...just mildly ocd

"
ahem. . Letters in the correct order please CDO !

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