FabSwingers.com forum: chat room good or bad or do they really matter?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so I "had" a contact on here we had met before things were cool until earlier this morning when she had seen me in a directing room and blocked me.

Now I'm not gonna bad mouth her in anyway (even though she was pretty rude to me after) because hey it's her opinion she entitled to it.

So now I'm thinking is it so bad being in a directing room??? Should people be judged on this kind of voyeurism? ??

I'd love to hear thoughts on this

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

In the words of the Everly Pregnant Brothers.... No Oven No Pie

(youtube it

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On a serious note. You're both here for a reason. What does it have to do with them where/what you do via this site?

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

Having seen the way most of the "gentlemen" behave in the directing rooms, I would have some reservations about meeting those who use them.

If it was someone who I was contemplating meeting, and I had seen them joining the pack in the meat market I would most probably block them too. However, if it was someone I had already met then I would expect that I would not block them as I already know what type of person they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it just takes you being in the chatroom for her to go off at you - you are probably not the best match for each other anyway -

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

So it was ok for her to be in the chatroom but not you?

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"if it just takes you being in the chatroom for her to go off at you - you are probably not the best match for each other anyway - "

Exactly. Then again I do suppose it depends on what exactly were you doing in the directing rooms. Were you actively participating or just in there watching others do whatever?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No oven no pie genius haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if it just takes you being in the chatroom for her to go off at you - you are probably not the best match for each other anyway -

Exactly. Then again I do suppose it depends on what exactly were you doing in the directing rooms. Were you actively participating or just in there watching others do whatever?"

what diffference does that make

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well apparently she flicked through to se where I went nit I guess it's ok for one and not for the rest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"if it just takes you being in the chatroom for her to go off at you - you are probably not the best match for each other anyway - "
you're probably right on that one

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"what diffference does that make"

To me personally Sweet FA

But mighta just been something that she didn't like. Still getting all ranty and stuff not the best way to go about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure why watching people smoking, having silent sex, or dancing about to 90s dance music on cam would cause anyone to go off you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"if it just takes you being in the chatroom for her to go off at you - you are probably not the best match for each other anyway -

Exactly. Then again I do suppose it depends on what exactly were you doing in the directing rooms. Were you actively participating or just in there watching others do whatever?

what diffference does that make"

Should it make a difference? In the case of a single not participating in directing room once in a while is like saying "here you go mate, here's a stack of porn. ... watch em just don't wank while watching them" lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not getting rantyy about it, it's her choice just made me think hence this discussion.

People have different taste thats natural. The point is when did it become ok for people to be judge on their taste or opinion? Who makes up the rules of the does amd don'ts?

Isn't it a little prejudice (in a sense) isn't it a little like saying I'm not talking to this person coz of sexual preference or skin colour.

Would you stop talking to someone you know coz suddenly you found out they like custard more than ice cream?

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

I don't get it...what exactly was she annoyed about? What were you doing in the room to make her upset?

E.g if you was with her last night and hours later she saw you in the chatroom using the same lryics with someone else I can understand her getting angry.

We don't know the full conversation, but it clearly must've bothered you for you to post about it.

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By *ogisticalBigManMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I don't get it...what exactly was she annoyed about? What were you doing in the room to make her upset?

E.g if you was with her last night and hours later she saw you in the chatroom using the same lryics with someone else I can understand her getting angry.

We don't know the full conversation, but it clearly must've bothered you for you to post about it.

That kinda was the angle I was goung with too earlier. Maybe shoulda been more general in what I wrote

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Well I will be honest I go in the chat rooms, some times I will be in directing rooms (normally very late in eve), but mainly in se or up north rooms

If someone blocked me because I go in there then it's their loss not mine

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By *sakaguyjinMan
over a year ago

Somewhere

Sounds more like an excuse. Maybe a case of cold feet. Someone that judgmental must have a hard time talking to anyone on here

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By *ike4362ukMan
over a year ago

Cheshunt

I must admit that I find chat rooms to be utter crap. They are either so full that the messages blur together and there's no theme or discussion, or they are empty and hence pointless. There never seems to be any middle ground.

