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Profile say max age 30,40 etc and yet they message me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've noticed this many times now.

People message me so I look at their profile. Their profile says that they're looking for people between the ages of 18-30, 40 etc and then they message me?

What I find sometimes is I find a profile which exactly meets what we're looking for but if their maximum age is 40 and theyve set up message filters I can't message them but then, weirdly, they message me lol

Can't understand it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps they think you look good for your age. Take it as a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think they limit who can get in touch with them - lot of people say no single men but all the veris are just that - they like to search them out themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry feel flattered must be them pink knickers they like xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perhaps they think you look good for your age. Take it as a compliment "

Yes, I certainly do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are exceptions to every rule I have 30-40 limit on my profile but have chatted with younger and older, if you like look of someone you'll chat no matter the age

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By *iamp86Man
over a year ago

preston

Your age limit is 60 for couples so if they're younger they can message you

Perhaps they like you even if you're above their age limit ?

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By *iamp86Man
over a year ago

preston

And you do look good for a mid 40's couple

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And you do look good for a mid 40's couple "

Thank you

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Shouldn't that me 'message us' ??

Or are these messages just aimed at one half of the couple?

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes i change my filters to 32 when too many 50+ year olds message me, even though i'm looking for up to my age and above slightly.

Can't you message them back after they message you? Is weird that you can't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine says 99 lol some how I don't think so. If I want a granny I'll take up bingo

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Perhaps they think you look good for your age. Take it as a compliment "

I agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes i change my filters to 32 when too many 50+ year olds message me, even though i'm looking for up to my age and above slightly.

Can't you message them back after they message you? Is weird that you can't."

I believe if you message someone outside your filters then the recipient can reply, wouldn't make sense otherwise. It explains exceptions to message filters on the filters page I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a wide age range and no age filters in place.

I don't see the point in restricting my options - and besides, someone who falls just inside my age range, might have a birthday tomorrow and end up outside it.

And in any case, some people age better than others, or at the other end of the scale, might look more mature than their young years etc.

It's a number - variety is the spice of life and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you message a person outside your filters they can respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

same as people saying they are looking for women/straight and then hooking up with TV`s lol

people join up with an idea of what they want and then just take what they can get it would seem

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By *talian Meat FeastMan
over a year ago

Lancashire


"And you do look good for a mid 40's couple

Thank you "

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I have filters on except the age one.

My age preference is a guide only and not set in stone, I could miss out on someone I might like to meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shouldn't that me 'message us' ??

Or are these messages just aimed at one half of the couple?

A"

I should say "us" yes but hubby just leaves me to it lol

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By *talian Meat FeastMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

Wow stunning Age is only a number..you are Hot.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes i change my filters to 32 when too many 50+ year olds message me, even though i'm looking for up to my age and above slightly.

Can't you message them back after they message you? Is weird that you can't.

I believe if you message someone outside your filters then the recipient can reply, wouldn't make sense otherwise. It explains exceptions to message filters on the filters page I think. "

Thanks


"if you message a person outside your filters they can respond"

And thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are exceptions to every rule I have 30-40 limit on my profile but have chatted with younger and older, if you like look of someone you'll chat no matter the age "
or up your age limit hehe xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I search over my filter and change it sometimes lil x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed this many times now.

People message me so I look at their profile. Their profile says that they're looking for people between the ages of 18-30, 40 etc and then they message me?

What I find sometimes is I find a profile which exactly meets what we're looking for but if their maximum age is 40 and theyve set up message filters I can't message them but then, weirdly, they message me lol

Can't understand it?"

we all have preferences and filters, however if you read a profile that you take a likeing to for what ever reason most are prepared to lift their own restrictions for something they like the look of,

personally I would take it as a compliment if they chose you from outside their boundrys , especially age wise just means you look good for your age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They know you do, they are just trying their luck to get a fuck lol

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"I've noticed this many times now.

People message me so I look at their profile. Their profile says that they're looking for people between the ages of 18-30, 40 etc and then they message me?

What I find sometimes is I find a profile which exactly meets what we're looking for but if their maximum age is 40 and theyve set up message filters I can't message them but then, weirdly, they message me lol

Can't understand it?"

Should that not be they message us, coming from a couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get this a lot. Because of our age gap a lot of people seem to disregard their own preferences as long as crystal meets their criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I constantly get messages from people who won't meet smokers even though I clearly state that I'm a smoker. Can only figure it's the male half messaging as women tend to read profiles…mostly!

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex


"I've noticed this many times now.

People message me so I look at their profile. Their profile says that they're looking for people between the ages of 18-30, 40 etc and then they message me?

What I find sometimes is I find a profile which exactly meets what we're looking for but if their maximum age is 40 and theyve set up message filters I can't message them but then, weirdly, they message me lol

Can't understand it?"

We get the same but why give them a charity fuck lol, you will get the shallow ones that do this and think you are going to say "yes please"...dont think so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I constantly get messages from people who won't meet smokers even though I clearly state that I'm a smoker. Can only figure it's the male half messaging as women tend to read profiles…mostly!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've noticed this many times now.

