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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you send a message and it gets read

But no reply

What do you do ?

I normally send a face pic with my messages

Sometimes I don't get a reply so I send a "did you like my pics " message

And have after many more messages ended up meeting the peeps

But if I don't get a reply to the pic message I delete and block

Do you think this is harsh or am I doing the right thing , as I know they're not interested

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"If you send a message and it gets read

But no reply

What do you do ?

I normally send a face pic with my messages

Sometimes I don't get a reply so I send a "did you like my pics " message

And have after many more messages ended up meeting the peeps

But if I don't get a reply to the pic message I delete and block

Do you think this is harsh or am I doing the right thing , as I know they're not interested

"
Why don't you give people a few days to respond? Sending a second messages within hours is pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often take a few days to reply.

If I get a second message, for me that's it - deleted. It gives the sense of being extremely pushy or impatient!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you send a message and it gets read

But no reply

What do you do ?

I normally send a face pic with my messages

Sometimes I don't get a reply so I send a "did you like my pics " message

And have after many more messages ended up meeting the peeps

But if I don't get a reply to the pic message I delete and block

Do you think this is harsh or am I doing the right thing , as I know they're not interested

Why don't you give people a few days to respond? Sending a second messages within hours is pushy."

I always leave it a day or so to be fair

But assume if not replied by then I just delete and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often take a few days to reply.

If I get a second message, for me that's it - deleted. It gives the sense of being extremely pushy or impatient!"

This for too

I delete if not interested but can take a couple of days some people never delete

Hard to advise as everyone's different small chance you may miss out.

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

Your message has been read not deleted so give people a chance to respond.

However if you see its read and deleted then you have your answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your message has been read not deleted so give people a chance to respond.

However if you see its read and deleted then you have your answer."

This is good advice thanks

Thanks for the replies ladies

I think it's difficult to gauge who's interested and who's not

Some nice honest replies much appreciated x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't do anything. I don't know if they've read them or not.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

It's a minefield!

What works for some won't work for others. You're right and wrong so just play it by ear.

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield

I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just delete my sent mail as soon as I've sent it then I don't know what's happened to it. I'll either get a reply or I won't, no point stressing about things that are out of your control. Concentrate on your inbox not your sent box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all "

Because many women are sent abuse back for a polite no thanks or just get so many messages its just not possible. My fb on here gets 50 plus messages a day.

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I just delete my sent mail as soon as I've sent it then I don't know what's happened to it. I'll either get a reply or I won't, no point stressing about things that are out of your control. Concentrate on your inbox not your sent box. "

Think I might start doing that joker. Got a few in my sent box still unread and some read ones that have been "left hanging".

No oven no pie as they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all "

Better for Who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are so many time wasters on here. I have discovered that often you can see a woman's pic or of a couple and it turns out to be just a guy so put it down to experience. The up side is that just occasionally it turns out to be genuine and then you just enjoy.

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield


"I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all

Better for Who?"
for the person who took the time to read and send a message

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all

Because many women are sent abuse back for a polite no thanks or just get so many messages its just not possible. My fb on here gets 50 plus messages a day."

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

If you sent me a second message I feel that you were being pushy and would block you!

For those saying it's better to get a no thanks......read the faq's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all

Better for Who?for the person who took the time to read and send a message "

So if you sent 30 messages you'd rather have a similar amount of no thanks messages back ? What's the point of that, great ego boost, not ! I'd rather get nothing back, that's a definite no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we send a first contact message to anybody, we delete it straight away, that way we don't know if it's been read deleted or if it's just been ignored, saves time sat agonising over what the other people are doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We sometimes can't reply to messages right away especially if in day time & kids are around. As we are a couple and only willing to play as a couple then depending on the message, we will wait until the other has seen the message then reply together.

We will always reply, even if it is with a "thanks but you're not for us", unless I accidentally deletes the message first or someone is being weird.

Pushy messages will generally be deleted too.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT


"I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all

Better for Who?for the person who took the time to read and send a message "

Nope. Just nope. Read the FAQs of the site. And deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you send a message and it gets read

But no reply

What do you do ?

I normally send a face pic with my messages

Sometimes I don't get a reply so I send a "did you like my pics " message

And have after many more messages ended up meeting the peeps

But if I don't get a reply to the pic message I delete and block

Do you think this is harsh or am I doing the right thing , as I know they're not interested

"

Not Harsh just Realistic

3-4 days after your message has been read,but still no reply !!

