FabSwingers.com forum: Messaging behind your partners back

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wonder how many female halves of couples would like a way to see who their fella chooses to message behind her back?

Lost count of the number of conversations I've had which end in him blocking me so his wife doesn't find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just confind to guys, some women do this to!

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By *ilthyfucks69Couple
over a year ago

Neverland

Quite pathetic really as they will get found out in the end and we are all adults.

We always leave all messages in the folder if we are not together so the other person can 'catch up"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It always seems strange to me that people in a sexually liberated relationship still can't be open with each other about what turns them on.

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By *ilthyfucks69Couple
over a year ago

Neverland

"It always seems strange to me that people in a sexually liberated relationship still can't be open with each other about what turns them on. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my own profile, this one, hubby uses our couples one plus his own. The only one we both have access to is the couples profile.

We both want and love each other meeting Aline. Although just now due to time restraints we mainly play together. Why would I want to read what my hubby messages others about. There are things I'm notinto. Perhaps he wants to try it. II'll hear about it if it happens anyway x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It always seems strange to me that people in a sexually liberated relationship still can't be open with each other about what turns them on.

Exactly this"

Couldn't have been said better..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder how many female halves of couples would like a way to see who their fella chooses to message behind her back?

Lost count of the number of conversations I've had which end in him blocking me so his wife doesn't find out

Has happened a few times now.

The hubby not wanting the wife to know.

My life is complicated enough.

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By *ust a TeaseMan
over a year ago

Earth

I have a few women messaging me bout meets without their other half knowning.

needless to say they are not happy when i tell their other half what they have said.

i know its hursh but trust is the key to this life style.

some of the men know what their wife is doing and actually thank me for making sure.

Others...well i can guess what they say to their wives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have my own profile, this one, hubby uses our couples one plus his own. The only one we both have access to is the couples profile.

You'll still hear about it though. It's the ones who don't tell their other halves that bug me.

I've had messages from 'couples' where their profile has a 'no bi guys' line in it or even the 'we'll check your veris and if you've even passed a bi guy in the street we'll block you'!!!

Yet the guy still tries to meet me alone or just talk dirty. Then he blocks me until he wants to message me again. Unblocks, sends messages then re blocks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a few women messaging me bout meets without their other half knowning.

needless to say they are not happy when i tell their other half what they have said.

i know its hursh but trust is the key to this life style.

some of the men know what their wife is doing and actually thank me for making sure.

Others...well i can guess what they say to their wives."

Ooh I'd never do that. Ever.

Not my business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've meet couples and then had both men or the women asking to meet behind their partners back. I struggle to fathom what they think is in it for me apart from a whole heap of drama!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always leave messages in folder for other to see if we're not reading them together.

Doing it behind your partners back isn't swinging, it's having (or wanting to have) an affair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *etanreadyCouple
over a year ago

dover

Do it from the side, she still cant see lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have my own profile, this one, hubby uses our couples one plus his own. The only one we both have access to is the couples profile.

You'll still hear about it though. It's the ones who don't tell their other halves that bug me.

I've had messages from 'couples' where their profile has a 'no bi guys' line in it or even the 'we'll check your veris and if you've even passed a bi guy in the street we'll block you'!!!

Yet the guy still tries to meet me alone or just talk dirty. Then he blocks me until he wants to message me again. Unblocks, sends messages then re blocks!

Block them so they can't keep messaging you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have my own profile, this one, hubby uses our couples one plus his own. The only one we both have access to is the couples profile.

You'll still hear about it though. It's the ones who don't tell their other halves that bug me.

I've had messages from 'couples' where their profile has a 'no bi guys' line in it or even the 'we'll check your veris and if you've even passed a bi guy in the street we'll block you'!!!

Yet the guy still tries to meet me alone or just talk dirty. Then he blocks me until he wants to message me again. Unblocks, sends messages then re blocks!

Block them so they can't keep messaging you."

Too easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had similar experiences with cold over the years . On both occasions it stopped us all meeting .

One lady put a note with her mobile number on in the pocket of my jeans after a meet .

Mainly the reason I started a new profile and stopped meeting cpls .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have my own profile, this one, hubby uses our couples one plus his own. The only one we both have access to is the couples profile.

You'll still hear about it though. It's the ones who don't tell their other halves that bug me.

I've had messages from 'couples' where their profile has a 'no bi guys' line in it or even the 'we'll check your veris and if you've even passed a bi guy in the street we'll block you'!!!

Yet the guy still tries to meet me alone or just talk dirty. Then he blocks me until he wants to message me again. Unblocks, sends messages then re blocks!

Block them so they can't keep messaging you."

Now I've worked out how to block someone who's blocked me, I do.

Top tip ladies; if I've blocked you it's probably because your straight man has been messaging me!!!!!

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"I've meet couples and then had both men or the women asking to meet behind their partners back. I struggle to fathom what they think is in it for me apart from a whole heap of drama!"

You don't like drama and grief in your swinging?

Accusations of affairs, random stalkers, jealous partners ringing and messaging you, people crying on your shoulder, accusations of being a relationship destroyer?