The only comment I ever had directed toward me was indescribably rude, and earned the 'lady' an instant block, it wasn't as if she was a good looker herself, just considered herself to be the 'queen bee' of that chat room.

I much prefer the discussion forums, where the comments and responses can be more restrained.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer chat to forums

but people are entitled to their opinions ... Hard to judge having not seen whqt happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to go into those type of rooms but I felt increasingly uneasy with the way men behaved.

Haven't been in for months nor do I want to.

She's allowed her opinion and I am guessing regrets going off at you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like the South East room. Can have a good chuckle at some topics.

Not a fan of directors but think they serve a purpose, they keep most of the frustrated people together.

The level and standard of comments in there does make you think that there are a lot of very odd people on here, and you wonder would these people behave that way in a real social or even sexual situation?

Have grown to love the block option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the regional chat rooms, they're a good way of getting to know people in your local scene and finding who is attending the local socials. Personally I don't bother with the cams (1. Prefer the real thing 2. If the real thing isn't available, porn is far better lol). Also if the rooms get to full it's hard to keep track of the conversation but don't let one bad apple sour your opinion on the chat rooms.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't get it...what exactly was she annoyed about? What were you doing in the room to make her upset?

E.g if you was with her last night and hours later she saw you in the chatroom using the same lryics with someone else I can understand her getting angry.

We don't know the full conversation, but it clearly must've bothered you for you to post about it.

This is true you're only getting my side of things. I was in the rooms having a look and "entertaining" myself then popped into the london room where she saw me and messaged me but I didn't see and changed room . She then saw me in another room. Much later I saw in my inbox a message saying "thanks for ignoring me" and I was blocked I then texted apologising and explaining I simply didn't see her.she then went on to call me a "sadoe" and was a bit rude.

It didn't bother me really as I have seen her since October and only kept in touch via texted just catching up seeing how each other was.

Like you said I'd get it if I was with her like the night before or something. Anyway just thought I'd open things for discussion.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Right so basically she thought you ignored her and so you are off her list.

Phew, thank god I read to the bottom as I had no idea what was going on until the last post.

She is probably a bit knee jerk in someone not replying to her, you are being over sensitive about her getting the hump.

Hopefully that's judgmental enough for everyone and we can get over this minor soap opera drama.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Right so basically she thought you ignored her and so you are off her list.

Phew, thank god I read to the bottom as I had no idea what was going on until the last post.

She is probably a bit knee jerk in someone not replying to her, you are being over sensitive about her getting the hump.

Hopefully that's judgmental enough for everyone and we can get over this minor soap opera drama."

yeah this has gone well of topic I just wanted to know people's thoughts on the chat rooms really but people asked or I described whatever and it just kinda snow balled lol

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I like the chatrooms.

To be honest it's easy to miss a PM we've done it many a time.

But if people get upset about that, there is little you can do to help them.

We mostly go on the chatrooms when we are looking to play, show off or trying to confirm a meeting with someone.

We'd rather chat face to face in a chat room than send face pics back and forth, so it's good for that and the directing room can be fun, we don't mind the instructions, we just wish people would be a little more creative with the idea's.

Tits out is pretty common, rub some ice on your tits is a bit more different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like the chatrooms.

To be honest it's easy to miss a PM we've done it many a time.

But if people get upset about that, there is little you can do to help them.

We mostly go on the chatrooms when we are looking to play, show off or trying to confirm a meeting with someone.

Tits out is pretty common, rub some ice on your tits is a bit more different."

hmmm I'll bear tgat in mind tge suggestion if ice cubes or something is a good idea.

The directing rooms are a good way (and I use the term good loosely) of letying off some pent up frustration some people like to watch or be watched so if you're in the mood go for it is what I say

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