I tend to block profiles and just move on

Saves you re messaging them in the future,

( it helps if you can spot a fake profile!!!!!!

And I do wonder how some profiles are not closed down thou tbf )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all

Better for Who?for the person who took the time to read and send a message "

I suppose it would be nice to worry about the Feelings of people i have never and will never meet but truthfully i cant be bothered.

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put it this way - if someone sent YOU a message, with a picture attached, and you were interested - would you reply to it? Of course you would.

Therefore, if you send a message with a picture attached, and it is read and not replied to, I'd just take it to mean that they're NOT interested.

Females and couples get a ridiculous amount of messages on here as it is, without having their inboxes clogged up with "Hi, did you like my pics?"... "Hi, did you like the message I sent about the message that had the pics?" ... "Hi, I was wondering if you got my message about the message about the message..."

If they're interested and attracted to you, they'll reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally if someone sent me a second message to see why I hadn't read/replied to the first one would get both deleted

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By *layer oneMan
over a year ago

mirfield


"I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all

Better for Who?for the person who took the time to read and send a message

I suppose it would be nice to worry about the Feelings of people i have never and will never meet but truthfully i cant be bothered.

Gimp "
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all "

Weve tried this but then usually this is followed up by 2 or 3 further messages justifying your own decision. Its a sex site not a dating site. Move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get messages like "wanna fuck" or "I need milking". Whilst I chuckle at these, we prefer a message with a little more conversation, maybe chatting about likes, dislikes and a few compliments thrown in. For us a photo of just a cock is not enough. All part of the sexual flirting is a bit of cheeky banter, and some sense of humour is always enough for Mrs to think oooo hello he sounds nice.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all "

Because you could spend all day sending replies to people you don't have any interest in meeting. No reply means no interest. Plus you don't get a reply from your reply back to them which also gets tiresome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send messages all the time but got nothing in return, I think it's some times rude if some one takes the time to read a profile and wright a good message with photo and for it to just get deleted.. Why not just send a short txt back saying "thanks but no thanks" at least that's better then fuck all

Because many women are sent abuse back for a polite no thanks or just get so many messages its just not possible. My fb on here gets 50 plus messages a day."

Exactly...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"..... For us a photo of just a cock is not enough. All part of the sexual flirting is a bit of cheeky banter, and some sense of humour is always enough for Mrs to think oooo hello he sounds nice..... "

Youve summed it up nicely. I read a good quote "fuck my mind then my body"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Because you could spend all day sending replies to people you don't have any interest in meeting. No reply means no interest. Plus you don't get a reply from your reply back to them which also gets tiresome"

Correct.

what we dont like is when you exchange messqges over a few days and then no reply.. thats rude. Usually we find its people with no lifestyle experience. If you change your mind thats fine but rude not to let people know as they have spent the time and effort getting to know you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you send a message and it gets read

But no reply

What do you do ?

I normally send a face pic with my messages

Sometimes I don't get a reply so I send a "did you like my pics " message

And have after many more messages ended up meeting the peeps

But if I don't get a reply to the pic message I delete and block

Do you think this is harsh or am I doing the right thing , as I know they're not interested

"

Sometimes one of us reads a message while the other is at work, we often wait for both of us to have read it before we reply and then it's not always straight away as real life happens on a daily basis.

Nothing more annoying than getting pressured to reply by pushy people. And just as annoying is if we like the person who messaged and go to reply a couple of days later to find they blocked us for not replying within 7 minutes

We have had people not reply to us for weeks, but have then gone on the meet them and have great fun, something that blocking them would have stopped happening.

Do like the others say on here, don't be too desperate and give people time, couples and single ladies get a huge amount of mail

Good luck

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

OP man up and move on, spend your time looking at your inbox, after reading your profile would i reply to a message from you ,,think not, but hay you have hidden veris so you are meeting someone..Connie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP man up and move on, spend your time looking at your inbox, after reading your profile would i reply to a message from you ,,think not, but hay you have hidden veris so you are meeting someone..Connie x "

Why hide the verification summary? Even if you don't want people to see what's been said showing the summary proves you are genuine. Maybe this is why no one replies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont do one liners or worry of read messages, plenty more fish in the sea.

Corny Cora

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