Where's your sense of adventure?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've meet couples and then had both men or the women asking to meet behind their partners back. I struggle to fathom what they think is in it for me apart from a whole heap of drama!

You don't like drama and grief in your swinging?

Accusations of affairs, random stalkers, jealous partners ringing and messaging you, people crying on your shoulder, accusations of being a relationship destroyer?

Where's your sense of adventure?

Spoken like an experianced swinger !

Its never NSA with cpls

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"I've meet couples and then had both men or the women asking to meet behind their partners back. I struggle to fathom what they think is in it for me apart from a whole heap of drama!

You don't like drama and grief in your swinging?

Accusations of affairs, random stalkers, jealous partners ringing and messaging you, people crying on your shoulder, accusations of being a relationship destroyer?

Where's your sense of adventure?

Spoken like an experianced swinger !

Its never NSA with cpls"

Nah NSA is easy enough to find. Just not so easy if you only use the Internet

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Not just confind to guys, some women do this to!"

I'll drink to that ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have my own profile, this one, hubby uses our couples one plus his own. The only one we both have access to is the couples profile.

You'll still hear about it though. It's the ones who don't tell their other halves that bug me.

I've had messages from 'couples' where their profile has a 'no bi guys' line in it or even the 'we'll check your veris and if you've even passed a bi guy in the street we'll block you'!!!

Yet the guy still tries to meet me alone or just talk dirty. Then he blocks me until he wants to message me again. Unblocks, sends messages then re blocks!

Block them so they can't keep messaging you.

Now I've worked out how to block someone who's blocked me, I do.

Top tip ladies; if I've blocked you it's probably because your straight man has been messaging me!!!!!"

You're a public service.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've meet couples and then had both men or the women asking to meet behind their partners back. I struggle to fathom what they think is in it for me apart from a whole heap of drama!

You don't like drama and grief in your swinging?

Accusations of affairs, random stalkers, jealous partners ringing and messaging you, people crying on your shoulder, accusations of being a relationship destroyer?

Where's your sense of adventure?

Spoken like an experianced swinger !

Its never NSA with cpls"

Oh that's just not true. We just use men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have my own profile, this one, hubby uses our couples one plus his own. The only one we both have access to is the couples profile.

You'll still hear about it though. It's the ones who don't tell their other halves that bug me.

I've had messages from 'couples' where their profile has a 'no bi guys' line in it or even the 'we'll check your veris and if you've even passed a bi guy in the street we'll block you'!!!

Yet the guy still tries to meet me alone or just talk dirty. Then he blocks me until he wants to message me again. Unblocks, sends messages then re blocks!

Block them so they can't keep messaging you.

Now I've worked out how to block someone who's blocked me, I do.

Top tip ladies; if I've blocked you it's probably because your straight man has been messaging me!!!!!

You're a public service.

Yep. I get nothing from the services I provide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't name and shame but I think it's disgusting when a male side of a couple sends photos of their wife and they've no idea that they are even on a swinging site, yet he's contacting people... Needless to say they've (HIM) been blocked and reported... But honestly what does reporting achieve? Feck all....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

TutTut.... And single guys can't get the blame for this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It always seems strange to me that people in a sexually liberated relationship still can't be open with each other about what turns them on. "

exactly this^^

I usually look at their profile, veri's and then wonder if one half of the couple was cajoled into the lifestyle.

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By *ust a TeaseMan
over a year ago

Earth

"I have a few women messaging me bout meets without their other half knowning.

needless to say they are not happy when i tell their other half what they have said.

i know its hursh but trust is the key to this life style.

some of the men know what their wife is doing and actually thank me for making sure.

Others...well i can guess what they say to their wives.

Ooh I'd never do that. Ever.

Not my business.

Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot. Wouldn't you want to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have my own profile, this one, hubby uses our couples one plus his own. The only one we both have access to is the couples profile.

You'll still hear about it though. It's the ones who don't tell their other halves that bug me.

I've had messages from 'couples' where their profile has a 'no bi guys' line in it or even the 'we'll check your veris and if you've even passed a bi guy in the street we'll block you'!!!

Yet the guy still tries to meet me alone or just talk dirty. Then he blocks me until he wants to message me again. Unblocks, sends messages then re blocks!

Block them so they can't keep messaging you.

Now I've worked out how to block someone who's blocked me, I do.

Top tip ladies; if I've blocked you it's probably because your straight man has been messaging me!!!!!

You're a public service.

Yep. I get nothing from the services I provide

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By *ipsTeaserCouple
over a year ago

here and there, thereabouts

The pair of us use this account. It's more Tigs that does the messaging etc. I sometimes jump in to the charts she is having. I've spoken to one lass on here but its not hidden in any way shape or form. I read pretty much everything that's going on so I know what Tigs is on about more than anything

This wouldn't work if there are secrets and deleting and hidden stuff

Bugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite pathetic really as they will get found out in the end and we are all adults.

We always leave all messages in the folder if we are not together so the other person can 'catch up""

I'm sure all couple say that

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