People message me so I look at their profile. Their profile says that they're looking for people between the ages of 18-30, 40 etc and then they message me?

What I find sometimes is I find a profile which exactly meets what we're looking for but if their maximum age is 40 and theyve set up message filters I can't message them but then, weirdly, they message me lol

Can't understand it?

Should that not be they message us, coming from a couple? "

Yes, sorry lol. Hubby tends to leave me to it lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They know you do, they are just trying their luck to get a fuck lol "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed this many times now.

People message me so I look at their profile. Their profile says that they're looking for people between the ages of 18-30, 40 etc and then they message me?

What I find sometimes is I find a profile which exactly meets what we're looking for but if their maximum age is 40 and theyve set up message filters I can't message them but then, weirdly, they message me lol

Can't understand it?"

if they have messaged you before you set the filters up they will continue to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had filters set with 42 as upper age, but initiated conversation with several guys in their early 50's, some super tasty older guys on here, but most that age i wouldnt want to meet, so Id rather go looking than have loads of messages from guys i wouldnt meet.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm changing my age limit to 49 instead of 50, its amazing how ma y 50 year olds are on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knocked ten years off my looking for age to stop guys in the 50s and 60s messaging me, it does work (for me anyway).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get lots of people looking at us where we don't meet their age requirement . Just reckon they like looking at the Mrs pics as she is hot for her age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had this on a number of occasions now.. but chat with them for a while all pleasant and not crude as they first approach me and then they block for no reason lol.. crazy..

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Our age range is a rough guideline and isn't set in stone. I'd guess that's the same for alot of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our age range is a rough guideline and isn't set in stone. I'd guess that's the same for alot of people.

"
I agree to be honest. . Cant teally say.. oh yep the "41" limit is 40 and they a genuine person/couple and fit.. diff obviously if theres a 15year gap lol.. was on POF for awhile with age limit but didn't stop the randy 60yo women texting lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my age limits set as they are based on the laws of dimishing returns...lo. For every year I increase the range for the one occasional guy who is suitable the numbers of guys who contact me that are completely unsuitable increases disproportionately.

If I see a post or meet from someone outside my age range and I like what I see then I will get in touch with them, Same if I get fabs or repeated views from someone who is out of my range.

As others have said, take it as a compliment that you are older and they still contact you.

In terms of contacts and filters. Someone can contact you if they fit into your limits and filters. Once they have contacted you you can obviously contact them back, even if you would not have been able to make the first approach.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

I'm sure age limits are only used to filter and reduce the volume of messages from completely unsuitable play partners. Club meets can be entirely different - my first 'action' with someone on here was with a lady who specifies 18-36

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sure age limits are only used to filter and reduce the volume of messages from completely unsuitable play partners. Club meets can be entirely different - my first 'action' with someone on here was with a lady who specifies 18-36 "

yeah I use it like this, your a very 'well maintained' 47, so not suprising that she wasn't put off by you being older than her usual taste,

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By *ark76Man
over a year ago

killarney

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By *ark76Man
over a year ago

killarney

God if there was a law on taxing beautiful sexy lady's with beautiful sexy body. U be tax 100 %.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are not looking for young guys and sent messages to me

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By *ark76Man
over a year ago

killarney

God bless you. If there was a law on taxing sexy beautiful lady's with beautiful sexy body. U be tax 100 %

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"yeah I use it like this, your a very 'well maintained' 47, so not suprising that she wasn't put off by you being older than her usual taste, "

Aww...thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just had a message from someone who's age range is 18-30?

Lol

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"Just had a message from someone who's age range is 18-30?

Lol"

With an arse like that (especially in the third black and white pic....holy moly) I am not entirely surprised!!

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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago

Clacton-On-Sea, Essex

More likely they just don't pay attention...

Our age range is 18-45? I think lol

But that's hubbies preference really - Personally I prefer younger as I find it hard to stop thinking "you're the same age as my dad" lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just had a message from someone who's age range is 18-30?

Lol

With an arse like that (especially in the third black and white pic....holy moly) I am not entirely surprised!!

"

Lol thank you

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"More likely they just don't pay attention...

"

I doubt that...I regularly chance my arm with a polite message to a woman or couple who specify younger than myself. On occasion I've had some very favourable responses..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At my age, when someone messages me, I'm eternally grateful!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just had a message from someone who's age range is 18-28? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get lots of people looking at us where we don't meet their age requirement . Just reckon they like looking at the Mrs pics as she is hot for her age "

we get the same,mainly from young single blokes and when we point out that we're nearly ten years outside their age range the back peddling can be hilarious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just had a message from someone who's age range is 18-28? Lol"

I think it's just another reason age shouldn't come into it. Doesn't matter if you were 60, if you obviously grabbed someone's attention.

Younger or older if the attraction is there, does it really matter?

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Surely the age limit is just a guideline. Some fifty year olds look as though they are in their thirties and vice versa.

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